Good Grief with Nikki the Death Doula

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159. Talking About Death Won’t Kill You: How Honest Conversations Change Everything

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Apr 2026 10:00:00 GMT

What if talking about death didn’t feel so… heavy?

In this episode, I sit down with the hosts of End of Life Conversations to explore what happens when we stop avoiding the topic we’re all quietly thinking about. (You know—the one we tend to shove into the emotional junk drawer labeled “deal with later.”)

We talk about why these conversations matter more than we think, how they can actually bring connection instead of discomfort, and what it looks like to approach them with honesty, curiosity, and a little more courage than we feel ready for.

Because here’s the truth: avoiding the conversation doesn’t make it easier—it just makes it lonelier.

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https://www.endoflifeconvos.com/

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158. Why Do People Grieve So Differently? Understanding Grief Personas with Sarah Baldwin.

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 25 Mar 2026 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode I sit down with Sarah Baldwin, co-founder and CEO of Restfully, to explore a concept that can change the way we understand grief: grief personas.

We often expect grief to look a certain way. Lots of tears, deep sadness, and a clear emotional timeline. But anyone who has experienced loss (or supported someone through it) knows that grief doesn’t follow a script.

Sarah shares how the idea of grief personas helps explain these differences and why recognizing them can reduce conflict, increase empathy, and help us support each other better after loss.

If you’ve ever wondered why your sibling, partner, or friend seems to grieve so differently than you do, this conversation will help you understand what’s really going on and how to meet each other with more compassion. You can find Sarah at:

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157. Stigmatized Death, Unfinished Business, and Finding Forgiveness with Cat York

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 18 Mar 2026 10:00:00 GMT

TW: Some discussions of addiction

What happens when someone you’re not close to dies… and you’re the one legally responsible?

In this episode, I sit down with Cat, host of Call Her Cat, to talk about the death of her father—whom she was estranged from at the time of his passing. Despite the distance in their relationship, Cat stepped in as his Medical Power of Attorney, made end-of-life decisions, and arranged his funeral.

We explore what it’s like to grieve someone you had a complicated history with. The love that may have existed. The hurt that definitely did. The expectations from others. And the internal tug-of-war between duty, resentment, tenderness, and relief.

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156. Collective Trauma and Grief: How to Cope in a World That Feels Broken

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 11 Mar 2026 10:00:00 GMT

TW: mass casualty events, pandemic, light political topics

A lot of people are asking the same quiet question: Why do I feel so heavy right now?

In this episode, I unpack the concept of collective grief and why so many of us feel exhausted, anxious, numb, or on edge. You are not weak. You are not broken. You are responding to brokenness.

We explore what grief actually is beyond death loss, and the kind of sorrow that never gets acknowledged publicly.

If you have felt “off” for years, this conversation might connect some dots.

We also look at historical patterns of collective grief, including moments like September 11 attacks, the Vietnam War, etc. Some grief was repressed. Some was transformed into movements. Where do we see those echoes now?

Let’s talk honestly about why navigating grief feels harder today.

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Rewind - 75: Grief, We’re Doing it Wrong!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 04 Mar 2026 11:00:00 GMT

Hey all, scheduling was rough so I’m tossing up this rewind episode from 2024. We will be back next week!!

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155. The Motherless Mother: Navigating Grief in Corporate Culture with Sarah Kagan

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 25 Feb 2026 11:00:00 GMT

Content warning: Some cursing.

What happens when you lose your mother… and still have to show up to work on Monday?

In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with Sarah Kagan of Keriah Coaching to talk about something we do not address nearly enough: grief in the workplace. Together, we explore how losing our mothers shaped not only our personal lives, but also how we experienced professional environments during one of the most vulnerable seasons of our lives.

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154. Demystifying Hospice Care: How Caring House Supports Dying with Dignity and Compassion

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 18 Feb 2026 11:00:00 GMT

Hospice care is one of the most misunderstood parts of end-of-life support. And that misunderstanding often keeps people from getting the comfort, care, and dignity they deserve.

In this episode I’m joined by members of the team from Caring House, a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing compassionate, holistic hospice care and end-of-life support. We talk honestly about what hospice care actually is (and what it is not), when it’s appropriate, and how compassionate care can transform the final chapter of life for both patients and their loved ones.

We also explore how hospice isn’t about “giving up,” but about shifting the focus from cure to comfort, from fear to presence, and from doing everything to doing what truly matters.

Whether you’re caring for someone with a terminal illness, navigating difficult decisions, or simply want to be better informed before a crisis hits, this conversation offers clarity, reassurance, and a whole lot of humanity.

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153. “Your Grief Matters”: Why There’s No Timeline for Grief with Jennifer Landon

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 11 Feb 2026 11:00:00 GMT

Jennifer Landon of Your Grief Matters returns to the podcast for a heartfelt, honest conversation about what grief actually looks like when we stop trying to tidy it up.

Jennifer was one of my very first guests when this podcast began, and having her back feels like coming home. Only with more wisdom, more lived experience, and even deeper compassion for how messy grief can be. Together, we talk about losing our mothers, sudden death versus anticipated death, and how we’ve both grown in the last 4 years

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https://yourgriefmatters.co/

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152. Why We Struggle to Accept Death

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 04 Feb 2026 11:00:00 GMT

Death isn’t just hard because it hurts. It’s hard because it ends things. And humans are spectacularly bad at accepting endings.

In this episode, I talk about why the finality of death messes with our brains and hearts so deeply. We’ll look at the quiet (and not-so-quiet) ways we avoid accepting that someone is really gone.

This isn’t about shaming those coping mechanisms. They’re normal. They’re human. And honestly? They often show up before we’re ready to face the truth.

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Season 8, coming next week!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 28 Jan 2026 05:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Season 8! I’m pleased and humbled to bring you another season of amazing conversations on grief and loss.

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The White Envelope

Nikki the Death Doula — Thu, 25 Dec 2025 05:00:00 GMT

I post this every Christmas. Enjoy!

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151. Rebroadcast of episode 112 Happy New Year!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 31 Dec 2025 11:00:00 GMT

It’s not all about resolutions to “finally lose weight!”. It’s a time to reflect on where we’ve come from and where we are going. Enjoy this rebroadcast from last year on what it means to flip that page on the calendar.

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150. Rebroadcast of episode 24: Grief and the Holidays

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 24 Dec 2025 11:00:00 GMT

The holidays are stressful enough without grief on top of it. I’m learning first hand with this first holiday season without my mom. (Hence the rebroadcast) Please enjoy this episode from my early days on navigating grief during the holiday.

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149. Announcement and rebroadcast of The Woman and The Falcon

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 17 Dec 2025 05:28:00 GMT

This week’s episode is a little different.

I’m taking some much-needed space after the death of my mom, and for the remainder of season 7, I’ll be sharing a few rebroadcasts of listener favorites. Grief doesn’t exactly check your calendar (inconsiderate, right?) and doesn’t wait for production schedules, and right now my heart needs a quieter pace.

Thank you for giving me room to breathe, remember, and be a daughter for a minute. I’ll be back with new episodes in January, hopefully with a little more rest in my bones and a little less chaos in my inbox.

In the meantime, please enjoy this soul shattering short story, The Woman and The Falcon.

Thanks for sticking with me. Truly.

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148. Turning Pain Into Purpose: Wil “Wize” Otero on Grief, Healing, and Authentic Living

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 10 Dec 2025 17:13:00 GMT

In this episode, I sit down with Wil “Wize” Otero, a motivational speaker, podcaster, producer, and life coach who has made it his mission to help people transform their pain into purpose. After losing his wife at just 31 and grieving multiple close family members, Wize found himself staring grief in the face with nothing but questions… and a whole lot of heartache.

Instead of collapsing inward, he created the Stuck In My Mind Podcast, a space where honest stories, healing conversations, and resilience take center stage. Today, he also runs Real Wize Productions, helping others bring their stories to life through meaningful, impactful media.

Wize brings honesty, heart, and zero fluff. This conversation is part pep-talk, part permission slip, and part “hey, you’re not alone.”

You can find him here: www.realwizeglobal.com

Podcast: Stuck In My Mind Podcast

Instagram: @wize_el_jefe

Facebook: Stuck In My Mind Podcast

YouTube: Real Wize TV

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147. Resilience & Opportunity: How Community Support Shapes Lives: A Conversation with Toni Akin

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 03 Dec 2025 05:00:00 GMT

TW: Mentions of suicide

In this episode, I sit down with Toni Akin, a powerhouse in public education and a deeply compassionate advocate for those navigating affordable and subsidized housing. With over 20 years in the educational field, Toni brings a rare blend of lived experience, sharp insight, and heart-forward leadership.

Toni’s story began in affordable housing in Boston, where she was raised by her grandmother. An experience that taught her the lifesaving impact of supportive adults and community programs. Now, she’s on a mission to challenge the stigma surrounding subsidized housing and to expand access to educational opportunities for underserved communities.

You can find Toni here:

Toni is the current Board Director (Treasurer) of TerraCorps which focuses on environmental education and is a member of the New England Education Opportunity Association (NEOA)

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146. Building Strength After Loss: How Fitness Helped Kelly Kirk Transform Grief into Purpose

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 26 Nov 2025 11:00:00 GMT

TW: some graphic descriptions of violence, mentions of suicide and some strong language

After losing everything Kelly Kirk met the love of his life. After losing her Kelly turned to fitness to rebuild body and soul. In this episode, he shares how bodybuilding became his path through grief and how the Sofia Graham Foundation now helps others find strength after loss. Connect with Kelly and learn more at https://www.johncmaxwellgroup.com/kellykirk

https://www.facebook.com/Kelly222Muscle

Kelly Kirk is the founder of 222Muscle, The Sofia Graham Foundation, a nonprofit committed to improving mental health through physical strength. He is an IFBB Pro Bodybuilder, certified John Maxwell keynote speaker, and veteran educator and coach.

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145. From Nurse to Grief Guide: Diane Carbo on Turning Loss into Caregiver Support

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 19 Nov 2025 05:00:00 GMT

TW: mentions of suicide

After decades as a nurse and a lifetime of personal loss; Diane Carbo founded Caregiver Relief to help others find balance and healing. In this episode, she shares how grief shaped her calling and the lessons every caregiver needs to hear.

You can find more information on Diane here: caregiverrelief.com

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144. The Forgotten Grief: How Men Experience Miscarriage with J.S. Loving

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 12 Nov 2025 05:00:00 GMT

TW: pregnancy loss, some discussion of medical procedures.

In this episode of I sit down with author J.S. Loving for an open, heartfelt conversation about a father’s experience with miscarriage. The pain, the silence, and the long road toward healing.

While much of the conversation around pregnancy loss centers mothers (as it should), fathers often grieve quietly in the background, unsure where to put their pain or how to talk about it. J.S. shares his personal story of loss, what inspired his writing, and why he believes it’s time we start including men in the conversation about miscarriage and grief.

Whether you’ve experienced miscarriage personally or are supporting someone who has, this episode offers compassion, insight, and a reminder that grief doesn’t follow gender rules.

You can find his book here: https://www.amazon.com/Holding-Onto-Light-Fathers-Journey/dp/B0DYY5S5XM/

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143. From Loss to Legacy: Navigating Grief and Estate Planning with Karen Tarnopol Schultz

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 05 Nov 2025 05:22:00 GMT

Grief touches us all, but no two losses are ever the same. In this episode I sit down with Karen Tarnopol Schultz; grief survivor, speaker, and founder of Heirloom Consulting. Karen’s story is one of deep personal loss: the death of her father at age ten, the suicide of a close friend in her teens, and the stillbirth of her daughter. Each experience shaped the way she understands grief and the ways it shows up differently in our lives.

Today, Karen brings both her lived experience and her professional expertise to the conversation. Through her company, Heirloom Consulting, she helps families with estate administration after a loss and guides people in proactive legacy planning so their loved ones aren’t left with a scavenger hunt of paperwork during an already difficult time.

You can find Karen here: www.heirloomconsultants.com and here; https://karentarnopolschultz.wordpress.com/2017/07/28/syndee-big-loss/

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142. Isolation in Caregiving

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 29 Oct 2025 04:00:00 GMT

Caregiving can be one of the loneliest jobs in the world, even when you’re constantly around others. If you’ve ever felt invisible, cut off from friends, or like nobody really “gets it”, this episode is for you. What is The paradox of caregiver isolation and why are loved ones drifting away? Whether you’re caring for a partner, parent, child, or friend, know this: you are not as alone as you feel.

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118. Simple Escapes

104. Self Care

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Season 7, coming soon!!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 22 Oct 2025 04:00:00 GMT

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141. Grief, Menopause, and the Midlife Journey

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 24 Sep 2025 04:00:00 GMT

Grief and menopause. What happens when these two massive life transitions collide? In this episode I dive into the under-discussed intersection of menopause and mourning.

Why do hormonal shifts intensify grief symptoms like brain fog, anxiety, and insomnia? and why the cultural silence around women’s midlife transitions!! Lets talk about Practical ways to support yourself (and others) through this double-whammy of emotional and physical change.

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140. Human First: Rethinking Grief and Work with Faith Clarke

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 17 Sep 2025 04:00:00 GMT

In this episode, I sat down with Faith Clarke to talk about what should be obvious but often gets lost in the hustle: treating people, especially those who are grieving, as human beings first. We dive into why the corporate world often struggles with grief, how leaders can create compassionate workplaces, and why productivity doesn’t have to come at the expense of empathy. Faith shares practical strategies for managers, coworkers, and organizations who want to better support their teams during times of loss, stress, and transition. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance being professional with being human, this conversation will give you hope (and some real-world tools) for building a workplace where compassion and success can coexist.

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139. Stigmatized Grief, Miscarriage, and the Sacred Work of Dying; A Conversation with Emily Hill

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 10 Sep 2025 04:00:00 GMT

TW: mentions of miscarriage

In this deeply touching episode I say down with Emily Hill of Everyday Epiphany to explore the quiet corners of grief we so often avoid; miscarriage, death work, and the stigma that still surrounds both. As a social worker, chaplain and writer, Emily brings such an amazing perspective on what it means to hold space for dying patients and grieving families all while while carrying her own personal loss. And How faith and chaplaincy shape (and sometimes complicate) our grief journeys

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138. Love, Loss, and Legacy: Bill Robertson on AIDS, Spirituality, and Storytelling

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 03 Sep 2025 04:00:00 GMT

TW: some light swearing

It started with losing his partner to AIDS in the 90s. And turned into a long road of losses that spanned a lifetime.

Bill is a writer from Boston now living in LA. He has a feature film, 'Paradise A Town of Sinners & Saints' streaming on YoutubeMovies & GoogleTV. He also has a book series on Amazon, 'Uncle Bill's Animal Tales - Life Lessons for Adults' is the first in a series of five. Bill is 28 years clean and sober and volunteers with G4G, Gays 4 Good. He is active in his spiritual community being a member of the Agape International Spiritual Center. He has also written for National Lampoon Magazine, a kids show on PBS, and ran sketch comedy shows out of NY, Boston, and LA. He will soon be working with seniors in the LA area helping them to write their memoirs.

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137. Author Angie (A.D) Vancise on compound grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 27 Aug 2025 04:00:00 GMT

A.D. (Angie) Vancise is an award-winning author whose writing explores grief, trauma, and truth. Her semi-autobiography, Cry of an Osprey was inspired by the loss of her brother, father, and mother, while her latest novel, Hidden in the Shadows-winner of the American Fiction Award in Horror- was written from a place of deep grief for the children who never had a voice, shinning light on the hidden realities of trafficking and generational abuse. She lives in Hockley Valley with her partner, three dogs, four cats, and three stepkids who mostly forgove her for skipping dinner to write one more chapter. Through her stories, A.D. (Angie) hopes to help others heal and speak the truths too often buried in silence. advanciseauthor.com @vancisea @ADVanciseauthor https://www.facebook.com/share/16UEgMysGd/?mibextid=wwXIfr

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136. Somatic Experiencing with Sharon LaFlamme

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 20 Aug 2025 04:00:00 GMT

Sharon Laflamme is the Facilitator and founder of Creating Serenity Now, LLC. She took her life’s passions of human behavior, health, nutrition, yoga, meditation and incorporated them into creating an internal space for healing. No stranger to loss and grief herself, she works with people to help resolve the lasting effects of childhood trauma on the body.

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https://www.creatingserenitynow.com/

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135. The Grief Club

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 13 Aug 2025 04:00:00 GMT

Cortland Mullins started Grief Club after her mother died and she realized how deep grief can go. It’s a dynamic program in Columbus Ohio with all manner of programs for people facing grief. Her story is deep and powerful, touching on addiction, forgiveness and, of course, grief.

You can find Cortland and The Grief Club here:

https://www.instagram.com/wearethegriefclub

https://www.eventbrite.com/o/the-grief-club-104414191611

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134. Sean Muzzy of grief cycles.org

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 06 Aug 2025 04:00:00 GMT

I had an amazing conversation with the founder and director of griefcycles.org, Sean Muzzy. After losing his son Sean had a choice. He could let the grief consume him or use it to help others. He chose the latter. Men tend to get the short of of the stick when it comes to grief, but Sean refuses to let men suffer alone.

You can find Sean at https://linktr.ee/griefcycles

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133. Jeff Pearson of Invisible Condition

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 30 Jul 2025 04:04:00 GMT

What if you looked perfectly fine but had your brain rewired seven times? Jeff Pearson has.

I had a lovely conversation with Jeff Person of Invisible Condition, a TV show for people living with non visible chronic conditions. We talked all things chronic, podcasting, non profits and everything in between.

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-pearson-b57a564/

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132. Grief in Pop Culture

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 23 Jul 2025 04:00:00 GMT

In this episode I dive into the way pop culture influences our understanding of grief. From TV shows and movies to bestselling novels, pop culture often hands us a grief script that’s dramatic, tidy, and wildly unrealistic. (Spoiler: Grief doesn't resolve neatly in 90 minutes with soft violins.)

I break down common media tropes and contrast them with the messy, awkward, and beautiful truth of real-life grieving.

If you’ve cried through a movie funeral or rolled your eyes at another “grief makeover montage,” you’re not alone.

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Season 6 Trailer

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 16 Jul 2025 04:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Season 6! I’m getting back to my roots this season.

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131. What Does Healing Really Mean?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 18 Jun 2025 04:00:00 GMT

We’re wrapping up season 5! In this episode of Good Grief with Nikki the Death Doula, we unpack the messy, beautiful, and often misunderstood truth about healing. Spoiler alert: it’s not about “getting over it” or tying your pain up in a neat little bow.

I’ll dive into the myths we’re fed about healing, and what it actually looks like in real life.

We talk about the pressure to be "okay," and the quiet victories that count as progress. This one’s for anyone who’s been told to "stay strong" when they really needed space to fall apart.

Whether you're grieving a death, a diagnosis, or a life that didn’t go to plan, this conversation is your permission slip to heal in your own time, in your own way.

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130. Mike Oppenheim on Non-Death Loss of a Child

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 11 Jun 2025 04:07:00 GMT

Grief isn’t always about death. I met mike of the Coffin Talk podcast a couple months back and I knew immediately I had to have him on my show. Mike and I talk all aobut non-death loss and all the emotions it can bring.

Please follow Mike here:

And check out his podcast, it’s amazing! https://mikeyopp.substack.com/podcast

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**https://edynathan.com/**

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129. Sexual Grief with Edy Nathan

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 04 Jun 2025 16:10:00 GMT

Edy and I delved into one of the only subject more stigmatized than grief or death. Sex. But it’s not what you think, there are so many layers to us as humans and our grief.

(TW mentions of SA)

Edy Nathan, MA, LCSW, CST, is a licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, and grief expert who guides people through the terrain most avoid—grief, trauma, and sexuality.

Edy is the author of It’s Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery through Trauma and Loss, and is currently writing her second book, Dare to Live: The Sexual Grief Effect — Reveal the Shadow Wounds from Loathing to Liberation to Love.

You can find Edy here:

* X (Twitter): @edynathan1

* LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/edy-nathan

* Instagram: @edynathan

* Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EdyNathanPsychotherapy/

* Substack:

* Bluesky: @edyawe.bsky.social

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128.How to Start Difficult Conversations About Death and Dying

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 28 May 2025 04:00:00 GMT

Let’s face it, talking about death can feel like trying to bring up a tarantula at a dinner party. Most of us would rather not. But the truth is, avoiding these conversations doesn’t make death go away. It just leaves everyone guessing when it matters most.

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127. Adam Zuckerman of buriedinwork.com

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 21 May 2025 04:00:00 GMT

I had a wonderful conversation with the man behind Buriedinwork.com, Adam Zuckerman all about end of life planning and why it’s so important! please check out www.buriedinwork.com

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126. Speechless with Vanessa Abraham

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 14 May 2025 04:00:00 GMT

Vanessa Abraham was a speech therapist who lost her voice — literally.

A rare neurological disease — a form of Guillain-Barré Syndrome — left her completely paralyzed and unable to speak. What followed wasn’t just a physical recovery, but an emotional and spiritual reckoning with identity, isolation, and medical trauma that no one prepares you for.

Today, Vanessa is a neuromuscular practitioner, helping others heal after their own health crises — but survival was only the beginning of her story.

She written a memoir, Speechless: https://a.co/d/b4YGrQC

you can find Vanessa here:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-abraham-10a1661a3

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/speechless_slp/

Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/p/Speechless-SLP-61569361746127/

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125. Steve Gamlin on Losing his Soulmate

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 07 May 2025 04:00:00 GMT

In this tender and deeply honest conversation, I sat down with speaker Steve Gamlin to talk about one of the hardest experiences of his life: losing his soulmate.

Steve opens up about the moment everything changed, the grief that followed, and how he's been navigating the heartbreak one breath, one memory, and one day at a time. With his signature blend of wisdom and wit, he shares how love doesn't end with loss, and how he’s finding ways to honor her memory while continuing to live a life of purpose.

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https://stevegamlin.com/

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124. When The World Moves On

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 30 Apr 2025 04:17:00 GMT

“Why are they posting photos of their brunch when I’m still hurting? In this episode we're getting into one of the most gut-punch parts of grief that nobody really warns you about: that moment when it feels like the whole world has gone back to normal... but you're still in the thick of it.

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123. Two Floors Above Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 23 Apr 2025 04:00:00 GMT

I sat down and had a lovely conversation with Kevin O’Connor, author of Two Floors Above Grief, an autobiography about growing up living above a funeral home.

You can find Kevin and his book here: https://www.kevinoconnorauthor.com/

(Sign up for his newsletter, it’s great!)

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122. Myths About Death Doulas

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 16 Apr 2025 04:00:00 GMT

To kick off season 5 I am bustin’ some myths about death doulas! I’m also trying out adding video to my podcast. Eep!

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Season 5 trailer

Nikki the Death Doula — Thu, 10 Apr 2025 14:30:07 GMT

Season 5 starts on April 16th!

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121. Caregiver Warrior Susanne White

Nikki the Death Doula — Tue, 01 Apr 2025 22:29:57 GMT

To wrap up season 4 I had an amazing conversation with Susanne White, the Caregiver Warrior! We break down caregiving, our own mistakes and lessons we’ve learned and some peeks ay my own vulnerability!

You can find Susanne here:

⁠https://www.amazon.com/Self-Care-Caregivers-Practical-Guide-Caring/dp/1507218397/ref=asc_df_1507218397/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=693557684394&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=2310685967160583443&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9012431&hvtargid=pla-1645702321619&psc=1&mcid=2cae5ef6de653394a60bc247d99f7f9a⁠

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120. When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 05 Mar 2025 05:00:00 GMT

A little break today from the usual format to discuss the poem "When tomorrow starts without me" by David Romano.

Always remember, your grief is yours!

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119. Who Will Speak For You?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

It’s my hill to die on. Get those forms DONE. Buy why? Why is this so important?

Mentioned in the episode: https://www.ohiohealth.com/siteassets/about-us/health-ministry/ohio-advance-directives2.pdf

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118. Simple Escapes

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 19 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

It’s so easy to get stuck in grief, in routine, in caregiving, or just living, and it’s not always feasible to take a vacation or even get away for a day. So how can we escape even if just for a moment?

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117. Jen Blalock - Death Doula

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 12 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

I had a lovely conversation with fellow death doula, Jenn Blalock all about our work, fear and strength in working so near death.

You can find Jen here: https://www.deathdoulacincinnati.com/

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116. Grief Archetypes

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 05 Feb 2025 05:00:00 GMT

Grief is deeply personal, but have you ever noticed patterns in the way people experience and express it? Enter the world of grief archetypes—universal roles we often step into during times of loss. These archetypes help us understand our own grief and the grief of those around us.
In today’s episode, we’ll explore these archetypes, what they reveal about our coping styles, and ourselves. So, get comfortable, take a deep breath, and join me as we dive into the fascinating world of grief archetypes. Let’s begin.

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115. Medical Aid in Dying

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 29 Jan 2025 05:00:00 GMT

In this episode of Good Grief with Nikki the Death Doula, I sat down with Lisa Vigil Shattinger from Ohio End of Life Options to unpack the facts and misconceptions surrounding Medical Aid in Dying (MAiD). Lisa shares her expertise and passion for empowering individuals to make informed choices about their end-of-life journey. This is a must-listen for caregivers, advocates, and anyone curious about MAiD and the evolving conversation around death with dignity

Mentioned in This Episode: Ohio End of Life Options, https://www.outfeetfirst.com/, https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1715802/

You can find Lisa Vigil Shattinger here: Ohio End of Life Options

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114. Celebrity Deaths

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 22 Jan 2025 05:00:00 GMT

"Why are you so sad, you’ve never met them!” It’s perfectly normal and valid to mourn a celebrity! You’re not alone. Let’s talk about it.

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Bonus Rewind: Grief after Natural Disasters

Nikki the Death Doula — Mon, 20 Jan 2025 12:28:21 GMT

I wanted to send some love out to LA this week and recognize the collective grief being shared by all those affected by the wild fires. Please know you are seen and you are loved.

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Rewind: 80. How to Talk to Someone Who is Dying

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:00:00 GMT

A look back on what is now my most downloaded episode!

I am often asked “what do I say to them?!” when a loved one is dying. Or “can they hear me?” Let’s find out the answers to these and other questions about approaching someone who is dying.

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113. Defense Mechanisms

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 08 Jan 2025 05:00:00 GMT

We’re getting into psych 101 here with what are the defense mechanisms we use when we are grieving. But are they necessarily bad? Let’s find out!

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112. Happy New Year!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Jan 2025 05:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Season 4 and Happy New Year!! What did we learn in 2024 and what can we look forward to in 2025?

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Bonus Episode: A Personal Story

Nikki the Death Doula — Mon, 02 Dec 2024 05:00:00 GMT

TW!! This episode discusses death by suicide. I received bad news last week and felt compelled to talk about it.

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Happy Thanksgiving Plus an Announcement!

Nikki the Death Doula — Thu, 28 Nov 2024 05:00:00 GMT

I hear it time and time again. Caregiving is so isolating. Finding time for yourself is hard enough, let alone time to look for support. Well, now you have a community you can come to 24/7. Community support, self paced workshops, live groups, resources and so, SO much more. Plenty of spaces for everyone for at no cost to you. The first 20 members get a memberships to additional content for free for 3 months! https://caregivers-united.circle.so/

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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111. Kate LaSala Pet Death Doula

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 27 Nov 2024 05:00:00 GMT

In this last episode of Season 3:
If you’re a pet parent, you know. I’ve had episodes on pet loss before but here I get to chat with a pet death doula! It’s always nice to chat with someone else in the industry and Kate’s passion for end of life care and animals is obvious. I’m so grateful for her and her services!!
You can find Kate here:
https://rescuedbytraining.com/death-doula/

And here are a ton of other great resources from Kate!
Grief Resources post:
https://rescuedbytraining.com/2022/03/28/griefresources/

At Home Euthanasia and Vet Directory:
https://rescuedbytraining.com/2024/09/16/at-home-euthanasia/

Grief Journey 6 Months In:
https://rescuedbytraining.com/2024/10/14/my-grief-journey-six-months-in/

Advance Care Directive (free download):
https://rescuedbytraining.com/2024/05/06/advance-care-directive/

Support me on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula

You can find me here:
https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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110. Enshrinement and Bedevilment

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 20 Nov 2024 05:00:00 GMT

They might be big words but don’t be scared! It’s more common than you think to put our deceased loved ones on a pedestal or in a dungeon.

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/25/ecological-grief-i-mourn-the-loss-of-nature-it-saved-me-from-addiction

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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109. Tara Hayes on Anxiety

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 13 Nov 2024 05:00:00 GMT

I had a great conversation with Tara Hayes of Tarafied Publishing about her journey with anxiety. You can find Tara here: https://www.tarafiedpublishing.com/
And here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tara-hayes-359bb739/
Support me on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula
You can find me here:
https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula
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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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108. Mabel the Maple

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 06 Nov 2024 05:00:00 GMT

Is grief over a tree ok? What about a houseplant? It might sound silly but it’s very real!

Mentioned in the episode:

https://glennaalbrecht.wordpress.com/2020/06/16/covid-19-pandemics-and-solastalgia-from-alternatives-journal-324-5-2006/

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/10/16/climate/sugar-maple-tree-pennsylvania.html

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Rewind: Dia De Los Muertos 2022

Nikki the Death Doula — Fri, 01 Nov 2024 04:00:00 GMT

It's Dia De Los Muertos again so I'm rebroadcasting my episode from 2022. Enjoy!

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You can find me here:

https://www.lorettafox.com/

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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107. Author Loretta Fox on caregiving

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 30 Oct 2024 04:00:00 GMT

TW: Respectful discussion on religion and politics

I sat down with author Loretta Fox to talk about caregiving, a little religion and politics, and mediumship. And all about her new book “Walk Her up the Stairs.”

You can find Loretta here:

And her book here:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1035821184?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_98FHVJGHFJ6NYWBF304Z&peakEvent=4&dealEvent=1

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/walk-her-up-the-stairs-loretta-fox/1144525580;jsessionid=9D753CC5ECFEA1C865B9E908638B8D08.prodny_store01-atgap09

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7775995/

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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106. Mindfulness and Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 23 Oct 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Another buzzword being thrown around a lot these days. But what really is mindfulness and how can we use it with grief?

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.mindful.org/research-on-how-mindfulness-changes-the-brain-and-how-it-doesnt/

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://www.stephanielinn.com/

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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105. Stephanie Linn on Highly Sensitive People

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 16 Oct 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Have you ever been told you’re too sensitive? Or your emotions are so intense you think you’re going crazy? You might be an HSP. I am! I sat down with my good friend Stephanie Linn to talk all about HSPs and how we see the world and process our emotions.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/highly-sensitive-club/id1725412155

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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104. Self Care

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 09 Oct 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Self care is one of those terms that gets thrown around a lot and often misused. What does self care look like in grief? Let’s talk about it!

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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103. Alesia Galati on drugs, cancer and….cults?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 02 Oct 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Overdose, cancer, and….a cult? Alesia has quite an amazing story to tell and I cannot wait to share it with you.

You can find Alesia here: https://galatimedia.com/media/

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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102. Anthony Scott of My Last Farewell

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 25 Sep 2024 05:30:00 GMT

I’m starting season 3 with a conversation with my new good friend Anthony Scott of My Last Farewell. His enthusiasm and passion for what he does is obvious and I’m sure you’ll love him as much as I do after this!

You can find Anthony here: https://mylastfarewell.com/

(apologies for my terrible sound quality on my end! But at least the true star of this episode sounds great)

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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101. Carol Hamilton

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 21 Aug 2024 04:00:00 GMT

I had a lovely conversation with Carol Hamilton from the Feminist Podcast Collective on the loss of her parents. Carol hosts the podcast Mission: Impact. Where she facilitates whole-brain equity-focused strategic planning, evaluation design, and organizational assessments for nonprofits and associations.

You can find her podcast here: https://pod.link/missionimpact

She is also a consultant for non-profits and you can get more info on that here: https://www.gracesocialsector.com/

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://beckymollenkamp.com

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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100. The 100th Episode!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 04:00:00 GMT

It’s my 100th full episode1 I’m so thrilled to have come this far. Here’s to 100 more.

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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99. Get the End of Life Care You Want

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 07 Aug 2024 04:00:00 GMT

70% of Americans want to die at home but only 30% do. What gives? How can we get our wishes at end of life?

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Music:
⁠https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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98. Becky Mollenkamp

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 31 Jul 2024 04:00:00 GMT

TW: mentions of addiction and some cursing.

I had another great conversation this week. Becky Mollenkamp is a feminist coach for small business owners who are ready to make a big leap in business but also want to check out of hustle culture. She lost her brother very suddenly in 2010 to an overdose. We shared so many similar stories in our sibling loss here and I’m so happy to share with.

You can find Becky at:

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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97. Jessica Waite on Loss, betrayal and renewal

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 24 Jul 2024 04:00:00 GMT

I had another lovely conversation with the up and coming author Jessica Waite.

When life handed her a riveting, horrifying and surprisingly beautiful story, Jessica Waite transformed herself into a writer. Now she harnesses the healing potential of storytelling to help others find their way back to joy and connection. Jessica is the creator of endlesstories.love, a website for bereaved people to keep memories alive. Her memoir “The Widow’s Guide to Dead B******s” is coming out with Simon & Schuster July 30.

You can find Jessica here: Jessicawaite.work

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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96. Vanessa Joy

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 17 Jul 2024 04:00:00 GMT

TW: Language and mentions of abuse

I had another great conversation here with Vanessa Joy. Vanessa is an Autistic, ADHD trans woman that survived nearly four decades of familial abuse. She is now the head of her own podcast, Transcending Humanity, a professional photographer, and a leader in the Ohio Equal Rights organization working on amending the Ohio Constitution to enshrine equality, and stop hateful legislation.

You can find Vanessa here:

Personal stuff: https://linktr.ee/vanesstradiol
Podcast: https://linktr.ee/transcendinghumanity
Ohio Equal Rights: https://www.ohioequalrights.com/

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://theamateursguide.com/2024/06/10/how-to-plan-a-funeral/

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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95. How to Plan a Funeral

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 10 Jul 2024 04:00:00 GMT

I’m not a funeral director and neither are you. Unless you are. Anyway, a lot goes into planning a funeral so let’s talk about all the choices we need to make and how we can make this as painless as possible!

Mentioned in the episode:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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94. Losing a Co-Worker or Colleague

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 03 Jul 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Have you ever lost someone you worked with? It’s a complicated grief to be certain. Let’s talk about it.

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://theamateursguide.com/2024/04/21/nobody-likes-dealing-with-death/

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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93. Steff Gallante on the Sudden Loss of Her Father

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 26 Jun 2024 04:00:00 GMT

I had a beautiful conversation with a lovely human. Steff Glallante shares her story of losing her father just a few short months ago. Her grief is new and raw and she was so brave to share this with us. You can find Steff on her website: http://www.steffgallante.com/ and on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/steffgallante/

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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92. What Does Death Positive Mean?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 19 Jun 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Season 2!! So happy to be back! What does death positive mean? And why does it sound so icky? Spoiler: IT’S NOT! We’ll dive into what this movement is and what is means to be ok with death.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.orderofthegooddeath.com/death-positive-movement/

deathcafe.com

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://www.amazon.com/stores/Steven-Case/author/B07RXL954N?fbclid=IwAR1O0Lw5dY5KvoBhilkNEoNXzhyyy-4SETXLeIFcn6aqJ1UCH4cT2cAgdCo&ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday.

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91. Steve Case on giving death the finger

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 22 May 2024 10:15:34 GMT

I had a hilarious conversation with my new friend Steve Case. CONTENT ADVISORY; CURSING AHEAD!

Steven Case is that snort-laugh you hear at the back of the church during the prayer on Sunday morning.

A 30 year veteran of youth ministry, speaker, workshop leader, and writer Steve Case can interpret the musings of a 17th Century Monk, create moving monologues based on God's closest encounters in the scriptures or create laugh-out-loud fart jokes in ways that would make any back-row church lady scowl.

You are allowed to laugh and you are allowed to pray and these two things need not be at odds with each other.

Steve Case is available for workshops, keynotes and conferences to speak to groups of all ages on humor and the scriptures. Feel free to shoot him an email at steve.case.speaks@gmail.com

He's also on Instagram @Eyes_up_with_Milo

You can find his books here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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A Special Announcement

Nikki the Death Doula — Mon, 20 May 2024 04:00:00 GMT

No worries, I'm not going anywhere! But some changes are coming.

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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90. Cleo Childs on Poetry, Alzheimer's and Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 15 May 2024 04:00:00 GMT

I had a great conversation with Cleo on her use of poetry to navigate her grief over the loss of her mother to Alzheimer’s at only 28 years old. You can find Cleo here:

cleochilds.com

Cleo Childs is releasing her spoken word poetry album "Moving With" on May 15th. This album will be the culmination of two and a half years of writing about the journey of grief she experienced after losing her mom to Alzheimer's when she was 28 years old. Her mother was an English major in college and her grandmother, who is also one of her editors, was an English teacher for 30 years so she came by her grief processing tool of writing poetry naturally. With this spoken word poetry album, she hopes to show the path her grief took from having her mother, losing her mother, and the peace and acceptance she feels now. She also hopes to give an authentic and honest look at what her grief felt like so other people going through grief don't feel alone and feel community in their grief.

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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The Woman and The Falcon (Rebroadcast)

Nikki the Death Doula — Sun, 12 May 2024 04:00:00 GMT

A very happy Mother's Day to you.

Susan's Book: https://a.co/d/gKDXcbr

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/05/17/science/elephants-mourning-grief.html

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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89. Elephants and Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 08 May 2024 04:00:00 GMT

We know dogs feel grief, but so do many in the animal kingdom. But the grief of elephants is broad and complex. Let's dive in!

Mentioned in the Episode:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ku_GUNzXoeQ

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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88. Legal Troubles for Doulas

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 May 2024 04:00:00 GMT

A couple of death doulas have recently been challenged on their work. What does that mean for the rest of us?

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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87. Poetry on Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 24 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Thank you for your patience as I had no time for a full episode. But I didn't want to leave you with nothing!

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here:

https://theamateursguide.com/2024/03/29/does-morphine-speed-up-death-at-the-end-of-life/

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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86. Understanding Hospice

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 17 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

An episode dedicated to just hospice! What is it, what is it not?! Why are so many people scared of the word itself. Let’s dive in.

Mentioned in the episode:

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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85. Dogs Feel Grief Too

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 10 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

We love our furry companions and they love us too. So much so they feel grief as much as we do! How can we support them in their grief? Let’s talk about it!

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.newsweek.com/dogs-feel-grief-too-heres-how-we-can-help-them-1842564

Support me on Patreon! ⁠https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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84. Comfort and Connection

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 03 Apr 2024 04:00:00 GMT

I’m always saying we need to take care of ourselves and give ourselves some breaks when we can. Well here are 7 GREAT ideas for some self care and connection.

mentioned in the episode:

https://bemorewithless.com/comfort-and-connection/

Support me on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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83. Tori on Chronic Disease and Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 27 Mar 2024 04:00:00 GMT

I had a great conversation with my long time friend Tori about her struggles with chronic disease and pain and the grief involved in losing the life you one thought you’d have.

You can find Tori’s awesome merch here: https://fortytwosquirrels.com/

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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82. Emily on Grief After Divorce

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 20 Mar 2024 04:00:00 GMT

This week a lovely conversation with a fellow death doula, Emily who shared her story of the grief associated with the ending of her marriage. We talk divorce, pet loss, woo-woo and everything in between! (TW: small mention of pet death)

You can find Emily here:

www.GuidedTransitionsOhio.com

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555991639169

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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81. Death and Money

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 13 Mar 2024 04:00:00 GMT

Everyone’s two most favorite topics!! (Don’t worry no politics here) But unfortunately these go hand in hand. So buckle up buttercup, we’re gonna get some tips on how to handle the green before you’re under the green. See what I did there?

You can find me here:

https://www.grief2hopesupport.com/

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Crossover: Our Last Meal

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 06 Mar 2024 05:00:00 GMT

This week my dear friend Andrew from Our Last Meal and I are doing a little feed swap. I really love his show and appreciate him and what he's doing and want to share it with all of you. Andrew is a kind and compassionate man who helps people share their stories of grief, love and the meals we share. Please check him out at https://www.ourlastmeal.com. He's on all the socials at @ourlastmealpod

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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80. How To Talk To Someone Who is Dying

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 28 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT

I am often asked “what do I say to them?!” when a loved one is dying. Or “can they hear me?” Let’s find out the answers to these and other questions about approaching someone who is dying.

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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79. Grief 2 Hope

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 21 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT

I sat down to have a great conversation with another grief specialist, Hope Reger of Grief2Hope. She shares her story of how she turned tragedy into an opportunity to help.

You can find Hope here:

https://www.facebook.com/Grief2Hope2020/

https://www.instagram.com/grief2hope2020/

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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78. Anticipated Sudden Death: A Paradox

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 14 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT

What happens when an expected death comes suddenly? Was it expected or not? Let's discuss this paradox a bit.
Mentioned in the episode:

https://whatsyourgrief.com/the-paradoxical-grief-of-anticipated-sudden-death/

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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77. Tony Lynch on Men's Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 07 Feb 2024 05:00:00 GMT

I had an amazing conversation on grief with Tony a professional in Men's Grief! You can find Tony's podcast "Grief, let's talk about it." here: https://www.youtube.com/@griefletstalkaboutit

And you can find more about Tony and his non-profit here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/527361677914845/?mibextid=oMANbw

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tony-lynch-8035b6173

You can find me here:

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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76. Overcoming Death Anxiety

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 31 Jan 2024 05:00:00 GMT

We're all a little scared of dying. Heck, I face it all the time and it still scares me! It's normal. But how can we cope with this innate fear?

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Rewind: 32. What is an End of Life Doula Anyway?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 24 Jan 2024 05:00:00 GMT

Another look back at a prior episode!
I say it at the top of every episode. So what is it I do? We'll take a quick break from grief to learn more about this quasi-new profession and what it means.

You can find me here:

https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/research-studies/addiction-research/grief-and-addiction

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Rewind: 31. Grief and Addiction

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 17 Jan 2024 05:00:00 GMT

A look back at a prior episode.

Grief actually plays a big role in recovery from addiction. But can also big a big cause. Let's dive in!

If you need help with addiction please call the National Helpline, ⁠1-800-662-HELP (4357)⁠

Mentioned in the episode:

https://oxbowacademy.net/educationalarticles/grief_add_recov/

https://whatsyourgrief.com/i-did-not-kill-my-husband/

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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75. Grief; We're Doing it Wrong!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 10 Jan 2024 05:00:00 GMT

We're going about grief all wrong. What can we do to improve our outlook on love and loss?

You can find me here:

⁠https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula⁠

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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74. Important Conversations

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 03 Jan 2024 05:00:00 GMT

I know, talking about death stinks, but we HAVE to do it!! Why? Let's find out.

You can find me here:

Go to ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠ for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
⁠https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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73. Difficult Questions for our Elderly Loved Ones

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 27 Dec 2023 05:00:00 GMT

It's uncomfortable. It's awkward. But we need to have these conversations with our parents and elder loved ones.

Mentioned in the episode: https://theamateursguide.com/2023/11/29/6-uncomfortable-but-necessary-questions-to-ask-your-older-parents/

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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The White Envelope

Nikki the Death Doula — Mon, 25 Dec 2023 05:00:00 GMT

A little revisit of my special Christmas episode form last year. It think it bears sharing again.

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Rewind: Grief and the Holidays

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 20 Dec 2023 05:00:00 GMT

A look back at my episode from last year. The holidays can amplify our grief. How can we cope with loss during "The most wonderful time of the year"?

You can find me here:

https://youtu.be/jbTrbySS3fU?si=jcd4IsoV9OepV1Oq

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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72. Kari the Music Therapist

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 13 Dec 2023 05:00:00 GMT

I had a great conversation with my dear friend Kari, the music therapist.

Kari O'Briant has been practicing as a board certified music therapist for more than 13 years. She has worked with a variety of clinical populations in that time; currently she supports individuals and families in early intervention and pediatric palliative care. Originally from Virginia, Kari received her bachelor's in music therapy from Radford University and her master's in music therapy from Temple University. She lives in Massachusetts with her husband, son, and best dog Reshi.

mentioned in the episode:

https://www.musictherapy.org/

https://www.wfmt.info/

https://voices.no/index.php/voices/index

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1448567981950429

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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71. Honoring Your Loved Ones

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 06 Dec 2023 05:00:00 GMT

I talk a lot about honoring our loved ones to remember them after they are gone. But what does that look like? What can we do?

Mentioned in the episode:
https://whatsyourgrief.com/64-ways-to-honor-deceased-loved-ones/

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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70. Andrew from Our Last Meal

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 29 Nov 2023 05:00:00 GMT

I was so happy to bring Andrew back on for another great conversation. Andrew discusses the loss of his grandmother, her cornbread, and the impact of her on his family.

You can find Andrew and his amazing podcast here: https://www.ourlastmeal.com

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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69. Grief and the Body

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 22 Nov 2023 05:00:00 GMT

Grief can do a number on our minds, but it can affect us physically too! Let's talk about it.

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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68. Kami on Pregnancy Loss

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 15 Nov 2023 05:00:00 GMT

I had another beautiful conversation with Kami of the new non profit here in Columbus, Let the Light In, on pregnancy loss. Obviously TW: pregnancy loss and miscarriage.

You can find All the information you want about Let the Light in here: https://www.ltli.org And please note Giving Tuesday is 11/28! We'd love your support to help grow this very needed organization. You can donate right here: https://givebutter.com/l621zz

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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67. Grief Years Later

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 08 Nov 2023 05:00:00 GMT

What is grief like months or years down the road? How does it change over time? Let's find out!

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Rewind: 21. Dia De Los Muertos

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Nov 2023 10:29:19 GMT

A little rewind for you today, as it felt appropriate to re-air this on the day before dia De Los Muertos!
What is Day of the Dead? Let's learn about a beautiful annual celebration honoring those we've lost.

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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66. The Sandwich Generation

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 25 Oct 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Are you dealing with aging parents along with children and maybe even grandchildren? Well welcome to the crappiest generation! Let's discuss what it means to be here and what we can do to alleviate some of the stress.

You can find me here:

https://www.npr.org/series/169065270/losing-our-religion

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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65. Knowing When it's Time to Say Goodbye to Your Pet

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 18 Oct 2023 04:00:00 GMT

If you're a pet parent eventually you may be facing this decision and it's not always straightforward. But we can at least make an informed decision.

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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64. Nicole with Defy The Trend Coaching

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 11 Oct 2023 04:00:00 GMT

I had an AMAZING conversation on grief and faith withe Nicole. She's a burnout coach with a history in ministry.
Nicole Havelka:

She is a burnout coach and mindfulness teacher with more than 20 years of experience. She founded the Defy the Trend coaching community to help helpers, caregivers, activists and artists a place to recharge their creativity, focus on what’s important and make time to really, truly rest. Learn more about Nicole and try her free anti-burnout community any time: defythetrend.com/community.
mentioned in the episode:

https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2022/09/13/how-u-s-religious-composition-has-changed-in-recent-decades/

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2016/08/24/why-americas-nones-left-religion-behind/

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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63. Gratitude Without Guilt

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 04 Oct 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Feeling gratitude during grief feels weird, doesn't it? Do you ever feel a little bad about feeling grateful for things when you've suffered a loss? That's perfectly normal and ok!! Let's talk about.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2733324/

https://www.brainbalancecenters.com/blog/gratitude-and-the-brain-what-is-happening

You can find me here:

https://open.spotify.com/show/0VNEwimEff336jFTdRKAmP?si=21b21eeafb44406b

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Bonus Episode: Felicity and the World of Cuddling

Nikki the Death Doula — Sat, 30 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Felicity is a professional Cuddler! And in this new world of social distancing, human contact is more precious than ever. Let's hear all about it.

You can find Felicity's podcast here:

You can find me here:

https://freestylehealing.com/

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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62. Dr Jaydee Robles

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 27 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Dr Jaydee tells us all about his relationship with his father and how it lead to his path to becoming a Doctor of acupuncture and Chinese medicine.

You can find more on Dr Jaydee and his practice here:

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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61. The Healing Power of Nature

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 20 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

You hear me talk a lot about how I love nature and the outdoors. Studies have shown it can boost your mood! But how?

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-019-44097-3

https://e360.yale.edu/features/ecopsychology-how-immersion-in-nature-benefits-your-health

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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60. Dying at Home

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 13 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Almost everyone will say they'd rather die at home in their own bed. How feasible is this and what all makes it possible? It's not as simple as you'd think!

You can find me here:

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/14/smarter-living/what-to-say-and-what-not-to-say-to-someone-whos-grieving.html

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Rewind: What to say (and not say) to someone who is grieving

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 06 Sep 2023 04:00:00 GMT

I wanted to re-post my most popular episode this week!

It's hard to find the right words sometimes, isn't it? How do you talk to someone who is grieving without sticking your foot in your mouth? Let's talk about it!

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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59. Tommy

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 30 Aug 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Tommy, from the Post Humpday Podcast shares his amazing journey through addiction, loss, grief and sobriety, and what life after all this is like.

Check out the PHD podcast!

https://www.instagram.com/posthumpday/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK_iGWnKfHgzfqFojG4Armw

You can find me here:

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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58. Angelina

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 23 Aug 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Angelina is no stranger to loss, losing both her grandfather and father to same disease. We talked about love, loss and what it's like to have a big Italian family.

You can find me here:

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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57. Collective Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 16 Aug 2023 04:00:00 GMT

What is collective grief? And what can we do about it? Let's find out!

You can find me here:

https://www.survivornet.com/articles/dirty-jobs-star-mike-rowes-mom-peggy-rowe-got-really-angry-after-her-breast-cancer-diagnosis-how-she-found-healing-in-local-support-group/

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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56. Grief and Anger

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 09 Aug 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Angry about your loss? Totally ok. Feeling a little ragey somtimes? That's ok too!! Anger can be good for us. Let's find out why.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://whatsyourgrief.com/anger-in-grief-makes-you-angry/

You can find me here:

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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55. Bekah - The Yooman Podcast

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 02 Aug 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Bekah of The Yooman Podcast and I had a beautiful conversation about the sudden death of a dear friend and delaying grief.

Definitely check out The Yooman Podcast!
https://yoomanpodcast.podbean.com/

You can find me here:

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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54. Pamela

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 26 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

TW: There are mentions of suicide in this episode.

I sat down and had a lovely conversation with a beautiful soul who endured SO much. We discussed broke families, abusive relationships, sibling loss and coming out on the other side.

You can find Pamela's book here:
https://a.co/d/5suknSd
And check out Pamela's website:
http://hypnobreakthrough.com/

You can find me here:

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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53. Healing from Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Stop trying to heal your grief! Wait, what?

Mentioned in the episode:
https://whatsyourgrief.com/stop-trying-to-heal-from-grief/

You can find me here:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33813876/

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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52. Shared Death Experiences and Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 12 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

This week we're diving into the interesting phenomenon of shared death experiences and how they impact grief.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.cnn.com/interactive/2014/12/us/shared-death/#:~:text=Symptoms%20of%20a%20near%2Ddeath,bed%20coincidences%2C%E2%80%9D%20researchers%20say

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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51. Comfort and Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 05 Jul 2023 04:00:00 GMT

We all seek comfort, it's instinct. But can we have too much? Let's find out!

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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50. Megan on the Loss of a Stepchild

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 28 Jun 2023 04:00:16 GMT

Another subject under the giant umbrella of disenfranchised grief. Megan talks about the traumatic and sudden loss of her stepchild, the painful stereotyping of stepmothers, and learning to cope with PTSD. I cannot thank Megan enough for sharing her story.

Mentioned in the episode: check out our good friends at It's All Been Done Presents https://www.iabdpresents.com/radio-hour-podcast

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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49. Myths About Death and Dying

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 21 Jun 2023 04:00:00 GMT

Sometimes some knowledge about scary things can make them less scary and take the sting out of grief. So let's look at some common myths about dying.

Mentioned in the episode: https://www.today.com/health/hospice-nurse-common-misconceptions-death-rcna88538

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Rewind - Disenfranchised Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 14 Jun 2023 04:00:34 GMT

Sorry!!! I don't have a new episode this week so here is one of my faves back from my early days.

You can find me here:

https://inelda.org/acceptance-denial-and-related-responses-to-death/

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Music:
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48. Making Your Grief Plan

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 07 Jun 2023 04:00:37 GMT

Failure to plan is planning to fail. Getting a plan in place for those bad days can really lessen the blow. Let's make our plan!

Mentioned in the episode:
https://whatsyourgrief.com/a-grief-care-plan-your-foundation-for-support/

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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47. Denial and Acceptance

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 31 May 2023 04:00:57 GMT

Denial=bad, acceptance=good. Right? Well not really. Let's see why.

Mentioned in the episode:

You can find me here:

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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46. Supporting Someone With Terminal Illness

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 24 May 2023 04:00:06 GMT

A terminal diagnosis can be terrifying, and a lot of emotions flying all over the place. How can you support someone who is facing this scary new future? Let's dive in!

You can find me here:

https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

Go to ⁠https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula⁠ for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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45. Emotional Pain

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 17 May 2023 04:00:22 GMT

Everybody huuuuuurts, sometimes.... emotional pain is real. And it SUCKS. But why do we hurt? And what can we do about it?

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44b. The Woman and The Falcon

Nikki the Death Doula — Sun, 14 May 2023 04:00:32 GMT

A bonus episode for Mother's Day. A story by Susan Morrell from her book On Falcon Wings. You can get your copy of Susan's book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1960399403

This story was read with permission from Susan.

You can find me here:

https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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44. Interview with Noah Mussay

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 10 May 2023 04:00:19 GMT

Noah is a young man living with Spina bifida. I had a very lovely conversation with him on the challenges of making keeping friends with a disability, and the feelings of isolation it can bring. But this hasn't stopped this happy Big Brother enthusiast! Let's hear all about his trials and even learn about sled hockey!

You can find Noah on Twitter at @noahmussay

You can ME here: ⁠https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

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Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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43. Grief in the Elderly

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 03 May 2023 04:00:13 GMT

Another one to put in the umbrella of disenfranchised grief, grief in the elderly is often glossed over, but can be the most devastating. What is it and how can we help our elders cope?

Go to https://betterhelp.com/nikkithedeathdoula for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored

You can find me here:

https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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42. Grief Assumptions

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 26 Apr 2023 04:00:19 GMT

Assumptions on grief can make grieving even harder. Let's talk about why and what we can do about it!

Mentioned in the episode:

https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-assumptions-and-grief-myths

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You can find me here:

https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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41. Conversation With Josie On The Loss of Her Son

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 19 Apr 2023 04:00:08 GMT

TW: child loss

I sat down to talk with Josie on the loss of her son, Rhett who died at the age of 3 after a battle with undiagnosed neurological problems.

I don't have children, but I can imagine no worse loss than the loss of a child. Join us as we talk about the grief and pain involved in this unbearable grief.

Join the conversation on her Facebook page Rhett's Legacy: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063555547869

You can find me here:

https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

Music:

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40. The Memory Collective

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 12 Apr 2023 04:00:37 GMT

I had the most amazing chat with Kara Long, found of The Memory Collective.

You can find Kara here: https://thememorycollectiveco.com

And you can find me here:

https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula
Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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39. Compound Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 05 Apr 2023 04:00:24 GMT

"When it rains it pours." "Things always happen in threes." When the hits just keep on comin' it can feel unbearable. So what is compound grief and what can we do about it? Let's find out.

You can find me here: https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Music: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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38. Andrew with Our Last Meal Podcast

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 29 Mar 2023 04:00:35 GMT

I had a great conversation with Andrew from the Our Last Meal podcast. It was nice to talk with someone else who is passionate about destigmatizing grief! Please check out Andrew's show, I can guarantee you will love it.

https://www.ourlastmeal.com

https://www.instagram.com/ourlastmealpod

If you'd like to see the video for this conversation, subscribe to my Patreon! (Links below)

Find me here:
https://linktr.ee/nikkithedeathdoula

Music:
https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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37. The Six Central Needs of Mourning

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 22 Mar 2023 04:00:24 GMT

I've said it again and again, we need to face our grief. We need to mourn. This list says it all, but as always your grief is your own and there is no wrong way to mourn.

Music: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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36. Grief and AI

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 15 Mar 2023 04:00:12 GMT

So I'm jumping on the bandwagon here to see what chat GPT has to say about grief and grieving. I was quite surprised with the results!

You can find me here:

Music: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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Bonus Episode; Pinocchio and Memorials

Nikki the Death Doula — Sun, 12 Mar 2023 21:25:06 GMT

Just a quickie on Guillermo del Toro's Pinocchio and Memorials. *THIS CONTAINS SPOILERS FOR THE MOVIE*

Where to find me:

https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/health-history/its-time-let-five-stages-grief-die

Music: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

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35. The Stages of Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 08 Mar 2023 05:00:03 GMT

Yes we're diving in to those (in)famous staged of grief from the Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her book "On Death and Dying." And yes, I am biased!

Mentioned in the episode:

https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

Music:

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34. After Life (The Netflix Series)

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Mar 2023 05:00:18 GMT

This was one of the most honest and beautiful portrayals of grief I have seen. I cannot recommend this series enough!!

https://www.netflix.com/title/80998491

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/After_Life_(TV_series)

https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

Music:

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33. Chat with Jennifer Landon of Your Grief Matters

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 22 Feb 2023 05:00:11 GMT

I had a lovely chat with the lady behind the facebook support group "your Grief Matters". If you'd like to see the video of our conversation you cand o so by becoming a Patron at my Patreon. Details below.

Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/866256221464175

https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

Music:

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32. What is an End of Life Doula anyway?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 15 Feb 2023 05:00:29 GMT

I say it at the top of every episode. So what is it I do? We'll take a quick break from grief to learn more about this quasi-new profession and what it means.

https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

Music:

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31. Grief and Addiction

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 08 Feb 2023 05:00:32 GMT

Grief actually plays a big role in recovery from addiction. But can also big a big cause. Let's dive in!

If you need help with addiction please call the National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/research-studies/addiction-research/grief-and-addiction

https://oxbowacademy.net/educationalarticles/grief_add_recov/

https://whatsyourgrief.com/i-did-not-kill-my-husband/

https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cheery-monday

Music:

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30. Sociocultural Influences on Bereavement and Other Big Fancy Words

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Feb 2023 05:00:28 GMT

Come hear me stammer out big fancy words that explain why we grieve the way we do. What are our differences and what do we all have in common?

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK217844/

https://theamateursguide.com/how-different-cultures-deal-with-grief-and-mourning/

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

Support me on Patreon!

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29. Ambiguous Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 25 Jan 2023 05:00:46 GMT

It's pretty similar to Anticipatory Grief, but it's its own beast. What it is and how do we deal with it?

Mentioned in the episode:

https://whatsyourgrief.com/ambiguous-grief-grieving-someone-who-is-still-alive/

https://www.ambiguousloss.com/

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

Support me on Patreon!

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28. Grief in the Workplace

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 18 Jan 2023 05:00:01 GMT

Navigating the workplace while grieving presents so many challenges. And how can you help a co-worker who suffered a recent loss? All that and more in today's episode.

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

Support me on Patreon!

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27. Sexual Bereavement

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 11 Jan 2023 05:00:14 GMT

We're going there! Yes, this is a thing and it's real and just as painful as any other form of grief.

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

Support me on Patreon!

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26. A New Year!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 04 Jan 2023 05:00:45 GMT

A new year is here. What do you have planned?

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

Support me on Patreon!

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The White Envelope

Nikki the Death Doula — Sun, 25 Dec 2022 05:00:16 GMT

Just a little story I'd like to share with you that has sat in my heart for years.

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

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Story Time: The Lamp

Nikki the Death Doula — Sun, 11 Dec 2022 01:27:11 GMT

An intriguing story that's made it's rounds on the internet that I wanted to share with you tonight.

Original story here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/comments/30t9kd/repost_a_parallel_life_awoken_by_a_lamp/

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

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25. Roadblocks, Red Tape, and Grief; Oh My!

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 30 Nov 2022 05:00:09 GMT

Ugh. Is there anything worse than bureaucracy? Well, try navigating it while grieving. Let's look at what to expect so maybe we can head this off at the pass.

You can find me here https://www.nikkithedeathdoula.comand here https://www.instagram.com/nikkithedeathdoula

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24. Grief and the Holidays

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 23 Nov 2022 05:00:31 GMT

The Holidays are hard already. Drop a big ol' pile of grief on top of that and it can be unbearable. How do we get through this time of year? Let's find out.

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23. Parasocial Relationships and Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 05:00:21 GMT

So what does it mean to grieve someone who doesn't even know you? And is it ok to grieve a celebrity's passing? Of course!! Let's talk about it.

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22. Why Does Grief Feel So....BIG?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 09 Nov 2022 05:00:41 GMT

Grief can feel so overwhelming. But why?

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21. Dia De Los Muertos

Nikki the Death Doula — Tue, 01 Nov 2022 04:00:13 GMT

What is Day of the Dead? Let's learn about a beautiful annual celebration honoring those we've lost.

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20. How To Process Your Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 26 Oct 2022 04:00:25 GMT

Finally! I keep telling everyone you need to process your grief. Well now we can work on how.

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19. Letter From My Heart to My Brain

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 19 Oct 2022 04:00:14 GMT

A poem. My Rachel McKibbens

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18. 5 Death Rituals From Around the World

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 12 Oct 2022 04:00:04 GMT

Rituals for our dead can be a beautiful way to grieve. Let's learn about some amazing rituals from around the world.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://theamateursguide.com/how-these-5-death-rituals-from-around-the-world-honor-the-dead/

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17. Grief After Natural Disasters

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 05 Oct 2022 04:00:00 GMT

Hurricane Ian just devastated a big chunk of the west coast of Florida. Thousands of lives have been ruined. How do we cope as a nation?

Mentioned in the episode:

https://store.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/d7/priv/sma17-5035.pdf

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3619160/

https://www.apa.org/topics/disasters-response/recovering#

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16. 7 Signs You're not Dealing With Your Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 28 Sep 2022 04:00:37 GMT

Are you coping well with your grief? Maybe, maybe not. Let's talk about 7 warning signs that maybe you need to process your grief.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://youtu.be/l2mQlbka-Rg

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15. Suicide Prevention

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 21 Sep 2022 04:00:30 GMT

**TRIGGER WARNING** This episode we look at warning signs and how to help someone who may be considering ending their life. If this subject is too difficult for you please skip this one and tune in next week. Take care of yourself!

National Suicide Prevention hotline in the US is 988, or 800.273.8255

Mentioned in today's episode:

https://qprinstitute.com

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14. Grief Vs. Depression

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 14 Sep 2022 04:00:19 GMT

What's the difference and how are they treated? The answer might surprise you! Or not. Let's talk about it!

Mentioned in the episode:

https://theamateursguide.com/grief-vs-depression/

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2012-13598-002

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13. Anticipatory Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 07 Sep 2022 04:00:17 GMT

Pre-grieving, as I call it. What is is, what to expect and what to do about it.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.verywellhealth.com/understanding-anticipatory-grief-and-symptoms-2248855

https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/03/11/anticipatory-grief-meaning-coping/

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12. Post Hike Depression

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 31 Aug 2022 04:00:07 GMT

It's a little self-serving but let's talk about the grief felt after a big life event. Because I'm absolutely feelin' it right now.

Mentioned in the epsiode:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Long_Trail

https://thetrek.co/post-trail-depression-not-think/

https://appalachiantrail.org/official-blog/post-trail-depression-what-its-like-how-it-happens-how-to-get-over-it/

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11. Grief and the DSM

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 27 Jul 2022 04:00:21 GMT

Is grief a mental disorder or just a part of being human? I have feelings on this one. Big feelings.

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https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/article/2666/is-prolonged-grief-a-disorder/395923c8-3622-4bf5-8f91-edf0cd61424c/oim

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10. Fear of Forgetting

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 20 Jul 2022 04:00:21 GMT

Spoiler alert: you won't forget the ones you love when they're gone.

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https://www.amazon.com/Bearing-Unbearable-Love-Heartbreaking-Grief/dp/1614292965

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9. Grief Versus Mourning

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 13 Jul 2022 04:00:56 GMT

What's the difference? Let's find out!

Mentioned in the episode:

https://theamateursguide.com/sitting-shiva-and-los-nueve-dias/

https://theamateursguide.com/the-act-of-mourning-itself-is-a-final-destitute-version-of-love/

https://thetrek.co/appalachian-trail/taking-grief-to-the-trail/

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8. Survivors Guilt

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 06 Jul 2022 04:00:58 GMT

What is survivors Guilt and how can we work through it? Let's find out!

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7. Sibling Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 29 Jun 2022 04:00:28 GMT

Siblings are often referred to as "The Forgotten Mourners". It's a complicated grief that unfortunately many of us share.

Mentioned in the episode:

https://www.compassionatefriends.org

https://www.facebook.com/groups/21358475781/about

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6. Pet Loss

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 22 Jun 2022 04:00:10 GMT

Losing a beloved pet is no small grief. In some ways it's harder than human loss. But either way it's grief and it's a hard one.

Mentioned in the episode: https://www.lapoflove.com

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5. Am I Crazy?

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 15 Jun 2022 04:00:58 GMT

Have you ever asked yourself. "Self, am I crazy?" Guess what? You're not. Let's find out why.

Article mentioned:

https://www.heart.org/en/news/2021/03/10/how-grief-rewires-the-brain-and-can-affect-health-and-what-to-do-about-it

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4. Disenfranchised Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 08 Jun 2022 10:28:16 GMT

Dis-a-whut? Let's look at some "unconventional" grief, shall we? Because any grief is grief. And it's ok!

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1. An Introduction

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Jun 2022 04:00:51 GMT

Just thought I'd introduce myself!

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https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/14/smarter-living/what-to-say-and-what-not-to-say-to-someone-whos-grieving.html

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2. What to say (and not say) to someone who is grieving

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Jun 2022 04:00:33 GMT

It's hard to find the right words sometimes, isn't it? How do you talk to someone who is grieving without sticking your foot in your mouth? Let's talk about it!

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3. How to Talk to Children About Grief

Nikki the Death Doula — Wed, 01 Jun 2022 04:00:10 GMT

How do we talk to kids about grief? Let's find out.

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