Will you choose hope today? Will you choose to believe you are safe, loved, and seen? Will you choose belief today? Will you choose to have faith in those who hold you close? Will you choose you today? It truly is your choice. How will you make it?

In some ways, this one strikes at my very core. In my darker moments, I am an agent that is acted on by forces outside of me. Something or someone is making my life less what I want it to be. Or, in my own mind, less that I need it to be. But I continue to learn that the story of others making me miserable may not be false but it is not the whole story.

I have so many choices, regardless of what is going on in the background. I can choose to whom I listen. I can choose what to believe things mean. I can choose to believe what people say to me or discount it to support my own story. In a very real sense, none of these things change what is going on; but, all of them change what I feel or think or imagine about what is going on.

As you read this I wonder:

* What would make you more likely to choose hope today?

* Why do you sometimes choose to ignore the endless blessings you have in favor of the thing that is not right?

* Can you see that choosing you is not about being selfish but rather about being faithful to the full suite of things that are around you?

There’s an old saying, “Hope springs eternal.” I don’t really think that’s true. But the Spring of Hope is always a mere moment away. As we close the week, can you take a moment to refresh yourself and feel safer and more secure in the path before you?

Can you be ok with not knowing until it is time? Can you allow uncertainty to be neutral rather than a crisis? Can you find time for hope as well as for fear? Can you be held in your moment of doubt?

I had the joy of spending the week a few weeks ago with my family, my father, stepmother, sister, her kids, my kids, and my two grandchildren. It was the grandchildren that made me think of the opening of this. The thing that struck me about them was that they needed to know now…what was for dinner, where we were going, what someone was doing who wasn’t in the room. The time for knowing, for them, was now.

And I think that carries forward for many of us, including me. Not knowing is difficult. And it’s even more difficult, particularly these days, to treat not knowing as neutral and not a problem to be solved. What has changed for me over time is that I know I am held in my moment of doubt, sometimes by the people who are with me physically and always by the people who are closest to my soul.

As you read this, I wonder:

* What would allow you to believe more fully that knowledge comes in its time?

* Can the absence of information simply be the absence of information and not a signal that needs urgent explanation?

* Can you reach out to those who hold you in your moment of doubt and acknowledge their contribution?

What has changed so very much in my life is my certainty that I need not face my doubts alone, that I am supported without question, not by all, but by enough to change the face of doubt. May you see those who support you a bit more clearly this week and may they help you hope.

Can you feel the power that comes from movement? Can the next step be enough for now? Can tomorrow be a place where you await the dawn? A new day is coming for you. Can you greet it with hope?

One of my reactions to stress is to move. For me, there is nothing worse than feeling at risk and not being able to take action, even when the action may not really address what is stressing me. Taking a walk, exercise, whatever it may be but the process of movement has power.

But the core of this one to me is in the third question, “Can tomorrow be a place where you await the dawn?” All too often, tomorrow is a place we either fear or we create a vision of that is unlikely to be realized. The idea for me is simply letting tomorrow be a place where you wait to see what is coming and have hope for the result, regardless of what it may be.

As you read this I wonder:

* What does movement do for you? How can you inject more movement in your life?

* Can you find it in you to wait without dreams or fears but just in stillness?

* Can you find hope without needing to have hope for something specific?

All too often, we equate hope with the thing we hope for. This week, can you try to make hope more a state of being that a state of longing?

Can you know that those who you hold dear can feel it? Not because you show it actively but simply because it's true. Can you see the ripples that spring from your soul and embrace your impact on the world? Can you be, be big, and be you?

We all feel lonely sometimes. As I write this piece on a Saturday, it has been quite the lonely week, not because of anything anyone did. But I was sick for a few days and alone for a few more. And in those moments of loneliness, I think I’m hurt more by the fact that I feel invisible than the fact that there is nobody around.

But I’ve learned through this journey that there are people who see you every day, whether they are with you or not. They hear your voice, they feel your touch, you are there in every way but the physical. For me, it’s a small number of people but it’s more than zero. And in my loneliest moments, that one anchor is what keeps me centered.

As you read this I wonder:

* Where do you believe you have presence every day?

* What can you do to honor the presence you have?

* How do you give more people the opportunity to truly hold you dear?

I hope you don’t read this as an invocation to do something big and bold to be remembered. It’s almost the opposite. As we close out the week, can you be you, clearly and unapologetically, and know you are heard?

Can you meet it all with gratitude? The love, the anger, the joy, the sorrow, the peace, the struggle, all of it? Because all of it has made you you, has made you a shining light in the universe and a beacon to eyes that see.

The first thing that I see in this intention is the “you you.” Part of me wants to change it but I’m not going to because when I wrote it, that’s how I wrote it. But in a way that’s a metaphor for this intention in total. I need to accept that I wrote you you and see the entirety of the intention for what it is, not just the one part that strikes the grammar policeman inside of me.

More broadly, I think it’s a lot easier to have gratitude for the good stuff, the stuff that feels good, feels right, feels like progress. But, for me at least, that’s not me. I’m not a beacon of pure light, there are dark streaks within and those give the light texture, balance, and strength. So I’m still trying to learn to give thanks for those darker pieces. My head knows they matter. My heart still struggles.

As you read this I wonder:

* How much of what is and what you are do you give thanks for?

* Do you see the impact of your light often, sometimes, or maybe even rarely?

* And, did you notice the you you the way that I did?

In one sense, we are beings of light. We shine brightly and broadly. But we don’t shine constantly or in one spectrum. Can you give a little more thanks for the pieces that may be harder to love but are no less critical to the light you bring?

As the sun rises on a new day, can you take note of the colors and of the progression? Can you see the change in hue, the change in intensity? Can you realize that underneath that constant change is perpetual beauty? Can you see that as a metaphor for you and for your soul?

A sunrise or a sunset over the water may be my favorite visual space. Not because it’s “beautiful” though it is but rather because of the constant change in visuals that it brings. The pattern is neither constant nor predictable but you know it’s going to change and change quickly. And through all the change, it maintains its beauty.

Now it’s a lot harder for me to internalize that metaphor as this intention asks me to do. Our souls are similar. They are constantly changing, sometimes more quickly and sometimes more slowly; and they are always beautiful, at least to those few who we truly allow to see them.

As you read this I wonder:

* Do you believe in the beauty of your soul?

* Do you believe you need to freeze it to hold on to that beauty or can you accept the wonder of change?

* Who do you show it to, fully and without reservation? Is there truly anyone?

Believing in the constant beauty of your soul is for me at least a life’s journey. It is at the center of my constant becoming. This week, can you open the door a little wider and let just one more person see more of who you are?

Do you really fear the future or do you only fear what lies between here and there? Can you focus on what will be through the arc of the rest of your life and recognize that the near term challenges are just that, things to overcome on your path to someday?

This week we’ve been talking about anxiety, fear and overcoming it. That’s in part because for the last week or so, I’ve felt increasingly stuck so I wanted to spend a little time with my past thoughts on the topic.

I think many of my fears are not about a future state but about things that will prevent me from getting to the place I think I belong. As such, they are things I can move through and get to the other side of. But they are also things that keep coming back in one form or another.

I sometimes wonder why I am afraid of these bumps in the road. Do I have so little faith in my own ability to overcome or instead is it an indication that maybe I am less certain of my destination than I might think?

As you read this I wonder:

* Can you draw the distinction between a point on the journey and the destination?

* Can you embrace the challenges and grow?

* Can you hold your someday lightly, never making it so specific that the paths to it constrict too much?

As we close out the week, I want to thank you for sitting with me as we talk about the harder part. Can you greet your weekend with thanks for what you have overcome and confidence that you are never alone?

Can you meet the day confident in who you are and the value you bring? Can you turn anxiety into action? Can you know that you are moving forward no matter how stuck you feel?

If I had one thing I’d want stenciled in the inside of my eyelids, it would be “Can you turn anxiety into action?” It’s probably the mantra I come back to the most when I am anxious. Sitting with anxiety is one of the things that I have the hardest time doing. I want to fix it and to make it go away.

But sometimes there is no action other than the passage of time that will address our anxiety. Indeed, more often than not, this seems to be the case. Anxiety is about the future and so sometimes all we can do is wait for it to come. However, this does not mean we cannot turn anxiety into action. We just need to accept the action may not directly treat the anxiety.

As you read this I wonder:

* How are you defining the value you bring?

* Do you believe that action can reduce anxiety even if the action doesn’t directly change the cause?

* Does moving forward feel like progress even when you might get pushed off the path for a bit?

I now am pretty sure that action, almost any productive action, helps me treat anxiety. Can you find a way this week to move ahead even when you may not be moving directly on your path?

Often our lives are full of turbulence like waves crashing on the shore. Can you face them and not face away? Can you hold on to your center? And can you know that you will persevere and like all things, the waves will pass?

We all have times of turbulence in our lives and I think it’s interesting that turbulence is sometimes more deviation from the current norm than an absolute state. We can be in the midst of crisis and small things don’t matter but in moments of calm, they disturb the system.

I think the idea here is that we need to face into what is disturbing us, hold to our center and let it move through us. Turbulence does pass but it is our choice whether it leaves us stronger.

As you reflect on this I wonder:

* What feels like turbulence to you these days and importantly, what doesn’t that might have once upon a time?

* Can you hold on to the things that disturb you? Can you allow them to be without throwing you off?

* Do you have faith in someday, even when that day isn’t today or tomorrow?

It is hard to feel buffeted by circumstances beyond our control. But it is easy to confuse the idea that we don’t control everything with the feeling that we don’t control anything. This week, can you remember to keep walking and keep your eyes ahead?

Can you fight the instinct to walk away from the things you truly want out of fear you may never achieve them? Why would you choose to set the chance of joy to zero? Why would you damage yourself by assuming you are not enough? So embrace yourself complete with flaws and keep walking the path.

Clearly this week we are talking about resilience. But this intention for me is deep in the heart of it. Resilience to me is less about getting knocked down and getting aback up and more about simply not pulling myself back. I have all too often walked away out of fear I might not “win.”

Over time, I’ve come to realize that the story I create about why I might not win is far more damaging than losing. Losing is a fact that comes and goes, the story I tell myself to justify no longer trying has far longer and more detrimental consequences. As you read this I wonder:

* What is the story you have for why you should give up that is beneath I might not win?

* What value do you see in assuming you aren’t enough?

* Do you believe that only the perfect win? If the flawed can be victorious, why not you?

Perseverance is an important trait. But I think I’d argue that story you tell yourself along the way is far more important than simply whether you keep going. As this week ends, can you let go of the harmful stories and see if the steps become a bit easier?

When you feel like you are moving backwards, getting further away from a goal, a person, a feeling; can you keep your eyes forward? Can you keep your heart full? Can you know that you are enough to take that next step? Can you believe what you most desire is always within your reach?

I’m sure you’ve heard the famous saying, two steps forward, one step back. We all know progress isn’t linear. But I sometimes find myself questioning whether the thing I want is what I need in this moment. Sometimes, I have to find something along the way and what feels like a step away is actually a step to the side that opens up another path.

There’s a great line from an old episode of Star Trek. “After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.” Spock clearly. But there’s power in it for me. There’s joy in wanting even when we don’t have, maybe particularly when we don’t.

As you read this I wonder:

* How much of your attention is on the goal versus the path?

* Do you believe in yourself enough to know that you can get there even if you do it a different way?

* Can you lean in to the joy of wanting and not make it all about having?

I think we all need to realize that our wants change, that some days feel full of momentum and some do not. As you move through this week, can you feel the currents and accept them more than you fight them?

Can you face challenges, fears and difficulties with fortitude? Can you accept the emotions that come with struggle rather than denying them? Can you feel the anxiety without letting it own you? Can you know your path is in front of you and amazing things are always coming your way?

I sometimes try to bury fears. I want them to go away. Or, I use them to “doom cast,” to construct a completely improbably chain of events that leads to the implosion of my world. It is very hard for me to accept fear without letting it own my thoughts and therefore I’ve often used denial as my approach.

But what’s interesting about fear for me is usually what I fear is what hasn’t happened yet. Once it has happened, I’m usually pretty good at feeling it and moving forward. So perhaps fear is about the path that might be more than the path that is. Rarely is the present so awful that we fear it. We fear the could, the might, the perhaps more than what is.

As you read this I wonder:

* How much of your fear is about tomorrow versus really being about today?

* Can you welcome fear as you would welcome any emotion, knowing, like all of them, it is transitory?

* Can you believe in that good things will come tomorrow even if your fears are somehow realized?

I’m as guilty as anyone of spending too much time looking over the horizon for what might happen. This week, can you keep your sight a bit closer in and experience what is versus waiting for what could be?

Can you find joy in the act of choosing? Can you find hope in your ability to change? Can you find strength in your power to influence? Can you see your impact in small ways and large? Can you be certain the world is better for you being in it? Can you be all in today?

This one has always hit me hard. The hardest question for me is “Can you be certain the world is better for you being in it?” Well, my answer often is, depends how I did today. In other words, I think the world is better for me being in it when I take action to make it so, small or large.

But if I don’t act, if I don’t change something, then the world is no better for me being in it, or so can go my line “reasoning.” But that is just another way of saying acting is the only way of creating value. And so the ask here is to be all in, not because I am going to do great things but because my being makes small things happen, most of which I may not see.

As you read this I wonder:

* What are you going to choose today that shows yourself who you are?

* Can you see that your presence can be enough to drop pebbles in the pond?

* Can you be all in, even if that means just showing up?

The influence we have is far beyond what most of us comprehend. Yes, we aren’t going to change the world most days, but the collective weight of our presence and our commitment is what makes the world what it is and what it can be. Can you just be part of it today?

People may tell you to leave the past behind you, but can you instead leave the past with you without letting it control you? Can you realize the past is real but not a prediction? Can you see the past has lessons but you have to bring those lessons to your life? Can your soul sing and your heart have hope because today is a new day and love is coming?

I always thought the phrases, “The past is the past” and “The past is in the past” pretty reductive. Sure, they are true as stated but the intent of both is more like leave the past behind because it doesn’t matter. But the past matters a lot. It shapes us and if we don’t control it, it can control us.

At my worst, I see the negative elements of my past as prologue for my future. But that’s only true if I don’t learn from it, don’t carry its lessons with me, don’t hold it close to me and let it suffuse. me. Learning to truly integrate the past versus reject it or treat is as a prophecy is a challenge, but it is a challenge that leads to hope.

As you read this I wonder:

* What are you still carrying with you that you haven’t fully integrated into the you of today?

* How do you make the past something that brings you closer to tomorrow rather than pulls you back to yesterday?

* Can you see tomorrow through a clear lens rather than letting the past taint it?

We need to live in today, with our eyes on tomorrow and our souls full of all that has come before. This fracturing is part of what makes the human journey so fascinating. Today, can you embrace all sides in balance and hold hope for tomorrow?

Can you take a step into possibility today? Can you reach for things that are not yet but will be? Can you be secure they are in your reach even when they are not yet within your grasp? Can you proceed from hope?

One of the unique elements of being human or maybe being alive in general is wanting what we don’t have and, sometimes, ignoring what we do have because of it. But the fact that we don’t have something today does not mean we will not have it tomorrow. Or perhaps even something better or more appropriate.

I am increasingly trying to proceed from hope in my life. And I’m also trying to make my hope less specific. Instead of saying “I’m hoping for this because it will bring me peace or love,” I’m trying to say, “I’m hoping for things that will bring me more peace and love.” The difference is subtle but it matters. When we put our faith in feeling in one outcome, we are dramatically narrowing our paths to where we want to go.

As you read this I wonder:

* Can you understand that most things are within your grasp even when you may not see a way?

* Can you take one thing that seems impossible and imagine it being?

* Can you take a small step forward toward something that matters?

One of the things that I’m coming to believe is that life is an accumulation of small choices. And those small choices are all around us. Can you be aware enough to see the small choice today?

Can you believe that balance is coming? Can you look for the glimmers among the clouds? Can you accept the fall that comes after the rise? Can you ride the wave as it flows and find joy in the movement?

Sometimes as I’m thinking through a week’s posting, something that I just wrote feels like it fits and this is one of those times. I used to posit my life as below average and believe there was nothing but upside because of that. Of course, my life was and is far better than I had put into words but the perspective of being down and thinking about how much better things could be lands with many of us.

But I think we have to look at the other side as well. Downs come with ups and ups come with downs. We should expect it. We should welcome it. We cannot live our best day every day. The strain of carrying it would be more than we know. And frankly, our best tomorrow is likely not our best today because today happened. And the learning from the lows gives texture to the highs and vice versa.

As you read this I wonder:

* Are you willing to predict for yourself both the ups and the downs?

* Can you find the spots of light and dark and make them matter as much as the background they are painted on?

* Can you see the potential for joy in each moment you live?

I think I used to view thinking about the negative as a character flaw in a way, not that I stopped doing it. Now I view change as necessary and both positive and negative. As you go into the weekend, can you sit in the balance and watch the world flow by?

Can you believe the best today? Can you feel that life will bring you what you need, what you want? Can you see that people will greet you with love and compassion? Can you know that you are held and safe? Can you simply accept that your happiness, your hope, and your peace are written in the stars?

I remember writing this one clearly. It was one of my many times of spiraling down into a sense of one dimensional being and transactional living. And as I look at it nearly two years after I wrote it, my heart hurts for the me that was.

I also think that it’s a bit too deterministic. If I look at the last sentence, I’d want to change it. The potential for my happiness, my hope, and my peace are not only written in the stars, the choices to find them are with me every day. So it’s less that the universe is going to protect me than it’s going to offer me the opportunity to find what I want out of life.

As you read this I wonder:

* Can you imagine things turning out better? How far can you push it?

* Can you hear the quiet signals around you that show you why you matter?

* Can you believe that the chance to find more is in front of you and look for it?

On the other side of surrender, namely letting go, may be leaning in, not to a story that you need to be true, but to the small signs that you can change your world and the world. I hope you see more of those signs this week and are moved to take action.

Where is your path taking you? How hard are you holding the wheel? Can you have faith in the universe and belief in those who love you most? What would happen if you took your hands off the wheel and let someone else or maybe nobody at all drive? It's possible and it may create an outcome closer to the one that is meant for you.

Letting go is one of those things that is oh so easy to say and oh so hard to do. I’m reminded of taking flying lessons when periodically the instructor will tell you to take your hands off the yoke (the wheel). The intent is to see if the plane is set up to fly straight on its own.

I try to think about it that way. We aren’t taking our hands off the wheel to let someone else fly but to learn about our path. We aren’t giving in, we are using all our senses to see where we are and where we have the potential to go. Somehow, when I think about it like that, it’s a little easier to let go, at least for a little while.

As you read this, I wonder:

* How much faith do you have in the momentum behind you?

* Do you believe that those who love you most will help you build your path?

* Is understanding where you are headed more important than where you get to?

I know I will never be fully comfortable with just letting go. It’s not in my nature. But I am learning that those brief moments of assessing how life goes when you aren’t steering are important learnings for me. What might be waiting for you to learn if you take your hands off the wheel, even for a moment?

Can you hold on to the people who sacrifice for you? Can you see the moments they choose you over themselves, not when it's convenient but when you really need it? When no sacrifice is too large, no love is too great.

One of my favorite ideas from business, is “revealed preference.” It simply means that your actions show what you believe much better than what you say. And life, I think, is like that. We all know what we are supposed to say, but what we do is what counts.

In my own life, I’ve started to take note of the people who are there, not just when I really need it, but just in my day to day life. My observation would be that crisis can generate attention, but attention outside of crisis comes from love. And those few people who show that type of love are worthy of me, of my thought, of my intention, of my sacrifice.

As you read this, I wonder:

* Who in your life puts you first, not only when they should or have to?

* Have you told those people how much it means, not just in general but each time it happens?

* Have you made the choice about whom you hold closest? Does it show?

We have the opportunity to show people who we are. We can’t do this for everyone and sometimes the choice is paralyzing. It might seem easier to run from fire to fire, we certainly have enough of them. But those who you hold when you need not, those special few will feel it. And so will you.

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Can you feel the pull of one soul today? Can you feel the hand on your back, hear the voice in your ear, see the beacon ahead? Can that one soul be your world for just one moment? Can you now be that one soul for another?

We live in a world of noise. We all feel it - the demands for our attention, the things that need to be done, the things we are trying to catch up on. There is always something, indeed, there is always a lot more than one something.

But, amid all of that, I know I have an opportunity. I can cut through all of that and focus, focus on one soul. I can hear one voice through all of the noise. I can let that one voice pull me forward. Now the only question I have to answer is what voice will I choose to listen to and what hand will I let hold mine.As you read this, I wonder:

* How loud is your world right now? How do you tune out some of the noise?

* Who is the one voice for you today? Can you be comfortable that tomorrow’s answer may change?

* Can you take the risk of trying to be the one voice for another?

My greatest gift I think is the gift of focus, the ability to look at another person and say that nothing is more important than you and us in this moment. No other thing will break my connection to you, for as long as the moment may last. It’s hard to do but the value you can create is immeasurable. This week, can you be that one person, even if only for one moment?

Can you see yourself clearly? Can you hold yourself closely? Can you give yourself grace? Can you find the people who connect to your soul and let them hold up a mirror, hold your hand as you walk, and lift you up when you stumble? Can you do the same for them?

I’d say of all the things that have been a challenge for me for most of my life, seeing myself clearly is at the top of the list. I’ve had a perception of myself that is very one dimensional, focused on intellect to the exclusion of other elements of me. And it has been a long journey to start to release that perception, this Substack being one step in that journey.

It took me changing my ability to listen to others, to see through their eyes, to accept their perception of me to help me reground my perception of myself. The old stories always creep back in, but, over time, their stay is a little shorter and their effect a little less felt than it was.

As you read this I wonder:

* Has your view of yourself changed? If so, why? And if not, why not?

* Who in your life do you trust to hold up the mirror and hold your hand?

* When was the last time you really told someone you love what you see in them?

As humans, we have the opportunity to use the ties that bind us to each other to help ourselves see more clearly. It is one of the greatest gifts we can receive or provide. I hope someone speaks quietly in your ear this week and you take the chance to listen.

As you can see, we’re spending this week talking about our center and holding our equilibrium. What I want to call out here is what is really within our center. I do believe that our center is the place from which we can best express the positive in us. It’s the place where we hear love most clearly and can tune out some of the negative emotion that comes to us and that we create.

But to hold that center, I have to hold it softly. I can’t grab it, force it, or muscle my way into calm. My center returns when I make space for it, not when I chase it. The more confident I am that love is waiting for me there — that peace is not something I earn but something that simply is — the easier it is to let the center rise again on its own.

As you read this I wonder:

* Do you really believe that peace and love are waiting within you?

* Can you allow what is to be without it changing your course or your choice?

* Can you fight a little less and wait with hope a little more?

Our centers are places of wondrous power. They allow us to connect to other souls in ways that are at the core of what makes us human. I hope that you find both your center and the lines that lead from there to so many other souls around you.

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I’ve always loved the image of a pebble hitting still water. The moment of impact, the widening rings, the return to calm — it’s a tiny, perfect metaphor for being alive. But when the disruption isn’t in a pond but in the soul, the moment feels far less poetic. For me, it still happens more often than I’d like, and sometimes more intensely than I always know what to do with.

My most significant learning about these moments is that the thing I most need to do is wait. I cannot smooth out the water but I do know the water will smooth. And I also know the next pebble is coming. And so peace is about fighting less so that the waters calm more quickly and I am more still when the next pebble, or rock, or boulder falls.

As you read this I wonder:

* Can you sense when your waters are calm versus roiled? Can you quiet yourself and watch?

* What is your reaction when peace is disturbed? Can you wait versus fight or flee?

* Are you ready for the next disturbance? Can you learn to welcome it more than fear it?

The pebbles aren’t the problem. They are the teachers. They show us what we cling to, what we fear, and what we’re capable of returning to. They reveal what calm truly feels like. If we can welcome them — or at least not resist them — the waters settle more quickly, and we meet the next ripple with a quieter soul.

This is one of the earliest intentions I wrote. You can feel in it the version of me that was still trying to figure out where I stood — who I was beneath the noise, the expectations, the reactions. Years later, it still resonates, maybe even more than it did then.

I think a lot about whether I am “on center.” I know that the days where I am closer, I learn faster, grow more, and love harder than the days that I am farther away. And I’ve also learned that what knocks me off is less what I see and hear than what I feel and the stories that I tell myself. So, for me at least, holding my center is really about keeping control over my internal monologue. Which is a great thing because that is something I can manage if not fully control.

As you read this I wonder:

* Do you know where your center is? Do you feel like you belong there?

* What knocks you off balance? Is it more about what happens to you or what happens within you?

* Can you start to manage how you react even if you cannot control what happens?

We all know our center when we find it. We feel at peace. We feel safer. We feel less like something terrible is about to happen. And the love that is broadcast at us comes through with less interference. I hope you find that place a little more and a little more easily this week.

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Part 1: FOUNDATION

1. We have many homes. Some are places, some are people. But the most important home is the one within us. How do we feel welcome there every day and in every way?

2. Can you believe that beneath all the muck and the grime and the old stories, you remain at your core what you have always been, intrinsically valuable regardless of your actions? You don’t need to be better or to do more. You need to know yourself for who you are.

3. To truly relax, you must feel safe in yourself and know that whatever may go on in the world, you will always be safe in the silence of your soul.

4. Be with yourself. Even when you see or feel things that make you feel angry, fearful or ashamed, can you be with yourself and meet yourself with empathy and love?

Part 2: SELF-KNOWLEDGE

5. Picture someone you care deeply about in your mind’s eye. Say to them, ‘May you be at peace. May you be loved. May you be healthy and strong.’ Now do the same thing for yourself and notice how much harder it can be.

6. Can you look at the gaps within yourself without judgment and rather than waiting for someone else to fill them, can you fill them yourself knowing that you have everything you need to do so?

7. Can you find happiness and peace within yourself? Can you know you are more than enough? Can you know that these two things are essential to your path and will bring you what you desire?

8. Can you think of a person close to your soul? Now can you believe in yourself the way they believe in you? Can you see yourself the way they see you? Can you love yourself the way that they love you?

Part 3: SELF-COMPASSION

9. Can you be a little more of yourself today? Not who you think you need to be and not who you wish you were? Can you accept that you have such light to give but also accept there is darkness and sadness within you? Can you come a step closer to being you and to know that is more than enough?

10. Can you be your own rock today? Can you be your own calm in the storm? Can you see yourself as strong, as good, as loving, as lovable? Can that be enough for you today?

11. Can you revel in your imperfections? Can you see the joy in your mistakes? Can you realize that in your mistakes are your growth? Can you appreciate those who see past your imperfections to the beauty and wonder of your soul? Can you see yourself through their eyes just a little bit more?

12. Can you look in the mirror today, not the funhouse mirror of your mind but the reflection that is there in the eyes of love? Can you see that your flaws are still there, your mistakes, your misses? But can you see your soul shining through, your intent, your purpose? Only when you see yourself clearly can you truly bring your light to the world.

Part 4: BEING YOURSELF

13. Can you find peace in being without a tribe? Can you feel the freedom that comes with simply being you? Can you find it within yourself to wander the wilderness for a while? Can you spend less time looking and more time seeing?

14. Can you remove the pressure you place on yourself to perform? Can you feel how natural it can be when you are simply being yourself? When you are in that space, being the authentic you, can you feel the relief and freedom that comes from not performing at all? In that space can you simply be and feel joy?

15. Can you write your own story? Can you hear what the world thinks and treat it as input rather than fact? Can you acknowledge your opportunities without refusing to see your wins? Can you simply be a little kinder to yourself and let that change the face in the mirror?

16. Can you tune out all the advice you have been given and simply focus on being you? Can you know that all those who mean so well are not you and cannot be? Can you let them have their say and then simply be your authentic self? If you can, you will find your place, your authentic place.

Part 5: COMING HOME

17. Can you give yourself permission to be imperfect today, to be human? Can mistakes be met with acceptance and learning? Can your path be the one that is perfect for you and not a pale imitation of another’s? In short can you love you, who you are, who you have, and what you have? You are a blessing. Close your eyes and feel it.

18. What about you can you celebrate today? Can you focus less on what you did than on who you are? Can you hear less of what is said about you than what you know to be true? Can you see a truer reflection of your soul more than what you see in the mirror? Can you believe in yourself just a little more?

19. Today can you focus solely on living up to your own expectations? Can you hold yourself to your standard and can that be enough? Can you let go of the anger and frustration of not being seen or appreciated and simply hold on to the wonder that you are? Can you believe in you just a little more?

20. If the essence of faith is believing in the unprovable, can you have more faith in your own worth? Can you stop trying to prove it, to others and to yourself? Can that faith be enough for you, even when the facts point in a different direction? Can you find others of the faith and let them reinforce your belief? They are out there. Are you listening?

21. Can you hold yourself close? Can you see yourself clearly? Can you take in all that you are and all that you can be? Can today be a day where you believe in you and let the voices that don’t simply pass you by, even if the loudest voice is your own?

22. Can you anchor yourself to hope, to joy, to love? Can you draw those to you who are ready to be with you? Can you let those go who would pull you away? Can you be happier with a few boats that belong than worrying about all those who sail by? Their destinations are their own. Can you hold on to yours?

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I’m sure I’ve used the phrase “same old thing, different day” hundreds of times. There’s a great truth in it. Our lives typically don’t radically shift from one day to the next. That is a gift, because most of us couldn’t survive radical, daily change.

But there is a huge opportunity in that sameness. Just because it is the “same old thing” doesn’t mean we have to see it or feel it the same old way. We always have the chance to reframe, to notice something new, or to allow ourselves to feel in a deeper way. Indeed, I suspect the bulk of our growth doesn’t come from new information, but from new perceptions.

As you read this, I wonder:

* Where are you allowing the sameness of today to mask what you are truly seeing and feeling?

* If you could choose to view just one thing from a new angle, what would it be?

* Can you keep your eyes and ears a little fresher today?

It’s easy to let sameness drift into complacency and boredom. But how we process the world is perhaps the greatest choice we make. Can we choose to process our lives with a little more wonder?

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For 99 percent, maybe 99.999 percent, of the people I’ve met in my life, the answer to the first question is a resounding no. We simply see others more clearly than we see ourselves. I think in part it’s because we are less vested in what we see around us than what we see within us.

I’m also much more willing to forgive the missteps of others than I am my own. Context can matter for them more than it does for me. And becoming is uncomfortable for me because it means I’m not yet who I want to be, or so it might appear. I don’t know who others aspire to be generally so it is easy to take them as they are since I do not know who they wish to be.

As you read this I wonder:

* If you didn’t compare who you are to who you want to be, what might change?

* Can you see yourself as complete even though you know you are changing?

* How can you give yourself more of your mind and more of your grace?

Many of us still hide our light. I’m increasingly convinced that most who do are hiding it because it’s not quite bright enough or pure enough yet. Perhaps it is time to let others get the benefit of your imperfections…

This piece began as a response to a friend’s prompt: “write a story about a lighthouse.” This is what emerged, and I think it fits naturally with how my own path has been unfolding. While my story isn’t Hank’s, in our own ways, we’re both learning to open up and believe.

The audio runs about twenty‑five minutes, so if you’d like to listen, find a quiet moment to settle in and be present. If you’d rather read, please continue below.

Hank and the Lighthouse

The absolute last thing Hank wanted to do was walk up those stairs again. There were 172 of them. He had counted them so many times that he knew what number he was on without counting anymore. It was a strange thing to know what stair he was on without counting but it was what it was. And 172 is a lot of stairs, particularly when you reach a certain age. But Hank had a job and he was going to do it and doing the job required walking up 172 stairs once a day if he was lucky and more than that if he was not, at least these days.

Not that there was nothing good about Hank’s job. The view, most days could be something once you finished climbing the stairs. Could be being the operative words. It also could be no view at all, literally none.

You see, Hank’s job was to tend a lighthouse. And to be honest, tending a lighthouse didn’t require a huge amount of work most of the time. Most of the time, you threw a few switches and sat back and watched the lighthouse do its thing. And just waited for the time to pass.

And while some days were pretty uninteresting, the days when the clouds were so low that he was pretty much in the middle of them by the time he reached the top step, some days, like today, were truly something. The sky was blue, the winds were light and there was a little bit of warmth in the air.

Now your might think that those days were the days that Hank loved the most and when he had started the job, some 20 years ago, they were. He could get lost in the joy of simply looking out on the water and seeing all the activity, the boats, the airplanes that flew by, and he would sit in the sun and simply soak it all in.

But the truth is that over time, Hank had soured on those days. He now preferred the days when it was cloudy or foggy or rainy. Sure, he didn’t get to go outside but there were two big benefits to those days. The first was he knew he was doing something useful even if it wasn’t really that hard. On those days, he played a role in seeing people safely to their destination and it was a worthy thing to do, again even if it wasn’t that hard. But, more importantly, he was alone in his own world. He didn’t have to watch people leave the area, leave him. Of course he knew that most of the people didn’t even know he existed. Some of them knew the lighthouse but none of them knew Hank. And so Hank was happiest when he did the most and confronted his loneliness the least.

And today was another one of the days he really hated. Bright and sunny with lots of boats on the water, lots of people going from place to place while Hank sat around and wished he didn’t have to watch. But, what was he supposed to do, sit inside while the sun was shining. I mean he could but that didn’t really make any sense either. So Hank sat outside and watched the world go by and wondered why he was simply sitting around and what he was waiting for

Because in addition to being solitary on his job, Hank led a solitary life. he told himself he didn’t mind but of course he did. Manning a lighthouse meant he worked odd hours and sometimes was gone all night. And it’s not like the pay was great or there were a lot of people in town looking for relationships. So Hank sat around and wondered how he had gotten to this place. But, the truth of the matter was, and he knew this, that for a while at least, Hank had wanted a solitary life. But he wasn’t sure he did anymore and yet he was so far down this path, where was he to go?

On this day, like many, Hank left the lighthouse at the end of his shift, a little bit after dark. He had made sure that everything was working normally, set the alarms that would let him know if anything was amiss, and wandered into the small town he called home. They didn’t get a ton of tourists here, they mostly went further up the bay but the few they did get would have called the village quaint, or perhaps ramshackle if they weren’t feeling charitable. But to Hank it was home. Similar to the steps in his lighthouse, he knew everything by instinct and could go from place to place by simply following his feet. And so, like many days, Hank hit the bar to grab himself a drink and maybe a bit of food if the mood struck him.

As it often was, the bar was not packed, there were a few locals and a few tourists around. You could tell the tourists mostly by their shoes, too clean, too new, and often times, inappropriate for an old town with old roads and a fair bit of mud. But the mood was lively as he walked in and headed to the bar. he greeted Joe, who tended bar most nights. Rusty owned the place but he only tended bar on the rare occasions when Joe had the night off…one night a week and 2 weeks a year vacation.

“The usual Hank?,” asked Joe as he sat down.

“Sure,” replied Hank and sighed as a beer was pulled and placed down in front of him. Hank then took a sip, closed his eyes for a moment and tried to think about what he was going to do with the rest of the day. He didn’t have any plans, didn’t have a ton of hobbies, beyond doing the daily crossword, and so he mostly just sat and watched whatever happened to be on the one beat up television in the place. Some game show or something. Hank wasn’t interested but it was something to do. But after an hour or so, he decided he wasn’t hungry, wandered back to his place, read a book for a few minutes and went to sleep. Another day in the books.

Hank woke up with the sun as he normally did this time of year. Summer was coming to an end but it still got light pretty early and Hank truly did enjoy the sunrise. Sometimes he’d head to the lighthouse to see it but, come to think of it, he hadn’t really done that in a while. He wasn’t really sure why. He just hadn’t.

He had a quick breakfast, grabbed the paper for the crossword and wandered off to climb the 172 steps again. But, as he approached the lighthouse, something was odd. There was a car in the parking lot. Hank didn’t own a car, no need really. He didn’t really have anywhere to go. And yet, there was a car there. Hank thought about it as he walked up the hill. They’d had an inspection a few months ago so it couldn’t be that. Other than the inspector, he couldn’t remember the last time he’d seen a car in the lot.

Well, it was nothing to him really. So he walked by the car and headed for the door to take the 172 steps again. As he was unlocking the door, he heard the car door open. And turning, he saw a woman coming toward him. At least he thought it was a woman. Either that or a really short man. As she came closer, he registered long hair peaking out around a ball cap and so he knew it was a woman.

“Good morning,” she called across the lot.

“Mornin’,” answered Hank cautiously.

“Can I ask you a question?”, she continued.

“I suppose,” replied Hank. “Ain’t no harm in questions.”

“Well you see. I’m practicing painting and I want to do a seascape but I want to get a perspective that is unique. So I was driving down the coast and I saw the lighthouse. Any chance I could come up to the top and do my painting from there?”

That was about the last thing Hank was expecting to hear. “It’s more than a few steps,” he replied. “And it ain’t no kind of pretty up there at all, there being only me who ever goes up there.”

“I don’t mind that. And it would only take a couple of days probably for me to paint what I want.”

Days? thought Hank. A couple of days. While he wasn’t sure he like being alone, he also wasn’t sure he wanted somebody in his way for a couple of days. And what if it was more than a couple? At the same time, she looked like a nice enough sort and it wasn’t like she was going to get in his way.

“All right,” he said. “I suppose that would be fine.”

“Thank you so much. I will be back tomorrow with my paints. Is there anyway we could start a bit earlier. You see the light right after dawn is what I’m really trying to get…”

Hank thought and it’s already started. I mean now I have to walk over in the dark. He thought about pushing back a bit. “Well you see ma’am I walk over from my place and I’d rather not walk in the dark…”

“Oh I’d be happy to pick you up. Say 6:15?”

Hank did not want anyone to pick him up. “That’s not necessary ma’am. I’ll see you here at 6:30 tomorrow morning.”

“Thank you so much. I will see you then…I’m so sorry. I don’t even know your name.”

“The name’s Hank,” he replied.

“See you then Hank. Mine’s Cheryl.”

“Enjoy your day ma’am.”

And with that, Hank opened the door and closed it and took the 172 stairs to the top.

It was another beautiful day and so Hank had a lot of time to stare out and think. Mostly, he wondered about Cheryl. Why, of all the places someone could go to do a painting, why would she ever come here? Heck, he could show her a bunch of places that were prettier to look at than the view from the top of the lighthouse. Maybe he should have told her that. But, although he wasn’t sure he wanted company, he wasn’t going to be rude. She’d probably figure out soon enough that she was in the wrong place and she’d move on and do her painting somewhere better. But either way, he’d said he’d be there so he would.

After another day, Hank again locked up and left. That night, he skipped the pub and just went home, made himself some soup and went to bed. He didn’t love waking up before the sun got up but I guess tomorrow was the day for it.

That next morning, Hank carried the small flashlight he used in the winter when he had to get up before the sun. The good news was it was right where he had left it. The bad news was the batteries were dead and it had taken a quick walk back into the drugstore to get new ones. Guess it was smart he’d skipped the pub. The drug store would have been closed if he had spent an hour or two there.

As he walked up the hill, he could see the lights of her car were already there. Eager she was he thought. Well, he wouldn’t hurry. She’d said 6:30 and he was going to be there at 6:30. And so he was.

As she saw his light coming up the hill, she hopped out of the car and walked over.

“Thank you so much for coming,” she said. “I know I’m a bit early but I’m really excited.”

“It’s just an old lighthouse,” he replied. “But you’re free to come on in and see what you see.”

“Perfect,” she said and followed along behind Hank.

“Don’tcha be wanting your painting stuff?”, Hank asked.

“Well not yet,” she said. I need to see what I am working with first.

“Right then, up you come.”

So he opened the door and they walked up the 172 stairs. There wasn’t much to see in that part so they walked in silence. To Hank’s surprise, she didn’t ask once how many steps there were and he didn’t volunteer the answer. When the got to the top, it was the round room that was the only real room in the place. There was a small toilet room off to the side but other than that, just the one round room. Though many times Hank has been thankful for that toilet. 172 steps each way to go to the bathroom was crazy. He’d never have stayed. Other than that, there were a few chairs, a small table and a small refrigerator. The fridge had a few sodas and a few beers. He hoped she didn’t need anything because he didn’t have much. But he had tidied up a bit. After all, no sense in it being too dirty or dusty.

Before he could start to show her around, she ran to the other side of the room, out the door and onto the outside railing. You could just see the first glimpse of predawn. The sun wouldn’t be up for a bit yet but you could tell the day was coming. A part of Hank remembered the first few times he’d seen that view. It was pretty special. But he’d seen it enough. He understood why she wanted to see it though.

“This is amazing. It’s perfect,” she enthused. “How long til the sun comes up?”

Hank though a moment and looked again, “Maybe 30 minutes or so til it’s above the horizon, maybe a bit less.”

“Oh my goodness. I have to hurry, it’s probably going to take 3 or 4 trips up here to get everything I need.”

Three of four trips, Hank thought. She won’t get that done and get set up before the sun comes up. “Well ma’am,” he said. If you don’t mind, I’ll just come down and give you a hand.”

“I couldn’t ask you to do that,” she said. It’s a lot of steps.”

“Yes ma’am but it’ll be fewer if we do it together.”

“Very well, but only if you call me Cheryl.”

“Right you are Cheryl. We should get moving though. Sun’ll be up soon enough.”

And so down they went. And man did she have a lot of stuff. 3 big easels, tons of brushes, paints, canvas, cloths and a bunch of other stuff besides. They made in in two trips but they were both more than a bit out of breath by the time they’d made the second one.

So they now had quite a pile of stuff in the middle of the round room. “Ma’am, not sure I can help but let me know if you need anything in gettin’ all that stuff set up?”

“It’s Cheryl and I’ll be fine. Well actually,” she said, reconsidering, “it would be great if you could just set up the three easels there, there and there,” she said pointing to three different places around the railing.

So Hank dutifully put the easels out and sat down at the table and worked on his crossword. She moved from place to place getting the rest how she wanted it and then she started working. Hank really didn’t like to pry so he sat and worked the crossword until it was done and then grabbed a book from one of the shelves. He’d read it more than a few times but it was a way to pass the time. Now normally he’d grab one of the chairs and sit outside but he didn’t rightly know what she was doing or where to sit to stay out of the way.

After a few hours, she came in from the railing and asked him why he was sitting inside.

“Well, ma’am, I don’t want to be in your way, you paintin’ and all.”

“Hank, my name is Cheryl, not ma’am and this is your place not mine. I’m just borrowing it for a few days.”

“Well ma’am, I mean Cheryl, if you can just tell me where to sit, I’ll grab a chair and stay out of the way.”

“I’d be happy to. Say Hank, do you have anything to drink here?”

Hank should have known that was coming but all he had was Coke and beer. So he told her so. “I love Coke was her reply.”

So he grabbed her one out of the fridge. Grabbed his chair and took a seat by the railing and lost himself in his book. He couldn’t really see her from where he was but from time to time, as the wind shifted, he caught an occasional hint of her humming. It wasn’t a song that he could tell but it sounded happy.

A few hours later, she came over and said, “Are you hungry?”

“Well ma’am…Cheryl,” he corrected when she gave him a look. “I bring myself some lunch every day. I don’t be havin’ time to run into town just to get lunch.”

“Oh goodness. I didn’t think to bring anything. How long will it take?”

“Depends what you want. But if you like, I’m happy to share.”

“Hank I can’t eat your lunch.”

“Well…Cheryl. I have enough and worst thing is I eat a little bit more at dinner time.”

And so they sat at the table, each ate half a turkey sandwich, some chips and half a chocolate chip cookie. Cheryl ate quickly, much more quickly than Hank, even though she was a lot smaller than he was.

“I don’t want to be rude,” she said, “but there’s only so much light and I need to keep working.”

“It’s no problem at all,” said Hank. “I’ll just tidy up a bit and you go right ahead.”

And so he did and then headed back out to his designated spot and watch the world go by a bit while he read his book. Usually, he just read but today he seemed to take more breaks than normal.

Finally as the sun was going down over the landward side of the lighthouse, she came over and said, “Well I’m about done for the day. Can we meet at the same time tomorrow?”

“I don’t see any reason why not,” replied Hank.

So they walked down again in companionable silence. She got in her car and drove away.

Hank walked down to the pub. He was a bit hungry after only having half a sandwich for lunch. He’d have to make two tomorrow just in case she forgot. So after a beer and a burger at the pub, he walked over to the grocery and bought a bit more food. Normally he made his sandwiches the night before but they got a bit soggy that way so he decided to get up even a bit earlier to make them in the morning.

The next morning, Hank woke early, made his sandwiches and headed off to the lighthouse. Once again the car was in the lot as he came up the hill but this time he quickened his step just a little bit. Cheryl got out of the car carrying two big bags and popped the trunk.

“I brought breakfast and lunch,” she said. “And if you look in the trunk, there’s a bunch of Cokes for us as I don’t want to drink one a day but I also don’t want to drink all of yours.”

“That’s nice of you ma’…Cheryl,” Hank said.

And up the 172 stairs they walked.

But Hank could already tell as soon as they reached the top that it wasn’t going to be a great day. There was some weather rolling in. Probably wasn’t going to rain much but it was going to be damp and cloudy. He told Cheryl that it wouldn’t be a sunny day today. And her response shocked him.

“That’s perfect,” she said. “That means I will be able to start the second painting.”

“You mean you only worked on two yesterday,” he asked.

“Oh no,” she replied. “I only worked on one. I made good progress but it will be great to start the second one.”

Hank didn’t really understand why anyone would want to paint a picture of clouds from inside the clouds but he happily ate the breakfast sandwich she had brought, pulled up his chair and did the crossword and read his book.

Again he caught the sound of her humming or singing. It sounded different today. Still pleasant but different. Yesterday it sounded lighter but today it just sounded deep and full but it was still her voice.

Lunch was a little different this time. They ate a little bit of what she brought and a little bit of what Hank has made. She commented on how thoughtful he was to bring her food and Hank simply pointed out she had done the same.

She seemed to be a little less rushed today.

“So Hank,” she asked as she was cleaning up, “what’s your story?”

Hank wasn’t sure the last time someone had asked him that so he tried deflecting a few times but she kept at him. So he told her a little bit of it…how he had come here, how time had just sorta gone by. Even told her how he liked the cloudy days like today though he made something up when she asked why. But they passed a few moments more in conversation before she went back out and started painting again.

And so it continued for another few days. They would meet in the early darkness, share a few meals and some time together at lunch. But other than that, they would simply do their thing in the lighthouse. There were a few good sunny days and a few that were not so nice but through it all Cheryl kept painting. But as Hank watched, she never touched the middle canvas, just the one on the right and the one on the left.

One day, he asked her about it. “Well Hank,” she said somewhat mysteriously, “if you must know, I’m not ready to paint that one yet.”

Now that didn’t make sense to Hank but he didn’t know a thing about art so they just continued on.

Another few days passed and in the seventh or eighth day at lunch, she took a long look at him and asked, “Hank, tell me again why you like the cloudy and dark days better than the days with sunshine.” He started repeating what he had told her the first time and she held up a finger. “No that’s not it. What’s the real reason?”

Hank was a bit shocked. I mean she was a visitor and all. But he hadn’t really ever talked about it and she was here and asking so he decided to tell her. He told her about feeling alone, about feeling like everyone always left and the dark days he couldn’t see the people leaving. He talked and talked. In fact, he might have talked more than he had in months or years, just straight away. And by the time he was done, her eyes were shining with unshed tears.

“Cheryl, are you all right?”, he asked.

“Yes and no Hank. The bigger question is are you all right?”

“Sure I am,” he said. Though as he thought about it, he wasn’t so sure.

She was very quiet for the rest of the afternoon and there was no music coming from her. Either that or the wind was just in the wrong direction.

The next morning when he met her in the parking lot, she had a strange request. “Hank,” she said, “I’m done with the first two paintings and I’m ready to work on the last. But to do that, I’m going to need your help.”

What help could she possibly need from him he wondered. But she was a nice person and it certainly couldn’t hurt to find out how he could help.

“How can I help then?”, he asked.

“I need you to stand exactly in the center of the room and stand still. It should only take 30 minutes or so.”

“Right now?”, he asked.

“No, when I tell you. Like I said, it should only take 30 minutes.”

Well this made no sense to Hank at all but he could stand still for 30 minutes he supposed so he agreed.

And that very afternoon, shortly after lunch, she called out to him. “Hank, could you go stand in the middle of the room now?”

Hank walked in and stood in the room.

“No not there,” she told him. “Right in the very center.”

Hank didn’t really know what she meant but she asked him to move around, a bit forward, a bit back and then a bit to the right until she seemed satisfied. “That’s perfect,” she said. “Now stand still.”

So Hank tried to stand still but the whole time she was painting this time, he could hear the singing or humming. It seemed to reach through him. It felt a little uncomfortable at first if he was honest. But after a while he got used to it and sort of lost track of time.

The next thing he remembered was her voice cutting in, “There. I’m done.”

Hank was surprised. His feet hurt and his shoulders were stiff. There was no way it had been 30 minutes. In fact, the sun was pretty close to the horizon. It must have been nearly two hours he had been standing there. But he didn’t remember any of it.

As she walked back in, she looked at him closely, almost as if seeing him for the first time. “Tomorrow will probably be my last day here.”

Hank felt some sadness at this but it also felt right to him. This was another version of the same story. She came, got what she needed from him but was going to move on.

“I understand ma’am. Do you want to pack your things tonight?”

“Cheryl,” she said quietly. “We can bring the rest down but let’s leave the canvases until tomorrow and then I can show them to you and then we can bring them down.

So they grabbed up the paints and brushes and things and brought them down.

That night felt different to Hank. It wasn’t so much that he did different things but he felt like he was about to go back to the way it had been before Cheryl came. That wasn’t a bad thing he thought…or maybe it was but it wasn’t as if he had a choice. And thinking about that, he once again fell asleep.

The next morning when Hank got to the lighthouse, Cheryl’s car was there but she was not. He went to the door and found it unlocked. He carefully locked it every night so was shocked by this. But seeing as her car was here, she was probably already up at the top. And so he walked the 172 steps to the top of the lighthouse. When he got there, he saw two easels with sheets over them and a sheet covering part of his wall.

“So Hank. I came here to do a painting,” she told him. “But that was the least of what I was here to do.”

Hank wondered what she was on about but let her continue.

“As you know, I wound up doing three paintings but I need to show them to you in my own way.”

Saying this, she strode up to the first one and removed the sheet. It was a painting of the lighthouse in the clouds but from the view of the lighthouse. You could feel the light straining to reach the ground and while Hank knew it did, you could almost feel it reaching by looking at the canvas.

“This,” she said, “is what you think the world looks like. You think of the light seeking to do its job, to reach the ships, to lead them to safety. And while that’s not wrong, it’s only a part of the story.”

“This,” she said, removing the second sheet, “is also a part of the story.” It was an amazing picture of a series of boats on clear blue water. But somehow the boats felt alive or maybe they felt like they had people on them. And every one of those people was staring at the lighthouse.

“This is the part of the story you told me you don’t like,” she continued. “But you aren’t seeing it correctly. You see the people in those boats don’t just cruise on by, at least not all of them. They see the lighthouse. They know it. They believe in it and they know it will keep them safe. In their own way, they love it.”

Hank snorted a bit. He didn’t really think anyone loved a lighthouse, but looking at the painting, he could almost believe her.

Then she moved to the painting at the wall. “But this one,” she said somewhat dramatically. “This one is the real story. It is what I came her to find and what the universe has sent me to show you.”

And with that she pulled back the sheet and anchored to the wall was a picture of the lighthouse as seen from the ocean. He wasn’t sure how she had done it but you could feel the dawn in the background and see the lighthouse. But as Hank looked closely, he noticed that something was amiss. The light of the house was too low. It wasn’t coming from the peak of the building but from lower down, almost as if it were coming from the very room they were standing in.

“Hank, this is what you need to see. You are the light, you provide the warmth, and your light never goes out. And even when people move on or are far away, those few lucky souls will still see your light and it will come to them in the moments when they need it and guide them to where they need to go. This is what you and all of us are here for.”

Hank didn’t know what to make of that. But he did know one thing. The painting was beautiful and it wasn’t right for him to keep it and he told her so.

“As long as you are here, it belongs here with you, to remind you of who you are. And if you ever go, take it with you to remind yourself of who you can be.”

And with that, she grabbed the two easels and two other paintings and walked down the 172 steps. Hank didn’t really know what to do so he did nothing. Eventually he heard her car drive away.

So he sat down, pulled out his crossword and got to work. But he did so with a lighter heart and a clearer sense of where he was and why he was. And while he never saw Cheryl again, from time to time, he would hear humming in the wind, look at the painting, and smile.

Thank you for taking the time to read this story. What began as a simple exercise about a lighthouse turned into something much more meaningful, at least to me. Many of our stories evolve that way — they start with a single image or idea and, as we live with them, they reveal what they were really about all along.