<![CDATA[#InternetGrandpa]]>
bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/s/internetgrandpaSubstackTue, 19 May 2026 18:09:31 GMThttps://api.substack.com/feed/podcast/765276/s/150263.rss#InternetGrandpa (aka Braden Bell)Reminders that you matter!episodic#InternetGrandpa (aka Braden Bell)bradengbell@gmail.comNo<![CDATA[3 important lessons when life and work get overwhelming (March 11, 2026)]]>I have been completely consumed and overwhelmed at work since the beginning of January.

But today, I’m finishing the last of three really consuming projects.It’s a reminder to me of three critical lessons that are really helpful to keep in mind when life gets challenging.

First,“this too shall pass.” Everything eventually ends and at that point you can catch up on sleep, relax, and so on, but the memory of what kind of job you did will always be with you.

Second, to live is to work, and if we can learn to find meaning in that we will be so much happier.

Last of all, work will always be a challenge because they don’t pay you to do things that are fun and easy. You only get paid to do things that are unpleasant or challenging or require unique, skills.

The trick is to make sure you are willing to accept the trade-offs cost and benefits.

Sending you all my love,

Your #InternetGrandpa



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This will help you feel empowered and self-actualized, and that will make you happy.

And I do so want you to be happy!All my love,

Your #InternetGrandpa



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But other times, the problems that seem huge may end up not being quite as big as we feared, and the solutions may be easier than we anticipated.

It’s just good to remember that and hold out the possibility that maybe it won’t be quite as hard or difficult or bad as we think it is going to be.

I had a mentor who always used to say, “Give things a chance to be okay.” Turns out, this is often true.

And even when it’s not, worrying and stressing didn’t help do anything productive.

All my love,

Your #InternetGrandpaYour



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Your #InternetGrandpa



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When we can see our ourselves as an actor—someone who makes choices and then understands the outcomes of those choices, good or bad, we empower ourselves to be better at coping with challenges. And, where necessary, we can see how to make different choices.While, none of us have complete control over our lives, seeing ourselves as agents and actors, who make choices and act, as opposed to objects who are acted upon, is a huge key to happiness.And I want you to be happy!All my love, Your #InternetGrandpa



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You are an incredible being of great light and beauty and, I promise you, YOU are loved!

If you don’t feel that here’s something I learned from my own experience that will help. In the meantime I am sending you so much love! Sincerely. #InternetGrandpa



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The reality is that it’s generally going to be the opposite-but that doesn’t mean life is bad or that we need to be unahppy.

We can lament and mourn and rage against that fact, or we can learn to deal with it.

When the ocean's too choppy to swim we can learn to surf!

The struggle is the way and this too shall pass. This will help you to be happy in life and I want you to be happy!

So much love, #InternetGrandpa



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And, often, in doing this, we give power to the people who are the worst people to make decisions for us.

You get to choose who you are in every interaction. So, set your boundaries — but set them from your aspirations and values, not your anger or frustrations. This is a huge key to being happy and self-actualized, and I want you to be happy! So much love, #YourInternetGrandpa



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All my love,

Your Internet Grandpa

#YourInternetGrandpa #affirmations #rulefollowers #TypeA #Positivity #encouragement



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In my experience, often the people who know the most are not the most glamorous or exciting. It’s easier to follow people who seem to have some secret insight or who look and sound the most appealing.

But we often end up following voices who really haven’t achieved, or have even failed at, what we are trying to accomplish.

So try to find guides who have actually done what you are hoping to achieve and listen and follow them closely. This is probably one of the biggest things I know that will help. You have a happy, productive life, and avoid things that will be bitterly disappointing. I want you to be happy! So much love, ##yourinternetgrandpa##fyp##internetgrandpa##lifeadvice##growth



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As is so often the case, the most helpful approach is counterintuitive, and, while it is not complicated, it is not always easy to be consistent.

But with time and practice, it becomes much easier. It’s an important part of being happy—and I want you to be happy!

All my love,

Your Internet Grandpa

#YourInternetGrandpa #InternetGrandpa #Lifelessons #Lifeadvice #Positivity #Happiness #Growth #Work



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It can feel very daunting when you look ahead and realize how many years you will need to work.

I had this conversation last night as one of my children was realizing he had a good 40 or 45 years of work ahead of him.

I feel the same even though I have (hopefully) more like 15 or so years ahead of me.

Work is a big part of life, so if you can learn to be happy working, then you will be happy in life.

And I do so want you to be happy! All my love,

Your Internet Grandpa

​#YourInternetGrandpa #InternetGrandpa #Lifelessons #Lifeadvice #Positivity #Happiness #Growth



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So much love,

Your Internet Grandpa

​​#YourInternetGrandpa #InternetGrandpa #Lifelessons #Lifeadvice #Positivity #Happiness #VirtualHugs



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Sending you so much love!

Your Internet Grandpa

​​

#YourInternetGrandpa #InternetGrandpa #Lifelessons #Lifeadvice #Positivity #Happiness #Growth #Affirmations



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Anything that makes me feel superior and smug.

Anything that tempts me to see another person as anything less than a full human being with all the dignity, nuance, and potential that implies and entitles us to.

I’ve been working on this for a long time now, but I want to up my game even more.

I have found that this is a really important key to being happy, and I do so want you to be happy!

All my love,

Your Internet Grandpa

#YourInternetGrandpa #InternetGrandpa #Lifelessons #Lifeadvice #Positivity #Happiness #Growth #Peace #CivilDiscourse #HumanDignity



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But it’s still important to try.

Here’s why, and here are a few ideas on how to start.

This is a huge part of being happy, and I want you to be happy! So much love, #Yourinternetgrandpa #Internetgrandpa #lifeadvice #growth #advice #positivity #lifelessons #happiness



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I wanted to remind you that YOU are made out of the same material as the most incredible people who have ever lived.

YOU are much more than you think!

I am sending you all my love!

Sincerely,

Your #InternetGrandpa



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Love, #YourInternetGrandpa #InternetGrandpa



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#InternetGrandpa #fyp



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This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/one-of-my-worst-experiences-taughtsubstack:post:156600612Fri, 07 Feb 2025 16:00:00 GMTBraden BellNo477<![CDATA[Living your values matters especially when it’s hard. I was recently reminded of that fact.]]>I recently had to decide how serious I was about living the values I say I believe in. Our values don't really mean much until it is hard to live them. It's in these times that we find out how serious we are about what we believe. But, even when it's hard--especially when it's hard--by living our values we find freedom and self-actualization. This is a big key to happiness--and I want you to be happy, free, and self-actualized! As always, I"m sending you so much love. You are wonderful! P.S. Can you help me get the algorithm's attention? Any likes, shares, saves, forwards, comments, etc. would be so appreciated. Much Love, Your #InternetGrandpa #YourInternetGrandpa



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Or, from people who have real and traumatic experiences, but then make vast generalizations.

My wife and I will soon have married for 32 years and I've learned a lot in that time. I've also learned a lot by working with and knowing a lot of women and a lot of men. People can't easily be generalized about.

I worry that absorbing too much of this will make it harder for you to have happy, fulfilling relationships, whether romantic or friendship, with anyone who is much different than you. That risks robbing you of a lot of joy and meaning, and I want you to be happy!

Sending you so much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



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This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/a-tip-for-getting-out-of-ruts-andsubstack:post:156449673Fri, 31 Jan 2025 12:07:00 GMTBraden BellNo160<![CDATA[Why I don’t talk about politics on this account]]>Here is why I don't talk about politics on this account--or online in general. It's just my own thing, but I do think being more intentional about the spaces where we talk about and ingest political stuff is a generally healthy thing to do for our minds, souls, and honestly, our democracy. But that's just me. We can differ peacefully and respectfully, and that's a wonderful thing about this country. Sending you all love and peace, happiness and joy. Much Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/why-i-dont-talk-about-politics-onsubstack:post:156450157Tue, 28 Jan 2025 00:56:00 GMTBraden BellNo343<![CDATA[When it seems like the world is missing an important voice, or important things aren’t being done, perhaps it’s time for you to be the voice and do that work!]]>A somewhat vulnerable story about how I learned that when you feel important things aren’t being done or said, it may be your cue to step up and be what and who you feel is missing, even when you don’t feel like you’re very good at it! Even imperfect efforts may end up changing things for the better for someone else, and also, almost surely, for yourself! And that is a great way to be happy! So much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/when-it-seems-like-the-world-is-missingsubstack:post:156498225Fri, 24 Jan 2025 01:19:00 GMTBraden BellNo367<![CDATA[If you aren’t where you want to be, just remember that life is hard!]]>Life is hard! It just takes a long time to get life together and to learn how to do it well. In fact, it takes a lifetime! If you’re not quite where you want to be or where you think you should be, first of all, I suspect you’re doing better than you think. But secondly, give yourself a little grace and focus on some small and simple steps to grow a little bit. I think you’re wonderful! Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



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This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/responding-to-human-suffering-withsubstack:post:154861830Wed, 15 Jan 2025 11:00:00 GMTBraden BellNo340<![CDATA[I was very different as a kid and worried about what people might think. Here's how I broke free of that. ]]>I was very different than almost every other boy I knew, growing up. I was used to being and outsider. They were actually pretty nice to me, but I worried about fitting in and what they might say or think about me. So, I basically let them define me and what I did and who I was. When I was about 14, I came to a turning point and I remember it very clearly: a specific phrase came to my mind and served as a key that sort of unlocked an internal, mental gate, so to speak. Since then, I've been free and able to make my own cohices and be myself without reference to what other people may )or may not) think about me. This is a a huge step to being self-actualized and happy in life, and I do so want you to be happy! Sending you all my love, Your #InternetGrandpa #fyp



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/i-was-very-different-as-a-kid-andsubstack:post:154398584Tue, 14 Jan 2025 11:00:00 GMTBraden BellNo382<![CDATA[A few questions that help me focus my efforts on growth for the coming week.]]>I’m not a big one for checklists or goals, but I do think growth and self-improvement are important keys to happiness and meaning. I like to focus my actions on trying to be better and more fully live my values. I find that asking myself a few questions on Monday mornings helps me do that better.



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/a-few-questions-that-help-me-focussubstack:post:154761969Mon, 13 Jan 2025 15:17:31 GMTBraden BellNo297<![CDATA[Happy Friday! Let's celebrate the good stuff you did this week!]]>Happy Friday! I’m proud of you for making it through another week. Here’s a simple thing I do each Friday at the end of the workweek that’s helped me be more intentional in my life and less just punching the clock. Also, what are you proud of yourself for doing this week? Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/happy-friday-lets-celebrate-the-goodsubstack:post:154634483Sat, 11 Jan 2025 20:29:41 GMTBraden BellNo307<![CDATA[Addressing the shabbiness in the closet of our soul ]]>I was joking with some teacher friends about the fact that we don't make a lot of money, so many of our clothes are worn and even a bit shabby. But, then we have a few really nice, new, even high-end things in our closets that were gifts from generous families. It's sort of a funny contrast. This random conversation reminded me that all of us have areas in our lives and souls that are shabby, and some that are shiny and new. There are three tricks to help us manage this reality in a productive way, a good way to engage with our own shabby places, those of other people around us, and end up all the better for it! This is a key to happiness and finding meaning and self-actualization in your life--and I want you to be happy! Love you, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/addressing-the-shabbiness-in-thesubstack:post:154397984Thu, 09 Jan 2025 11:00:00 GMTBraden BellNo330<![CDATA[What getting rid of our Christmas tree reminds me off every year. ]]>I never want the Christmas tree to come down, but I’m inevitably glad when I walk out and see how open the space, how clean and fresh the room looks. I feel like that’s a good metaphor for life. So often I don’t want something to end, but, once they do, it turns out there’s a new and exciting opening in my life, room for fresh and exciting things, unburdened my the past’s clutter.



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/what-getting-rid-of-our-christmassubstack:post:154369481Wed, 08 Jan 2025 11:33:00 GMTBraden BellNo192<![CDATA[A small thing that helps me on bleak days, or during longer bleak times.]]>I’ve learned something very simple that’s really helped me a lot on the bleak, gray days, or the longer bleak, times. It’s a very simple thing but it’s been a big help to me in keeping my spirits up during those times. Sending you so much love., Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/a-small-thing-that-helps-me-on-bleaksubstack:post:154369225Wed, 08 Jan 2025 01:28:04 GMTBraden BellNo334<![CDATA[You are uniquely wonderful--TODAY. Growth is good and important, but your inherent worth and infinite value, your dignity and contributions are not dependent on meeting some external benchmark!]]>You are uniquely wonderful. I know that’s true for YOU! Self-improvement, goals, and growth are all important because they help us be happier and reach our potential more fully. But your worth, your infinite value, your dignity, and your unique contributions are not dependent on meeting some external benchmark eventually. I love you! Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/you-are-uniquely-wonderful-todaysubstack:post:154262580Mon, 06 Jan 2025 12:24:33 GMTBraden BellNo322<![CDATA[Here's why a random guy on the internet (me!) can sincerely tell you he loves you 12/20/24)]]>

Here is why I can, with a straight face, tell you I love you and mean it seriously and sincerely even though I may not have met you personally. Also, why I think this is important and no small thing. so much love, Your ##InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/heres-why-a-random-guy-on-the-internetsubstack:post:154094346Fri, 03 Jan 2025 19:24:41 GMTBraden BellNo421<![CDATA[Happy New Year!]]>Happy New Year, Dear Ones! I am not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. That said I do believe in self-improvement and have found something simple that works for me and I wanted to share it. Mostly, I’m sending you love and my best wishes for a happy, healthy, joyful, and prosperous New Year! Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/happy-new-yearsubstack:post:154092109Tue, 31 Dec 2024 18:30:00 GMTBraden BellNo200<![CDATA[I don't celebrate Hanukkah, but I love what it means!]]>While I don’t actually celebrate Hanukkah, I love the meaning of the holiday. I love the way it reminds me of human freedom and dignity. I also love the idea of lights burning brightly and defiantly in the darkness. Makes me think of trying to bring and be a light in challenging times. Happy Hanukkah to those who celebrate, and also, if I don’t see you before, I wish you the happiest of New Years! Much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/i-dont-celebrate-hanukkah-but-i-lovesubstack:post:154091136Fri, 27 Dec 2024 18:18:00 GMTBraden BellNo168<![CDATA[A Christmas wish for all of you]]>Happy Christmas Eve! Whether you do not celebrate Christmas at all, whether you celebrate it in a more secular way, or whether you celebrate the birthday of a baby king, I’m sending all of you love and wishes for light and happiness. So much love, Your #InternetGrandpa #fyp



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/a-christmas-wish-for-all-of-yousubstack:post:154092806Tue, 24 Dec 2024 18:36:00 GMTBraden BellNo159<![CDATA[A wonderful little full-circle moment reminded me that things get better.]]>I’m having a wonderful little full circle moment, where a memory of being very down and discouraged in the past is connected now to my present in a way that makes me conscious of all my blessings. It also reminds me that things get better. With time and effort and with love, things will get better. Sending you all so much love, Your #InternetGrandpa #fyp



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/a-wonderful-little-full-circle-momentsubstack:post:154093246Sat, 21 Dec 2024 18:47:00 GMTBraden BellNo483<![CDATA[To those who are sad, struggling, or feel left out at this time of year (12/19/24).]]>While it can be the most wonderful time of the year for many, this season can be particularly hard for those who are struggling with difficult burdens, tragedies, and even trauma;, people who may suffer from seasonal affective or other depressive disorder, or for those who feel lonely, sick, and left out. Burdens that are normally hard can start to feel crushing at this time of year. I just want you to know I see you and I love you. I’m sending you my concern and prayers. So much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/to-those-who-are-sad-struggling-orsubstack:post:154094364Thu, 19 Dec 2024 19:28:00 GMTBraden BellNo128<![CDATA[In the last few days, I've seen a tragedy, had a close call with a tragedy in my family, and experienced a bittersweet goodbye. This has reminded me of something critical. (12/18)]]>Several things I’ve experienced or seen lately remind me of a simple fact: we are generally either happy or unhappy, based on the quality of the people around us, and our relationship with them. The presence of good people in our lives is almost always the key green of happiness, The lack of them is almost always a very heavy blow. It is worth it, therefore, to give serious thought to how we treat those around us. If someone’s sudden absence from my life would mean I was deeply sad, shouldn’t I be actively trying to engage with them now, and show my love and gratitude to that person while they are still in my life? Sending you so much love, your. #InternetGrandpa #fyp



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/in-the-last-few-days-ive-seen-a-tragedysubstack:post:154094339Wed, 18 Dec 2024 19:10:00 GMTBraden BellNo430<![CDATA[Doing good is not a matter of if/how other people respond to us. It is, and always will be, about us and our soul. This is a stretch at first, but it's very liberating! (12/17/2024)]]>Many years ago, I was in a place that wasn’t great. I had been mistreated and felt taken advantage of. Consequently, I held some grudges and had grown cynical and a little hard-edged. I wasn’t entirely without justification, but the fact remained that I wasn’t happy. I came across a quote shared by Mother Theresa that totally changed my outlook and really helped liberate me. This may be one of the most empowering, soul–stretching, happiness–causing things I’ve ever heard and done. And, as always, I want you to be happy! I’m sending you so very much love. Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/doing-good-is-not-a-matter-of-ifhowsubstack:post:154094323Tue, 17 Dec 2024 19:38:00 GMTBraden BellNo285<![CDATA[The impact of a light is magnified in dark times--be the light! (12/16/24)]]>A gray, murky morning reminds me of the impact even a small light can have in the dark. Trying to be a light for others is a happy way to live! And I want to be happy! So much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/doing-good-is-not-a-matter-of-howsubstack:post:154094332Mon, 16 Dec 2024 19:06:00 GMTBraden BellNo253<![CDATA[I have found that what seems like a sad ending of something is very often the beginning of something new and wonderful (12/13/2024).]]>A random, simple, mistaken word choice this morning reminded me of a very hopeful, encouraging truth: I have found very often that what seems like a sad ending of something ends up being the beginning of something new and wonderful. It doesn’t usually feel like it at the time, but if you can learn to hold space for that possibility, it really can help. And of course I just want to tell you how wonderful you are as we end this week! So much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/i-have-found-that-what-seems-likesubstack:post:154153291Fri, 13 Dec 2024 18:59:00 GMTBraden BellNo282<![CDATA[Hypocrisy: What it is, what it isn't, and why it's important to understand this if we want to grow (12/12/2024)]]>Hypocrisy is something we all dislike. But I think it’s a lot more complicated than we often frame it. Since none of us can ever fully live up to our values, assuming we’re trying to have high values, it’s important to understand what hypocrisy is, and especially, what it isn’t. Otherwise, we can paralyze ourselves, and we can also completely misjudge others. Neither of those will make us happy— and I do want you to be happy! Sending you so much love, as always, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/hypocrisy-what-it-is-what-it-isntsubstack:post:154152632Thu, 12 Dec 2024 18:45:00 GMTBraden BellNo308<![CDATA[Apologizing is good for our souls! (12/11/24)]]>I was recently reminded that it is really good for our souls to apologize! Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/apologizing-is-good-for-our-soulssubstack:post:154098256Wed, 11 Dec 2024 20:15:00 GMTBraden BellNo384<![CDATA[Bringing magic, joy, and hope to those around us has a deep impact on us! (12/9/24)]]>A really special Christmas memory. Is about a lot more than Christmas. It reminds me about how acts of kindness create joy, magic, and hope for other people, and how durable and deep those gifts can be. And of course, they also make us happy! I do want you to be happy! So much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/bringing-magic-joy-and-hope-to-thosesubstack:post:154097946Mon, 09 Dec 2024 20:08:00 GMTBraden BellNo361<![CDATA[My grandma wasn't an educated woman, but she was wise enough to know what brought durable happiness and meaning. ]]>My grandma was not an educated woman, but she was wise enough to know what made us really happy in life. Every year at Christmas, she forced me to do something I really disliked, but now I am so grateful to her and love her all the more because of it. Sending you love and joy, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/my-grandma-wasnt-an-educated-womansubstack:post:154152882Thu, 05 Dec 2024 18:49:00 GMTBraden BellNo410<![CDATA[Tough times *will* pass and may even end up being the beginning of a beautiful, happy phase or blessing in your life (12/4/20).]]>I had a really beautiful memorable experience the other day. It reminded me that our most difficult, grimmest times and hardest struggles will eventually pass—even if it seems it never will.

But, also, today’s struggle might end up being the foundation of something beautiful. Life often seems to travel in circles, and these full circles are often very joyful. So try to be open to the possibility of joy eventually. That’s what I want for you, of course! I’m sending you so much love,

Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/tough-times-will-pass-and-may-evensubstack:post:154098683Wed, 04 Dec 2024 20:24:00 GMTBraden BellNo419<![CDATA[Traveling over Thanksgiving reminded me that looking after others is more rewarding and fulfilling than our own comfort (12/3/24)]]>Traveling over the Thanksgiving weekend reminded me how important kindness is in day-to-day encounters. It also reminded me that being kind and looking after others is more rewarding and fulfilling than simply pursuing our own comfort exclusively. This really is a game changer for being happy—And I do so want you to be happy. Love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/traveling-over-thanksgiving-remindedsubstack:post:154152441Tue, 03 Dec 2024 18:38:00 GMTBraden BellNo386<![CDATA[My dad taught me a powerful lesson about standing by someone when they need you, and putting your arms around those who are struggling.]]>I have a memory of something that happened in high school, where my dad literally stood by a struggling, embarrassed old man and helped him find some dignity and feel some love. I was a punky 15-year-old then, but I still remember the impact of that moment. I’ll remember this lesson forever—and he wasn’t even trying to teach me anything. He was just being himself. I think of it every year around this time and I’m grateful to my dad for what he showed me. It’s been pretty transformative. Sending you all so much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/my-dad-taught-me-a-powerful-lessonsubstack:post:152507719Mon, 02 Dec 2024 11:51:00 GMTBraden BellNo419<![CDATA[An important secret for when you are struggling with challenges and don't feel you have many blessings. ]]>I know this is a little long, but it’s a message of hope for when you seem to have more struggles than blessings. When have times when the challenges seem to outweigh the triumphs, I have really good news for you! Sending you so very much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bradenbell.substack.com]]>https://bradenbell.substack.com/p/something-i-learned-from-writingsubstack:post:152324313Fri, 29 Nov 2024 14:58:00 GMTBraden BellNo372<![CDATA[Happy Thanksgiving!]]>Happy Thanksgiving! Internet Grandma and I are having our very first ever empty-nest Thanksgiving. We were a bit wistful about that, but then we decided to go out and make it an adventure and we’re having a great time! I am sending you so much love I hope it’s a wonderful day for you! So much love, Your #InternetGrandpa



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This is easy to fall into. I think it’s just human nature. But it can really lead us astray easily and keep us from important growth and meaningful relationships. It’s hard to resist, but the best way I know how is to try to be able to laugh at myself.



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Hang in there!

This means you are actually making progress and eventually, you will bridge that gap!



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Power comes from making our choices based on our own ideals and values, and then acting accordingly. It’s not easy but it’s worth the struggle.



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It’s one of those things that may seem about doing something for someone else, but it ends up really helping me. The giver is blessed more than the recipient.



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Your #InternetGrandpa



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Usually much better.

But it takes time and persistence. So, please, don’t lose hope. Don’t give up. Sending you so much love,

Your #InternetGrandpa



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I just want to put out a gentle reminder about your infinite value and worth.

I wanted to say just how much you matter, and how unique and important you are.

I know our culture can be so stifling and cruel in so many ways

So, I wanted to just say how incredible and wonderful you are, inherently, intrinsically, eternally.

So much love,

Your #InternetGrandpa



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