This was from last week. But it never went out. So here it is now. In this episode, I'm taking you into the whirlwind of mediation. I walked in thinking one thing, and I walked out with some real clarity—about trust, about peace, and about letting go. Let’s unpack what I learned along the way.

Just wow!

That’s all.

Michelle

Im telling the truth about how I left my marriage and why it was quiet, quick, and done.

By the time I walked out, I had already done everything—I’m talking love, grace, conversations, money, prayers… all of it. So this isn’t about a dramatic ending—it’s about that moment when you know, like know-know, and you finally stop playing yourself.

But more than anything, this is about choosing yourself, choosing peace, and being honest about what you already know deep down. So yeah… pull up, because we’re having a real conversation on this one.

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This week’s Roho Podcast is really about one thing. You guessed it.

Love.

I’ve been sitting with how easy it is to feel like things are out of our control—what’s happening in the world, what we’re seeing every day, the uncertainty of it all. And what I’ve come back to is this: we actually have more power than we think we do.

We may not control everything around us, but we do get to choose how we show up. We get to choose love. Not in a soft or passive way—but as a real, active decision. In how we treat people. In how we move through fear. In how we stay connected to what’s true, even when everything feels loud.

For me, this has meant coming back to basics—grounding myself in purpose, trusting that what I need is already within me, and focusing on what’s right in front of me to make better. Not everything. Just my part.

Because if enough of us do that—if we each choose love where we are—that’s how things actually shift.

That’s what I’m talking about this week.

—Michelle

This week, I share a moment where I messed up, took accountability… and got nothing in return.

No response. No validation.

And still—I chose love.

I'm talking about ego, over-explaining, self-love, and the freedom that comes when you stop needing people to meet you where you are.

Love, Michelle

Not the soft version.Not the easy version.But the kind of love that makes decisions for you.

The kind of love that removes the debate.

Because once you’re clear—I am choosing love—there’s nothing left to argue with.

And I’ve been sitting with that…what it really means to choose love when it costs you something.

When love doesn’t just feel good…but asks you to release what you also love.

To walk away from what you built.To loosen your grip on what once felt like home.

And still… choose love.

Because love isn’t just about what we hold onto.It’s about what we refuse to stay connected to.

It’s about alignment.It’s about peace.It’s about truth.

And I’m learning… in real time…that when you choose love for real—

you choose up.

Love, Michelle

Listen… I had a moment this week.Like a real one.

I made a decision—intentionally—to love my ex.Not conditionally. Not strategically. Just… love.

Love.

And something shifted.

I’m not even gonna get into it yet… I’m just gonna let it breathe. Let it play out. I’ll tell you the full story later.

But what I will say is—I’m a believer. For real.

Love does something.When it’s real, when it’s grounded, when it’s not trying to control… it moves things.

So I’m back.Back in love. Back choosing it on purpose.

And just know—me, Tommy, and Ghost… we’re sending you love.

Alright y’all. Have a good rest of your week.

I’m switching things up today and doing audio.

The past week has been… a lot. In the middle of it all, I’ve also been binge-watching YouTube videos about near-death experiences. I know, I know. But here me out. These videos are about people who technically died, went “to the other side”, and came back talking about what they experienced.

Now before you think this is going to turn into some deep afterlife discussion — it’s not really about that.

What it got me thinking about is something much more practical: what it actually means to move through life in love. Like, for real love.

Not the word we throw around. Not the inspirational quote version. But how we actually move, be, and live when love is the thing guiding us.

Let me ask you something.

What game are you playing?

Because a lot of us say we want peace.We say we want freedom.We say we want joy.

But we’re standing outside in the rain in chaotic relationships and messy dynamics… acting like the door isn’t right there.

The door to peace.The door to freedom.The door to joy.

But instead of knocking, we stay on the porch complaining about the weather.

So again I’ll ask:

What game are you playing?

Because if you actually want peace, the move is simple.

Knock on the door.Ask for what you want.Step inside.

And when you get in there?

Lock the damn door behind you.

There’s a quiet exhaustion many of us are carrying right now.

Not just “busy” tired.Not just “need a nap” tired.

But soul-tired.

The kind that comes from handling everything.

Handling your emotions because you don’t trust anyone else to hold them gently.Handling your finances because no one is coming to rescue you.Handling your despair with a pep talk and a scripture and a “you got this, girl.”Handling disappointment. Handling conflict. Handling survival.

And one day you realize…You’re not just tired.

You’re tired of being the one who always handles it.

I’m talking about the deep fatigue that comes from a lifetime of self-containment.

ESPECIALLY BLACK WOMEN.

The sadness that bubbles up when you realize you’ve been strong for so long that you don’t even know what it feels like to be supported.

Maybe we’re exhausted because we don’t just want relief.

We want shared responsibility.We want people to handle their own stuff.We want less harm.We want less cleanup.We want to stop carrying what was never ours to carry alone.

This is an invitation to notice what we’ve been handling — and ask whether you still have to.

Rest isn’t always about doing less.

Sometimes it’s about finally putting something down.

I hope it meets you gently.

I love you. You deserved to be loved, seen, and held.

We talked about what it costs to pretend we’re okay when we’re not.

For me, that pretending showed up as a panic attack.

And I’ve had to sit with the truth: my body was responding to the strain of living a lie — smiling, functioning, leading… while internally knowing I was totally OUT of alignment.

Sometimes anxiety isn’t weakness.Sometimes it’s your body refusing to keep performing.

This is about faith, yes.But it’s also about integrity.

Integrity between what you feel… and how you live.

Sending love to those of you who are quietly holding more than anyone knows.

We don’t have to live the lie anymore.

I hope your week is off to a great start.

I’m here in my new podcast studio, and I’m really excited about it. It feels like a fresh beginning—and I’m declaring this: this is my year all about action. Not just talking. Not just planning. Moving. Showing up. Doing the thing.

And I want to invite you to join me.

This Thursday is our first Roho Rest Hour, from 12:00 PM Pacific Time.If you want to connect, share, breathe, or simply rest, please come.

Here’s the Zoom link:https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89249617985?jst=2

No pressure. No agenda. Just space.

Let’s stay connected. Let’s keep choosing action that’s rooted in care, not exhaustion.

Wishing you ease this week.I’ll see you soon.Peace.

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Today’s Roho Rest is about coming back to now—and letting your body remind you that you’re alive.

So much of our exhaustion doesn’t come from what’s happening, but from living ahead of ourselves. Anticipating conversations. Bracing for outcomes. Carrying futures that haven’t arrived yet.

Sometimes rest doesn’t look like stopping.Sometimes it looks like moving. Like dancing through what’s hard while staying rooted in what’s true.

This video is an invitation to return to the present moment—to what’s warm, steady, and still worth celebrating today.

Sending love to you all.

If you are interested in joining up with us at Roho Rest Hour, CLICK HERE!

I’ll send you the zoom link.

Love, Michelle

And not just other people’s lives.The resources show up.The money shows up.The opportunities, the access, the support—they meet you there.

That’s not theory. That’s lived experience.

When you commit to what resonates with your spirit,doors open.Paths appear.Things move.

So it’s 2026.It’s time to put your plan in place.Do your thing.

Take care.

She is all things Glow Up, Manifestation and Power. The song I’ve had on repeat is called UNBOTHERED. Listen to this after watching mine. She is a game changer.

https://youtu.be/NhGxyTt0pb8?si=C_LwF5qDJKSQKPzA&t=931

Do not be afraid.

This season is asking something different of us.

It’s asking us to slow down.To get still.To stop rushing toward answers that aren’t ready yet.

This is not a time to panic or over-function.It’s a time to steady yourself.To breathe.To return to your values, your body, your sense of self.

What’s ahead is not something to fear.It’s something to meet—with clarity, courage, and care.

Thank you for walking with me through this year.

I send love, peace and knowing.

Michelle

I reflect on the reality of working with someone who lies, gaslights, and refuses to play by shared rules—and the quiet pressure to keep “doing the right thing” even when it costs you.

This episode names a hard truth:this isn’t a moral dilemma, it’s a safety issue.

I talk about the difference between lying and self-protection, and why staying fully transparent with someone who misuses your truth is not integrity—it’s exposure.

Instead of playing their game, I explore a different path:saying less, documenting more, withholding unnecessary information, and letting systems—not emotions—do the work.

This Roho Monday is a reminder that:you don’t owe fairness to someone who isn’t acting in good faith,and you are not required to sacrifice yourself to prove your honesty.

The goal isn’t to stay nice.It’s to stay intact.

I reflect on the idea that sometimes what feels like loss or disappointment is actually things moving out of the way. People, opportunities, and seasons come into our lives with an assignment—and when that assignment is complete, it’s time to release them.

The work now is clarity:What was their assignment?What is mine?And am I aligned with what’s next?

Even when I’ve been tired—so tired I didn’t leave the house—I can feel something shifting.

Trust that what’s ahead is bigger, better, and more profound than what fell apart—if we stop looking backward.

I close by choosing presence over rumination: watching the rain, resting, and staying open to the next delightful surprise.

M

We talk a lot about “that’s just my wiring.”But wiring is not identity — it’s a pattern.And patterns can be rewired.

If a house can be rewired…If a computer can get a whole new program installed…So can you.

Real, lasting, soul-level change isn’t impossible.Even the changes that feel way outside the realm of what you thought you could have or become.They are available.They are accessible.They are yours.

When you tap into your own divine resources — not magic, but resources — man’s laws can shift, outcomes can bend, timelines can rearrange.And this is not just for me.We all have access to this.

If you’re job searching and nothing’s moving?Reprogram the belief.Let your new internal reality sound like:“Jobs come to me. Opportunities find me. That’s the world I live in now.”

Humans tend to oversimplify and overcomplicate at the same time — I know I do.But here’s what’s been true for me lately:

I’m learning what it means to be a force in partnership with the divine energy that has been sitting here the whole time…waiting for us to use it,waiting for us to create something magical,something that lifts not only ourselves, but others, too.

So this Monday, I’m inviting you to one thing:

If the timeline you’re in isn’t giving what you need it to give… step into another one.

Rewire.Rechoose.Reprogram.Create again.

Happy Monday, and may your week be filled with aligned decisions, surprising breakthroughs, and realities that rise up to meet who you’re becoming.

Go create something.Go shift something.And don’t stay loyal to a timeline that no longer honors you.

— Michelle

I’ve watched people defend harm because they need to stay in someone’s good graces. That’s part of the racket. The hustle. Even when harm is done, there’s often a small legion still chasing connection—still trying to earn approval.

But I don’t live there anymore.

I know the truth now. My only job is to live my life—and live it in truth. The light will shine, and some will see it. Others may find it too bright. Some won’t like it at all. But I’ve already tried to dim myself, and that didn’t work out.

This time, I’m just going to be me—fully, unapologetically.

It’s not always easy. Sometimes I’m angry. Sometimes I’m salty. Sometimes I want revenge. But that’s part of the old toxic world I no longer traffic in. I don’t have to participate. I don’t have to align my peace with poison.

So this Monday, I’m choosing light.Choosing truth.Choosing to enjoy this beautiful, complicated, sacred life I wake up to every single day.

Michelle

For so many of us, life has been a series of responses — to stress, to expectations, to survival. But there comes a moment when your soul starts whispering: It’s time to make something. To create instead of cope. To listen instead of react.

We each have a thing — that unique way you bring light, ease, or transformation into the world. It doesn’t have to be public or polished. It doesn’t have to be in lights. Your “thing” might be how you love young people, how you bring calm into chaos, how you listen deeply when others can’t.

This year, I’m reminding myself — and you — that it’s time to move from reaction to creation.To listen to what your intuition already knows.To stop waiting for the perfect time or the perfect plan.

If you weren’t meant for more, you’d already feel fulfilled. That quiet nudge, that restless tug — that’s your soul saying it’s time.

So go ahead.Put your thing out there.Don’t wait. Don’t overthink. Just jump.

All that hustling, striving, and pushing?It keeps you from your power.

When you finally arrive, your identity is no longer built on labor, endurance, or how much you can take and still stand up again. That’s the world of becoming — and yes, there’s value in it. There’s nobility in the climb.

But we can get so obsessed with the path that the idea of actually arriving starts to feel like a threat. Because what happens when you no longer have to prove yourself through struggle? Who are you when you don’t have to fight?

Let me be clear — arrival isn’t an event.It’s not a house, a job, or a relationship.It’s a choice. A spiritual decision.

Even with court hearings still pending, with questions still unanswered — I paved the side of my house. I lit my candles. I unpacked my things. Because while I’m here, I’m living.

It’s a spiritual decision to say:

I am here.I am living.I am no longer waiting to see how it all turns out before I start enjoying my life.

Live. Here.

This week, let’s flip that script.All that has happened — the endings, the shake-ups, the lessons — isn’t punishment. It’s a kickstart to your next vision.

Affirmation:I embrace my vision with energy and determination, turning my dreams into actionable steps. Every ending is the beginning of a new journey. I meet it with a heart full of possibility.

As you move through this week, ask yourself:Are you investing your energy in planning for the worst — or hoping and moving toward the best?You can’t do both.

So today, let your imagination outrun your history.Move your vision to the top.And be about that action.

There’s nothing sensible about liberation. It rarely looks good on paper. The math don’t be mathin’.

I’m paying an attorney—not to win something, but to stop engaging with someone who thrives on confusion. To buy distance. To buy peace.

Sometimes freedom costs money, sleep, or relationships. Sometimes it costs your reputation. But if it restores your sanity, it’s worth it.

Stop Fixing What’s Breaking You

Stop trying to fix people who keep breaking you. Stop explaining your boundaries to those who have no intention of honoring them.

Your peace doesn’t need to make sense to anyone else.

Liberation is messy. But it’s also the only kind of peace that lasts.

Be free.

Michelle

But often, even when we’ve done our best, we still carry stress, worry, and weight that isn’t ours to hold. This week, I invite you to experiment with surrender. Find the one thing you’ve been stressing over the most. Don’t fight it. Don’t wrestle it. Just place it in the hands of God, the universe, your source—whatever you trust.

Give it one week. See how it feels to let it go. To breathe without the constant clutch of control. To rest in the knowing that your best is enough.

Reflection Question: What’s the one thing I will surrender this week so I can finally rest easier?

For too long, I lived in reaction—responding to what life threw at me, adjusting to other people’s chaos, shrinking myself to fit into situations that drained me.

No more.

Liberation is a choice. Creation is a choice. And I am choosing both.

From here on, my energy goes into what I create, not what I’m reacting to. Into the life I’m designing, not the one I’m just surviving.

This is the season of re-invention, y’all. A season of bold choosing. A season where freedom means refusing to wait for “potential” and claiming what is real and nourishing now.

I wanted to scream: This house is mine. I earned it. I paid for it. I carried everything on my back. I’m entitled to it.

And you know what? That anger felt good. It felt justified. It felt like the least God could give me after everything I’ve poured out.

But then my deeper wisdom came for me.It whispered: Clutching this hard… is that really who you are? Is it possible that holding on so tight to this one thing could block the bigger things that want to come?

And then the question dropped:“What do I need to add into this situation that will alter my experience of it?”

When I add higher perspective… the rage softened.When I add trust… the fear loosened.When I add integrity… I remembered that what’s truly mine can’t be stolen.

I still want the house. But I don’t want to lose me in the fight for it.

So I’ll leave you with this:Wherever you’re caught up in anger, in “I deserve this,” in that bone-deep sense of entitlement—ask yourself:✨ What can I add in right now that changes how I feel about this?

That’s where the shift begins.

And since Talena always drags me for never plugging my work—fine. You happy now, Talena? 😏If you want more questions like this, they’re in my book

I’m Leaving Now: The Little Book About Big Separations. Here is the Link.

—Dr. Majors

And here’s the truth: I’ve never once pursued something that resonated in my gut, followed the vision that called me forward, and later thought, “I wish I hadn’t done that.” Never. It’s like going to the gym — you may not want to start, but you never leave regretting the workout. Every step forward in alignment affirms itself.

We live in a time where there are no guarantees. The illusion of safety we used to cling to has crumbled — maybe by design. And in that space, we have a choice: do we keep arguing for comfort and false stability, or do we step into what feeds our soul? If nothing is certain, then why not choose the path that lights you up, that feels like truth, that pulls you toward life?

Because if this whole thing is an illusion anyway, I’d rather live it in resonance than in regret.

I know this firsthand. In my divorce, I stayed stuck in purgatory far too long — clinging to what I thought was fair, holding on to a house that had already cost me too much peace. I argued for safety, for comfort, for “shoulds.” But the longer I stayed in limbo, the more miserable I became. It wasn’t until I honored what I already knew — that freedom was waiting on the other side of letting go — that I could finally breathe again.

And that’s the point: clarity always sets you free.

In love and light,

M

It’s messy. It’s uncomfortable. And it’s necessary. Because only on the other side of unraveling can you see what’s real—and choose what actually gets to come with you.

This week’s affirmation:

Affirmation from my book: I’m Leaving Now: The Little Book About Big Separations.

“I untangle myself from the chaotic energy of others. I seek clarity and simplicity by letting go and waiting for the next steps to appear.”

So here’s your challenge: don’t patch over what’s unraveling. Let it fall apart. Pick up the few pieces worth carrying, and leave the rest. That’s where your power lives.If you want more questions like this, they’re in my book

I’m Leaving Now: The Little Book About Big Separations. Here is the Link.

—Dr. Majors

Maybe it’s time for a mindset shift: What if everything you’re going through — the hard breaks, the losses, the quiet moments — is actually a gift? When I lost nearly all my clients after the DEI wave passed, it felt like devastation. But in that silence, I found relief — a space free of noise, pressure, and distraction. For two weeks, my calendar was clear, and it was amazing.

There’s still so much good happening — in our country, in our communities, in our lives, and yes, even in our bodies. Each new day is a chance to say, “I got this today.”

So this week, I’m sending love and light to you. Take a moment to look around, notice what you’re grateful for, and if there’s something you can’t change — shift how you see it.

Here’s to resting deeply and living honestly.

M

What struck me wasn’t the view (though it was stunning)—it was the truth: A whole world opens up when you’re willing to ask. Not demand. Not force. Just ask.

The quality of your life is shaped by the questions you’re bold enough to voice. So what’s one thing you want—but haven’t dared to ask for yet? Start there. The sky might just be waiting.

Bill Withers’ “Lovely Day” is on repeat. I am both overwhelmed and humbled by the beauty here. It is not perfect. But I am. Here, I feel perfect. As in, whole and complete. Nothing to fix. Nothing to prove or IMprove. I’m not “tired” here. I love my country, but we are in bad shape right now, and I HAD to find some goodness, some peace and some radical detachment so that I can breathe.

I wish for everyone reading this to find your Belize.

Take care of yourselves.

La Isla Bonita, By Madonna

I fell in love with San PedroWarm wind carried on the sea, he called to meTe dijo: "te amo"I prayed that the days would last, they went so fast

Tropical the island breezeAll of nature wild and freeThis is where I long to beLa isla bonita

M

I’m thinking about peace.Not as a soft ending, but as a strong beginning.What can you make peace with,so you can finally choose something different?

I pulled from my book, I’m Leaving Now: A Little Book About Big Separations—and what came through was simple, but sharp:Rest your soul.

Not someday.Today.

Find a quiet space.Breathe.Let the judgment go.Ask yourself the one question that’s become my compass:Does this bring rest to my soul?

That’s the bar now.Not the money, not the job, not the grind.Just soul-deep rest.And from that place — choosing what’s next.

#RohoRest #SoulRestMondays #RestAsCompass #PeaceIsPower #LetItBeNew

This week’s I send a gentle reminder: You were never meant to hold it all. You were never sent here to rescue everyone. And the storm you’ve been trying to fix? It’s not even yours.

We are exhausted—spiritually, emotionally, physically—often from trying to manage other people’s chaos, hold the ground steady, and “save” folks who don’t even want shelter. Stop it.

This week’s message is a call to release, to stop over-functioning, to stop spinning your soul in circles trying to anticipate someone else's lesson.

You don’t have to hold it all. You were never meant to.Let that truth set you free this week.

With love, grace and peace to you,

Michelle

Listen. To often we will make a permanent decision based on temporary feelings and imagined stories.

You saw something, sure. But you didn’t ask anything.We’ve all done it—seen a messy yard and assumed they were lazy.But maybe they’re getting evicted. Maybe they’re grieving. Maybe they’re fighting battles you’ve never had to face.

One piece of data ≠ the whole story.Ask some damn questions already.Your perception is not the truth—it's just your experience talking.

Let’s do better.#ThursdayRant #ContextMatters #PerceptionIsNotTruth #AskFirst

Yes, I know some folks felt seen.Yes, I know the cycle of poverty, trauma, and survival needs to be told.But what happens when the telling hurts the people it's supposed to represent?

Mr. Perry, sir...Who was this movie for?

Because I walked away feeling raw.Confused.Frustrated.Hurt.

Taraji acted her entire face off. That’s not the question.The question is:Why do we keep getting served trauma with no balm? Pain with no payoff?

Sometimes art just misfires.This one did for me.

And I’m open—maybe there’s something I missed.Maybe there’s a perspective I didn’t catch.But whew. That was heavy in all the wrong ways.

If you saw it, let me know:Did it land for you? Or did it just leave another scar?

This week, I'm thinking about the complexity of being alive.The part of us that wants to control things… and the deeper part that just wants to feel feel alive.

Not numb.Not perfect.Not even ready sometimes.Just here. Just present. Just Alive.

Even when it’s hard.

I talked about it this week from Belize — that maybe I will just “Forrest Gump” my way through life.

Just following the next thing that presents itself.Not because I’ve given up, but because I’ve decided to stop gripping so tight.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS:

* Where am I trying to control what’s not mine to manage?

* What would shift if I trusted my intuitive nudges more than the expectations?

* Can I allow joy and grief, beauty and bullshit, to coexist this week?

FOR THIS WEEK:

Try this phrase: “I don’t care.”

Not in the numb, shut-down way.But in the liberated, unbothered, I’m-protecting-my-peace kind of way.

* Somebody cuts you off in traffic? I don’t care.

* That weird energy at work? I don’t care.

* Somebody tries to pull you into drama? I don’t care.

Give your spirit permission to not care about what drains you — and to care deeply about what fuels you: your body, your people, your peace.

DON’T JUST CHASE JOY— PLAN FOR IT

Planning for Lifelong Joy: A Gathering to Center What Sustains Us 🌟Wednesday, June 25, 2025 | 12:00 PM PDT | Online

Joy isn’t just a fleeting moment — it’s a practice, a choice, and a way of life. Join Joy Coach, Nacala Ayele of Joyful Practices, for her upcoming workshop, Planning for Lifelong Joy, an uplifting and interactive virtual gathering designed to help you center joy as a lifelong companion.

In this one-hour event, Nacala will blend presentation, reflection, and engaging dialogue to explore how joy can ground us through life’s many seasons. Whether you're looking to spark new joy or protect the joy you already hold, you’ll leave with tangible practices, insights, and a renewed sense of possibility.

All are welcome — especially those who are passionate about uplifting Black and Brown joy. Come celebrate, reflect, and commit to joy as a vital part of your journey.

Let’s build lives where joy isn’t an afterthought — it’s the plan.

RSVP now — joy is waiting.

Sending you all love, joy and calming peace.Michelle

Spoiler: They do. Or worse, they’ve convinced themselves they don’t.Either way—don’t engage.

You’re not crazy.The situation is.

And the wildest thing?They need your energy to keep the cycle going. They need your debate. Your fire. Your fight.So when you go quiet—not shut down, but still, wise, unfazed?You disarm the chaos.

Silence is not weakness.It’s strategy.It’s recovery.It’s reclaiming your peace.

No more codependence.No more spinning.

The most powerful move you can make?Stop playing their game.

When we revisit our past with clarity instead of shame, we shift from helplessness to ownership. Not everything that happened to us was our fault — but some of what happened was shaped by the choices we didn’t make. That’s not failure. That’s information. That’s wisdom.

You are not just the result of what’s been done to you.You are also the result of what you you’ve come through and what you know now — but most of all, what you choose next.

Remember:

You don’t owe anyone your continued suffering.You don’t need a catastrophe to justify your exit.And you don’t need to explain your peace to anyone.

Your past? Grace.Your present? Power.Your future? Yours.

Practice:

* Practice choosing in small ways this week:What to say yes to. What to say no to. What to walk away from.Remind yourself, “I am not trapped. I have agency. Even it my choice comes with a lot of unknowns, at least it is MY choice.”

* Body scan check-in: Each day, ask yourself, Does this feel like a hell yes? A hell no? Or a maybe I need to sit with longer?

Have a powerful, grounded, liberating week.

In love and grace…

Michelle

And still… she got you here.

This week, I want to invite you to do one thing:Stop looking back with shame.In fact, stop looking back. She went through all she went through for you to look ahead.

Thank her for passing you the baton.Then run forward with your head high and your heart wide open.

Do something this week that she never got the chance to do.In her honor. For your future.

You got this.

You get to be done.You get to say, “FUCK this.”You get to reclaim your energy, your joy, your brilliance.

Because that weight is costing you.Opportunities. Rest. Connection. Money. Your own fucking power.

So let me be the one to say it out loud today:Fuck. That. Shit.

In love and grace…

In this video, I break down why your past self deserves more than shame… they deserve a fucking standing ovation.

Because they got you HERE.

And the real question is: Are you gonna waste what they survived for?

If you're in a major transition, you need to hear this. This isn’t just about growth. It’s about honoring the person who crawled so you could run.

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Jennifer Lewis said it best about her love/money scammer: “He though I’d be too embarrassed to tell the truth. But here’s the reality—shame and abuse survive in silence.

The moment you say out loud:

* ‘I saw the signs and ignored them.’

* ‘I stayed too long.’

* ‘I’m angry at myself for trusting them.’

…is the moment their power crumbles.

This isn’t about you being ‘foolish’ or ‘not enough.’ This is about them rigging the game. The only way out? Break the silence. Not just to your loved ones… but yourself.

You’re not alone in the regret, the overthinking, the ‘I should’ve known’ spiral. But your story isn’t just pain—it’s proof you’re still here, still fighting.

Even worse, why is it that our biggest challengers are other Black Women?

We’ve got to talk about this.Out loud. In truth. In love.In collaboration, not competition.Not from fear, not guilt, not obligation.But because we are human.

Black women are deserving of dignity.Black women are deserving of safety.Black women are deserving of compassion.

To ask her to be “soft” without these things is just plain dumb…and insane… and infuriating AF.

And yes, I’m holding the tension.Yes, I’m still here.Yes, this is love too.

But perspective says:"I have a role.""I know what’s mine to carry.""I trust the bigger picture, even when I can't see all of it."

We’ve confused reaction for reality.Perception is instant—it’s fear, urgency, overwhelm.Perspective is cultivated—it’s clarity, rootedness, divine assignment.

Whether you're a Kamala holding office, or a quiet center where the Kamalas come to rest—your role matters.

Keep your perspective.

We don’t talk enough about the grief that comes from realizing someone never intended to keep their promise—not because they couldn’t, but because they never planned to.

When you're someone who moves with integrity, it's a shock to learn how many people don’t. But that's where intuition steps in—the divine knowing we too often ignore.

This season isn’t about revenge or regret. It’s about reclaiming your clarity, protecting your peace, and learning how to trust you again.

Don’t just go through it. Grow through it.

Why do we keep inviting in emotional vampires who drain our energy, disrupt our peace, and leave us questioning our worth? What is it about us that signals we’re open for invasion?

We are born with the gift of discernment—but somewhere between loneliness, hope, and our desire to fix the broken, we ignore the signs. This rant is a wake-up call to see clearly and be honest about what you see, to trust our spiritual instincts, and to stop offering dinner to those who only come to feed on us.

And here’s where we get to choose: do we keep playing by their rules, or do we start writing our own?

You don't have to match their energy. You don't have to justify, react, or defend.

You get to define your own boundaries, your own rules, your own peace.

It's not about winning the old game. It’s about leaving the field entirely and creating your own.

Gaslighters don’t just lie—they make you feel wrong for noticing and demanding accountability for their lies. Check it out!

Thoughts? Drop a comment or share your experience. #RohoRant #GaslightingAwareness #NarcissisticAbuse #ProtectYourPeace

Trust that they will find their way.

Be well and discover that deep Roho Rest.

Sauntia Griffin: www.RestoreTherapySeattle.com | Sauntia@RestoreTherapySeattle.com

Disclaimer: Sauntia always clarifies that she is not a physician, and any discussion about supplements is for educational purposes only—to help facilitate informed conversations with your healthcare provider. She strongly recommends consulting your doctor before starting any new supplement.

This was my personal experience that I am sharing.

* My accupuncturist: Dr. Imani - Imani@tubmanhealth.org

* My therapist: Sauntia Griffin - Sauntia@restoretherapyseattle.com/ Restore Therapy Seattle

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Be well.

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