You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties

* Wips

* Regina Starr

* The Voice of the Voiceless, the incomparable Trisha Cheeks

💭 Ep. 4 Summary

Cultivating intersectional community — what are the events that make actionable items come to fruition?

* How are people being held accountable?

* What is community, and can one cultivate community without inclusivity?

* What is a community to you?

* How do some bad actors and agents of chaos impact the larger work?

* Are there some things preventing people from moving forward?

* What is the adversity from one group to another?

🧆 The Hot Line

🤓 Sources

Definitions (via the marvel of all words, Merriam-Webster)

* Community

* Intersectionality

* Intersectional Feminism

* 3rd Wave feminism

* Attitude

* Weaponizing

* Discernment

* Intentionality

Talking points

* Staying 10 toes down on what your actions

* What does authentic intersectionality mean to the audience/listener/viewer?

Blog/Article References

* The Power of Community: Why It Matters for Black Women

* Black Women: A History of Creating Our Own Spaces by Amalfi Parker Elder, Esq. and Patrice Tillery

* The Culture Shelf: Black Women Taught Us - A conversation with Jenn M. Smith, PhD

* African American women and social equality, K. Sue Jewell

* Black Women Been Knew: Understanding Intersectionality to Advance Justice by Brandi Blessett

🎶 Ep. 3 Playlist

This would normally be a part of the program where we post a custom-built playlist created by the Hotties, however, we were all about girlfriends and community and found family this week, that we decided to say “f**k it,” and bogart the smash 1995 soundtrack of the movie, identically-titled Waiting to Exhale.

You cannot beat this soundtrack and this iconic video by the late Whitney Houston. IDK a millennial woman who hasn’t fantasized about having this tight of a shot during a bedroom music video shoot for a song you’re also the star of a movie of. Like, come on, now.

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again: Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties

* Morticia Black

* Regina Starr

* Wips

* “The Voice of the Voiceless” Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle)

💭 Ep. 3 Summary

From alphas, cinnamon rolls, and slutty golden retrievers and all that’s in between - we all have our faves. What fictional characters make up the “ideal” book bae? Why do we love (to hate) them the way we do?

🧆 The Hot Line

🤓 Sources

* Mini guide for sexual terms and acronyms in Erotic Books for clueless pandas

* A Deep Dive Into Our Favorite Romance Novel Tropes

* 129 Romance Tropes We Love And Love To Hate

* What is with all these acronyms? HEA? STL? What do they mean?

* BDSM & Kink Roles & Terms

* What is a Romance Trope — A Guide to Romantic Storylines

* Hooks vs Tropes: What’s the Difference?

* Your Complete Guide to Romance Tropes

* How To Understand Dark Romance Trigger Warnings

* How Romance, Romantasy, and “Smut” Took Over Publishing and Entertainment: A Statistical Analysis

🤓 Research & Trend(s)

* TikTok(BookTok) and Instagram (Bookstagram) challenges, memes/gifs (Boyfriend “lean” challenge, Internet boyfriend —James Tang)

* Story scene re-enactments

* Fan made videos/skits

* BookTok rankings (using popular sound trends, ie., “Dancing/Dance(?) Moms”)

* James Tang - A TCK (Third Culture Kid) and actor who quickly became one of the most popular TikTok/Twitch content creators from this trend. Known for making popular/current BookTok videos as well as original “internet boyfriend” skits.

* Thirst trap trends blending reality from the escapism.

🎓 Impact

Consumer sales (articles on stats/demographics about book sales) and Cultural (cliches and clashes), Societal norms and challenges

* Heated rivalries (lol) arose between die hard readers and new readers

* Blatant privilege on display by a well-known publishing company (QUINN), offering massive deals to TikTokers (ie., receiving a six-figure book deal - without having a single word written, flying out “key” TikTok influencers to extravagant events with no clear plan/research being conducted - just coasting on the algorithm and “vibes” in hopes of drawing in readers)

* Influencers being called out for supporting problematic authors and thinly veiled biases toward marginalized groups (the “I can’t/couldn’t relate to this…” and “I didn’t understand why they were included…” bunch)

* How Romance, Romantasy, and “Smut” Took Over Publishing and Entertainment: A Statistical Analysis

💭 Idealizations (Expectations and Escapism)

How they can lead to unhealthy thoughts, parasocial activity, and toxicity within the communities

* Fawning over “perfect” book characters that sometimes causes readers to question and/or become unhappy in their own real-life relationships.

* Becoming obsessed with the fictional world that they’ve “escaped” into, going as far as to threaten the author(s) who wrote the story and/or other readers who may critique the story.

* Consumer safety (content/trigger warnings, spreading of gossip/misinformation. deepfakes/AI content/sources and that promote harmful/negative views/situations, unsafe environments (spaces that prey on unknowing readers to take advantage of them mentally/emotionally, financially, physically, etc.).

* Predatory behavior (how to spot/recognize/address this behavior and make others aware of it happening in a safe way).

Spaces like this are also bad for business! And if they continue to spread, not only do readers lose access to good stories, authors are forced to choose between creating/writing or earning a living (which means less books are produced). - Wips

We all share this space and have an ethical/moral obligation to protect it in order to continue to enjoy/connect with everyone in this reading space. - Wips

The foolishness/fuckshit you allow in your space is exactly how you’ll lose it. - Wips

Why are characters surprised when they get pregnant? Like, they be so surprised and nary a condom has been introduced. All sorts of fun locations and positions, tho. Perhaps the yearning is the condom. — Trisha Cheeks in a group chat.

(how annoying is Luke Bateman’s book deal?, Ben Mercer, Jun 03, 2025)

“Bateman started a TikTok account, quickly secured a book deal and his debut is meant to arrive in about 18 months time. It’s very fast as book release dates go, which is a feat given the machinery that needs to crank into gear, but it also suggests there may be some behind the scenes shenanigans and planning that we are not privy to. The fact that it feels so organised is in itself interesting and it’s this that’s resulted in a firestorm of negative publicity on the platform where Bateman’s audience exists.

The whole thing has almost gone too smoothly so along with a sense of unfairness, the audience have a lingering feeling, rightly or wrongly, that they’ve been manipulated. That’s not good.”

🗣️ Define Book Boy/Girlfriend/Theyfriend

A “book boyfriend” is a fictional male character from a romance novel or fantasy series who readers fall deeply in love with. (Maheshwari Raj. Love in the Margins: Inside the Book Boyfriend Obsession, Jun 28, 2025)

(Seven reasons why book boyfriends are just better, Anna Martin, Feb 2, 2024)

* They’re Way More Calming

* You Don’t Have to Go Out to Date

🗣️ Boy/Girl/TheyFriend Checklist (Individual Results Will Vary, lol)

(Bookcase and Coffee Podcast, Ep. 50, Book Boyfriend Checklist with Duchess Katie & Lady Sadie)

☀️ When should you, as a reader, step away from the book bae fantasy?

(Romance Books: Comfort Reads or Unrealistic Expectations, OG’s Soapbox, Aug 13, 2025) “Are romance books giving me comfort, or are they making me have an unrealistic view of what love should look like?”

📚 WBQC Booklist

Here is a list of books mentioned on this episode — and some others we wanted to talk about, but you know, hilarity ensues. Have any faves you want to share? Name them in the comments below ⬇️

* Any and everything written by Kennedy Ryan

* Any and everything written by Tia Williams

* This Ends Here by LM Juniper

* Outdrawn by Deanna Grey

* Terms and Conditions by Lauren Asher (Dreamland Billionaires trilogy)

* The Brown Sisters series by Talia Hibbert

* Cozy Latin Billionaires series Leonar Soliz

* A Girl Like Her by Talia Hibbert

* Morning Glory Milking Farm by CM Nascosta

* Ice Planet Barbarians series by Ruby Dixon

* Accidents Happen series by Jessica Cage

* A Chaos series by Keta Kendrick

* Princes of Sin series by Kerri Maniscalco

* The Mead Mishaps series by Kimberly Lemming

* Elevator Pitch by Evelyn Leigh

* The Re-Do List by Denise Williams

* Just Our Luck by Denise William

* Flirty Little Secret by Jessica Lepe

* Margo’s Got Money Troubles by Rufi Thorpe

* American Royalty by Tracey Livesay

* The Duchess Effect by Tracey Livesay

* Only for the Week by Natasha Bishop

* Tastes Like Shakkar by Nisha Sharma (If Shakespeare was an Auntie Trilogy)

* Dating Dr. Dil by Nisha Sharma (If Shakespeare was an Auntie Trilogy)

* Pride and Protest by Nikki Payne (Jane Austen retelling)

* Sex, Lies, and Sensibility by Nikki Payne (Jane Austen retelling)

* The Curve Series by Danielle Allen

* Curvy Girl Summer

* Plus Size Player

* Big Girl Blitz

* The Love Con by Seressia Glass

* Better Than Fiction by Alexa Martin

🗣️: Word of the Day

Áilleánach (Irish)

* Definition: Described as an Irish term for an “attractive and yet useless man.”

* Pronunciation: Often described as phonetically similar to “Allenwrench.”

* Context: It is a noun, with the genitive form na n-áilleánach.

🎶 Ep. 3 Playlist

😈 NSFW Meme of the Week

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties

* Doc Dubs

* Wips

* The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle)

Ep. 1 Summary

We’re back, baby! We’re just getting comfortable this episode, but we’ll have more structured shows coming up.

Ep. 1 Playlist

✌🏾Be good or be good at it, hotties.

Check out all of our past episodes on the following platforms:

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties

* Doc Dubs

* Mars (for the first time, and won’t be the last)

* Regina Starr

* Wips

* Summ’ah

* The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle)

🧐 Ep. 12 — Summarized

When starting this podcast, we had a few objectives: First, we loved the energy of the description. It is vivid, specific, and immediately establishes a “for us, by us” intimacy that is crucial in the erotica and kink space. The phrasing “We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off” is a fantastic hook; it sets a boundary and an invitation simultaneously.

In this episode, we don’t want to call this a “State of the Union,” per se, but as a review of what we’ve learned, enjoyed, hits and misses in our journeys through the fun, yet often turbulent audio erotica community.

Speaking of community, that was one reason this podcast started and something The Hotties mention often in this episode. We truly cherish the friendships and connections we’ve made, especially with one another. No one should feel alone unless they want to BE ALONE.

We’ve learned a lot about ourselves as individual and confirmed a lot of what we already knew (E.G., the titles of this season’s episodes), and hope that the listeners of this showcast have learned alongside with us.

And don’t you worry — we WILL be back in 2026. Have episode ideas for us to add to the queue? Guests you want us to talk to drop us a line here.

🎶 Ep. 12 Playlist

We weren’t going to leave y’all without any tunes!

🤬 NSFW Meme to Send You Off With

✌🏾Be good or be good at it, hotties.

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table — a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

👩🏾‍🦱 This Episode’s Hotties

* Doc Dubs

* Regina Starr

* Wips

* Summ’ah

* The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle)

📚Ep. 11 in Words

* Key Takeaways

* Summarize the main points: The history of chart segregation is the blueprint for today’s market. Taylor Swift’s dominance is enabled by systemic White gatekeeping. Pop is protected; R&B must innovate.

* The Hotties’ Final Word

* What is the solution? Is it to create our own systems, or to force integration? Why must we always fight for our place at a table built for someone else?

The Hotties’ Final Word: What is the solution? Is it to create our own systems, or to force integration? Why must we always fight for our place at a table built for someone else?

* The Set-Up: Start with the latest bland offering from the pop culture billionaire (Taylor Swift’s recent moves/news cycle) and pivot to the larger discussion.

* The Thesis: This episode is about the systemic protections afforded to White women in pop culture, specifically in music, but also books and audio erotica/porn.

* The Question: Why does Taylor Swift get to be every woman and occupy the cultural center, while Black artists who are her true competitors are marginalized? It’s about more than just personal taste; it’s about the mechanics of genre, charting, and White cultural gatekeeping.

✨ICYMI — Check out Ep. 9 for more on this topic

✨ The Cultural Key & Blue-Eyed Soul

* The Central Argument: Taylor Swift, Justin Bieber, Justin Timberlake, and Sam Smith cannot make R&B music because key cultural components of the genre are missing.

* Discuss the difference between technical musical proficiency and cultural lineage and experience. R&B is rooted in Black American social history, church music, and vocal traditions — it’s a cultural language.

* Define/Discuss “Blue-Eyed Soul”: It’s a term of convenience that allows non-Black artists to profit from Black musical forms with and without appreciation (cite specific examples if desired, briefly).

Chart Dominance vs. Pigeonholing

* The Systemic Advantage: Taylor Swift gets to dominate the all-encompassing “Pop” chart because her true Black competitors are systematically relegated to the “R&B” or “Hip-Hop” charts.

* The Hotties’ Take: Discuss how Pop is often a “White default” genre, while R&B is a “Black default” genre, regardless of the music’s actual sound.

* Data Insight (Use Concrete Numbers): Briefly mention the racial disparity in the Hot 100 vs. R&B/Hip-Hop Airplay charts. Example (Hypothetical but based on trends): While Black artists consistently dominate R&B/Hip-Hop charts, they often account for less than $10 of the top $10 positions on the mainstream Hot 100 chart in certain periods, showing a clear ceiling for crossover success unless it’s a massive, undeniable hit.

* The Growth Requirement

* The Double Standard: Discuss the observation: “No growth is required for pop, but growth is required for R&B.”

* Pop’s Goal (Taylor): To maintain mass appeal, often by adhering to a familiar, accessible formula. Success is measured by sameness and scale.

* R&B’s Standard (Black Artists): The genre is often held to a standard of innovation, vocal agility, and deep emotional resonance. Growth is required just to exist at a high level. If Black artists simply make “Pop,” they are still called “R&B” or “Urban Pop,” further restricting their market reach.

⚪️ White Fragility and the Cult of Taylor

* The Narrative Protection

* Discuss how the media creates a protective narrative around Taylor Swift. She is always framed as the underdog, the victim, or the “girl next door” despite being one of the most powerful people in the industry.

* The Fragility: Any criticism of Taylor Swift is met with a fervent, often aggressive defense from her (primarily White) fan base and media allies. This is an example of White fragility manifesting in pop culture — the inability to accept criticism about a White cultural icon because it challenges the comfortable status quo.

* The “Everywoman” Myth

* She is branded as relatable, but only within a very narrow, affluent, White, and heteronormative scope.

* The Hotties’ Take: Break down why Taylor Swift is not “every woman” (e.g., her access to generational wealth, her systemic protection, her specific experiences do not translate to the experiences of Black women or other marginalized groups).

* Discuss how the relentless push to frame her as “every woman” actively erases the experiences of non-White women whose lives are far more complex and politically charged.

* The Cultural Vacuum in Audio/Visual Media

* Expanding the Theme: Briefly connect this systemic protection to books, audio erotica, and porn.

* Discuss how White women often dominate these spaces (especially in high-profile publishing or major platforms) even when the themes or genres are derivative or lack true depth, similar to the dominance of Taylor’s “bland offering.”

* Question for the Table: Who are the Black women who are pushed out of or ghettoized in these spaces (e.g., in Romance, Sci-Fi, Erotica)?

🎶 Ep. 11 Playlist

Here’s a list of tasty jams that have better songwriting chops:

📚 Resources for: Taylor Swift is Not Every Woman

I. The History of Chart Segregation & The Genre Cage

These articles provide essential context on the “Race Records” era and the systemic boxing of Black artists.

* Article: “For Coloreds Only: Blackface and Segregation in the Billboard Charts and the GRAMMY Awards”

* Why it’s useful: This academic-level piece directly connects the formation of racial categories in music (Rock/Country for White, R&B for Black) to the legacy of minstrelsy and Jim Crow, demonstrating that the charts were never “separate but equal.”

* Link: (Search for the title on Google, as it’s an academic paper often hosted by university libraries.)

* Article: “Race record” (Wikipedia)

* Why it’s useful: A concise historical overview that confirms the timeline and terminology: “Harlem Hit Parade” $\rightarrow$ “Race Records” (1945) $\rightarrow$ “Rhythm & Blues Records” (1949, coined by Jerry Wexler). It verifies the name Ralph Peer as an influential white executive/DJ in early “Race Records” marketing.

* Article: “The Development of National Record Charts”

* Why it’s useful: Provides granular details on how Billboard separated its charts, confirming that the initial “Hit Parade” was a “mainstream (that is, white)” list, and the segregated charts were only a secondary measure of popularity.

📚 Taylor, Cultural Appropriation, and Chart Dominance

These resources provide a modern critique of Taylor Swift’s “neutrality” and the ongoing issue of white artists co-opting Black genres.

* Article: Taylor Swift and the Death of White Feminism

* Why it’s useful: This article’s title directly addresses your theme of Taylor Swift not being “every woman” by framing her as the ultimate symbol of White Feminism. It argues that her brand of activism is selective, self-serving, and centers her personal interests (like the master’s dispute) above systemic issues. This directly relates to segments on White Fragility and the “Everywoman” Myth, suggesting that her overwhelming success has led to a cultural moment where a more intersectional or critical feminism dies under the weight of her highly protected, commercially successful, but ultimately narrow, white narrative.

* Article: “I’ve Never Heard Silence Quite this Loud”: The Complexity of Taylor Swift’s Neutral Star Text

* Why it’s useful: This paper argues that Swift’s dominance is partly achieved through a “neutral star image” that is widely palatable and allows disparate, even antithetical, fanbases (e.g., alt-right/queer women) to claim her. This supports your point that she is a blank slate onto which “every woman” can project, actively making her more marketable than complex Black peers.

* Article: “FADE TO WHITE: Black Music, White Artists=Big Money” (EBONY Magazine)

* Why it’s useful: Discusses the history of “blue-eyed soul” and cultural smudging, referencing Justin Timberlake and Justin Bieber being “co-signed” by Black producers (Timbaland, Usher), creating “complications for the Black community.” This perfectly backs your “Cultural Key” and R&B discussion.

* Article: “When victimhood becomes a brand: Dissecting the racial undertones in Taylor Swift’s...” (Missing Perspectives)

* Why it’s useful: Directly critiques Swift’s use of racialized language (e.g., “bad bitches,” “savage”) and her tendency to “play the underdog” despite her immense power, supporting your argument about the “Victimhood Brand” and White Protection.

* Article: “Some white artists, like Elvis, exploit Black culture. So celebrate Bobby Caldwell, who enriched it” (The Guardian)

* Why it’s useful: This contrasts an “exploiter” (Elvis) with an “integrator” (Bobby Caldwell, a white artist who concealed his race to succeed in R&B). This offers a clear definition for the hosts to use when distinguishing between cultural appropriation and cultural enrichment/practice, which directly applies to your R&B vs. Pop segment.

📚 White Fragility in Pop Culture & Criticism

These sources contextualize the concept of “White Fragility” and how it operates in response to criticism of white cultural icons.

* Concept Origin: Robin DiAngelo’s White Fragility

* Why it’s useful: While not pop-specific, understanding DiAngelo’s definition—that White Fragility is the defensive response to minimal racial stress that shuts down conversation—is essential for the segment. Your hosts can use this framework to analyze the Swiftie backlash against criticism.

* Article: “Segregation Under a Groove: Pop Music’s Unspoken Colour Lines”

* Why it’s useful: Argues that newer pop critics have simply swapped the old biases for new ones: White performers are treated with an “instinctively sympathetic approach,” while criticism of them is often deemed “excessive and unproductive, even anti-feminist.” This perfectly articulates the protection Taylor receives.

* Article: “Why Are They Calling Taylor Swift’s... Racist?” (Dr. Melissa A. Fabello)

* Why it’s useful: This article discusses the “liberal white woman’s ignorance of their own whiteness” and the preference for “order” over justice (citing MLK Jr.), which is a direct mechanism of White Fragility in defending Swift’s supposed innocence.

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Anyway, this topic is right on time, apparently. We talk about ADHD and navigating the world as a neurodivergent Black woman with our neurotypical friends.

Thank the Black Jesus that I already prepped this blog. Enjoy.

— The Tizzle

TW: The Hotties discuss for the listeners the following: sexual content, police/state violence discussion, and the presence of explicit anecdotes. We also discuss peer reviewed studies and medical definitions. We are not doctors, but we do suggest therapy. Listener discretion is advised.

You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We’re not here to compromise our truths — we’re here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

🤵🏾‍♀️This Episode’s Hotties

* Doc Dubs

* Regina Starr

* The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle)

📖 Definitions and Key Words

Hypersexuality is generally defined as a pattern of excessive, persistent, or distressing sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that interfere with daily life, relationships, or overall well-being.

Social Links:

* Hypersexuality vs. Hyposexuality in Austim

* What do Autistic Meltdowns Look Like in Black Women

* Black Women Are the Only Women Who Are Intersectional

* Tips for Neurodivergent Black Women

Here are some nuances from different sources:

* Psychiatric/Psychological Lens: The American Psychiatric Association does not officially recognize “hypersexual disorder” in the DSM-5, but it has been described in clinical research as:

* “Recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, urges, and behaviors that are time-consuming and difficult to control, often continuing despite negative consequences.”

* Medical Lens: In neurology and psychiatry, hypersexuality can also appear as a symptom of certain conditions (e.g., bipolar disorder, frontotemporal dementia) or as a side effect of some medications.

* “An unusually increased or inappropriate preoccupation with sexual thoughts or behaviors.” (Cleveland Clinic)

* Everyday / Cultural Lens: Outside the medical setting, “hypersexual” is often used, sometimes problematically, to describe people (especially women and marginalized folks) who are perceived as having higher-than-average sexual desire or activity, even if it’s not clinically excessive.

So in short:👉 Clinically, hypersexuality = compulsive, disruptive sexual behaviors.

👉 Culturally, hypersexuality = being labeled “too sexual,” often unfairly and based on stereotypes.

🔍 Studies & Articles

1. A Systematic Review of the Relationship Between Neurodiversity and Psychosexual Functioning in Individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) or Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) (Young, Cocallis et al., 2023) (PMC)

What it covers:Look at how neurodivergent people, specifically with ASD or ADHD, experience psychosexual functioning — i.e., orientation, behaviors, experiences — including risk, sexual selfhood, etc. Good source for connecting neurodivergency + sexual behavior/hypersexuality risk.

Pull quotes:

* “The scientific literature on psychosexual functioning shows a range of outcomes for individuals with neurodiversity.” (PMC)

* “...to prioritize further research and identify interventions to reduce risk.” (PMC)

Relevance:Helps with understanding how ADHD/ASD might correlate with hypersexual behavior, or how sexual desire, regulation, and risk differ among neurodivergent people. Might be missing race/demographic breakdowns (i.e., fewer studies specific to Black women).

2. Association of ADHD and Hypersexuality and Paraphilias (Systematic Review) (PubMed)

What it covers:Explores whether ADHD is associated with hypersexuality and paraphilic behaviors. Reviews multiple studies comparing ADHD individuals with non-ADHD individuals, etc.

Pull quotes:

* “Subjects with ADHD suffer from inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. Clinicians often assume that specific symptoms of ADHD are bound to affect sexual desire by increasing the frequency of hypersexuality.” (PubMed)

* “Some individuals who suffer from ADHD report hypersexuality and paraphilias, but no clear data emerged supporting the idea that hypersexuality and paraphilias are more frequent in an ADHD population.” (PubMed)

Relevance:Helps bring nuance: ADHD can correlate with hypersexuality / unusual sexual urges, but causation isn’t well established. This is relevant especially in considering neurodivergent identities and how hypersexuality might be over-pathologized or misunderstood.

3. ADHD prevalence in patients with hypersexuality and paraphilic disorders: a systematic review and meta‐analysis (PubMed)

What it covers:Estimated how common ADHD is among people with hypersexuality or paraphilic disorders.

Pull quotes:

* “The overall estimate of the prevalence of ADHD in patients with hypersexuality or paraphilic disorders was 22.6% (95% interval: 17-29.4) with high heterogeneity (I² = 63%).” (PubMed)

* “No significant difference in ADHD prevalence between the following subgroups: hypersexuality vs. paraphilic disorders, studies exploring the history of childhood ADHD vs. adult ADHD, US studies vs. others.” (PubMed)

Relevance:Shows that ADHD is relatively common among people with hypersexuality/paraphilias, though “common” doesn’t mean universal, and designs/methods vary. Helpful in exploring the neurodivergent context for hypersexuality.

4. Investigating the Associations Of Adult ADHD Symptoms, Hypersexuality, and Problematic Pornography Use Among Men and Women on a Large-scale, Non-Clinical Sample (PubMed)

What it covers:Looks at how ADHD symptoms relate to hypersexuality and problematic pornography use (PPU), comparing men and women in a large, non-clinical sample (~14,000 people).

Pull quotes:

* “Results indicated that hypersexuality had a positive and moderate association with problematic pornography use among women … and a positive and strong association among men.” (PubMed)

* “ADHD symptoms had positive and moderate associations with hypersexuality in both men and women …” (PubMed)

Relevance:Shows gendered differences: while ADHD correlates with hypersexuality in both sexes, the relationship with PPU is weaker for women. Could be useful when talking about Black women + neurodivergent + hypersexuality: perhaps women face additional layers (stigma, underreporting, fewer resources) that impact risk expression.

5. Hypersexuality in neurological disorders: A systematic review (PubMed)

What it covers: Examines hypersexuality in the context of neurological disorders (e.g., Parkinson’s, dementia, etc.) rather than developmental neurodivergence, but informative for how brain/neurology impacts sexual behavior when regulation, impulse control, etc., are affected.

Pull quotes:

* “Hypersexuality (HS) accompanying neurological conditions remains poorly characterized despite profound psychosocial impacts.” (PubMed)

* “HS was defined as a condition characterized by excessive and persistent preoccupation with sexual thoughts, urges, and behaviors that cause significant distress or impairment in personal, social, or occupational functioning.” (PubMed)

Relevance:While not specific to Black women, this helps with understanding definitions, criteria, and what “hypersexuality” means in clinical/research settings (distress, impairment).

6. An investigation of Jezebel stereotype awareness, gendered racial identity, and sexual beliefs and behaviours among Black adult women (Taylor & Francis Online)

What it covers:Looks at how awareness of the “Jezebel” stereotype (a hypersexual stereotype applied to Black women) interacts with gendered racial identity beliefs and influences sexual beliefs/behaviors (sexual assertiveness, satisfaction, guilt, relational attachment). Good for the intersection of Black women + stereotype/hypersexual narratives.

Pull quotes:

* “Black women who felt more positively connected to their Black woman identity reported greater sexual assertiveness and satisfaction.” (Taylor & Francis Online)

* “More awareness of the Jezebel stereotype was associated with higher sexual guilt and attachment avoidance.” (Taylor & Francis Online)

Relevance:Very directly relevant. Helps ground discussion about how societal stereotypes contribute to sexual self-image, shame, and behavior among Black women. Connect this to neurodivergency by considering whether neurodivergent Black women might have heightened vulnerability or different responses to these stereotypes.

7. Race-Based Sexual Stereotypes, Gendered Racism, and Sexual Decision Making Among Young Black Cisgender Women (PMC)

What it covers:Focuses on young Black women (18-25), exploring how racialized sexual stereotypes and experiences of gendered racism shape sexual decision-making: safer sex, partner selection, empowerment, etc.

Pull quotes:

* “Due to their intersecting racial identity and gender identity, Black women are characterized by stigmatizing race-based sexual stereotypes (RBSS) that may contribute to persistent, disproportionately high rates of adverse sexual and reproductive health outcomes.” (PMC)

* “Participants reported that RBSS may lead Black women to be resistant to learning new information about safer sex practices, feeling less empowered in the sexual decision making …” (PMC)

Relevance:Bridges stereotype + behavioral impact. Though not explicitly about neurodivergence, the overlap is rich: how marginalized identities (race, gender, disability/neurodivergence) might amplify negative outcomes or internalized shame.

🔦 Key Relevant Sources & Quotes

1. Sisters Doing It for Themselves: When Neurodivergence, Disability, and Race Collide

(Wiley, forthcoming / “in press” article or case study)

* This paper is among the few that attempt to situate culturally specific consistencies when “[d]isabled or neurodivergent Black women graduate” students exist in academe. (Wiley Online Library)

* Excerpt: “The case study appearing in this paper will highlight culturally specific consistencies that disabled or neurodivergent Black women graduate …” (Wiley Online Library)

* Utility / Limitations:

* Useful in framing how neurodivergent Black women navigate institutional spaces.

* Doesn’t (as far as the abstract or visible preview suggests) deeply tackle sexuality/hypersexuality, so you may need to extrapolate or connect to other sources on sexual experience.

2. The Gendered, Racialized, & Dis/Abled Experiences of Black Women Graduate Students

* This is an unpublished thesis (or internal university research) focusing on Black women in graduate school who identify as disabled or neurodivergent. (ScholarWorks UMass)

* Excerpt: “Black women graduate students with disabilities, specifically those identifying as neurodivergent, are barely visible in contemporary research.” (ScholarWorks UMass)

* Utility / Limitations:

* Good for building an argument around invisibility, under-representation, and the structural marginalization of neurodivergent Black women.

* Does not appear, from what’s visible, to directly address hypersexuality or sexual identity/desire.

3. An Investigation of Jezebel Stereotype Awareness, Gendered Racial Identity, and Sexual Beliefs and Behaviours among Black Adult Women (Leath et al., 2022)

* While not neurodivergence-specific, this is one of the strongest pieces on hypersexual stereotypes and the internal dynamics among Black women. (PubMed)

* Excerpts:- “Black women who felt more positively connected to their Black woman identity reported greater sexual assertiveness and satisfaction.” (PubMed)- “More awareness of the Jezebel stereotype was associated with higher sexual guilt and attachment avoidance.” (PubMed)- “Evidence suggests that the intersectional nature of Black women’s race and gender identities influences their awareness of sexual scripts such as the hypersexual, Jezebel stereotype.” (PubMed)

* Utility / Limitations:

* Very helpful for discussing how hypersexual stereotypes (like the “Jezebel”) operate psychologically, socially, and relationally for Black women.

* Doesn’t engage neurodivergence explicitly, so you’ll need to synthesize or juxtapose with neurodivergent sexuality literature.

4. A Content Analysis of Black Women’s Sexuality Research (Hargons et al., 2020)

* This is a more meta/review-level analysis of how Black women’s sexuality is represented and conceptualized in scholarly work. (PMC)

* Excerpt: “Regardless of depictions related to Black women’s hypersexuality, research often suggests they are void of sexual pleasure and satisfaction, which may reflect …” (PMC)

* Utility/Limitations:

* Very useful critique: it helps you name the “holes” in how Black women’s sexuality is (mis)represented, which you can contrast with neurodivergent sexual experience.

* Doesn’t focus on neurodivergent identity or hypersexuality per se.

5. Hypersexuality and the Black Woman in the Workplace (Morrow, 2023, capstone/research paper)

* This is not a peer-reviewed journal article (rather, a capstone / qualitative research project), but it explicitly engages Black women + hypersexuality. (hrgradcapstone.oucreate.com)

* Excerpts: - “Black women, as a historically marginalized group, have long endured stereotypes and biases that have infiltrated society … The sexualization and objectification of Black women have been deeply ingrained in popular culture, perpetuating harmful stereotypes that influence their experiences.” (hrgradcapstone.oucreate.com)- “These include decreased self-esteem, increased vulnerability to harassment, limited career opportunities, and hindered professional growth.” (hrgradcapstone.oucreate.com)- “The hypersexualization of Black women can lead to a range of negative outcomes …” (hrgradcapstone.oucreate.com)

* Utility/Limitations:

* Strong for your conversation around how hypersexual stereotypes impact Black women in a professional setting.

* Doesn’t incorporate neurodivergence, so bridging work will be needed.

6. Examining the Mental Health Symptoms of Neurodivergent Persons Across Social Identities

* This article examines how various social identities (race, gender, etc.) interact with neurodivergence, though not narrowly focused on sexuality. (PMC)

* Excerpt: “This study seeks to fill this gap by examining how various social identities interact with neurodivergence to mediate mental health symptoms.” (PMC)

* Utility / Limitations:

* Helps you frame a broader intersectional lens: e.g., neurodivergent Black women may experience mental health differently because of layered marginalization.

* Does not engage in sexual behavior specifically, so it’s more supporting than central to your episode theme.

7. Sexual Minority Identities in Autistic Adults: Diversity and Well-Being (McQuaid et al.)

* This examines sexuality among autistic adults, including non-heterosexual identities, though not specifically by race or gender. (PMC)

* Excerpt: “Sexual minority autistic adults reported poorer mental health and lower subjective QoL across all assessed domains relative to heterosexual autistic adults.” (PMC)

* Utility / Limitations:

* Useful for discussing how neurodivergent people’s sexual identities (beyond normative sexual behaviour) can be a site of vulnerability, difference, or stress.

* Because it lacks a racial breakdown, it doesn’t tell you how Black autistic women fare differently.

🧭 Observations, Interpretations & Gaps

* Sparse direct overlap: Despite a plausible need, the literature rarely examines all three axes (Black women + hypersexuality + neurodivergence) in a single empirical study. Most work treats two at a time (e.g., Black women & hypersexuality, or neurodivergence & sexuality).

* Emphasis on stereotypes/representation: Much of the work on Black women and hypersexuality is concerned with how the “Jezebel” stereotype, objectification, and cultural sexual scripts shape behavior, shame, and identity (e.g., Leath et al., Hargons et al.). These provide a robust foundation for exploring how a neurodivergent sexual experience might be interpreted or misinterpreted in a Black female body.

* Invisibility of neurodivergent Black women: Many sources note that Black women with neurodivergent identities are underdiagnosed or overlooked (e.g., the thesis from Stephens, “Examining mental health symptoms” article). The result is a dearth of data on how they navigate sexual desire, dysregulation, or hypersexuality specifically.

* Need for qualitative or narrative work: Given the lack of quantitative studies, narratives, case studies, and qualitative research may be your richest terrain for centering lived experience. (The Sisters Doing It for Themselves case study is promising in this regard.)

* Bridging theories: To fill the gap, you’ll likely need to draw upon:

* Black feminist theory (on sexual scripts, controlling images)

* Neurodivergence/sexuality scholarship (on how autism, ADHD, impulsivity, and sensory needs affect sexual behavior)

* Intersectionality theory to navigate the interplay among race, gender, and neurological difference

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

Ep. 9: I’m Grown and I Do What I Want: Policing Black Bodies and Sexualities and How We Fight Back

🤵🏾‍♀️This Episode’s Hotties

* ✨Special Guest: Theo

* Morticia Black

* Wips

* Super Sexy Spy

* Doc Dubs

* Summ’ah

* The Artist Formerly Known as Trisha Cheeks (aka The Tizzle)

📝 Show Segments

* Policing Black Bodies and Sexualities and How We Fight Back

* 🆕 The Sports Report

* Here Me Out

📣 Shout out to: Ellie The Elephant

➡️ Following the Leaders

Theo advices to come correct when you’re following their socials (check this out first):

* Instagram

* Patreon

🍛 The Menu

Black people's sexualities are policed by state media and online norms. And so we wanted to talk about how we navigate that, especially people like us who are probably just now getting really comfortable exploring our sexualities and our bodies and our willingness to put our desires and thoughts out there, particularly as creators of erotica or writers and things like that.

The Hotties have pulled recent scholarship, essays, and policy briefs that help explain how the policing of Black femmes has operated across history, law, digital culture, and policy. Below are concise citations you can paste into your episode notes.

* Dorothy Roberts — Killing the Black Body: Race, Reproduction, and the Meaning of Liberty (classic foundational text on reproductive and sexual policing of Black women). PenguinRandomhouse.com

* Brill / recent article — “Policing Black Femininity Through Unsolicited Digital Advice” — study on how unsolicited advice in digital spaces operates as a form of gendered racial policing (2025). Useful for the social-media policing angle. Brill

* SAGE journal article — “How Policing Black Women's Bodies Built the Modern City” — recent scholarship connecting sexual policing to institutional policing and urban governance. Good for historical → institutional framing. SAGE Journals

* AAIHS / essay — “The Sexual Criminalization of Black Women” — overview of criminalization patterns and their historical roots; helpful for the law & policy discussion. AAIHS

* Policy brief — “PROJECT 2025: The Impact on Black Women” (Black RJ / 2024) — short brief analyzing how certain policy proposals threaten bodily autonomy and gender/sexuality rights; useful for discussing present-day legislative threats. blackrj.org

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

Ep. 8: A Quote From Jill Scott: “If You Can Tell Me What To Do, You Can Tell Me What To Do.”

Episode 8’s hotties:

* Morticia Black

* Wips

* The Infamous Trisha Cheeks

Alright y’all, today we’re kicking this thing off with some gospel from Miss Jill Scott herself. You ready? Listen close:

“The biggest pointer for a man dealing with me is — you have to treat me like a person, number one. And number two, you have to treat me like a lady. But here’s the twist: we’ve also got to be friends. I’ve got to be your lady, but I’ve also got to be your boy. We need to watch football together and hang out. The hardest thing? Just be a man’s friend. Don’t be scared of me. And here’s the rule I live by: if you can tell me what to do, then you can tell me what to do. But if you can’t tell me what to do, you can’t tell me what to do.”

Whew! The accuracy? The precision? The boundaries just jumped out!

And she didn’t stop there. Scott said, “Treat me like a person, treat me like a lady… but also be my boy. Watch football with me. Hang out with me. Don’t be scared of me. If you’re scared, this ain’t gonna work.”

And the best part? She said this after a man tried to holla at her in the fruit aisle at Whole Foods — unbothered, confident, and respectful. That’s the vibe.

In this episode, we’re unpacking all of it: friendship in romance, confidence, and what real submission in intimate relationships looks like — especially for women who know exactly who they are.

Plus, you know we’ve got Hear Me Out, Tenderoni of the Week, and our WBQC Book Club. It’s gonna be a ride.

Let’s get into it.

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

Ep. 7: The “Sinners” Round Table

Unless you’ve been living under a rock or just don’t like culture and good movies, Sinners, directed by Ryan Coogler and starring Michael B. Jordan and a terrific ensamble, follows a set of twins who had left the their home in the Mississippi Delta to Chicago, and return home a few year later, with money to spend in their pocket and dreams of their own juke joint.

The brothers reunite with friends and past lovers, and meet the wrong end of a vampiric insurgence.

The film, now streaming on HBO Max, is a must-watch, but it brings about more than the gauzy, sexy gaze that we often find when encountering bloodsuckers. Coogler’s film depicts the history and the richness of southern Mississippi, and how people of different races interact, and how Black people had to hold their own in 1930s Deep South.

And by the end of this episode, you’ll learn all of the reasons Morticia Black is asking everyone to not be “a problematic bitch.” 🤗

🎶 Ep. 7 Spotify Playlist

If you wanted sultry vibes, we have them for you right here.

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😈 Don’t Meme Us…

We’re just here to share Doc Dubs’ latest meme-worthy post from our Instagram. Here’s a sampling:

Which is your fave? Share and tag @wbqc_ & @blackqueengressionalcaucus in your Instagram stories. 🤳🏾

😈 NSFW Meme of the Week

Oh, come on, we were all thinking it. 😉

Aaaaaaand one more for the road 💋

And shout out to the almighty Outkast for these bars:

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Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

DISCLAIMER: If you haven’t listened to part 1, click here now!

Ep. 6, Pt. 2: The WBQC Audio Erotica Scriptwriters & Voice Actor Round Table Post Show

This episode’s Hotties:

* Rainbow Brite (debut episode!)

* Madame Camille Cocoa

* Wips

* Summ’ah

* The Infamous Trisha Cheeks

Dr. Dubs, who could not join us this week, was so jealous after listening to the edited version of the show, she made memes for your pleasure and hers (her pleasure is always first).

🎶 Ep. 6 Spotify Playlist

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🧐 Tenderoni FAQ

If you’re new to the program, we want to help bring words you may not know that The Hotties will use so you’re not lost in the sauce:

Per Urban Dictionary:

Tenderoni, n., a younger love interest (not illegal, OBVIOUSLY, but younger than you; E.G., FMC is 37, MMC is 34, technically, he’s a tenderoni, in comparison.

Source is from African American Vernacular English (AAVE) and was popularized in pop culture during the 1980’s thanks to songs by Bobby Brown and Michael Jackson.

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Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

Ep. 6, Pt. 1: The WBQC Audio Erotica Scriptwriters & Voice Actor Round Table

Welcome to the inaugural WBQC Audio Erotica Round Table where the Infamous Trisha Cheeks will interview scriptwriters and performers across the space to discuss their work, the love of the audio erotica game, what motivates them and so much more.

The first conversation is going to be a tough act to follow — this week, we have:

* Goddess Menace Gaia

* Carrie Reads Romance

* Billy Yandere Cyrus

* https://billyyandereva.carrd.co/

You can find links to their work in the links in their bios over on Instagram.

Things we discussed:

* What “yandere” means? ← the hotties explain.

* The need for more femboy audios (eyeliner on a begging men — sheesh!)

* Movies that inspire why-choose MMF stories

* How easy it is to be inclusive in your content creation.

* music, books, etc.

* Toys, because why not

* A masterclass in digital/virtual flirting

💚 Billy shared with us how he engages with his Reddit audience to crowdsource inspiration and insights from his listeners.

😍 Things we love: His Juneteenth curated playlist

•DISCLAIMER: Once you’ve finished listening to part 1, click here for part 2.

😈 Randomly On-Topic YouTube Video

🎶 Ep. 6 Spotify Playlist

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Random Bop from the Playlist:

🧐 Tenderoni FAQ

If you’re new to the program, we want to help bring words you may not know that The Hotties will use so you’re not lost in the sauce:

Per Urban Dictionary:

Tenderoni, n., a younger love interest (not illegal, but younger than you; E.G., FMC is 37, MMC is 34, technically, he’s a tenderoni, in comparison.

Source is from African American Vernacular English (AAVE) and was popularized in pop culture during the 1980’s thanks to songs by Bobby Brown and Michael Jackson.

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You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

🎙️ Episode 5: We are discussing the elephant in the room, parasocial relationships.

This might seem like a buzzword at this point or like something that’s been normalized, but the hotties would like to talk you through what it is and how we can combat that. Let's get into it, but before we do, let’s meet today’s Hotties.

* Dr. Dubs

* Summ’ah

* The Infamous Trisha Cheeks

Why does this topic matter?

What is a parasocial interaction?

According to Merriam-Webster, a parasocial interaction (or PSI) is a semblance of interpersonal exchange in which members of an audience come to feel that they know a performer they have encountered in mass media (movies, television, social media apps, etc). Over time, PSIs with a performer may lead audience members to develop a parasocial relationship—a one-sided sense of connection with the performer.

* According to Resilience Labs, there a various types of parasocial relationships

* Entertainment—social parasocial relationships: These interactions are often light-hearted and involve a sense of entertainment.

* Intense—personal parasocial relationships: These relationships involve a deeper attachment and may start to affect real-life social interactions.

* Borderline—pathological parasocial relationships: These are the most extreme types of parasocial relationships and can lead to behaviors such as stalking or violence.

Now, here is why we wanted to start this episode with stress statistics. Black women making self-care a priority isn’t selfish and should not be sidelined or maligned — it’s necessary and can be lifesaving.

Ep. 5 Spotify Playlist

Need a break from what’s normally in your headphones? Have no fear: this week’s playlist is a non-stop lofi playlist.

Why lo-fi music? The science is clear, but is if for the times you need to do this:

Missed playlists 1-5? Check them out here.

Resources & Tools

Online Therapy & Support

* Therapy for Black Girls

* Open Path Collective

* Inclusive Therapists

Media Literacy & Mental Health

* Read: “Attached” by Amir Levine (understanding emotional bonds)

* Listen: Where Should We Begin? by Esther Perel

* Watch: Psychology of Parasocial Relationships by Dr. Ali Mattu on YouTube

Apps to Stay Mindful

* Insight Timer (free meditations)

* Moodnotes (for journaling feelings & patterns)

* Circle or Geneva (find mutual-interest communities)

📚 The Unfriendly Black Hotties Book List 📚

Dr. Dubs came back with a vengence as the BQC’s head congressional librarian. Here’s the list for episode 5:

* Only for the Week (2x) by Natasha Bishop

* Ella Get the D by Tanvier Peart

* The Relationship Mechanic by Karmen Lee

* The Broposal by Sonora Reyes

* Outdrawn by Deanna Grey

* Ready to Score by Jodi Slaughter

* Boys Come First by Aaron Foley

* Kiss Me Maybe by Gabriella Gamez

* I’ll Have What He’s Having by Adib Khorram

* Sula by Toni Morrison

* Dating Dr. Dil by Nisha Sharma

* Tastes Like Shakkar by Nisha Sharma

* The Great Man by Kyra Davis Lurie

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Sources for this podcast:

* https://www.findapsychologist.org/parasocial-relationships-the-nature-of-celebrity-fascinations/#:~:text=Parasocial%20relationships%20are%20one-sided,sports%20teams)%20or%20television%20stars

* https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/parasocial-relationships#:~:text=continues%20after%20advertisement-,Healthy%20and%20Unhealthy%20Parasocial%20Relationships,%2C%20in%20fact%2C%20quite%20common

* https://www.resiliencelab.us/thought-lab/parasocial-relationships#:~:text=There%20are%20three%20types%20of,personal%2C%20and%20borderline-pathologicalhttps://theweeklytalon.com/8764/features/when-fans-feel-like-friends-the-psychology-behind-parasocial-connections/#:~:text=Cynthia%20Vinney%2C%20PhD%2C%20defines%20a,persona%20is%20entirely%20unaware%20of

* https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/do-parasocial-relationships-fill-a-loneliness-gap-202409303074#:~:text=They%20might%20contribute%20to%20loneliness,a%20negative%20influence%20on%20you

* https://www.scribd.com/document/612628915/Giles2002-Parasocial-Interaction

* https://www.researchgate.net/publication/273292230_The_Influence_of_a_Scandal_on_Parasocial_Relationship_Parasocial_Interaction_and_Parasocial_Breakup

* https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/19376529.2020.1870467

* https://www.merriam-webster.com/slang/parasocial-interaction

* https://www.npr.org/2023/05/02/1173418268/loneliness-connection-mental-health-dementia-surgeon-general

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* https://www.researchgate.net/search/publication?q=parasocial+and+attachment+styles

* https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/parasocial-relationships-media/

* https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8419286/

You know the gist, but we’ll say it again:

Welcome to the table—a safe, sexy, and unapologetic space where Black joy, creativity, community, and pleasure are always on the menu. The Unfriendly Black Hotties are here to educate & stimulate — and we love using our words to amplify Black voices through bold, unfiltered conversations.

Here at the lunch table, we keep it flavorful, colorful, and always authentic, diving deep into:

* Erotica

* Kink

* Love & Intimacy

* Romance

We're not here to compromise our truths — we're here to get off. So, turn us on. Lunch is served!

Episode 4: The Great Rambleyap, pt. 1

🤎 So, what do you want to talk about?

The Unfriendly Black Hotties decided we wanted to ramble. Thus, The Great RambleYap, Pt. 1 is born!

If you see “Rambleyap” from us, just know this is going to be a conversation full of Black joy, insights, and so many other random shenanigans.

For pt. 1, The Great Rambleyap includes:

* The debut of the WBQC Book Club (reading list here — tell your TBR’s you’re welcome 😉).

* Duo of Duolinguo is going to make sure you do your lessons.

* Were “Goosebumps” and “Animorphs” the start of our monster romance sexual awakenings?

* K-POP 101

* Was Addy from the “American Girls” book series ever reunited with her family?

* Classic SNICK on Nickelodeon

* Have millennial parents forgotten to pass on the love of good music to their kids?

* Our favorite traits as individuals

* Do you remember the all-Black version of Disney’s Pollyanna? Well, we have news.

* Brandy, Trina McGee, and early 2000’s Black hotties who inspired us.

And lots more. So buckle up!

P.S. — This is the reaction we expect after explaining Addy to our liberal white friends:

Episode 4’s Spotify Playlist

You ready for a playlist as random as this discussion, look no further.

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Ep. 3:‘Baby I'm Begging, Baby I'm Begging, Begging Baby’: The Art of the M-Sub

* Main topics

* Explanation of submissive and dominant roles in relationships

* What does submission mean? Per “Playing Well with Others” by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams, submission means “the act of ceding control.”

* What does “submissive” mean?

* Per the same text, it’s defined in 2 ways:

* 1.) as an adj. “The quality of ceding authority or influence.”

* 2.) as a noun: “An individual who surrenders control in a power exchange dynamic.”

* Why this topic matters

* We’re seeing submissive tropes throughout pop culture — ESPECIALLY with the long-running BookTok craze.

* We see these trends being mimicked in audio erotica, with tags referring to booktok or something likely to trigger an “oooooooh!” to those who may be into the keyword.

* Keywords

* Submissive

* Submission

* Soft Top

* Yearning

* Begging

* Takeaways: It’s OK for men to be safe with their partner if they are comfortable doing so.

The Unfriendly Black Hotties are excited to announce our Spotify channel dedicated to the songs we exuberantly burst into during each recording and often reflect our theme!

We’ll retroactively go back and make playlists for episodes 1 and 2, so stay turned to our Substack and our Instagram.

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According to research submitted in 2022 to the Women’s Health Reports “Studies have observed that Black women may be excessively burdened by physiological impacts of chronic stress caused by health disparities associated with chronic stressors, including discrimination, neighborhood stress, daily stress, family stress, acculturative stress, environmental stress, and maternal stress.

“They are likely to suffer the twofold consequences of social stress resulting from the interaction between racial and gender discrimination, compounded by health and socioeconomic disparity. This may ultimately contribute to an increase in disease manifestation.” (Tipre & Carson, 2022).

As a result, Black women’s bodies may produce more cortisol continually over time. Long-term exposure to elevated cortisol levels can increase Black women’s risk of:

* Anxiety

* Depression

* ADHD

* Hypertension

* Autism

Now, here is why we wanted to start this episode with stress statistics. Black women making self-care a priority isn’t selfish and should not be sidelined or maligned — it’s necessary and can be lifesaving.

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So, before we get all the way into it, let’s talk about why we’re celebrating. May is National Masturbation Month. It started back in 1995 as a response to the firing of Surgeon General Dr. Joycelyn Elders, who had the nerve to suggest that masturbation was a normal part of sexual health.

Now, every May, we reclaim that conversation—centering self-pleasure not just as a private act, but as a powerful, political, and healing one. It’s about breaking shame, embracing curiosity, and reminding ourselves that pleasure is our birthright.

National Masturbation Day protects and celebrates the right of everyone to masturbate, and it raises awareness about masturbation and highlights its importance. First held on May 7, 1995, it was started by Good Vibrations, a sex-positive sex shop in San Francisco, in response to the firing of Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders by President Bill Clinton the previous December. Elders was fired after she made a statement suggesting that masturbation be part of sex education for students. When asked if masturbation could help discourage early sexual activity, she responded by saying, "I think it is something that is part of human sexuality and a part of something that perhaps should be taught." She was fired eight days later.

Although the day was first celebrated on May 7, it switched to May 28 in 2005, although some state that it can be celebrated on either date. It's not too odd that people would mention the day taking place on two different dates in May—the whole month is International Masturbation Month, after all!

May is also Mental Health Awareness Month — how you figure that?!

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