If you opened our closets, you’d probably assume Kathleen and I have completely different philosophies. She gravitates toward cozy, relaxed silhouettes. I live in dresses, heels, and anything that feels tailored.

But this conversation isn’t really about fashion.

It’s about confidence.

We talk about why we wear what we wear, how our personal “uniforms” have evolved over time, the freedom that comes from knowing what feels like you, and why confidence has nothing to do with following trends—and everything to do with feeling comfortable in your own skin.

Plus:

* Why we both ended up embracing a “uniform”

* The dress that feels like armor

* The romper that completely changed Amanda’s mind

* Kathleen’s dream of becoming “Whimsical Kathleen” in retirement 🦒

* A lightning round that reveals we actually agree more than we thought

Question for you: What outfit makes you feel the most like yourself?

And if you missed our first episode, you can watch or listen here:

One of my favorite parts of publishing 40 and Giving Zero F’s is the conversations that happen afterward—especially with my friend Kathleen, who somehow manages to disagree with me on all the best topics. So we decided to hit record.

In our first episode, we tackle rules and restrictions: why I instinctively push back against them, why Kathleen thrives with structure, and what we can learn from approaching life differently.

Let us know what you think—and what topic we should debate next.

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We also talked about what we’re both building on Substack — from feminine-energy challenges and mentorship to my very serious long-term vision of “Zero F’s retreats” in places that absolutely must involve wine. If you’ve ever felt stuck on autopilot, “too busy” to do the things you want, or like midlife is supposed to be smaller… this conversation is your permission slip to think bigger (and have more fun doing it).

Thank you Nat Sang, Kiran Singh, The Nazarite, and many others for tuning into my live video with Csilla 🌹 Feminine in midlife 💃! Join me for my next live video in the app.