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Neurodiversity Without Burnout: Protecting Both Partners

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 15 Oct 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Accommodating neurodiversity doesn’t have to mean resentment or burnout. In this episode, we explore how a neurodiverse relationship can thrive when both partners learn to balance self-accommodation and mutual respect.

Coaches Jeremy & Charity Rochford show how neurodivergent partners can self-accommodate (not outsource to neurotypical spouses) and how neurotypical partners can set boundaries that protect their own bandwidth. You’ll learn concrete tools—transition buffers, noise strategies, visual timers—and how a shared relationship system replaces score-keeping with reciprocity.

If you’ve been told to “just run” from a neurodiverse relationship, this episode offers a smarter path. Jeremy (autistic) & Charity (neurotypical) (hosts of the NeuroFam podcast) join Jodi to show how reframing autism/ADHD from problem to predictable pattern unlocks real solutions. We dig into practical rituals that improve connection without enmeshment, plus we explore why “effort is invisible” and how accommodations can increase connection instead of being sacrifices for either partner.

Jeremy explains his “software upgrade” mindset (strengthening theory of mind/executive function like training a muscle), while Charity shares how compassion + structure reduce resentment. You’ll leave with scripts, rituals, and a way to accommodate needs without erasing yourself.

00:00 – Welcome to Season Five

01:00 – Meet Jeremy & Charity

04:45 – Autism isn’t the problem: Updating the ‘80s narrative

09:40 – How kid diagnoses led to adult discoveries (and relief)

14:20 – Compassion shifts: Seeing sensory overload vs. “too much”

18:30 – “Software upgrades”: Building empathy & executive function

22:10 – Accommodations that work: Earbuds, car rules, visual timers

29:10 – Resentment vs reciprocity: Why effort is invisible

33:00 – Build a marriage system: Make expectations explicit

35:20 – Accommodate without erasing yourself (Disney example)

👥 Meet Jeremy & Charity Rochford

Jeremy and Charity Rochford—known as Team Rochford—are certified life coaches and co-founders of NeuroFam, where they specialize in coaching for neurodiverse couples, parents, and families. Married for 25 years and raising two autistic children, they blend professional expertise (Jeremy has a BA in Communication Studies; Charity a BA in Psychology) with lived experience to deliver a truly balanced perspective.

NeuroFam’s coaching is forward-focused and results-based—helping families create practical systems, reduce resentment, and build relationships that thrive. Jeremy works primarily with autistic/ADHD men, fathers, and young adults, while Charity supports neurotypical partners, mothers, and women navigating ND/NT family dynamics.

🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode

NeuroFam website
https://www.neurofam.com

NeuroFM Podcast
https://www.ourneurofam.com/neuro-fm-podcast

Book: Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone & Sheila Heen https://www.stoneandheen.com/thanks-feedback

Course: How to Communicate in Your Neurodiverse Relationship
https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/

Tony Attwood
https://www.attwoodandgarnettevents.com/

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Autistic Therapist Shares Marriage Tools That Actually Work

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 01 Oct 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Autistic + ADHD partners often collide around regulation. Here’s how to stop the clashes and build connection with real-world scripts, rituals, and repeatable practices.

If you need clear, practical tools to make a neurodiverse relationship feel calmer and more connected, this episode delivers! Jodi and licensed counselor Greg Fuqua (late-identified autistic) break down exactly how autistic self-regulators and ADHD co-regulators can stop clashing and start syncing up—so both partners feel seen, safe, and respected.

Greg shares the exact rituals he and his wife use after 30+ years together—like a 20–30 minute transition buffer before reconnecting after time apart, a simple “commute-call” habit that creates connection without pressure, and a prepare → attune → debrief framework for handling events like parties or family gatherings.

You’ll hear why effort often feels invisible, why “fair” doesn’t always mean equal, and how shifting from content fights to process check-ins changes everything. We also dig into scripts for setting capacity limits, what shutdowns and alexithymia look like, and a quick connect → ground rhythm you can try today.

If you missed Part 1, circle back for the mindset shifts that make these tools stick.

💡 This episode is especially helpful for:

Autistic–ADHD couples who keep clashing over how they calm down or connect

Partners who want closeness without losing themselves (empathy + boundaries)

Late-identified adults looking for simple scripts and daily rituals to cut conflict and feel safer together

00:00 – Welcome to Season Five
01:48 – When couples therapy backfires (“the wrongness trap”)
03:02 – Self-regulation vs. co-regulation in ASD and ADHD
06:43 – The 20–30 minute transition ritual that prevents conflict
09:10 – Why effort is invisible and scorekeeping fails
17:14 – The commute-call ritual for daily attunement
20:26 – Two rules for safety in communication
26:53 – The couple’s event game plan: Prepare → Attune → Debrief
31:24 – Reflection over rehashing: how growth really happens

About Greg Fuqua:

Greg Fuqua, MA, LMHC, is a late-identified autistic therapist specializing in neurodiverse counseling and couples therapy. With over 30 years of personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage, Greg brings rare insight to his clinical work, blending lived experience with professional expertise.

Formerly a professional artist and art professor for 23 years, Greg integrates creativity and empathy into his strength-based, person-centered approach. He is an Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (ASDCS) and Level 2 AANE-trained neurodiverse couples therapist, as well as co-host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast with Mona Kay.

Greg leads Divergent Counseling in West Des Moines, IA, where he supports individuals, couples, families, and organizations in building healthier, more authentic relationships.

Resources:

Greg’s website: https://www.gregfuqua.com/

Neurodiverse Connections Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@NeurodivergentConnections/featured

More from Jodi: Visit jodicarlton.com (free resources, assessments, and courses)
• Watch Part 2 of my conversation with Greg: Coming Soon: October 1!

Questions? Email: gethelp@jodicarlton.com

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Why Fights Keep Looping (and How to Break The Cycle)

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 17 Sep 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Why do neurodiverse couples clash so often? Licensed counselor Greg Fuqua shares the hidden patterns—and how to finally break them.

If your neurodiverse relationship feels like a boxing ring—or you keep looping the same arguments—this episode gives you a new playbook. Jodi sits down with licensed counselor Greg Fuqua (late-identified autistic) to talk about what really changes things: shifting from blame to inner work, breaking the cycle of “negative assumptions of wrongness,” and why individual therapy often helps autistic/ADHD couples more than traditional couples counseling.

Greg also shares the turning point in his own 30-year marriage: a career collapse, intrusive suicidal thoughts, and the affect-based therapy that cracked open his emotions and rebuilt his capacity for connection.

You’ll come away with practical language you can use today, a clearer map of autistic–neurotypical differences as strengths (not flaws), and a preview of Part 2, where we dive into specific co-regulation and attunement tools you can practice at home.

💡 This episode is especially helpful for:

Autistic/ADHD–NT couples who keep circling the same argument

Late-identified adults reframing a lifetime of “why am I like this?”

Partners tired of score-keeping who want practical, non-pathologizing tools

00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?

01:06 – Meet Greg Fuqua: Late-Identified Autistic Therapist

01:51 – Why Neurodivergent Therapists See Things Differently

02:30 – Inside AANE’s Level 2 Couples Training

07:21 – Relational Trauma & the “Assumption of Wrongness”

12:33 – Greg’s 30-Year Marriage: Struggles, Turn-Taking & Survival

17:46 – From Suicidal Thoughts to Healing & Authenticity

29:21 – The Secret to Making Neurodiverse Relationships Work

About Greg Fuqua:

Greg leads Divergent Counseling in West Des Moines, IA, where he supports individuals, couples, families, and organizations in building healthier, more authentic relationships.

Resources

Greg’s website: https://www.gregfuqua.com/

More from Jodi: Visit jodicarlton.com (free resources, assessments, and courses)

Questions? Email: gethelp@jodicarlton.com

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I Thought a Stranger Was My Husband”: Living with Face Blindness

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 11:00:00 GMT

What It’s Like to Be Face Blind in a Neurodiverse Relationship

Ever mistaken a stranger for your spouse? Journalist and author Sadie Dingfelder has—because she’s face blind. In this episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship, Sadie and her husband Steve share what it’s like to navigate marriage when both partners are neurodivergent in different ways.

From ADHD to prosopagnosia (face blindness), this conversation is filled with relatable moments, honest insights, and laugh-out-loud stories. Sadie discusses how discovering her own neurodivergence led to writing her debut book, “Do I Know You?”, while Steve reflects on living with ADHD since childhood and what finally helped him understand how his brain works. Together, they talk with host Jodi Carlton about cognitive empathy, relationship conflict, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverse marriage thrive.

If you're in a neurodiverse relationship—or love someone who is—this episode offers validation, wisdom, and the reminder that being “on the same team” is everything.

00:00 – Welcome to Season Five

01:00 – “I Thought I Was Neurotypical”: Meet Sadie & Steve

04:40 – Mistaking a Stranger for Your Spouse?! Discovering Face Blindness

09:15 – How COVID Changed Everything in Their Marriage

13:50 – “We’re Living in Different Realities”: Cognitive Empathy Explained

19:10 – ADHD Meds, Creativity & Finding What Actually Works

25:00 – The Secret to Making Neurodiverse Relationships Work

✨ About Sadie Dingfelder & Steve Hay:

Sadie Dingfelder is a science journalist with a sharp wit and a deep curiosity about hidden neurodiversity. In her debut book, “Do I Know You? A Faceblind Reporter’s Journey into the Science of Sight, Memory, and Imagination”, she unpacks what it’s like to live with prosopagnosia (face blindness) while taking readers on a fascinating tour of the brain’s inner workings. A former reporter for the Washington Post Express, Sadie is known for blending humor and insight—whether she’s reviewing every bathroom on the National Mall or playing a priceless Stradivarius at the Smithsonian. Her writing has appeared in The New Yorker, National Geographic, Washingtonian, and other major publications.

Steve Hay is an engineer and aspiring scientist who is currently developing an augmented reality art project that simulates prosopagnosia by using AI to subtly distort faces in real time. Before turning his focus to brain and perception research, Steve worked as a Navy nuclear engineer and later in the green energy sector, applying AI and machine learning to grid-scale energy storage. His work blends scientific insight, creative experimentation, and a knack for making the invisible visible.

📚 Check out Sadie’s book “Do I Know you? A Faceblind Reporter’s Journey into the Science of Sight, Memory and Imagination.” https://www.amazon.com/Know-You-Faceblind-Reporters-Imagination/dp/0316545147

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Viral Neurodiverse Couple on Navigating Sex, Overwhelm & Parenting

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 20 Aug 2025 11:00:00 GMT

In a Neurodiverse Relationship, what happens after you fall in love—but still have to figure out how to live, love, and parent?

In Part 2 of this Season 5 episode with Jodi, Adam and Becca James go even deeper into the realities of a neurodiverse marriage. Becca is autistic and ADHD (AuDHD). Adam is neurotypical. Together, they’ve reached millions on TikTok with raw, relatable content about neurodivergent relationships.

Together, they open up about the day-to-day realities of a neurodiverse relationship—from miscommunication and parenting stress to intimacy challenges, sensory overload, and the emotional friction that comes with constantly decoding each other’s world. With their signature mix of honesty and humor, they explore what it really means to stay connected when love languages clash and nothing feels simple.

💬 You’ll hear about:

Why physical intimacy can feel impossible—and how they rebuilt it from scratch

What happens when emotional cues are misread (and how they recover)

The invisible mental load of affection, communication, and “showing up”

The challenges of parenting as a neurodivergent mom

How some people misunderstand their viral videos—and why they keep posting anyway

Why understanding each other isn’t a goal—it’s a practice

What keeps them committed, even on the hardest days

Whether you're married to someone with autism, parenting through sensory stress, or just trying to better understand your neurodivergent partner, this episode is a heartfelt continuation of a conversation that’s making thousands feel seen.

📍 Episode Timestamps:

00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
00:57 – Meet Adam & Becca: Viral TikTok Couple
01:36 – Misunderstandings, Meltdowns & Missed Signals
03:12 – Using Humor to Survive Neurodivergent Life
10:29 – Family Expectations vs. Neurodivergent Needs
14:42 – When Physical Affection Feels Overwhelming
17:22 – Autism, Intimacy & Rebuilding a Sexual Connection
20:20 – The Gap Between Neurotypical & Neurodivergent Brains
21:46 – Rethinking How Relationships “Should” Work
23:44 – Why Intentional Understanding Keeps Us Together
26:05 – Miscommunication in Marriage: It's Not What You Think
33:29 – Parenting With Limited Bandwidth
37:14 – The Poisoner’s Almanac: Becca’s Special Interest
38:55 – Final Thoughts + Resources for Neurodiverse Couples

✨ About Adam & Becca:

Adam and Becca James are a neurodiverse couple living in Georgia who’ve built a community of over 205K followers on TikTok (@studiesshow) by sharing the everyday realities of their relationship—equal parts insightful, awkward, and hilarious.

Adam is a home health physical therapist, musician, and lifelong Braves fan. Becca, a nurse with experience in both hospital and home healthcare, brings her dry wit and deeply self-aware reflections to their videos, offering a perspective that resonates with both neurodivergent and neurotypical viewers alike.

Adam and Becca also co-host The Poisoner’s Almanac, a podcast exploring poisons (one of Becca's special interests) through history, culture, and modern science.

Mentioned in this episode:

🎧 Adam & Becca’s podcast: The Poisoner’s Almanac – a true crime-meets-science deep dive into historical and modern poisons, created around Becca’s special interest.

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Social Media’s Viral Neurodiverse Couple on Love & Marriage

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 06 Aug 2025 11:00:00 GMT

❓ What happens when two people fall in love and one is neurodivergent? They go viral on social media! 📈

In this episode, Jodi chats with Adam and Becca, a neurodiverse couple whose viral TikToks have racked up millions of views. Their videos offer an unfiltered look into the realities of a neurodiverse relationship—and their honest, often hilarious conversations have helped hundreds of thousands of viewers feel less alone.

Together, they share what it’s really like navigating marriage with autism and ADHD in the mix: from sensory overload and autistic burnout to faith deconstruction, parenting struggles, emotional disconnects, and wildly mismatched love languages.

Becca opens up about her late autism diagnosis, how masking nearly broke her, and why even small moments of affection can feel overwhelming. Adam reflects on how being a neurotypical husband has challenged him to rethink communication, connection, and what support truly looks like.

💬 You’ll hear about:

-How they met and fell in love despite major differences
-Becca’s late autism diagnosis and what finally made everything click
-How masking, meltdowns, and burnout shaped their early years of marriage
-The tension between physical touch and sensory boundaries
-Why Adam’s humor is more than just comic relief—it’s a lifeline
-The role faith and religious deconstruction played in reshaping their connection -What it means to truly be seen—and chosen—by someone wired differently

If you've ever wondered what "opposites attract" looks like in a neurodiverse relationship, this episode is a must-listen!

📍 Episode Timestamps:

0:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
01:00 – Meet Adam & Becca: A Quirky First Encounter
03:00 – Burnout, Meltdowns & the Cost of Masking
06:00 – Autism, Sensory Overload & the Need for Space
10:40 – Parenthood, Shutdowns & Surviving the Early Years
18:55 – Late Diagnosis, Big Realizations
20:45 – From Toxic Church Culture to Mental Clarity
25:00 – How Opposites Communicate (and Miscommunicate)
28:50 – Choosing Each Other, Every Day
34:25 – Why Laughter Helps More Than You Think

✨ About Adam & Becca: Adam and Becca James are a neurodiverse couple living in Georgia who’ve built a community of over 205K followers on TikTok (@studiesshow) by sharing the everyday realities of their relationship—equal parts insightful, awkward, and hilarious.

Their content went viral after one clip, now with over 32 million views, showing the wildly different ways they wind down at night. Since then, they’ve continued to open up about the challenges and gifts of navigating life, love, and parenthood with ADHD and autism in the mix. Adam is a home health physical therapist, musician, and lifelong Braves fan. Becca, a nurse with experience in both hospital and home healthcare, brings her dry wit and deeply self-aware reflections to their videos, offering a perspective that resonates with both neurodivergent and neurotypical viewers alike.

Together, they use their TikTok platform to normalize neurodivergence, dismantle stigma, and remind their audience that even opposites can thrive—with the right mix of humor, honesty, and headphones. Adam and Becca also co-host The Poisoner’s Almanac, a podcast exploring poisons (one of Becca's special interests) through history, culture, and modern science.

💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App Want help understanding each other’s neurotypes in everyday situations? The NeuroTranslator app offers on-demand explanations to help reduce conflict and increase connection. Built by an autistic husband to bridge communication gaps between neurotypes. Save 30% with promo code JODI.

👩‍💼 About Your Host:

Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.

👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com

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How to Get Unstuck in Neurodiverse Partnerships | Expert Panel (Pt 2)

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 23 Jul 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Can a neurodiverse relationship still see change when only one partner works on it? What if you’ve tried everything, but nothing seems to stick?

In Part 2 of this roundtable discussion, Jodi and the panel of leading neurodiversity professionals return to explore how coaching (versus therapy), nervous system regulation, and identifying options can help couples shift out of stuck patterns—even when one partner isn’t engaged in the work. If you’re trying to decide whether to stay, leave, or redefine what being together looks like, this conversation offers real-life strategies, hope, and clarity.

💬 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The difference between coaching and traditional therapy—and when each is most effective Why regulating your nervous system is key to better communication Practical tools for rewiring the brain and shifting harmful patterns How to navigate decision-making, boundaries, and even separation with clarity and self-trust What to look for in a therapist or coach to determine who actually understands neurodiversity - versus someone who “knows someone that was neurodivergent” How healing is possible even if only one partner is doing the work

Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, supporting a loved one, or working as a professional in this space, this episode offers real tools, compassionate insight, and hopeful next steps.

👉 Missed Part 1? Watch here: https://youtu.be/rXeUypJeQX4?si=1GiWaeRK5PhrWS59

00:00 Welcome Back: Season 5 & this Expert Panel Episode
00:57 Real-Life Experience from Neurodiverse Professionals
03:15 Why Traditional Couples Therapy Often Falls Short
04:49 Coaching vs. Counseling: What Works for Neurodiverse Couples
06:05 Nervous System Regulation & Expanding Capacity
08:52 When Only One Partner Is Willing to Do the Work
13:02 Discernment: Stay, Go, or Redefine the Relationship
21:42 How to Know If a Therapist Really Gets Neurodiversity
27:45 Red Flags, Abuse, and Boundaries in Neurodiverse Marriages
28:25 Closing Thoughts & Resources

👋🏼 Meet the Experts: This episode features insights from:

Barbara Grant, MMFT, CAS, NDCC – Neurodiverse couples coach, co-host of Neurodiverse Couples Coaches Corner, and co-author of Uniquely Us. https://bg-hc.com

Jana Smith – Resilience and nervous system coach; expert in chronic illness and Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com

Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference, and co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com

Heather Parks – Somatic coach specializing in neurodiverse families; co-host of Loving Difference and Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://heatherparks.co.uk

Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com

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20 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage | Part 2 with Laura Schreiner

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 09 Jul 2025 11:00:00 GMT

How do you stay in a neurodiverse marriage for the long haul?

In Part 2 of this honest and hope-filled conversation, counselor Laura Schreiner returns to share what she and her autistic husband have learned in over 20 years together—especially after discovering neurodivergence mid-marriage. With warmth and wisdom, Laura and host Jodi Carlton explore what real growth looks like in neurodiverse marriages—from learning to set emotional boundaries to releasing the pressure to “fix” each other.

💬 You’ll hear Laura unpack:

Why setting boundaries with your kids is just as important as with your partner
How her husband’s communication “black belt” surprised her
What changed when she detached from emotional outcomes
Why understanding your own expectations is essential—especially if you're the one doing all the work Her husband’s take: “We’re not opposites. We’re complementary puzzle pieces.”

This conversation is packed with real insight for #neurotypical and #neurodivergent partners alike—plus a lot of humor and humanity!

📍 Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro & Why You Shouldn’t Miss Part 1
01:24 Setting Boundaries as a Neurodivergent Parent
03:50 “Fixing Autism” vs. Doing the Personal Work
06:02 Her Communication “Black Belt” Analogy
07:07 How Feelings are Impacted by What We Choose to Believe
09:19 Somatic Tools for Regulating Relationship Tension
11:39 Doing the Inner Work—Even If the Relationship Doesn’t Last
14:37 How One Breakthrough Shifted Their Marriage
17:06 Codependency, Expectations & the Myth of the “Perfect Partner”
19:16 What If Leaving Isn’t So Simple?
24:24 How We Define Progress in Neurodiverse Relationships
29:01 Letting Go of Expectations & Receiving What’s Given
34:00 We Both Still Like Chicken
35:00 “We’re Complementary Puzzle Pieces” (Her Husband’s Final Insight)

✨ About Laura Schreiner:

Laura Schreiner is a licensed professional counselor in Illinois who specializes in working with neurodivergent adults and couples. Her expertise is deeply personal—Laura discovered in 2017 that her husband is autistic, a revelation that reshaped both her personal and professional life.

Certified in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy through the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE), Laura combines over 15 years of clinical experience with firsthand insight into the unique dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. She is currently developing new ways to educate and support the neurodiverse community on how brain wiring differences shape communication, connection, and partnership.

To follow Laura’s work or get in touch, visit www.laurasnc.com

👉 Real stories. Tangible strategies. Watch more honest conversations from Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29

💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App

Want help understanding each other’s neurotypes in everyday situations? The NeuroTranslator app offers on-demand explanations to help reduce conflict and increase connection. Built by an autistic husband to bridge communication gaps between neurotypes. Save 30% with promo code JODI.

#neurodiversemarriage #communicationchallenges #codependencyrecovery #neurodivergentlove #emotionalboundaries #relationshipadvice

👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.

👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com

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Neurodiverse Marriage: How Counselor Laura Schreiner Navigates Her Own

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 25 Jun 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Counselor Laura Schreiner opens up about her own 20-year neurodiverse marriage—sharing expert insights, hard truths, and what makes love last.

In this episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, sits down with returning guest Laura Schreiner, a seasoned counselor who specializes in working with #neurodivergent adults and couples. Laura shares insights from her own 20-year #neurodiversemarriage, offering a rare and compassionate look at how communication struggles, #masking, #emotionalburnout, and unmet expectations play out in real life—and what it looks like when couples decide to stay in it and do the work.

💬 You’ll hear Laura break down:

Why communication isn’t linear in neurodiverse partnerships

How she and her #autistichusband navigate misunderstandings with humor and empathy

The surprising shift that helped her let go of “fixing” and focus on her own growth

What really makes or breaks these relationships in the long run

Whether you’re the #autisticpartner, the #neurotypical one, or somewhere in between—this episode is packed with wisdom, warmth, and hard-earned truth.

00:00 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work Long-Term?

01:23 Meet Laura Schreiner: Counselor & Neurodiverse Partner

02:45 Why Laura Speaks for Both Partners in This Episode (Respecting Privacy in Neurodiverse Relationships)

05:52 What Makes Neurodiverse Relationships So Challenging? And What Are Some Solutions

06:12 Communication Is Not Linear

08:02 Her Husband’s Powerful Quote on Communication Challenges

09:35 Jodi and Laura Talk About the Shame, Embarrassment, and Self-Criticism Neurodivergent Partners Often Experience

13:13 Pulling the Thread: A Real-Life Example of a Communication Breakthrough

20:58 Responding to “Why Should I Be the One Doing All the Work?”

24:14 Believing in Yourself & Doing the Inner Work: What Makes a Neurodiverse Relationship Work

26:58 Her Husband’s Self-Awareness Breakthrough

28:53 Letting Go of Codependency in Neurodiverse Relationships

33:04 Coming Up Next: More Wisdom from Laura in Part 2

✨ About Laura Schreiner:

To follow Laura’s work or get in touch, visit laurasnc.com.

👉 Real stories. Tangible strategies. Watch more honest conversations from Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29

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#communicationchallenges #codependencyrecovery #emotionalboundaries #marriageadvice #selfawareness

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👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd

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How Autism Shaped A Bestselling Author’s Career & Marriage

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 11 Jun 2025 11:00:00 GMT

From masking to neurodiverse marriage, bestselling author J.D. Barker gets real about life as an autistic adult.

In this podcast episode, neurodiverse relationship coach Jodi Carlton talks with New York Times bestselling author JDBarker, who shares what was like for him to navigate life, love, and fatherhood - and autism. From high-stakes careers in finance and IT to ghostwriting blockbusters and becoming a full-time novelist, J.D. reflects on how autism has shaped his relationships, routines, and creative process.

He also gets candid about building a neurodiverse marriage with his neurotypical wife, parenting a neurodivergent daughter, and the personal growth that came with learning to embrace—not mask—his autistic traits.

💬 What you’ll hear in this episode:

The surprising way J.D. was diagnosed with autism at 22 Why masking often feels like “playing a part” in social settings How he and his wife created emotional safety and mutual respect in their marriage What it looks like to be a team—not adversaries—as neurodiverse partners The “loop-closing” need in autistic brains—and how it affects everyday routines Why creativity is often misunderstood in autism (and how it became his superpower) What he tells parents of autistic children about what’s possible for their future.

Whether you’re autistic, in a neurodiverse relationship, or parenting a neurodivergent child, this conversation is full of practical insights, encouragement, and inspiration for anyone navigating the complexities of autism in adulthood and family life.

00:00 Welcome to Season 5

00:57 Meet J.D. Barker

01:37 J.D.’s Diagnosis Story

03:12 Life as an Autistic Adult

06:02 Autism & Parenting a Neurodivergent Child

08:23 Understanding ND Traits in Relationships

10:25 From Corporate Burnout to Bestselling Author: How J.D.’s Wife Helped Him Reclaim His Life

19:52 Creativity, Career & the Autistic Brain

22:24 J.D.’s Superpower: Mimicking Author Voices

23:04 Becoming a Bestselling Author

24:25 Breaking the Creativity Myth in Autism

26:14 The Writing Process & Pattern Recognition

28:29 Researching Characters & Emotional Nuance

30:32 Emotional Differences in a Neurodiverse Marriage

32:24 Communication, Trust & Mutual Respect

36:06 Advice for Autistic Creatives

37:21 Final Reflections

🎥 Keep watching to explore more episodes in Season 5 and discover how other neurodiverse couples are navigating life, love, and everything in between. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29

📚 About J.D. Barker:

J.D. Barker is a New York Times and international bestselling author known for gripping, genre-blending thrillers that weave suspense, horror, mystery, and science fiction into unforgettable stories. His acclaimed novels include Dracul (co-authored with Dacre Stoker), the 4MK series, and multiple collaborations with James Patterson, such as The Coast-to-Coast Murders and The Noise.

Explore his books and learn more: www.jdbarker.com

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Neurodiverse Marriage Challenges: Faith, Conflict & Growth Mindset | Part 2 with Stephanie & Dan

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 28 May 2025 11:00:00 GMT

What keeps neurodiverse marriages from falling apart—and what helps them grow stronger over time? In Part 2 of this honest and hope-filled conversation, Stephanie & Dan Holmes return to share deeper insights on what makes neurodiverse relationships work—and what often makes them break down.

From emotional triggers to unspoken resentments, rigid belief systems to religious conditioning, they dive into the patterns that can quietly erode a relationship—and how curiosity, boundaries, and a growth mindset can bring real repair.

💬 You’ll hear real-life insights about:

Navigating conflict when there’s no “right” answer

Reframing triggers and rewriting your relationship narrative

The impact of faith and religious systems on neurodiverse couples

Identifying deal-breakers: when unintentional harm becomes a pattern

Why being teachable is non-negotiable

Embracing differences instead of fighting them

How long-term growth happens in stages—and why you’re never “done”

This is a must-watch/must-listen for anyone wondering how to stay connected when perspectives clash, progress feels slow, or your relationship feels stuck in a loop.

00:00 – Welcome to Season Five

00:57 – Introducing Dan and Stephanie Holmes

01:24 – Navigating Triggers & Setting Boundaries That Work

03:50 – How Conflict Shows Up in Neurodiverse Relationships

08:32 – Faith & Friction: When Religion Complicates Your Marriage

18:10 – Reconstructing Faith & Rethinking Marriage Roles

20:26 – Deal Breakers That Derail Neurodiverse Relationships

24:00 – Why Being Teachable Matters More Than Being Right

27:41 – About the Book: Research, Real Stories & Practical Help

29:07 – What the Research Reveals About ND Couples

29:57 – Unintentional Abuse: Where the Line Gets Crossed

33:48 – Embracing Differences Instead of Fighting Them

35:05 – Why Growth Mindset Is Non-Negotiable in ND Marriage

36:56 – Final Thoughts: Learning, Changing & Staying Curious

37:37 – Wrap-Up + Where to Learn More

✨ About Stephanie & Dan Holmes:

Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Ed.D, MA, BCCC is a Certified Autism Specialist, neurodiverse marriage therapist, ordained minister, and former licensed professional counselor. When her daughter was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, Stephanie’s professional focus shifted to serving neurodiverse families and couples. She is the founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family and co-founder (with Dan) of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage. She co-hosts the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast and coaches couples worldwide.

Rev. Dan Holmes, MCS is a seasoned systems architect, ordained minister, and Master Life Coach who specializes in coaching neurodivergent men. He blends technical expertise with coaching and ministry. Dan received his autism diagnosis later in life in 2019, which deeply informs his perspective and work.

📚 Explore Stephanie’s and Dan’s books:

“Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism and Faith”

“Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey”

https://www.holmesasr.com/embracing-the-autism-spectrum

🎧 Listen to the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/neurodiverse-christian-couples--4992356

📩 Connect with Stephanie: dr.stephanie@holmesASR.com

📩 Connect with Dan: dan@holmesASR.com

👉 Want to hear more real stories and strategies? Watch the rest of Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29

👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd

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Can an Autistic + Neurotypical Marriage Thrive? Stephanie & Dan Share How (Part 1)

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 14 May 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Can a neurodiverse marriage actually work when communication constantly breaks down? If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are speaking two different languages—especially in an autism or ADHD relationship—this episode is for you. Stephanie & Dan Holmes share how they redefined their roles at home, and used coaching to rebuild connection, reduce resentment, and finally feel like a team again.

💬 You’ll hear real-life insights about: Why they left using a therapy model and started coaching instead The power of building individual skills before focusing on teamwork as a couple How Dan taking over cooking reduced Stephanie’s mental load Bridging different emotional processing styles Learning to “sit with each other’s emotions” instead of fixing them Why sometimes you need to “put it in the unsolved mystery file” This episode is part of Season 5 of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast, exploring the question: “Can neurodiverse relationships work?” The answer? Yes—with the right tools, support, and a willingness to learn what actually works for YOU as a couple.

Stephanie and Dan open up about what it really takes to navigate marriage as a neurodiverse couple—and how their faith, coaching, and intentional communication helped them overcome communication breakdowns and challenges related to autism and ADHD.

00:00 – Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?

01:44 – Meet Stephanie & Dan Holmes

03:39 – Why Coaching Helped When Therapy Didn’t

08:03 – What We Mean by Neurodiverse: ADHD, Autism & More

11:05 – Rethinking Gender Roles: A System That Worked for Them

13:20 – The Mental Load & How Cooking Changed Everything

17:57 – “I Don’t Need You to Fix It—I Need You to Be Irrational With Me”

20:00 – Emotions as Data: Why Logic Isn’t Always the Answer

22:08 – The “Delta” Fight: How Literal vs. Emotional Thinking Clashes

25:14 – The Hospital Story: Why Being Present Mattered Most

32:27 – Revisiting Old Conflicts Without Re-Traumatizing

37:52 – What They’ve Learned & What’s Coming in Part 2

✨ About Stephanie & Dan Holmes:

Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Ed.D, MA, BCCC is a Certified Autism Specialist, neurodiverse marriage therapist, ordained minister, and former licensed professional counselor. When their daughter was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, Stephanie’s professional focus shifted to serving neurodiverse families and couples. Stephanie is the founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family and co-founder (with Dan) of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage. She co-hosts the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast and coaches couples around the world navigating the complexities of faith and neurodiversity in marriage.

Rev. Dan Holmes, MCS is a seasoned systems architect, ordained minister, and Master Life Coach who specializes in working with neurodivergent men. Dan blends technical expertise with coaching and ministry experience. He received his autism diagnosis later in life in 2019, which deeply informs his work and perspective.

📚 Explore Stephanie’s and Dan’s books:

“Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism and Faith” https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/uniquely-us-stephanie-c-holmes/1146104450?ean=9781636985435

“Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey” https://www.holmesasr.com/embracing-the-autism-spectrum

🎧 Listen to the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/neurodiverse-christian-couples--4992356

📩 Connect with Stephanie: dr.stephanie@holmesASR.com

📩 Connect with Dan: dan@holmesASR.com

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#neurodiverserelationships #challengesofautism #ADHD #communicationbreakdowns #genderroles #neurodiversemarriage #relationshipcoaching

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👩‍💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and personal experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner, raising neurodivergent children, and discovering that nearly her entire extended family is neurodiverse, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work - and she understands the devastating pitfalls that threaten neurodiverse couples. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.

🎧 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses at: 👉 https://jodicarlton.com

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Neurodiverse Marriage, Burnout & Healing with Lauren & Luke | ADHD, RSD & Attachment (Part 2)

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 30 Apr 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this powerful Part 2 episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast (Season 5), neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton continues her candid conversation with married couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb.

Together, they open up about: - Navigating ADHD and demand avoidance in marriage - Overcoming anxious and avoidant attachment styles - What happens when one partner is an overfunctioner - Burnout, masking, and learning to communicate better - The difference between acceptance and accommodation - Red flags vs. recoverable challenges in neurodiverse relationships.

👉 Here's Part 1 in case you missed it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVdE9-xbzKI

🔹 Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Season Five

00:57 – Welcome to Part 2 with Luke & Lauren

01:11 – Challenges and Realizations in Marriage

01:42 – Understanding ADHD and Attachment Styles

03:54 – The Role of Communication

06:55 – Personality Differences and the Enneagram

11:41 – Shifting Roles and Responsibilities

14:47 – Facing Trauma Together

18:36 – Balancing Support and Independence

22:50 – Navigating Demand Avoidance in Relationships

24:07 – Understanding Overfunctioning and Burnout

26:27 – Addressing Imbalance in Effort and Insight

28:09 – Recognizing Abusive Patterns and Seeking Help

32:02 – The Importance of Acceptance and Safety

37:39 – Final Thoughts and Relationship Advice

44:42 – Conclusion and Neurodiversity Resources

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Healing Together: Trauma, Growth, and Neurodiversity with Lauren and Luke Smallcomb

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 16 Apr 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this powerful episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast Season 5, host Jodi Carlton sits down with trauma healing experts and married neurodiverse couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb, who live in Thailand and run a worldwide trauma-healing practice called Flourish Therapy.

Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverser elationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into neuroplasticity, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), attachment wounds, and how their personal growth journey empowered them to help other couples navigate similar challenges.

👉 This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation, so be sure to subscribe and stay tuned for Part 2!

🔹 Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome to Season 5: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?

00:57 – Meet Luke & Lauren Smallcomb: Trauma coaches living in Thailand 02:58 – Lauren’s journey from nursing to trauma & brain healing through neuroplasticity

04:08 – What is neuroplasticity & how does trauma impact the brain?

05:50 – Luke’s path to counseling & the impact of neuroscience on his practice

09:54 – Starting their own practice, Flourish Therapy

13:29 – How lived experience changes how you show up professionally 14:04 – Having a better understanding of neurodiversity. Moving away from a disease model

15:37 – Lauren and Luke open up about their own marriage

16:42 – Understanding capacity in a neurodiverse relationship

17:40 – Luke shares early misunderstandings from masking and social fatigue 18:18 – How rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) affected their communication

22:05 – Attachment styles & the over-/under-functioning dynamic

27:12 – Stay tuned for Part 2 in the next episode!

More About Luke & Lauren

Luke is a Mental Health Practitioner, and Lauren is a Mind-Body Practitioner. The heart of their work is guiding folks who have experienced trauma out of dysregulation and chronic symptoms into joy, connection, and whole-body abundance. Their work is neuro-affirming and abuse-informed. Together, they cohost the Filled to Flourish podcast, where they explore the complex journey of healing and wholeness, especially for those whose lives haven’t been what they expected. Luke and Lauren live with their kids and dogs in Chiang Mai, Thailand.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP!

Use Code "JODI" to Save 30% https://neurotranslator.ai

A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

How to Make a Neurodiverse Relationship Work | Expert Panel Insights & Strategies

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 02 Apr 2025 11:00:00 GMT

Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? 💙 In this episode, a panel of neurodiverse relationship experts—therapists, coaches, and authors—share real insights and proven strategies to help neurodiverse couples thrive.

What You’ll Learn:

👉 Success stories from neurodiverse couples

👉 How nervous system regulation impacts relationships

👉 The role of language, expectations & teamwork

👉 Key strategies for overcoming challenges

Meet the Experts in This Episode:

🔹 Laura Schreiner – Licensed counselor (IL) specializing in neurodivergent individuals & couples. https://www.laurasnc.com/

🔹 Jana Smith – Resilience & nervous system coach, expert in chronic illness & Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com/

🔹 Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference & co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com/

🔹 Heather Parks – Somatic coach specializing in neurodiverse families, co-host of Loving Difference & Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://heatherparks.co.uk/

🔹 Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. – Host of Neurodiverse Love Podcast, creator of Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, and organizer of the Neurodiverse Love Conference. https://www.neurodiverselove.com/

🔹 Heidi Hackney – ICF-certified coach, mentor, & co-founder of Autistic Voiceover Artists (AVA), supporting autistic adults in the voiceover industry. https://thecan-docoach.com/

🔹 Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes – Autism researcher, ordained minister, author of Uniquely Us, and host of Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. https://www.holmesasr.com/

🔹 Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com/

🔹 Barbara Grant, MMFT, CAS, NDCC – Neurodiverse couples coach, co-host of Neurodiverse Couples Coaches Corner, and co-author of Uniquely Us. https://bg-hc.com/

🔹 Debbie King – Counselor specializing in neurodiverse relationships, trauma, & toxic family dynamics, offering global support via Zoom. https://www.facebook.com/WellingboroughCounsellor/

🔹 David Glick – Founder of Triad Psych in Marietta, GA, a clinic specializing in neurodiversity, learning disabilities, and ADHD. Former special education teacher with a Master's in Special Ed and Social Work, he has worked in the mental health field for over 20 years. https://triadpsych.org/

🔔 Subscribe & Follow for expert insights, personal stories, and actionable relationship advice.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!

📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Can AI Save Neurodiverse Relationships? The NeuroTranslator Tool

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 19 Mar 2025 14:00:00 GMT

In part two of this inspiring episode, we continue our conversation with Michael & Elise Daniel and special guest Mona Kay, host of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast 🎙️, about an incredible AI-powered tool transforming neurodiverse relationships: NeuroTranslator 🧠💬

Michael, the creator of the NeuroTranslator Tool (formerly The Autistic Translator), shares how he developed this tool to help neurodiverse couples bridge communication gaps. We dive deep into how the NeuroTranslator Tool can translate misunderstandings, reduce conflict, and foster empathy in relationships where one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or #neurotypical—turning frustration into connection.

📌 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

👉 The inspiration behind the NeuroTranslator Tool

👉 How the tool helps neurodiverse couples overcome misunderstandings

👉 Real-life success stories of how it’s used in Michael and Elise’s marriage

👉 Insights from Mona Kay on how tools like this can support neurodiverse love

Whether you’re in a neurodiverse relationship or simply interested in how technology can enhance emotional connection, this episode is packed with actionable takeaways and inspiration.

🌟 Try NeuroTranslator today and save 30% with promo code "JODI": https://neurotranslator.ai

Did you miss Episode 1 of the Podcast? Watch it here: https://youtu.be/F9FgwHSSgcA?feature=shared

Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes! 🔔

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

He Built an AI App to Save His Neurodiverse Marriage (And It Went Viral)

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 05 Mar 2025 16:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Season 5!

Michael Daniel didn't discover he was autistic until his mid-30s. What followed—unmasking, burnout, and a cascade of miscommunications with his neurotypical wife Elise—almost cost them their marriage. So he built something: the NeuroTranslator, an AI app that bridges the communication gap between autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, and neurotypical partners.

In this episode, Jodi and Mona Kay sit down with Michael and Elise to talk about late autism diagnosis, the painful unmasking process, and what it really looks like to fight for a neurodiverse relationship.

This is Part 1 of our conversation. Tune into Part 2 to hear how the tool works and how it's already changing relationships worldwide.

🔗 Links & Resources Mentioned in This Episode

▸ NeuroTranslator
▸ Divergent Mind by Jenara Nerenberg
▸ Mona Kay / Neurodiverse Love Podcast

👉 Explore FREE resources, quizzes, articles, and courses on my website

👩🏼‍💻 Work with me

📩 Contact my team: gethelp@jodicarlton.com

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Why CoDependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 2

Jodi Carlton — Mon, 24 Feb 2025 12:00:00 GMT

This is Part 2 of my two-part series on #codependency in #neurodiverserelationships. In this video, I dive into why codependency tends to develop in these relationships and how you can start breaking the cycle.

If you haven't watched Part 1, where I discuss the 6 signs of codependency, be sure to check it out first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlcRXJG3Uck

💡 Topics Covered in This Video:

00:30 Executive dysfunction and imbalance in shared responsibilities

01:57 Hyperfocus on harmony and avoiding conflict

02:25 Childhood conditioning and the role of peacemaking behaviors

04:05 Societal pressure to "fix" or normalize a partner’s behaviors

05:09 The two-way dynamic of taking on too much vs. avoiding responsibility

05:45 How to set healthy boundaries and encourage shared responsibility

07:52 Prioritizing self-care, open communication, and relationship balance

🛠️ Want to improve communication and reduce codependent behaviors? Check out my communication course at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/

🔔 Comment below with your thoughts and experiences—I’d love to hear from you! And if this video helps, like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you don’t miss future content.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

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6 Signs of Codependency in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 1 of 2

Jodi Carlton — Mon, 17 Feb 2025 12:00:00 GMT

Codependency is a common yet often misunderstood pattern in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explores six key signs of codependency in neurodiverse couples, how these dynamics develop, and why recognizing them is the first step toward building a healthier, more balanced relationship.

💡 Key Topics Covered:

01:30 Overcompensating for Executive Dysfunction

02:18 Emotional Over-Responsibility

02:55 Avoiding Personal Needs

03:36 Caretaking Instead of Partnership

04:00 The Cycle of Resentment and Guilt

04:54 Overexplaining in Relationships

06:40 Check Out Part 2: Why Codependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc

Whether one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent, understanding these dynamics can help partners establish better boundaries, healthier communication, and mutual respect.

🔔 Watch Part 2 to dive deeper into why codependency develops in neurodiverse relationships and how to break the cycle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you don’t miss future insights! ____________________________

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.

📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Navigating Valentine’s Day in a Neurodiverse Relationship – Expectations & Communication Tips

Jodi Carlton — Mon, 10 Feb 2025 15:28:09 GMT

Valentine’s Day can bring excitement, pressure, or even confusion—especially in a neurodiverse relationship!

Whether you’re neurotypical, autistic, or have ADHD, understanding and communicating expectations for this day can make all the difference.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through:

✅ How neurodivergent and neurotypical partners may approach Valentine’s Day differently

✅ Common misunderstandings and emotional triggers

✅ Practical strategies for clear, pressure-free communication

✅ How to create a celebration (or skip it!) in a way that works for both of you

🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe for more insights into neurodiverse relationships!

#NeurodiverseRelationships #ValentinesDay #CommunicationTips #Autism #ADHD #Relationships #JodiCarlton

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Neurodiversity-Friendly New Year’s Resolutions: Start 2025 with Success!

Jodi Carlton — Sun, 05 Jan 2025 15:11:18 GMT

Are you tired of traditional New Year’s resolutions that feel overwhelming or unrealistic? In this video, I’ll guide you through creating neurodiversity-friendly resolutions tailored to your unique strengths, challenges, and goals. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or supporting someone who is, these strategies will help you design resolutions that are achievable, empowering, and sustainable.

We’ll cover:

✔️ Breaking big goals into manageable steps

✔️ Using visual aids and reminders to stay on track

✔️ Prioritizing self-compassion over perfection

✔️ Embracing your strengths and working with your brain, not against it 💬 What are your goals for 2025? Share them in the comments below!

📺 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and hit the 🔔 for more tips on thriving in neurodiverse relationships and daily life. Let’s make 2025 your most authentic and fulfilling year yet! 🌟

#Neurodiversity #NewYearsResolutions #Neurodivergent #ADHD #Autism #GoalSetting #selfgrowth

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩

CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships

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Tackling the Holidays - with Ashley and Randall

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 04 Dec 2024 12:00:00 GMT

The holidays can be challenging, especially in neurodiverse relationships. ☃️🎄🎅 In this sneak peek from my upcoming podcast season, Your Neurodiverse Relationship, I sit down with Ashley and Randall, a #neurodiversecouple, to talk about how they navigate #holidaystress

✨ From managing routines and avoiding surprises to creating backup plans and recovery days, Ashley and Randall share life-changing tips that have transformed their holidays and strengthened their relationship. Whether it’s using a code word like “mistletoe” to signal overwhelm or planning ahead for the unexpected, their insights are sure to inspire you.

🌟 Key Takeaways:

0:00 – Introduction: Sneak Peek of Podcast Season 5

1:01 – Meet Ashley and Randall: Tackling Holiday Challenges

1:22 – Why Surprises Are Stressful for Autistic Partners

2:33 – Gifts and Uncertainty: Finding Solutions 🎁

3:30 – The Importance of Routine During the Holidays

4:30 – Life Hack: Plan A, Plan B, Plan C for Social Events

5:30 – Using Code Words to Manage Overwhelm (e.g., "Mistletoe") 6:10 – Recovery Days: Essential for Managing Post-Holiday Stress 🛋️

7:12 – Jodi’s Holiday Course and Resources

👉 Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and follow my podcast to catch the full episode when it airs next year! Need help navigating the holidays now? Check out my ‘Pay What You Can Afford’ Holiday Stress Buster Toolkit at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an #autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Can Autistic Individuals Have Cassandra Syndrome?

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 22 Oct 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses how #CassandraSyndrome affects autistic partners in #neurodiverserelationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding both neurotypical and autistic experiences, highlighting that trauma can impact either partner. Learn about the double empathy problem, emotional isolation, and how these challenges can shape relationships.

00:00 Introduction: Cassandra Syndrome in Neurodiverse Relationships 01:03 Purpose of the Channel: Uniting, Not Dividing
02:28 Overview of Cassandra Syndrome
04:24 Addressing First Comment - "I'm a late diagnosed autistic woman married to a non-autistic man..."
04:44 Affirming the Autistic Experience of Trauma
05:36 Not All Partners (ND or NT) Experience Trauma
06:02 Addressing Second Comment - "Yeah. I definitely see this happening infinitely more for the autistic than the neurotypical..."
06:36 Us vs. Them
07:20 Let's Understand Each Other. Both Partners Can Experience Trauma 08:30 Addressing Last Comment - "In my experience, it not only depends on the cognitive empathy or the theory of mind and general emotional intelligence of the autistic partner but also the level..."
11:12 Final Thoughts: Cassandra Syndrome and Autistic Trauma
11:55 Share Your Experience in the Comments

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

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This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Autism & Dating: 6 Signs It's Time to End a Dating Relationship

Jodi Carlton — Thu, 03 Oct 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In this solo podcast episode, #JodiCarlton delves into the intricacies of dating for both #autistic individuals and #neurotypicals dating someone on the spectrum. Drawing from my experiences with long-term couples, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags early on in relationships. Key topics include the dangers of not being your authentic self, patterns of harmful behavior, boundary issues, and intimacy misalignments. She also addresses the concept of capacity and developmental stunting in autistic partners and how these can manifest in relationships.

Additionally, she explores common justifications for staying in unhealthy relationships and the critical mistake of falling for someone's potential rather than their current reality. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating world, particularly in neurodiverse contexts, and provides valuable insights for setting up future generations for success in their relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Dating and Relationships
00:58 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships
01:40 You've Become a Different Person
02:25 Understanding Codependency
04:03 Behavioral Patterns and Apologies
05:54 Communicating Boundaries Effectively
07:45 Intimacy and Alignment in Relationships
10:52 Emotional Availability and Capacity
12:49 Adolescent Development and Responsibility
18:27 Justifying Staying in a Relationship
28:00 Concluding Thoughts and Advice
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Cassandra Syndrome: Signs, Symptoms, and Strategies for Neurotypical Partners

Jodi Carlton — Thu, 26 Sep 2024 11:00:00 GMT

#CassandraSyndrome is not an official diagnosis but is a descriptive term that refers to emotional pain and isolation experienced by a partner in an autistic-neurotypical relationship when their concerns, wishes, and experiences are overlooked or dismissed. Whether you're seeking clarity or looking for ways to strengthen your #neurodiverse relationship, this video provides valuable insights and support.

Check out our recent blog: https://jodicarlton.com/understanding-cassandra-syndrome-neurotypical-autistic-relationships/

00:00 Introduction to Cassandra Syndrome
00:08 Understanding Cassandra Syndrome
00:37 Neurodivergent Relationships and Brain Differences
03:03 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships
03:57 The Impact of Miscommunication
04:20 Cassandra Syndrome - Rooted in Greek Mythology
04:54 Emotional and Physical Effects on Neurotypical Partners
07:29 Why Autism Can Seem Like Narcissism
08:03 Impact Over Time
13:37 Healing from Cassandra Syndrome
13:44 Learn About Autism
14:43 Self-Care
16:13 Codependency in Your Relationship
18:06 Communication Skills Training
19:10 5 Ways to Heal from Cassandra Syndrome
20:52 Conclusion and Resources

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton

https://www.youtube.com/@UCpwzLXW_VSfmKX3SuYXVDLg

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 11 Sep 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Join Jodi Carlton, a #neurodiverse relationship expert, as she delves into the complexities of relationships where one or both partners experience life differently due to neurodiversity. Discover whether these relationships can work, the importance of understanding neurodiversity, and the key characteristics that help #neurodiverserelationships thrive.

Jodi shares insights on common misunderstandings and the crucial role of communication, offering guidance for couples to navigate their unique dynamics.

00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships
01:12 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships
01:37 Common Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships
02:05 Examples of Misunderstandings
03:29 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?
04:36 Seeking Professional Help

Check out our recent blog on this topic: https://jodicarlton.com/can-neurodiverse-relationships-work/

Here are a few neurodiverse couples who share their lives to help others learn more about neurodiversity and how to make neurodiverse relationships work 😊

https://www.youtube.com/@UCerYpTmasyCOuy9WH2qEeCg

https://www.youtube.com/@UCEcsiiGYa-LWV6GN48fSynQ

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi

Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.

💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/

Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.

🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/

I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast

Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform.

You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

💁‍♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses

Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.

📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog

Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

The Key Differences Between Autistic Burnout and ADHD

Jodi Carlton — Thu, 29 Aug 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Burnout is a common challenge faced by many, but it can manifest differently depending on whether you're living with #ADHD or #autism. In this video, we dive deep into the key differences between #autisticburnout and #ADHDburnout, exploring how they affect individuals, what recovery looks like, and the unique symptoms of each. Whether you're seeking to understand your own experiences or support a loved one, this video provides valuable insights to help you navigate these distinct forms of burnout 🧠❤️

00:00 Burnout Can Look Different Depending on Whether You're ADHD or Autistic
00:23 Overview of What is Burnout
00:37 What is Autistic Burnout
02:17 What is ADHD Burnout
03:18 What are the Key Differences Between Autistic Burnout and ADHD Burnout
03:30 Recovery Time for Autistic Burnout and ADHD Burnout
03:44 Burnout Symptoms

For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit https://jodicarlton.com . . . 👩‍💼

Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/

🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/

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https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

How Do I Know if My Spouse is Struggling from Executive Functioning

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 21 Aug 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Jodi Carlton discusses #executivefunctioning disorder, its impact on relationships, and how to recognize signs of #executivedysfunction in a partner. While not an official clinical diagnosis, executive dysfunction can cause a variety of challenges 😰

Jodi offers advice on paying attention to reactions, understanding the role of neurotransmitters like dopamine, and investigating underlying reasons behind behaviors. Practical relationship insights include managing expectations, recognizing emotional dysregulation, and addressing memory and organizational issues 🧠 The focus is on promoting understanding and finding coping strategies to improve relationships.

00:00 Introduction to Executive Functioning Disorder
00:31 Identifying Executive Dysfunction in Your Partner
02:58 Understanding the Role of Dopamine
05:12 Emotional Dysregulation and Misdiagnosis
06:49 Memory Problems and Impulsivity
08:11 Organizational Challenges
10:13 Coping Strategies and Conclusion
0:00 How Do I Know if My Spouse is Struggling with Executive Functioning

To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:

https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/

For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit https://jodicarlton.com

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent.

My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Why Socializing is Important for Neurodivergent Partners

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 07 Aug 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton explains how social connections can improve mental health, reduce stress, and offer different perspectives that benefit both partners in a relationship.

00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships

00:0 The Importance of Social Life for Neurodivergent Individuals

00:29 Benefits of Social Connections

02:54 Practical Tips for Neurotypical Partners

03:31 Balancing Time Together and Apart

04:22 Respecting Boundaries and Open Communication

05:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/

🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: @jodicarlton

Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Neurodivergence & Executive Functioning Challenges in Household Management

Jodi Carlton — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Executive dysfunction creates many challenges in household management for neurodiverse couples. In this bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, provides some useful tips and strategies that she uses in her own neurodivergent household.

To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:

https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/

https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/

For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩

COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

How Does ADHD & Executive Functioning Impact Partners

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 23 Jul 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Let's understand the 8 types of #executivefunctioning in #neurodiverse relationships. Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explains what executive functioning is and how it impacts #neurodiversecouples when one or both partners experience executive function challenges 🧠👫👬👭

0:00 What is Executive Functioning?

01:11 1. Planning and Organizing

03:30 2. Time Management

07:32 3. Working Memory

12:44 4. Self-Monitoring

16:28 5. Emotional Regulation

19:40 6. Cognitive Flexibility

24:41 7. Task Initiation

26:55 8. Inhibition Control (Impulsivity)

30:58 Dealing with Executive Dysfunction

To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:

https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩

COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts

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My Autistic Partner is Not Supportive

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 10 Jul 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton, an expert in neurodiverse relationships, discusses a personal story shared by a listener about weight loss surgery and the emotional impact of her husband's comments. Jodi provides insight into the literal thinking often found in neurodiverse relationships and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence and not placing the responsibility of our insecurities on others.

00:00 Welcome to Neurodiversity Nuggets with Jodi Carlton

00:39 Q & A: Neurodiverse Relationships

01:17 Understanding and Managing Insecurities in Relationships

02:16 The Importance of Self-Confidence and Ownership in Personal Security

03:43 Embracing Individual Responsibility for Emotional Well-being

For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

Visit me online to access my course, Crack the Communication Code, which was designed specifically for neurodiverse partners and couples.

http://crackthecommunicationcode.com

#neurodiverserelationships #neurodiversecommunication #autisticrelationshipproblems #autisticwife #autistichusband #neurodiverserelationshipcounseling #jodicarlton

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I have also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships, and have an autistic daughter and ADHD son. Through the years I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.

NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. Narcissism and autism are completely different, but can often have similar confusion characteristics. A relationship with an autistic partner often has potential for fulfillment with coaching and guidance whereas a relationship with a narcissist is a dead end of toxic abuse. My subspecialty is helping men and women who need help figuring out their own partners.

QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: http://jodicarlton.com

COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

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How Do I Tell My Wife She’s Autistic?

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 26 Jun 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Are you asking yourself, "How do I tell my wife she's autistic?" People regularly book consultation with me asking this question - I get it in the comments too.

In this bonus clip, share what I tell my clients.

Neurodiversity in relationships can be confusing, and if you think your wife or your partner is autistic (some still use the term Aspergers), then you need an informed strategy for how to bring this up to her!

00:00 In troduction to Neurodiverse Relationship Advice
00:04 Suspecting Autism in a Partner
00:51 Why Directly Suggesting Autism Can Be Problematic
03:47 Approaching Differences with Sensitivity and Understanding
05:00 Conclusion: Embracing Neurodiversity in Relationships

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

This Relationship Trait Leads to Divorce

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 12 Jun 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Does your marriage have the common traits of couples that end up in divorce?

In this bonus clip, Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert, emphasizes how an antagonistic dynamic within a relationship, where one partner must win and the other lose, is a red flag. She stresses the importance of addressing underlying issues and misunderstandings, particularly in autism spectrum relationships. Jodi also discusses the problem of trying to control your partner or the relationship.

00:00 A Harsh Reality

00:21 Understanding Antagonism in Relationships

01:03 The Cycle of Conflict and Control

01:58 Navigating Autism Spectrum Relationships

02:20 Tools for Communication and Rebuilding

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.

MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.

QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.

COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

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Masking Isn’t Just an "Autistic" Thing

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 29 May 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Everyone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton shares a personal story about her autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which her daughter uses to manage her social interactions.

00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships

00:45 Understanding Masking: A Personal Story

02:30 Masking as a Filter: A Deeper Dive

03:48 Masking in Different Contexts: Professional vs Personal

04:37 Unmasking at Home: The Safe Zone

08:15 The Impact of Masking on Relationships

08:33 The Role of Scripts in Masking

11:10 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

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Sex and Intimacy in Autism Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Thu, 16 May 2024 01:41:00 GMT

In this episode from her YouTube channel, Jodi Carlton addresses common challenges that both partners in neurodiverse relationships often face.

00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations

00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality

01:33 Cultural and Social Influences on Sexuality

02:29 Challenges of Modern Sexuality and Media Influence

04:02 Navigating Expectations and Roles in Intimacy

06:07 The Importance of Communication and Understanding in Relationships

09:34 Addressing Personal Trauma and Misunderstandings

11:24 Taking Responsibility and Making Positive Changes

12:44 Clarifying Definitions and Expectations in Sexual Relationships

13:45 Conclusion: Hope for Improvement and Change

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

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My Autistic Partner Changes But It Doesn’t Last

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 01 May 2024 11:00:00 GMT

This bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner.

00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert

00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperger's Ex-Partner

00:31 The Cycle of Hope and Disappointment

01:09 Understanding Codependency in Relationships

02:15 The Challenge of Change and Communication

03:33 Educational Advice: Learning About Autism and Improving Communication

04:19 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Neurodiverse Relationships

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

#5: Now What? Deciding on a Path Forward in Your Neurodiverse Relationship

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 17 Apr 2024 11:00:00 GMT

This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.

In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships.

The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your choices and options and implementing changes for yourself. No more staying stuck.

Let us help you get out of the quicksand to determine a real path forward!

00:00 Season 4:: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships

00:28 The Five Key Step

01:37 The Final Episode: Step Five - Figuring Out a Path Forward

04:03 Inappropriate Hope

12:17 Healing and Moving Forward

20:52 Finding Happiness and Peace

26:12 Concluding Thoughts and Resources for Neurodiverse Couples

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

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#4: Exploring Unique Solutions for Unique Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 10 Apr 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In this episode of a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode underscores the importance of identifying and evaluating options within neurodiverse relationships and the necessity of making informed decisions that are best for all parties involved. Jodi and Mona share their processes of coming to terms with the reality of their situations and the steps they took towards healthier futures for themselves and their families.

00:00 Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships

01:06 Power of Personal Journeys

02:16 The Support Group: Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship

02:49 The Impact of Hearing from Different Neurotypes

06:54 Exploring Options in Neurodiverse Relationships

09:25 Discovering Creative Solutions

14:01 The Challenges of Traditional Marriage Expectations

18:46 The Role of External Changes in Relationship Dynamics

23:30 Understanding Individual and Collective Needs in a Relationship

25:20 Navigating External Pressures and Internal Choices

28:01 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Relationships

31:13 The Journey to Self-Discovery and Healing

36:03 Healing, Regulation, and Moving Forward

41:16 Reflecting on Parenting, Mistakes, and Growth

45:52 Concluding Thoughts on Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

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#3: Don't Be The Titanic - Relationship Challenges Are Like Icebergs

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Relationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship.

In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimately contributed to sinking our relationship.

Our goal is to help you figure out the root issues that are well beneath the surface of your problems as a couple. Otherwise, you’ll just keep putting that temporary fix on things. Your relationship and your quality of life will slowly deteriorate, and your ship will sink.

00:00 Episode 3 of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship”

02:17 Reflections and Realizations

03:21 Identifying Problems and Non-Negotiables in Your Relationship

05:47 The Power of Support Groups

07:56 Our Personal Stories of Growth and Healing

10:48 The Challenges of Communication and Understanding in Neurodiverse Couples

20:04 Learning from the Past: Identifying and Addressing Relationship Problems

26:20 Navigating Differences in Values in Relationships

31:31 Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics

33:21 Exploring Apology Languages and Relationship Dynamics

34:45 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Apologies and Understanding

36:13 Therapy Experiences and the Quest for Solutions

39:54 Unpacking the Emotional Baggage from Family Histories

44:25 Learning from Past Relationships and Moving Forward

53:15 Identifying Deal Breakers

01:04:59 Looking Ahead: Determining Choices and Options

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

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#2: Getting Out of Enemy Mode In Your Neurodiverse Relationship.

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 27 Mar 2024 11:00:00 GMT

Mona and I delve into the necessity of 'stopping the bleed' when your relationship is stuck and has become hopeless. We address the most damaging issues in relationships by sharing our own personal stories and insights from being in neurodiverse marriages for over two decades. Mona and I discuss the importance of recognizing and stopping toxic cycles, the benefits of both individual and couple's therapy, and the transformative impact of setting boundaries on personal health and relationship dynamics.

Featuring co-host Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, this is Episode 2 (Season 4) of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast. This 5-part series is about navigating relationship challenges to figure out a path forward.

00:00 Welcome to Episode 2: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships

00:28 The Five Key Steps for Relationship Challenges

01:35 Episode Overview: Stopping the Bleed

03:59 The Support Group

04:49 Exploring Personal Stories and Insights

15:57 Exploring Boundaries and Codependency

26:00 The Impact of Communication Styles and Trust Issues

26:57 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships

27:41 The Importance of Individual Therapy

36:00 Setting Boundaries for Safety and Emotional Well-being

46:23 The Physical and Mental Health Consequences of Relationship Stress

48:24 Looking Ahead: Making Difficult Decisions

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

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Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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#1: ”When You Stop Recognizing Yourself, There’s Something Very Wrong”

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 20 Mar 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in relationships, and offers support and strategies for communication, connection, and making difficult relationship choices. By sharing our journeys and insights, Mona and I aim to help you feel seen, understood, and less alone in your own neurodiverse relationships, but also to give you a framework for navigating your own neurodiverse relationship.

00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship

01:46 Introducing the Support Group: A Safe Space for All Neurotypes

04:41 Decision Making in Neurodiverse Relationships

06:22 Understanding the Stages of Assessing Relationship Challenges

11:14 Triage: Assessing the Risk in Your Relationship

16:41 Reflecting on Personal Experiences with Neurodiversity and Relationships

26:36 The Importance of Assessing Needs and Risks in Relationships

29:39 Unpacking the Past: Stories of Miscommunication and Conflict

30:17 The Christmas Eve Incident: A Tale of Family Dynamics

32:27 Navigating Neurodivergence and Codependency

33:47 The Shift from Romance to Reality

35:30 Unveiling Incompatibilities

40:19 Recognizing Red Flags and Toxicity

52:08 The Journey to Self-Recognition and Healing

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: @jodicarlton

Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

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This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Season 4 is Coming! 5 Steps for Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship

Jodi Carlton — Mon, 18 Mar 2024 11:00:00 GMT

In season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's time to part ways. With over two decades of experience in neurodiverse marriages, they share their own stories of navigating love, making tough decisions, and finding strategies that might be non-traditional but effective. This season aims to make listeners feel seen, understood, and less alone in their experiences. The first episode airs on Wednesday, March 20th.

00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships

00:14 Introducing the Co-Host and Our Mission

00:31 Five Key Steps for Navigating Relationship Challenges

00:58 Personal Journeys: Learning from Our Own Relationships

01:15 The Importance of Sharing Vulnerable Experiences

01:35 Join Us for the Journey

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

”We’re all a little narcissistic.” Debunking This Myth

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 16:16:07 GMT

In this episode, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiversity expert and relationship coach who also specializes in personality disorders, addresses a dangerous myth that everyone has narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the distinction between common human behaviors and the destructive characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder.

Jodi highlights specific traits exclusive to narcissism, such as enjoying others' pain for personal gain and manipulating others by playing the victim. Her message clarifies how this myth minimizes the impact on individuals who are abused by narcissists, and aims to educate listeners on the true nature of narcissistic behavior versus normal human flaws and dysfunction.

00:00 Introduction

00:10 Debunking the Myth: Everyone is Narcissistic

00:42 Understanding Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits

01:02 Identifying Narcissistic Traits

01:36 The Narcissist's Use of Victimhood

01:58 Power and Control in Narcissism

02:15 Conclusion: We're Not All a Little Bit Narcissistic

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Autistic Narcissists Are Dangerous!

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 06 Mar 2024 12:00:00 GMT

In this bonus episode, neurodiversity expert and relationship coach Jodi Carlton explains the differences between autism and narcissistic personality disorder. She emphasizes that while both conditions can exist in the same individual, they are fundamentally unrelated, with autism being neurodevelopmental and genetic, and narcissism being potentially linked to genetics and social learning.

Jodi dispels dangerous myths suggesting that narcissistic traits are universal, pointing out the unique and harmful characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder that differentiate it from common human behaviors. She highlights the risks posed by individuals who exhibit both autism and extreme narcissism, including their potentially destructive actions and lack of regard for others' wellbeing.

00:00 Introduction
00:10 Understanding Autism and Narcissism: A Comparative Analysis
00:38 The Dangers of Autistic Narcissists
01:12 Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits
01:35 The Myth of Universal Narcissism
01:46 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse
02:27 Identifying Narcissistic Traits
03:23 The Power Dynamics of Narcissism
03:40 Conclusion

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Why does an autistic partner lie?

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 28 Feb 2024 12:00:00 GMT

Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses the issue of lying within autism relationships in this bonus episode.

00:00 Neurodiverse Relationships and Lying
00:50 Understanding White Lies in Relationships
01:32 When Couples Have a Parental-Child Dynamic
01:46 An Example of Lying to Avoid Conflict
02:17 Differentiating Between Types of Lies
02:46 Recognizing and Addressing Lying in Relationships

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.

QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

I’m autistic. Why do I zone out when people are talking?

Jodi Carlton — Fri, 23 Feb 2024 14:22:00 GMT

In this bonus episode, Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares explains why autistic individuals struggle to stay focused in a conversation and shares some strategies for both partners to help with this challenge.

AUTISM QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

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Autism Relationship Tool - Images Versus Words

Jodi Carlton — Mon, 19 Feb 2024 12:00:00 GMT

Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner in this bonus episode.

QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

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How to Have a Safe Disagreement in Your Neurodiverse Relationship

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 14 Feb 2024 12:00:00 GMT

In this bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares advice on handling emotional responses in neurodiverse relationships. Jodi emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the validity of emotions from both partners, and discusses the problems that arise when fight or flight responses overwhelm the conversation and issues are not resolved.

00:00 A YouTube Comment

00:52 Validity of Emotions in Relationships

01:12 The Problem of Unresolved Conflict

02:23 The Importance of Safe Conversations

03:20 The Solution: How To Handle Emotional Triggers

QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Boundaries and Dealbreakers in Neurodiverse Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 07 Feb 2024 12:00:00 GMT

In the bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, explores the crucial aspects of setting boundaries and recognizing deal-breakers in neurodiverse relationships.

00:00 Introduction

00:17 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships

01:12 The Difference Between Boundaries and Control

01:46 Setting Boundaries in Response to Negative Behavior

02:00 Teaching Boundaries to Children

02:46 Challenges of Setting Boundaries with Smart Kids

03:06 Conclusion: Modeling Boundary Setting

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Autism in Gay Men - Response to a YouTube Question

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 12:00:00 GMT

Neurodiverse relationship expert responds to a question about autism in gay men in this bonus episode.

She emphasizes that regardless of whether someone is gay, heterosexual, or identifies with any other sexual orientation, their autistic traits remain the same. Autism is a part of who they are, and it doesn't change based on their sexual orientation.

For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

👩‍💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.

Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:

💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩

COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/

#autistic #neurodivergent #trauma #therapy #jodicarlton #podcast

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/

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”It was the closest to hell I’ve ever been.”

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 20 Dec 2023 12:00:00 GMT

In this bonus episode, #neurodiverserelationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses a YouTube viewer's comment that details severe abuse in a past relationship with an 'undiagnosed autistic man'. Jodi empathizes with the viewer but stresses the importance of distinguishing between autism and narcissistic, abusive behavior. She explains that individuals with autism are not inherently abusive, whereas those with a #personalitydisorder can be. Jodi points out that the difficulty of autistic individuals to recognize their partners’ distress does not make them abusive although it can have a similar devastating impact on partners. She also highlights the importance of listening to gut instincts about personal safety if you are in a questionable relationship.

To watch the video on YouTube, visit: https://youtu.be/vZjDrNXDaoA

00:01 Introduction and Viewer's Comment

00:12 The Commenter's Relationship Experience

01:44 Jodi Carlton's Response and Clarification

02:25 Understanding Autism vs Narcissism

03:39 The Traits of Autistic Individuals

04:31 The Pattern of Abusive Behaviors

05:03 Advice for Those in Similar Situations

05:53 Conclusion and Resources

For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com

Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️

COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: @jodicarlton

Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

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When Intimacy Used to Be Great

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 06 Dec 2023 12:00:00 GMT

BONUS Episode: Neurodiversity Nugget

What happens in some relationships is in the beginning, there was this chemistry, there was this connection, and it was great. There is often a lot happening there physically.

Some of that greatness, though, was your own perception of greatness that was influenced by what you hoped for and wanted. When you are looking for confirmation that the relationship is good, you are more likely to perceive it as a good experience.

You may actually miss how your partner is perceiving it, and have totally different memories and narratives about your sex life.

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🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity.

🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

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”How do we handle social outings with friends?”

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 22 Nov 2023 12:00:00 GMT

This clip is from a Q & A where a neurotypical partner asked how to handle social outings with friends when you each have different preferences about socializing. I share a tip for how to manage this so both of you are satisfied.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Q & A ”How are autistic women different from men?”

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 08 Nov 2023 12:00:00 GMT

Men and women often have very different #neurodivergent traits and the criteria for #autism was originally developed based on men. In this video, I discuss some of the unique differences in men and women.

#autism #neurodivergent #autisticwomen #autisticmen #neurodiverserelationships

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🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

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5 Signs Your Partner May Be Autistic

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 25 Oct 2023 11:00:00 GMT

In this video, originally recorded for an audience of women in relationships with #autistic men on the spectrum, I discuss SOME of the main characteristics of being in a #NeurodiverseRelationship. Women on the spectrum may also have some of these characteristics, but this video is specifically for neurotypical partners in relationships with men.

Take my autism assessment at jodicarlton.com

#autismsigns #neurodivergent #signsofautism #asd #autismtest #jodicarlton #aspergers #aspergersinmen

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3 Tips to Avoid Being Blindsided In A Relationship

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 11 Oct 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Getting blindsided in any kind of relationship is horrible, whether it's a dating relationship, well into a marriage, a friendship, or A working relationship. It never feels good to feel blindsided.

In actuality, we oftentimes get in our own way in being able to see who people really are.

Sometimes it's hard to know how to make decisions about the people we meet - friendships, dating relationships - and we don't know how to keep ourselves safe. We don't know how to identify a healthy relationship.

I'm Jodi Carlton, and I'm an adult neurodiversity expert, but I also specialize in working with people to recognize when they're in abusive relationships.

I'm going to give you three tips to help you keep yourself safe and avoid getting blindsided.

For more resources or to work with me, visit me online at: jodicarlton.com

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

The Parent-Child Dynamic

Jodi Carlton — Thu, 28 Sep 2023 11:00:00 GMT

When neurodiverse partners have different thresholds for household tasks and even relationship involvement, it is common for a "parent-child" dynamic to emerge. One partner takes on an authoritative role that issues directives, and the other becomes more child-like waiting on tasks to be assigned (and sometimes resisting to follow through).

This type of dynamic does NOT work in any relationship. In this BONUS clip, I discuss why, and how to address it in your relationship.

For more comprehensive guidance with your relationship difficulties, access my communication course: Crack The Communication Code at JodiCarlton.com

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

”We both thought we were going to die.”

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 30 Aug 2023 11:00:00 GMT

A #traumatic accident turned this #neurodiverse relationship completely around. Tune in to this final episode of Season 3 to hear how Kristen's marriage has changed thanks to hard work and a complete mindset shift.

YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast; Season 3 - Episode 13

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QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. • Podcast: YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton

Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

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Toxicity in Neurodiverse Relationships (Pt 2)

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 16 Aug 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Being in #toxicrelationship that never improve is like making a lifelong commitment to #dysfunction. In a #neurodiverserelationship, each partner can be a #toxicpartner.

In part 2 of this episode of "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, Barbara Grant a neurodiverse relationship coach talks with me about the pitfalls that block success for couples. Today is part two of my discussion with Barbara Grant, who is also a #neurodiversity coach and a relationship therapist. If you missed part one, be sure and go back and listen to it. Our conversation has been really great from the perspective of therapists who also have had neurodiverse marriages and other relationships with people who are neurodiverse. We talk about being in those relationships, but also the challenges of therapy and coaching for couples and also for therapists.

Find Barbara at: https://hopeforcouples.net

If you are a therapist or coach who works with neurodiverse individuals and couples, email me at gethelp@jodicarlton.com to inquire about joining my Neurodiverse Professional Peer Support and Referral Network

#divorce #neurodivergent #autistic #marriagecounseling #therapist

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, anxiety, depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.

MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my autistic daughter and ADHD son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.

QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Toxicity in Neurodiverse Relationships - Part 1

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 02 Aug 2023 11:00:00 GMT

In this episode of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, my guest, Barbara Grant, and I discuss insights about #counseling and #therapy for that will benefit both therapists and couples.

Part 2 of this podcast episodes airs on Wed, Aug 16, 2023.

Season 3, Episode 11 airs Wed, Aug 2nd here on YouTube and on your favorite podcast platform! https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

Barbara Grant is a Certified Autism Specialist, ADHD and Neurodiverse Couples Coach, finishing her Masters in MFT (Marriage and Family Therapy.) She has been a therapeutic and spiritual coach since 2005, working with individuals, couples, and groups. Her current neurodiverse neurotypical couples coaching practice also focuses on individuals and families, as well as on offering neurotypical partners and family members support through online therapeutic groups. While she is neurotypical, but has 64+ years of experience with close family members who are neurodiverse. She utilizes her experience to provide clients with compassion, understanding and HOPE. As part of the neurodiverse professional community, she is excited about participating in the ongoing dialog about how to best support and strengthen neurodiverse people and their relationships. Visit Barbara online: https://bg-hc.com/

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, anxiety, depression, and abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.

MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my autistic daughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.

QUIZZES: Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

COACHING: Get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.

🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁‍♀️

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: @jodicarlton

Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Being Neurodivergent in a Faith-Based Community

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Melissa, #ADHD wife to an #autistic husband gets raw and vulnerable about her faith and how her traditional Christian background has affected them as adults and in their own relationship. Season 3, Episode 10: "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast" #neurodivergent #christianfaith #faith #religious #jodicarlton #aspie #aspergers

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Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.

QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com

💁‍♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Neurodivergent Family: Mom, Father, and Daughter

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 05 Jul 2023 11:00:00 GMT

#ADHD wife and mom to a #neurodivergent husband and daughter, Melissa shares how she struggled for years with considering leaving her marriage. After becoming educated about neurodiversity, and developing tools and skills for #communication, she realized that it's worth it to stay. She shared with me her #relationshipproblems, but also the joys and wonderful moments, as well as her personal growth that has resulted in happiness and freedom! Watch the full episode on YouTube (@jodicarlton) or listen on your favorite podcast platform.

#neurodiverserelationship #communicationskills #therapist #autismdiagnosis #adhdmom #autismfamily #jodicarlton

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🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

💁‍♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.

❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:

YouTube: @jodicarlton

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Neurodivergence Pain and Suffering

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 21 Jun 2023 11:00:00 GMT

#Neurodivergent wife and coach, Christie Ellis shared with me her own journey through tremendous pain and suffering and how her life has been enriched because of her experiences. Christie has incredible insights about how emotions inform us, and how #neurodiverserelationship partners can improve #communication and connection.

This is episode 8, part 2 of my chat with Christie, on Season 3 of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship."

Watch all episodes at: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR

#neurodiverserelationship #suicidalthought #autismsigns #autisticwoman #adhd #neurodiversewoman #communicationskills #relationshipproblems #jodicarlton

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🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Neurodivergence and Trauma: The Chicken or the Egg?

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 07 Jun 2023 11:00:00 GMT

My guest today is Christie Ellis. Christie is neurodivergent herself. She's a wife, a friend, and a daughter and she's killing it in the business sector. She's created five businesses, including Phoenix Story Coaching, where she provides science-grounded coaching for individuals and businesses. She figures out repetitive thought and behavior patterns that aren't working for people and works with her clients to build new patterns and achieve goals. Christie is certified in positive psychology, behavior change, mindfulness-based stress reduction, and coaching.

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🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about #yourneurodiverserelationship dynamics.

❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. 🌐

Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

A Therapist Discovers Neurodivergence In Her Marriage

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 24 May 2023 11:00:00 GMT

This week's episode's guest is Laura Schreiner. Laura has a Master of Science degree in Clinical Psychology, is a Nationally Certified Licensed Professional Counselor, and holds certification in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy with the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE).

Laura shares with me about her journey as a neurotypical wife, and the discovery of neurodivergence in her marriage. Visit her online at: www.laurasnc.com

If you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver podcasts to people like you.

Be sure to subscribe if you're watching on YouTube to make sure you get updates on all the latest videos that I publish there.
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME:

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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ADHD Women: Dating and Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 10 May 2023 10:00:00 GMT

This week's episode is part two of my conversation with Gwen Janssen. So if you missed part one, go back and listen to the last episode that was aired two weeks ago. Gwen and I had so much to talk about it was too much to put into one episode. Today, she really gets personal about her own relationships and how being neurodiverse has affected her relationships in dating, but also family relationships and friendships.

Also, if you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver podcasts to people like you.

Be sure to subscribe if you're watching on YouTube to make sure you get updates on all the latest videos that I publish there.
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME:

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Neurodivergent Women: Strengths and Challenges

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 26 Apr 2023 11:00:00 GMT

My guest today is Gwen Janssen. She's a nurse and an adjunct professor, and a long time leader with over 16 years in healthcare. Gwen was diagnosed with ADHD in her early thirties. She has two master's degrees and a doctorate in progress.

Leadership is her passion. She founded the END Institute, Excellence In Neurodiversity after her diagnosis as a way to help educate and advocate for other neurodiverse professionals and leaders.

Gwen focuses heavily on creating spaces for psychological safety and development based on the unique strengths and support needs of the neurodiverse community. She's also the author of "ADHD, How To Go From Powerless Professional to Powerhouse Leader," which is due out in May of 2023.
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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME:

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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BONUS: ”Pick Your Price” Event!

Jodi Carlton — Thu, 13 Apr 2023 11:00:00 GMT

Did you know that April is autism awareness month? So in honor of all of you that are listeners here, I'm hosting my first ever "Pick Your Price" event. If you've been listening to this podcast or watching my videos for any time at all, you've heard me talk about the communication program that I developed for my own neurodiverse relationships. It's been life-altering for so many people, and I really want to make it available to you even if money is kind of tight. It's called " Crack the Communication Code."

This program is normally $175, but I'm offering it to you right now for whatever you want to pay. So, that means you can get it for free or pay whatever you feel like you can afford. Or if you've really been benefiting from this podcast, you can make a generous contribution that will help me to continue producing podcasts and courses to continue helping you and so many others.

So to access it today. Go to JodiCarlton.com

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Autistic Couples Need the Right "Software"

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 10:00:00 GMT

My guest in episode 3 today is David Glick, a neurodivergent therapist, and coach who has decades of experience working with autistic individuals, couples, and families. David is a highly respected professional here in the Atlanta area where I am based, and I am thrilled that he is moving into the coaching space where people worldwide can access his help.

You can reach out to David and Triad Psych at https://triadpsych.org/.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME:

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Autistic Communication Strategies

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 29 Mar 2023 12:00:00 GMT

My special guest today is Dr. Kerry Magro. Kerry is an award-winning autistic professional speaker and a bestselling author. 📍

He was recently an autism consultant to the HBO series, "Mrs. Fletcher" which aired in the fall of 2019, and a consultant to the latest season of Netflix's, Emmy award-winning series, "Love On the Spectrum."

Kerry has spoken at over 1200 events, including two Ted talks and a "Talks at Google" presentation. In addition, Kerry is CEO and president of KFM Making a Difference, a nonprofit organization that hosts inclusion events and has provided a hundred scholarships for students with autism for college since 2011.

As if he's not busy enough, Kerry also hosts a Facebook page, Kerry's Autism Journey, that has over 200,000 followers.

Kerry works with a wide range of individuals and a wide range of therapists, educators, and parents who are serving the disability community or have a child who has a disability. His best-selling books have reached Amazon bestseller lists for special needs parenting and I'm very grateful that he decided to join us on the show today.

Get a copy of Kerry's book, Autism and Falling In Love: The One That Got Away on Amazon: bit.ly/407LWHF

Follow Kerry on social media:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kerry.magro
Instagram: @autisticprofessionalspeaker
TikTok: @kerrymagro
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerrymagro/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KerrysAutismJourney

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME:

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Autistic Masking

Jodi Carlton — Wed, 15 Mar 2023 12:00:00 GMT

Let's talk about masking!

Episode #1 of Season 3 features Wendy, a neurodivergent wife to a neurodivergent husband, and mom to neurodivergent kiddos. She is a moderator in my Mixed Neurotype Facebook Group (search Jodi Carlton on Facebook) and follower of the podcast.

Wendy asked me to have a conversation with her about masking, which is a topic that comes up frequently in conversations about neurodiversity. Wendy shares her own personal experiences and insights about masking, and the strategies she uses in social interactions. Wendy has lived most of her adult life without knowing about her neurodiversity.

Watch the full episode on YouTube at YouTube.com/@JodiCarlton.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME:

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

BONUS: Holiday Stressbuster Toolkit for Mixed Neurotype Couples

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 01 Nov 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Holiday Stressbuster Toolkit for Mixed Neurotype Couples: jodicarlton.com/holidays

Holiday gatherings and traditions can create some of the most memorable moments for couples to cherish for a lifetime, but this time of year can also be full of anxiety and stress, especially for mixed neurotype couples.

If you feel stressed just reading this list, then I have something for you!

Changes in Work and Kid Routines

Social Gatherings

Family Gatherings

Work Gatherings

Travel

Gift Expectations

Blended Families

Sounds, Smells, Foods, Crowds

With the right tools and preparation, you can enjoy the festivities while keeping your relationship and sanity intact.

In this course, I am going to get you ready for the most common struggles that neurodiverse couples face and give you FIVE specific tools for how to strategically manage them — so everyone can have a happier holiday season.

Get your toolkit today and have happy holiday season this year!

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME:

Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Neurodivergent Lying: Avoidant or Toxic?

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 18 Oct 2022 11:00:00 GMT

BONUS podcast: Let's talk about lying. There are a lot of reasons why everybody lies. Neurodivergent partners have specific reasons why they lie, and sometimes it's different from the reasons why neurotypical partners lie.

It's important to look for toxic types of lies that are strategic and intended to harm or that inflate one's ego at the expense of others. These are different from the avoidant types of lies that range from "little white lies" to fear and avoidance of consequences or a partner's response or reaction.

If there is a lot of lying in your relationship and you need some help figuring it out, you can book a consultation to speak with me directly to get some answers. My coaching program is designed to help you get clarity and solutions for a better life.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

❤️️ Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a the world's FIRST Relationship Rescue method designed specifically for mixed neurotype couples to break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Spiritual Abuse in Neurodiverse Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 13 Sep 2022 11:00:00 GMT

When a person's faith and spiritual values are used to coerce, convince, or control and manipulate, devastating harm is done. Weaponized faith is all too common, and I see the trauma it causes in so many of the men and women who contact me for help. "Scripts" about the roles of men and women, and husbands and wives, are often conveyed by well-meaning religious leaders, but then, in the neurodivergent community, applied rigidly in a relationship. Both partners often participate in reinforcing a coercive and controlling dynamic that utilizes shame, guilt, and obligation to get one or both partner's needs met - both believing they are following the beliefs of their faith. This relationship is ultimately highly dysfunctional, and can become toxic and abusive. Take a moment to listen to my conversation with Dan and Stephanie Holmes, who are Christian neurodiverse relationship specialists. This concept applies to people of all faiths and value-systems because these same dynamics occur in any relationship where beliefs and values are used to manipulate.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own neurodivergent family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

❤️️ Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Neurodiversity Challenges in Christian Marriages

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 30 Aug 2022 11:00:00 GMT

I am frequently asked the question "How do I stay committed to my Christian values of being compassionate and selfless without losing myself and my identity - especially when my autistic partner doesn't believe my needs are valid?"

I recently had a Q & A with Dan and Stephanie Holmes where we talk about this and so much more. Dan and Stephanie founded the International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages, LLC to bring hope, help, and possible healing to NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages. Their ministry also includes educating and equipping helping professionals, clinicians, and ministers with effective coaching and counseling strategies by first understanding and accepting the complexities of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages. Visit Dan and Stephanie online at: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com

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Toxicity Was My Own Dealbreaker - Not Neurodiversity

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 02 Aug 2022 11:00:00 GMT

S2E9 In today's episode, part two with my best friend, Kathy, we have a really important conversation about toxic traits and how that's a very different thing from neurodiversity. Kathy and I both have experienced toxic personalities in our marriages and our relationships.

This the last episode of my summer series on communication and of sharing my personal neurodiverse relationships with you. If you missed any of the previous episodes, go back and through Season 2 and meet my autistic daughter, Abby, and her brother, Aidan, as well as my mother. I'm so glad they all agreed to be on the show and share our neurodiverse relationships with all of you! It's not just about marriages - neurodiverse relationships are of all kinds!

Also, I'm taking a short break before we bring Season 3 to you (in about a month), but we will be dropping some neurodiverse relationship Q & A, and tips here for you, so stay tuned!

Be sure to contact us if you'd like to be a guest on the podcast - this podcast is about YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship. I want to talk to you!

How To Thrive in Neurodiverse Friendships

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 26 Jul 2022 11:00:00 GMT

I am really, really excited today to have my best friend Kathy, on the show. She is the last of the mini series this summer on communication and of me sharing my neurodiverse family and friends with you.

This two-part episode is one of my favorite yet because Kathy and I talk about so much! There's so much packed into these two episodes. Kathy and I talk about our own friendship, which is a neurodiverse relationship. We talk about her family of very different neurodiverse personalities...and as best friends do she even calls me out on something that's actually really important! We have a very good conversation about it that's going to be very relatable to so, so many of you. You're going to want to listen up to hear what we have to say about that.

Kathy also has some amazing insight as well about being neurodiverse, herself, and the mother of two neurodiverse children who are practically grown now themselves. She shares the strategies that she's used to parent them and help them in their lives even as she's realized later in life that she's neurodiverse herself.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

Awkward Moments in Neurodiverse Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 19 Jul 2022 11:00:00 GMT

In last week's show, during my chat with my mother, I mentioned how those of us who are neurotypical and neurodiverse speak different languages. We have many different kinds of language...emotion, logic, social, relationship, love...and we all speak them in different kinds of ways, and with different levels of fluency.

I also told you in the last show that my next guest is my best friend Kathy, who has her own neurodiverse family and who has her own neurodiverse traits, herself. In that chat she and I talk about our own friendship and how we've dealt with our differences through the years....BUT...I've decided to wait until next week to air part one of our conversation.

This week I'm going to share with you the audio from a "live" I did in my private Facebook group where I talked about these different languages we speak. It seemed so relevant! So here you go and tune in next week for my chat with Kathy.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

My Autistic Mother Was "Weird"

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 12 Jul 2022 11:00:00 GMT

In part two of my conversation with my mom. We talk about how we discovered neurodiversity in my own family. It's a narrative that is so similar to many of yours.

Neurodiverse relationships are not just about domestic partnerships...the person that you married or that you're dating...it spills over into the whole family. It's part of the entire life experience that you're having with so many people.

🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton

YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit inside.themisunderstoodmind.com

My Autistic Granddaughter Didn't Smile

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 05 Jul 2022 12:00:00 GMT

As we continue our summer series on communication, I took a moment to talk with my mom, Jean, about this neurodiverse family of ours. Her perspective and her observations about discovering autism in our family is going to be so relatable to so many of you. As a retired teacher (and she was held in high regard in our community), she thinks back to students she had who she now realizes were neurodiverse - and how she didn't understand their needs or how to communicate with them.

Next week, in part 2, we talk more about our own family, and how we've realized through the years that autism has been right here in our own world for generations. You don't want to miss it...because it's your story, too.

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

💁‍♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.

🗣Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱FOLLOW ME:
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Communication is the Bridge that Connects Us

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 12:00:00 GMT

Communication is the bridge that connects us and this week we continue my summer communication series. Today in part two of my conversation with two of the very most important people in my life, my daughter, Abby, who is autistic, and my son, Aidan, who is neurotypical, we talk about what it's been like for them as siblings in a neurodiverse relationship, but also with me as their neurotypical mom navigating parenting in a neurodiverse family. I invite you to hear what they have to say, because I think you're going to really relate to so much of it!

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

💁‍♀️ Enroll in my unique coaching program, specifically designed for neurodiverse couples, to facilitate life-altering clarity and change. This is not just another round of counseling.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking "Crackt he COMMUNICATIONCode.com" program for my OWN relationships and it will now help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Meet My Own Neurodiverse Family

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 21 Jun 2022 15:00:00 GMT

Today I invite you to meet MY neurodiverse family. We have relationships with many different people in our lives...our partners, our friends, our siblings, our co-workers. Today a colleague asked me how many people I estimate are around us every day who are neurodiverse. I told her that number is high! Today...I'd like you to meet two of my own favorite people.

BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast

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👩‍💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.

🎙My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.

📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.

💁‍♀️ Enroll in my unique coaching program, specifically designed for neurodiverse couples, to facilitate life-altering clarity and change. This is not just another round of counseling.

🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking "Crackt he COMMUNICATIONCode.com" program for my OWN relationships and it will now help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.

🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.

📱FOLLOW ME:
Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton

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Autistic Executive Dysfunction: "I Have This Memory Vacuum."

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 24 May 2022 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode (Part 2) of a chat with a neurodiverse couple, Jodi gives concrete strategies for eliminating conversations that get stuck in a cycle of painful triggers and avoidant retreats that never reach resolution.

If you missed Part 1 (Ep. 12 "I Call It His Murderous Face") listen here.

BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast

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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.

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The Autistic "Murderous Face"

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 17 May 2022 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, a couple married 30 years in an arranged marriage, shares how the discovery of neurodiversity was a wake-up call and also a life-saver for their relationship. Both of them openly talk with me about their own self-discoveries and what they are doing to help repair old wounds, but also improve current and future interactions.

BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast

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Lying & Miscommunication in Autistic Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 10 May 2022 12:00:00 GMT

In Part 2 of my talk with Bo, who identifies as an "Aspie," or as having Asperger's, we chat about how words and expressions can mean really different things, especially in neurodiverse relationships. Bo also shares with me how social interactions have often created confusion for him and the people in his life because of the different understandings and expectations in social exchanges.

If you missed Part 1, "Childhood Memories Make Sense Now," be sure to tune in to hear Bo discuss his memories from childhood and how he now recognizes the many sensory challenges he experienced as a child.

BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast

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Late Autism Diagnosis

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 03 May 2022 12:00:00 GMT

Ep. 10 - Bo B. (Neurodiverse) (Pt. 1) Childhood Memories Make Sense Now; Sensory Aversion in Relationships

Ep. 10 In this episode, Jodi talks to Bo, a neurodiverse man, who recounts his experience as a neurodiverse child in school and being distracted by pretty much everything. Jodi and Bo talk about how food preferences, and how sensory aversions can sometimes feel like a deal breaker in relationships.

Bo also shares how different communication styles have created challenges for him in relationships- for example, he notes struggling to understand hints or implied meaning

BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast

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How To Know If Someone With Autism Loves You

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 26 Apr 2022 15:00:32 GMT

Ep. 9 - How To Know If Someone With Autism Loves You
"How do I know if my autistic partner (child, sibling, friend) loves me?" This is a question that I am asked constantly. In my most popular video, to date, I share some tips for how to recognize that a neurodivergent individual is expressing love. The way love is communicated between neurotypical and neurodivergent individuals is truly not always similar - we "speak love" in vastly different ways.

These communication and perception differences often result in tremendous confusion and hurt. In this updated/edited version, of my original video, you still get the insights and tips that have already helped thousands of people, but I also share with you the backstory on why I originally recorded this video (it isn't what most people think!).

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This Neurodiverse Couple Saved Their Marriage

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 19 Apr 2022 12:00:00 GMT

Ep. 8 Matt & Jen (Pt 2) ”I don’t remember our last argument…”

In Part 1 (Ep 5) of Jodi's talk with Matt and Jen, this couple shared how they struggled to understand each other, and how miscommunication & misunderstanding led to confusion, heartbreak, and talk of divorce. Here in Part 2, they talk about the insights they gained, and the communication tools and skills they use from their private intensive coaching with Jodi that have completely changed their lives. Jen (non-autistic) says "You know, what's funny? I don't remember our last argument." Matt and Jen's story is an example of the real transformation that is possible in neurodiverse relationship and is a beacon of hope for so many people.

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Social Skills for Neurodiverse Couples

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 12:00:00 GMT

Ep. 7: Rob, 51, autistic -”I would go to meetups where I knew no one & I would be social with people I never met before - that’s like the Super Bowl of social practice”

In today's episode Rob shares with Jodi how his ex-wife's family didn't like him and he didn't understand why until two of his son's were diagnosed as autistic. He shares his perspective on smiling and learning to use tone of voice as well as his personal strategies for being intentional with practicing social skills, all of which has resulted in new friendships.

In this episode, Jodi mentions research about how autistic individuals don't use facial expressions and eye contact for information in the same way as non-autistic individuals. One study notes:

"Direct eye contact elicits a heightened physiological response as indicated by heightened skin conductance and increased amygdala activity. For individuals with autism, avoiding the eyes is an adaptive strategy, however, this approach interferes with the ability to process facial cues of identity, expressions and intentions, The “eye avoidance” strategy has negative effects on the ability to decode facial information about identity, expression, and intentions, exacerbating the social challenges for persons with ASD."

Tanaka, J. W., & Sung, A. (2016). The "Eye Avoidance" Hypothesis of Autism Face Processing. Journal of autism and developmental disorders, 46(5), 1538–1552. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-013-1976-7

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Therapy Harms Neurodiverse Couples

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 05 Apr 2022 11:00:00 GMT

Ep. 6 Current Therapy Models Harm Neurodiverse Relationships (Pt. 2)

In this episode, part 2 of Jodi's chat with Mona and Manecia, all three professionals share how counseling made things worse in their own neurodiverse relationships, and how new models that are specific to neurodiverse couples are critical.

Listen to part 1 in Episode 3, "Jodi Gets Personal With Two Other Professionals About Their Own Relationships."

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How To Avoid Divorce

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 12:00:00 GMT

Ep. 5 Matt and Jen (Pt 1), a Neurodiverse Couple: From Contemplating Divorce to Thriving

On today's episode, Jodi talks with Matt and Jen, a neurodiverse couple who were contemplating divorce when Jen first found Jodi's coaching program and reached out for help. They share how they discovered Matt is autistic, and the challenges they each experienced in their relationship, but also how the new framework and new skills have totally changed their lives and their marriage.

Part 1 of 2 (Part 2 will broadcast on April 12th, 2022)

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Sensory Overload and Partner Rejection

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 22 Mar 2022 12:00:00 GMT

Ep. 4 Clara (Pt 2) Sensory Overwhelm & How It Results in Others Feeling Rejected

Episode 4: In this episode Jodi talks with returning autistic guest Clara about sensory processing dysfunction. Clara, a music teacher, and performer, compares how the brain receives sound to a music mixing board that raises and lowers volume. Jodi and Clara also chat about how neurotypical partners often misinterpret autistic sensory overwhelm as rejection.

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Professionals In Neurodiverse Relationships

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 15 Mar 2022 12:00:00 GMT

Ep. 3 Jodi, Mona, and Manecia, two neurodiversity professionals get personal about their own relationships. (Pt 1)

In this episode, Jodi talks with Mona and Manecia, hosts of the Neurodiverse Love podcast. All three are professionals committed to helping neurodiverse couples navigate relationships, but who have also been in (or are currently in) their own autism relationships. Listen in as they share their own very personal experiences.

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Painful Misunderstandings & Confusion

Jodi Carlton — Tue, 08 Mar 2022 13:00:00 GMT

Ep. 2 - A wife from the U.K. talks about painful misunderstandings and confusion & learning to bridge the communication gap.

On today's episode, Jodi discusses the question of how long it usually takes for partners and couples to suspect that one of them is autistic. She shares about her own experience in her marriage.

Jodi's guest today is an ADHD wife with and mother from the U.K. who's husband and daughter are autistic. She talks with Jodi about painful misunderstandings that have created years of confusion and a widening gap between herself and her husband - both of whom care about their relationship but haven't known how to bridge that gap.

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