Yes. Your (and my) favourite Australian Male Escort.

In todays episode we talk about an incredible experience George had with a woman who’s husband gifted her ..his services.

If you want to learn more about George and maybe even consider his services yourself feel free to parouse HERE

Plot twist…as we were about to end the interview George asked me what was new in my life as far as experiences go..and ..well you will need to listen to hear what I revealed.

Happy Thursday lovers..

Enjoy

and In(absolute)joy

M

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We unpack power, privilege, and the politics of pleasure , and dive into what it really means to “hold the feminine.”

Why are so many women craving to be deeply seen, prioritized, and made love to without performance or pressure? And what does it reveal about modern intimacy that some are paying to experience it?

This episode challenges assumptions and invites a deeper look at gender, desire, and who gets celebrated and who gets scrutinized.

Check out Georges site HERE

AND learn how to last as long as he does HERE

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The internet version is terribly fake.

The red pill dogma that is being pushed is not actually making men stronger at all and it is definitely not making women safer. Instead of creating healthier relationships or societies, it is actually doing the complete opposite.

Red pill ideology teaches emotional suppression, domination, and hierarchy taken as a given from the mens side (….??) not so much responsibility, emotional and nervous system regulation, or leadership. It frames women as adversaries, emotions as weakness, and vulnerability as something to be conquered or hidden. This worldview does not just damage intimacy, it actively makes women live in more danger and men live in deeper isolation.

We can see this clearly when we look at the data.

Globally and in the United States, men are overwhelmingly the ones dying by homicide. Around 75–80% of homicide victims are male. At the same time, men also make up roughly 90% of homicide perpetrators. For the part of humanity who are not supposedly “so emotional”, men are both the primary victims and the primary actors in lethal violence. (Emotions run ragged). And I do not believe this is because men are inherently violent, yet because our culture has failed men emotionally.

When emotions are not allowed to be expressed, they do not disappear. They compress into so many areas of the body physically and energetically and harden. They then at some point come out sideways as rage, over the top risk-taking, numbness, and explosions. A culture that tells men their feelings are dangerous or punishable creates exactly the volatility it claims to be fearing and trying to control.

Women pay the price for this too. While men are more likely to be killed overall, women are disproportionately killed by intimate partners. When men are taught that they do not need to take responsibility for their emotional world, that dominance is masculinity and emotional literacy is weakness, women are placed in unsafe relational dynamics. Red pill culture actively reinforces this risk.

And addiction tells the same story.

Men have significantly higher rates of substance use disorders than women. Alcohol, drugs, and compulsive behaviours become socially acceptable outlets for emotions men were never taught to feel, name, or regulate. Again, this is not a failing in our biology, this is a societal emotional neglect playing out on a massive scale.

Incarceration mirrors this breakdown with over 90% of the global prison population being male. Prisons are filled with men who were never taught how to be with fear, grief, shame, or anger in healthy ways. Instead of addressing this as a collective failure of emotional education, society doubles down on punishment and control.

And the red pill ideology pretends this is “natural male behaviour.”

My loves,….It is not.

Biologically, men and women are almost identical. Around 98–99% of our DNA is the same. We share the same emotional architecture in the brain: the same limbic systems, the same capacity for empathy, bonding, grief, and love. There is no scientific basis for the idea that men are less emotional than women.

What differs is nurture.

Girls are encouraged to express, seek connection, and talk about feelings. Boys are taught to suppress, endure, and dominate. By adulthood, we mistake emotional suppression for emotional absence, and then blame women for being “too emotional” while praising men for being “controlled.”

This lie is destroying intimacy between us all.

A man who cannot feel safely is not strong. He is volatile or shut down and will often need to turn to forms of abandonment to escape. A man who cannot take responsibility for his emotions will inevitably place them onto his partner, blaming her for being too sensitive, too needy, too much. This is how women get scapegoated for emotions men were never allowed to have.

The irony is that this red pill ideology pushes an agenda for men to be “men” and get your woman WHEN we are NOT turned on by this exhausting emotional numbness at all.

Women open, trust, and desire men who can lead themselves emotionally. Men who can feel without collapsing, hear emotion without attacking, and take responsibility for what moves through them are safer, more attractive, and more powerful ….not at all weaker.

Real masculinity is not dominance and true strength is regulation.Real alpha energy is emotional self leadership.

When we teach men to suppress who they are and what they feel, instead of integrate, society becomes more violent, more addicted and more incarcerated and resulting in women becoming less safe.

If we want safer women, healthier men, and relationships rooted in trust instead of fear, we must dismantle the lie that emotions make men weak. Emotions make us human and refusing to deal with them is where the danger lies.

The real definition of an alpha male comes from biology and social mammals.In healthy mammal groups (wolves, primates, elephants, humans), an alpha is not the loudest, most aggressive, or most dominant… an alpha is the one who

* is calmest under stress

* regulates the group’s nervous system

* resolves conflict

* protects the vulnerable

* sets boundaries without cruelty

* has emotional self-command

True alpha energy is nervous system mastery baby.

An insecure male tries to dominate others because he is in the belief that is what he needs to do. A real alpha does not need to and people naturally follow him/her because they are stable, grounded, and safe.

This is why women are erotically drawn to men who

* can feel without collapsing

* can hear emotion without defending

* can hold intensity without running or exploding

* can take responsibility for what they feel

That is alpha. This is sexy as all fuck. Not the suppression that shows up as stoicism and definitely not emotional illiteracy. Men and women are emotionally the same species. What differs is not our hearts or systems but the permission we were given to live in them.

Lovers…. every single relationship needs the container to foster emotional intelligence. A place where there is no shaming or blaming. A place where the animal parts of ourselves have a safe place to be heard and soothed. A place for our ego to speak so our higher selves can do the work it came to do….

There is just no more fucking around in the school yard avoiding and hoping. We don’t have time or the energy for that in these times!!! ( jajajjaja )

I have been trained in a system that will up level your relationship and sex life incredibly where BOTH of you have the incredible space to be heard and soothed and this is what brings you two closer and having more sex. Time is not the enemy of little sex, it is all the “stuff” unsaid that sits in between you two that does.

Book a discovery call here and lets chat on how I can support you to have the sexy juicy and emotionally safe relationship you damn well deserve.

Always with Pleasure

M

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I am actually really excited to share with you as we bring in the new (gregorian calendar) yr my latest podcast episode I had with Jana Danielson. Not just because it is juicy, but because it is so profoundly practical and potentially life changing for both women and men.

Jana Danielson is the creator of the Cooch Ball, and we sat down ( yes even on the ball ) to speak about something that is rarely spoken about honestly or intelligently, but would be best if it was at the dinner table like chit chat as it effects everyone… and that is pelvic health.

Jana’s journey began with her own body. After experiencing multiple physical ailments, she committed deeply to Pilates and somatic movement. Through this practice, she did not just “strengthen” her body, she completely rewired it. Her pain reduced, her vitality returned, and her connection to her pelvic floor radically changed. What she discovered along the way was that most people are either disconnected from their pelvic floor or gripping it unconsciously. Neither leads to health and both take you down a ( not so sexy ) slippery slope of issues.

This is where the Cooch Ball was born.

The Cooch Ball is not about squeezing harder or doing endless Kegels. In fact, it supports the opposite of what many people have been taught.

It works by:• Creating feedback and awareness in the pelvic floor• Helping the muscles relax, coordinate, and respond, rather than clench• Supporting neuromuscular re education and therfore teaching the brain and pelvis to communicate again• Restoring elasticity, tone, and responsiveness, not rigidity

This distinction is very necessary, especially for men dealing with pelvic issues.

How the Cooch Ball supports men

For many men, pelvic floor issues show up as:• Urinary incontinence• Dribbling after urination• Erectile dysfunction• Prostate challenges• Chronic pelvic pain or tightness• Loss of sensation or control

What Jana explains so clearly in this episode is that incontinence is very often linked to a pelvic floor that is too tight, not too weak. When muscles are chronically contracted, they lose their ability to respond when needed, leading to leaks, lack of control, and pain.

The Cooch Ball helps men:• Learn how to release chronic tension in the pelvic floor• Rebuild functional strength through relaxation and coordination• Improve bladder control by restoring proper muscle timing• Support prostate health through improved circulation and tissue health• Reconnect sensation and awareness in the pelvis

This is especially powerful for men post prostate surgery, men aging into new stages of life, or men who have been told “this is just how it is now.”

How the Cooch Ball supports women

For women, the benefits extend across health, pleasure, and vitality.

It supports:• Recovery after birth• Healing from prolapse or pelvic instability• Reducing pain during penetration• Increasing sensation and orgasmic capacity• Releasing pelvic holding linked to trauma or stress• Supporting continence without force or strain

Rather than training the pelvic floor to grip, the Cooch Ball helps women experience full spectrum pelvic intelligence. This equates to the ability to soften, respond, engage, and release (Oooooo) with choice.

This episode is not about gimmicks or quick fixes. It is about re educating the pelvis, honouring the intelligence of the body, and dismantling outdated approaches that have left so many people frustrated, leaking, numb, or in pain.

We speak candidly about:• Why “just do your Kegels” is often harmful• The connection between pelvic health and pleasure• How men and women can reclaim dignity, confidence, and control• Why pelvic awareness is foundational to whole-body wellbeing

You will be seeing me and my ball a bit more in the future ..on Instagram and here.

You can also follow Jana on insta HERE

Want to get your own?

MEN go here ( you have your very own special videos )

And Women..HERE ( yours are special also…😜 )

If you or someone you love is navigating incontinence, pelvic pain, sexual challenges, or simply wants to understand their body more deeply then I truly recommend this conversation.

Always with Pleasure (& a deep respect for the pelvis)M

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P.S. This is one of those episodes I wish everyone learned earlier in life. Please share it on. Especially with the men who’ve been quietly struggling

PPS….. to add to your bundle of health practices for your sex life..have you got yourself onto the FLOW tablets yet?

This is some good ole bio hacking…..as Nitric Oxide supplements radically help our body restore healthy blood flow and circulation, meaning we can make up for lost function much faster.

This is precisely why Susan Bratton ( the sex-pert to millions ) formulated her top selling product, FLOW. A food- derived supplement that gives you ( and mmeee) better blood flow. all you need to do is take two capsules before bed and sex.

it is that easy lovers…

and why not get your first bottle for free…..start HERE…

Happy beginnings lovers..

Here is to good sexy times ahead.

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Lovers.

This year has been a wild year to say the least. Slithering this way and that and shedding old identities like the true snake energy 2025 was deemed to be,

One thing I have “had” to do 6 times this yr ( about to record my 7th one ) is my sex magic manifestation. Things just keep on coming true in rapid time. I have spent this yr saying “ oh my gawd you can’t make this shit up”.

This morning as I was sitting having my coffee sitting on my Cooch Ball whilst drinking me coffee as the sun was just skimming the mountain range, I had this realization that caused me to understand how to bio hack relationships into excellence.

Just I have supported and witnessed many ( yes even christian ) men this year with my Sex magic technique, I realized how god damn powerful it would be to be used within relationship this way.

Intrigued to know what it is?

simply subscribe by clicking the button below. 💋

Not one to send out emails just because it is Xmas and the Gregorian New Year, I have also been in my cyclical season of death ( just before my birthday in November) and renewal ( spring creation ) these past 6 to 8 weeks. Part of my renewal/spring energy has been to finish the construction and main building of my book I started to write 4 season ago..in my last Spring season. And I did.

Ahead of me is about 6 weeks or months of editing ( I am unsure what the number 6 represents but it keeps on coming to me ) which is exciting.

BUT..what I have done for you lovers inside of my inner circle is recorded a passage from the ( near )beginning of the book and the passage that opens the last part of the book.

These word have been inside of me since my 20’s. And this process of putting them on paper in a way that makes sense has been an incredible return to myself.

To have the opportunity to listen to the depths of my heart and learn how to bio hack your relationship and your own life, be sure to subscribe. 💋💋

So wether you are attuned to the 13 cycles of each return, or tethered to the Gregorian calendar may this time and rythm of the seasons be what you truly desire, filled with the nurturing of your loved ones and the dreams of what is to come.

M

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I recently taught a 90 min masterclass on the biology of women and to be completley honest, I was not prepared for the depth of the responses that came back.

Men wrote to me saying things like:

“Holy scissors! I’ve been hit by a tsunami of information and experience.”“If only I had known this years ago…”“It will take me two years to fully absorb and practice what I learned.”

Whilst other men cried as they pondered if they would have actually separated from their partners if they had known this.

What moved me most was not just their enthusiasm, but more so it was the shift in understanding. Men began to see that women are not a problem to fix.That our hormones, nervous systems, and emotional processing are fundamentally different and oh so exquisitely designed.That a woman does not open through solutions, logic, or pressure… she opens through emotional safety, presence, and rhythm.

One man shared that for the first time he truly understood why safety is paramount for women and that from now on, he would encourage his wife to take her time instead of rushing her.Another said he finally grasped that women are not fragile or weak, but beautifully complex and immense.Many realized that what women need most is not fixing but listening, presence, and attunement instead.

One man even said, “This should be taught in big businesses.”

This masterclass is not about blame.It is about biology, compassion, and understanding and what becomes possible in relationships when men and women finally speak the same language.

If you are a man who wants deeper connection…a woman who wants to feel seen and understood…or a couple tired of misunderstanding each other….

this class will change the way you relate.

To have access to the entire class simply subscribe by pushing the button below.

I am also including the audio so you can listen on your long drives over this Xmas season.

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M

Lovers… this is the audio of the video above. Go for a walk in the forest and listen as you commune with the trees!! 💋

M

This email is and podcast episode is for the women here and I feel like I am wrapped in pink silk just writing to you about it.

Last week I sat down with Teal Elisabeth, the powerhouse behind Relax Into Love Coaching, and our conversation went straight to the heart of what so many women struggle with. How to be strong, powerful, unapologetic AND deeply loved.

with my raw, brutally honest and scorpio drenched way of crawling through the world I have not ever really been intrigued by “Love coaching”, but let me tell you, when I met Teal a little over a month ago, I was like “Oh Hello”. I want to know more about this women and have her in my field.

What I love about what Teal embodies is that she is not teaching women to “lean in” harder or to chase love. And she is definitely not teaching you to dim your light or play small to keep a man interested.

Nah babe..Teal teaches something she calls “soft fierceness” the art of having non-negotiable requirements for how you show up AND how your partner shows up, without apology, without hoping he will eventually come around, and without sacrificing your power.

In this really sweet and powerful episode, we chat giggle and even have a few tears about,

* Why “hoping he will like you” or “waiting for him to come back” is energetically repelling the love you want

* How to set clear requirements for partnership without feeling demanding or pushy

* What it really means to “Relax Into Love” when you have spent years proving your worth

* How to stop over giving, overthinking, and carrying the mental load in relationships

Teal has helped hundreds of women around the world transform from anxious, burned out daters into women who attract deeply committed, soul-nourishing partnerships. And it is not by doing more lovers, I promise.

Her message is that you do not have to go get the love. When you know your requirements and lean back into your feminine power, the right partnership is magnetized to you.

If you are one of so many women who feel torn between your ambition and your desire for partnership, or if you are tired of being the one who does all the work in relationships, this conversation will hit home. Make a cup of tea, snuggle on the couch with a fluffy blanket and enjoy our convo.

And just fo credit who she is… Teal is a Spiritual Love & Relationship Coach trained in Feminine Energy, NLP, and subconscious reprogramming. She’s happily married for 10 years, a new mama, and has built her entire business while traveling the world as a digital nomad. She walks her talk…..and it damn well shows.

The great thing is she has a (free) 5 day event coming up called MANifest starting Dec1st. She does not start letting the world know until next week…but you can get your cheeky bum in now if you like because you are here Inside of The Pleasure Studio.

Sign up HERE

Ok lovers… be well, be juicy and be unapologetically YOU.

Always with pleasure

M

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Lovers hello

You know I adore conversations that crack open our conditioning and invite us into questioning the world we live in. The convo’s that are raw, a little humorous and of course a little uncomfortable in all the best ways.

Recently I sat down with Luna, the creator of the Polytales Podcast, to talk about her messy, human, and oh-so-relatable road into polyamory.

We talk into jealousy, liberation, cultural conditioning, and what it actually looks like to love more than one person without losing yourself (or your mind).

Luna shares what it’s been like to navigate love and freedom as a Mexican woman in a culture where traditional values, religion, and romantic ideals run deep.It is juicy and honest and shows that life is messy as f*ck at times.

And I am curious…what does love without ownership mean to you?I would love to hear your thoughts after you listen.

Always with Pleasure and a wink 😜 Melissa LouiseHost of Inside of The Pleasure Studio💋

I am a bit excited to share this week’s episode with you because I am, we are.. dismantling one of the most pervasive myths used to justify “male promiscuity…” and that is the idea that “men are naturally wired to spread their seed.”

We have heard it all before. It has been used to excuse everything from infidelity ( even though the stats are pretty even on that one between women and men ) to commitment phobia. But here is what that narrative conveniently leaves out

The egg chooses the sperm. Not the other way around.

The biological reality is that fertilization is not some conquering mission where sperm “penetrates” a passive egg. The egg actively selects which sperm it will allow entry. She is the one in charge. She is the gatekeeper, the decision maker and the chooser.

If we look at ancestral communal and polyamorous living structures, men ( via their sperm ) were not guaranteed anything. They ( the sperm ) were essentially in a lineup, hoping to be chosen. A man could ejaculate inside many wombs and still not father children, because ultimately, the woman’s body (and the egg itself) held all the power. SHE chose the fittest…. this is the first line of defense for survival of the fittest. ( How monogamy relationships have bred a weaker and more disease prone society…. needs to be truly looked at… )

Even the research in books like Sperm Wars reveals that the majority of sperm in any ejaculation are not there to fertilize. They are “warrior sperm” designed to block or kill competing sperm. In other words, male biology evolved not for indiscriminate spreading, but for sperm competition. A response to the reality that women have always had multiple partners……………

So this whole “men need to spread their seed” story? It’s not biology. It is patriarchy wearing a lab coat.

The truth is far more interesting and fun.

Our bodies evolved in contexts of female choice, communal intimacy, and yes—women’s sexual autonomy.

In this episode, I break down:

* The science of egg selection and what actually happens during fertilization

* What sperm competition really tells us about ancestral mating patterns

* How the “spread their seed” narrative serves patriarchal control, not biological truth

* What happens when we recenter female agency in our understanding of sexuality

This is about reframing the narrative and telling the whole story. About recognizing that even our biology has been filtered through a patriarchal lens.

Ready to hear it differently?

Take a listen to the episode above.

With love, pleasure and a little rebellion ( of course )

M

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P.S. If this resonates, please share it. These conversations matter, and the more we question these “natural” narratives, the more freedom we all have to live authentically.

Recently I have had many people send me reels with twangy Australian voices using the word cunt not unlike the consistent word of “um”……

Australia as a nation has single handedly used, abused and totally tainted the beauty of cunt and made it become so common in its degrading. This does her no justice what so ever.

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I thought I would do homage to who she truly is…and bring her back out of the gutter. Because that is no place for her at all.

So I wrote a poem about her and thought I would share a little history to you all for your reading pleasure.

The word cunt is one of the oldest known terms for the female genitalia actually predating patriarchal language systems. IN fact her earliest linguistic ancestors appear in Sanskrit: yoni (meaning “sacred source” or “womb of creation.”), in Proto-Germanic & Old Norse.. kunta or kunte, which denotes “woman” or “female power.” and the good ole Old English…..cunte, a neutral and descriptive word simply meaning vulva.

Before the word was shamed and weaponized, it was a god damn title of reverence, associated with the goddess, creation, and the life-giving portal from which all beings are born.

And the pure poetic essence of “Cunt” once meant the holy doorway, the temple gate through which life emerges.It was a word of worship, a name for the divine feminine, for the dark, wet, fertile mystery that births stars, souls and god damn rock stars! ( and the weavers, potters, farmers and pilots)..all of them truth be told 1

It is the cave of creation,the sanctum of pleasure and power,the seat of intuition,the portal between worlds…death, birth, ecstasy, and rebirth.

To speak it in its original vibration was to invoke the Goddess herself Kundalini, Kali, Isis, Inanna, the Great Mother.

So…for this Friday morning I am just doing my own bit of reclaiming and i hope you like it.

This is not about shock value ( although… maybe just a little ) but it is more about remembering.It is about returning the word to her rightful throne god damn it.from slur to spell,from shame to sovereignty.

When spoken with awareness, cunt becomes a prayer, a dripping pulse and a reclamation of our erotic, creative divinity.

Happy Friday lovers

Always with Pleasure

M

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Happy glorious Monday…and here I am finishing this month with some juice! I am so excited to share my latest podcast episode with you which was a raw, honest, and educational conversation with the one and only Mr Kevin Anthony. …Another great Sex, Love & Relationship Coach.

Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist, Tantra Counselor, NLP Practitioner and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years he has worked with men, women, and couples to have the relationships of their dreams, and the best sex of their lives! He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, creator of the popular YouTube channel Kevin Anthony Coaching, and creator of the popular online course series “Power and Mastery” as well as other online courses for both men and women.

We dive into one of the most taboo topics in sexuality: anal sex.

This episode was sparked by one of Kevin’s recent reels about why many women say no to anal. But I couldn’t help but ask: Why is this conversation always centered on women, when every human has an anus? Why don’t we speak about men’s pleasure, fears, or shame in the same way?

So I reached out to him and asked..would you be willing to chat with me about it?And he said …sure! So a few days ago Kevin and I explored topics such as

✨ Why anal intimacy carries so much taboo, shame, and resistance✨ The myths vs. the actual science about sensitivity, nerve endings, and circumcision✨ How both men and women experience anal pleasure (and how it differs)✨ Safety, consent, and preparation for backdoor exploration✨ How anal intimacy can become a practice of vulnerability, healing, and deeper connection

This is not just a “how-to” chat. It is a beautiful inquiry and somewhat of a reframe of anal intimacy as your ( everyones ) portal into trust, sovereignty, and even more expanded pleasure.

So if you are curious, maybe even hesitant, or you just simply want to break through outdated narratives, this episode will open your eyes a little and make you giggle i hope. Because it is all meant to be fun.

Maybe..just maybe ….it will inspire new conversations with your partner.

HERE is the link to Kevin’s product page so you can get yourself the oy he spoke of!

With pleasure,Melissa

Kevin’s links are

https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.com

Host of The Love Lab Podcast

Kevin Anthony Coaching Youtube Channel

The sexy power of play.

It may sound like an oxymoron yet childlike play gets you better adult sex. And it all to do with our primal brain.

Just imagine the pure, untamed and wild freedom of children at play. They run flapping their arms about, they laugh to just keep laughing, they tumble and fall, laugh more, get dirty, don’t care, allow snot to run down their faces…don’t care and still laugh. They can do this day in and day out because their nervous systems, know that they are safe. This comes from being loved and from belonging just as they are.

This is the essence of play. Play is not frivolous. It is not “childish.” I Child like yes, but not childish in a negative form. It is primal. It is actually wired into our nervous system. From birth, our primal brain is asking one essential question: Am I loved? Do I belong? Will I survive?

And play real, free, untethered play answers that question. “yes”

Yet as we grow older, we start to reject the play. We are told there is no time for it. That we need to grow up. So we get stiff and a little boring. We lose the freedom to be silly, to explore without agenda, which is essentially to risk without fear.

When we shut down play, we also shut ourselves off from pleasure. We cut off access to one of the most powerful gateways to turn-on, to intimacy, to erotic aliveness.

In Tantra, play is not optional, It is essential. Tantra teaches us that our erotic energy, our turn-on, comes from freedom. Freedom to move, freedom to express, freedom to be exactly who we are in each moment, without judgment or shame. And play is the bridge to that freedom.

When you laugh, when you dance, when you move spontaneously… your nervous system relaxes and your primal brain gets the message that you are safe by being loved and that you belong. And from that space of safety and freedom, erotic energy just naturally flows.

The research backs me up on this! Couples who bring humour, curiosity, and playful experimentation into their relationships report higher sexual satisfaction. Playfulness predicts openness to sexual variety, more adventurous intimacy, and deeper connection. The playful adult is often the most turned-on, the most adventurous, the most fully alive in their relationships.

BUT….

Many of us have one or more inner children holding us back. Sabotaging many areas of our lives. The repressed inner child will cause chaos in your life.

Children often feel powerless and have a lack of sense of control and we carry this through into adult hood. We carry through those aspects where we were taught it was not safe to be a certain way.

even though your adult brain will logically know that it is ok to do something, your inner child will still continue to shut down these aspects of yourself. ESPECIALLY in the bedroom. Showing up in the bedroom as a fully expressed man is SEXY... having your teenager there is not.!!!

Which is why today I am placing in the Tantric process I use with my 1:1 clients.

It is powerful as all f*ck…and doing this process has you f*cking better..

Go figure!

So if you are nto subscribed yet…be sure to do so below and get your play in action.

Good glorious Monday lovers.

What juicy video I have for you this week for those who are inside my inner circle of paid subscribers.

A few weeks ago I sent a video on different touches through out the Erotic Blueprints and inside of the Kink Blueprint I suggested the use of “Gaffa” Tape. Mainly because this is something that has me up as a turn for me recently. I do not know why and I do not need to know why.

All I need to know is how to get my needs met.

Which is exactly what I did at the sex party … I asked, I created a container and I received .

As mentioned in my video, before one even gets into a scene there is much to consider. So I have written up some guidelines to support you.

A Guide for the Tender, Curious, and Courageous

Maybe there is a part of you that longs for something more.

More sensation. More surrender. More depth More truth. More freedom to go to the wild edges of your body and your desire.

And maybe, just maybe, you are curious about stepping into a kink or BDSM scene, but you have never really named your needs out loud. Not fully. Not clearly. Not with that sexy tremble in your voice and the burning hope in your belly.

If that sounds like you my love… then this guide ( and my story ) is for you.

Let me show you how to gently, bravely, and beautifully set yourself up to have your needs met in kink and how to honour the deep exhale that follows… the aftercare.

To listen to the entire story and get my guide, you will need to be subscribed sexy one.

Enjoy the story Lover.

Always with Pleasure

M

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I often have to pinch myself that this is my life. That these are the conversations I get to have with people.

It is Sunday evening in many parts f the world right now. Grab your glass of wine, cup of tea, or even you dinner and take a listen to this juicy convo.

Both Jennifer and I go there on much needed to discuss topics when it comes to partnered sex, masturbation and communication.

Be sure to follow Jennifer on Instagram here and let me know what you think of this episode below.

Always with Pleasure

M

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Lover… can we talk dirty for a moment?

No, seriously.Not just the moans and the filthy whispers (though, goddess yes!!! more of that please)…

Let’s talk about dirty ( pleasure ) talk. The words we crave to hear… or at times fear to speak.

For some, dirty talk is the eroticism to their ecstasy. And for others, it feels like speaking a foreign language while naked under pressure that turns things south in a second.

Is dirty talk hot... or just awkward for you? Just like any other skill it needs to be practiced.

What is great about it? The Pros:

* It can turn you and your body on with just words alone. A whisper in your ear can feel like a hand on your thigh. ( mmmhhh melt )

* It builds anticipation and tension. (Tease me with your voice before you touch me.)

* It’s a playground for desire, fantasy, and power dynamics.

* It helps you claim your desires out loud which is seriously hot AF.

* AND It builds intimacy

What is not so hot about it….

* It can feel awkward or performative if it’s not authentic.

* Some people go straight to porn language which might feel disconnected or harsh.

* It can bring up shame, self-consciousness, or fear of saying the “wrong” thing.

* If partners are not attuned, it can miss the mark (and kill the mood instead of lighting it up).

* Without consent and boundaries, dirty talk can go from hot to harmful real fast.

So… how do we make dirty talk hot?

In my video above I go through the ways to do so and I have included a great resource to get started on your sexy journey of turning your words into a sexy party all on their own.

Basically, your voice is as powerful as your body.

To get access to the entire video be sure to be a paid subscriber lover.

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With moans, magic, and a wink,Melissa LouiseSacred Sexuality Coach | Erotic Blueprint™ MentorTurning you on, one word at a time 💋

Good glorious Thursday, lovers,

I just wrapped a soul-stretching conversation with the phenomenal Jackson McGregor, a transformation coach who works with high-performing men to melt the internal ice and step into grounded, embodied leadership in a world where having more seems to be the only worth while goal.

In our time together..we went there. We pulled back the curtain on a painful Australian rite of passage: “Don’t feel, mate—just push through.” Speaking deeply to the cost of the battle grown men who look powerful on paper are left to battle.

* a chronic sense of emptiness in life

* relationships that feel like a negotiation and battle field

* erectile challenges that erode confidence and power

* and our alarming rates of male suicide

Jackson and I dove into how emotional intelligence, breath and body practices, and courageous self inquiry reconnect men to their full humanity, which is often lost on men as they grow up.

And we spoke intensely about how boys are raised is a huge part of the issue that they deal with as adults.

Why hit play on this interview?

To hear what men have to say about how they are required to exist in this world struggling along side of how we women are also required to exist.

Humanity is in quite the shit show of trauma existence when it comes to mental and physical health. With all the choices that we demand to have so many people are left lost in their own existence.

This interview was a humbling yet powerful moment to be in and one I truly hope you enjoy and get something out of.

If what you hear resonates you can find Jackson in a few places.

INSTAGRAM

YOUTUBE

SKOOL COMMUNITY

With fire & tenderness,

Melissa LouiseErotic Blueprint™ & Sacred Sexuality CoachHelping humans remember their divine, powerful selves. One courageous conversation at a time.

P.S. Forward this to a brother, partner, or friend who deserves to feel fully alive again. Let’s end the myth that numbness equals strength, together.

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There’s something I’ve been sitting with lately, so I made a video about it because it feels important.

We are asking so much of our relationships today.What we once received from an entire village, we are now trying to get from just one person. The industrial evolution may have changed how we ( dont ) look after ourselves anymore in community, yet the human system has not changed. We just require it to survive in our current conditions.

Our lover must be our best friend, our emotional confidant, our erotic match, our co-parent, our co-regulator, our business partner... ..and also give us space and hold us through all our healing.

That’s a lot to hold for just one person.

In monogamy especially, the container can get tight, heavy and exhausting. Not because we are doing it wrong, but because we’re expecting one person to be the village.

In the video I share how Men don’t get enough time alone inside of relationships.And women do not get enough time with other women.

There’s a disconnection happening. Not because we’re broken, but because something is missing.

What’s missing is the missing.The missing of one another and the missing of other. The community, the rituals, the shared support and the presence that once held the fabric of our love lives and relationships together.

This is not an anti monogamy article or about blame. It is about awareness.Because when we name what’s missing, we can stop placing impossible demands on our lovers. To ease of the pressure from ourselves and them and create a more inclusive way of existing. We can begin to call in the support, the space, and the connection we truly need that can be sourced from other avenues rather than “the one”.

I would love to hear what it brings up in you when you listen to the video above.

This is the kind of conversation I want am wanting more of in my world. Raw, honest, and grounded in love and curiosity.

Always with Pleasure.M

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I hear ( especially now that I am privvy to the flirting method with over 1000 men in a group ) often that men are confused and jaded when their woman is not initiating sex, and / or turning them down when they go to initiate sex.

So I made this video for you after I had made a similar one for the said group above.

After the responses I received of gratitude from those men I thought you guys also deserve such support.

If you have been or are in this kind of frustration around how she seems to often pull away then this video is for you.

Believe me lover. You are not alone.A lot of men feel stuck here. And I know… this kind of feeling stuck leads you to wonder if “she is just not into you anymore?” and wondering “what did I do wrong now?” and questioning “Why does she always have a reason to say no?”

It can feel defeating. ( on both sides..believe me ) And if you are like most men, you are deeply craving intimacy, closeness, touch…. not just the physical release of an ejaculation. But the actual nourishment of connection, closeness, and the return of that spark.

The truth is men and women are on opposite sides of the connection coin. Men often go to sex to feel connected yet women often need to feel connected to go towards sex.

Our sexual wiring is totally different than yours. And understanding that difference is the key to changing everything.

I truly hope you find it supportive lovers.

If you are ready to kick ass in the relationship sector of your life with your partner and ready to live a life where your relationship, intimacy and sex is in the centre of your day to day living…. then lets get on a call and discuss how I can support you actually getting this as your reality.

Book your discovery call here

Believe me…It is not about being perfect. It’s about being attuned.

Always with Pleasure

Melissa Louise

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We all know that men are visual creatures. And from what I have heard what they see when they are f*cking or making love with their lover from behind it is a pretty hot and sexy visual. ( side note.. don’t stay quiet about it… let her know how damn hot it is, how damn hot she looks and how it is for you).

Yet for many women I know ( myself included ) it can feel pretty disconnecting and as if we are just a part in a fantasy which does not have much do with US.

Especially if the moment is filled with silence other than grunting.

this type of situation actually closes the woman’s pussy down, creating more numbness and pain in her vagina as she starts to just be there “waiting” for it to finish.

BUT LOVER..do not despair.

I have 3 hot tips for you on how to make this position so damn hot for both of you she will be asking you for it over and over again.

In this video I share how to make it juicy and deeply connected. The final tip is one you can consistently take the lead on. Sexual fitness and skill is something mandatory if you want a lover or partner in your life.

And I am here to help you in that. 😜

There is only one problem with these tips…

and that is they are so damn hot you may not last that long…and that wont do either.

In that case I have your back. You can train your sexual response by listening to “Man In Control Audios” I made especially for you men.

What better way to gain the confidence in lasting longer for her, by having me in your ear. ( I know right ..)

So, before the weekend is here, get yourself in shape with these audios and try out one of not all three of my tips above.

She can thank me on Monday

Always with Pleasure

M

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Something so deep is happening within me.

It is like a simmering fire that began with a small amount of tinder about a decade ago. Then when I moved into re-genopause and my body stopped bleeding every month, it was like I woke up with the flames licking at my feet.

It was like ever bit of truth that had me nervous, unsure if I could speak about it, how to speak about it and unsure if I could deal with the punishment if I did - just became clear.

It kind of feels like I woke up one day and felt, “Oh - I just don’t give a fuck really” In all the places I was concerned, I am just not.”

And now that i can't reproduce more consuming minions for the hungry beast of the industrialized project, I am also ignored a little more. Not just a little more..like a lot. You know the drill. Older lady. Apparently has no idea about life..her wisdom was DHL ‘ed off somewhere…

Which I kind of like a lot. As it is quieter over here.

More peaceful.

More space.

It is a wonderful thing that I would recommend to EVERY woman.

So gorgeous one,

Let me tell you something—just by purely existing, you are fucking phenomenal. And if you exist outside the system and actually make the decision to love yourself, you are a radical, revolutionary threat to the patriarchal power that has tried to contain women for centuries.

Just think about that for a moment.

Truly loving yourself allows you to detach from the multi Billion dollar industry created just to keep women in the belief they are not good enough.

It is quite the thing.

…..

Cutting bodies.

Filling flesh.

Removing skin.

Reshaping labia’s…. I mean ….

Then there is the way boys are raised, bullied and coerced to believe human emotions are weak, annoying and crazy, so they can grow up and be-little their female partners for it ( for basically being human ), let alone dismissing the actual need for men to cultivate the necessary powerful emptiness required for him to be present with those who birthed their children, who birthed them and birthed the nation..

Anyways…

It is all rather ludicrous.

Insanely ridiculous, yet the all very common unspoken law in religions, government and households. - The feminine is dirty, inconvenient, unintelligent, crazy, unstable and not to be believed.

Do you ever wonder why women have up to a fourfold increase in risk for autoimmune disease compared to men?

I do.

All the time.

I peel back the layers of our masculine project led world that has women forcing themselves every single day to fit into a square box in order to “stay safe” whilst they are the beautiful round universe itself.

You see the world does not fear a woman who follows the rules.

They fear a woman who trusts herself so deeply that she no longer needs them.

A woman who doesn’t look outside for validation, permission, or proof of her worth. A woman who knows her body is hers alone—her pleasure, her voice, her power, undeniable and untamed.

That’s why the work I do is not just about intimacy, or sexuality, or relationships. It’s about liberation. True freedom in your system.

When you reclaim your body, you reclaim your voice.When you reclaim your voice, you reclaim your truth.And when you reclaim your truth, the world shifts beneath your feet.

Because a woman who remembers herself cannot be owned.

She doesn’t shrink.She doesn’t wait to be chosen.She doesn’t barter for love, safety, or space.

She takes up space. She softens into herself. She lets life move through her, for her, with her—because she is no longer gripping for control. She is no longer playing by their rules.

This is why they fear a woman in her full radiance. A woman who surrenders to herself first—before surrendering to love, to a partner, to anything else.

And this is what I want for you.To return home to yourself—to the wild, unshakable, undeniable force that was always yours.

And this is why I created Surrender to do exactly that.

This Saturday March 1st at 3 pm EET.

Because my love, you are the revolution.

Join us HERE.

Always with Pleasure

M

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He was booked to speak at a men’s online summit on the weekend and asked me to make a video for the men that he would show during his talk.

When I woke on Sunday morning my phone was blowing up with messages about how amazing it went and that there were even tears shed by some of the men.

So I thought I would share it here for all of you.

We are all here trying our best to walk one another home in a society that is hell bent on keeping us separate from one another, exhausted and stretched to the max so that the only thing we are focused on is “scaling our businesses”.

What about scaling our joy? Our happiness? Our depth in relationships?

What is the point on scaling to millions if all you are doing is managing that beast?

What is the point of scaling to immense wealth and you wake up to realize that the person you are with is someone you truly don’t know would actually be with you if it all fell apart because along the way money and deals had been the priority, not the cultivating of personal wealth in understanding, sex-ploration, absolute joy and internal happiness?

What is the point of having the shiny head turning car when the woman who sits in the passenger seat is unable to experience deep life changing, bed shaking, neighbour complaining orgasms that change her skin, how she looks and cracks her heart so fucking wide open that she can barely talk for hours afterwards?

Sure.

If you want to just push through and lie to yourself that success means you can buy top shelf. liquor to fill the emptiness, that surface level conversations allow you to take the easy road and that if she is making noises that sound like an orgasm within 20 min then you must be “doing a good job”.

If a man needs to ask his woman if she came, it is damn obvious she did not.

If you are not having an internal negotiation wether to close the windows or invest in sound proof installation so that the neighbours don’t give you side-way glances as you mow your lawn each weekend, then honey, I need to let you know, she is not well fucked.

And the top secret to scaling your business is having a well fucked woman. Sexual energy is creative energy. The secrets of how the universe, sex and money co create are well hidden and used in the places of power such as the Vatican ( another story for another time ). Meantime you have been had, lied to and manipulated in order for you to think that sex is not that important. ( if it was not so important then why does the P0rn Industry estimates a global annual revenue between $97 billion and $100 billion? )

But …..

You can change all of that by joining us inside of Man In Control.

My all mens group program is not just about a few tricks to wank better.

It is a 6 week program that truly gives you the tools to know how to masturbate in ways that builds your stamina, your power, your trust worthiness when it comes to women and makes you more money as your partner or lover becomes more and more well fucked. Even if you are single it works.

It also supports you to win your Jujitsu heats ( as per my recent client Matt experienced just within three weeks of us working together ).

Men.

You were born for greatness, not this mediocracy ho hum of existence of constant ground hog days, dissatisfying relationships, and accumulated exhaustion and shame as porn becomes the only insidious outlet for your arousal.

Join us to actually create the change that you want in your life when it comes to your sex and intimacy.

Click here to do so.

We start Tuesday March 4th

Always with Pleasure

M

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This is what happens when two women who have a lot in common and are passionate about the same things get together.

Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, is a sexual wellness expert with dual doctorates in Naturopathic as well as Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine. She is the founder of the sex education center: MyLibidoDoc.com and hosts 'The Libido Lounge' podcast, blending personal experience with clinical expertise. And our chat yesterday was all about the truth of your Libido.

I hope you enjoy it as much as we had bringing it to you.

You can follow Diane in all the places below.

Free Libido Quiz: Find the root causes (and solutions) for low libido: https://t.ly/NeKEx

Her Podcast "Libido Lounge" mylibidodoc.com/podcast

Her website: MyLibidoDoc.com

Youtube: Youtube.com/@mylibidodoc

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/

Revive Your Love Life Ebook Free Copy: https://mylibidodoc.com/revive-your-love-life/

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PS.. have you managed to check out what is in store this year “Inside of The Pleasure Studio” for the Inner Circle of Paid Subscribers? If not you can do so HERE

This coming Monday we have “Sex as Medicine” with Guided Self Pleasure practices for both hm and her… and if you happened to miss last weeks email it was All About Nipple play.

Lovers you have until the end of tonight to lock in 2024 prices for my subscriptions.

subscribe now

Until next time

Fill your life with Pleasure

M

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In this short video above both Serrita and I share what is the inspiration behind our TopLess Brunch.

If you are here in Puerto Vallarta we would LOVE for you to join us for a sacred gathering of women—topless, unfiltered, and unapologetic. A space where we share our stories, shift the pain, and bring love and acceptance back to our own bodies.

This is more than a brunch. It’s a revolution of self-love, body sovereignty, and feminine empowerment.

“A woman’s body is not an apology, and her breasts are not an invitation for judgment.” – Sonya Renee Taylor”

When a girl starts to move through into puberty her breasts become a significant factor to the world that she is changing. And this change can be one that signals to her that her behaviour must change, her clothing must placate the world around her and the growth of her breasts are often the centre of ridicule, bullying and conversation.

Gorgeous woman. Are you showing off your breasts ? or do you just have breasts!!!

Instead of learning how incredible our breasts are at alchemizing our life, reset our hormones and how to detoxify and look after them through massage and doaist practices, we learn to hide them, cut them, change them and be ashamed of them.

It is our beautiful responsibility to honour and love them.

The topless brunch is where this begins.

Gorgeous woman.

Come and be apart of a movement where we as women get to re write our breast stories.

Sunday Feb 16th. 11am

Puerto Vallarta

Get your tickets here ( US $ ) or if you want to pay in MXP..pls reach out to me and I will send you how.

XX

Always with pleasure

M

Well…we are back,

But this time…here in podcast and youtube video format.

Here is our first episode for 2025.

There is a reel going around ( THIS ONE ) that demonstrates how men are very often trying to share from their heart yet women are not realizing it and shut it down.

In this episode Alex and I speak to the breakdown in communication and the differences to women’s and men’s communication style.

We hope you enjoy our conversation and we look forward to be bringing you some juicy and thought provoking episodes this year.

If you are a fan of both us and enjoy how we groove together…I have some exciting news. Both Alex and I will be presenting a weekend of in person workshops called RAVISH - A Journey into Sensual Mastery in London - April 26th-27th.

Stay tuned for details how to book yourself in. It will be limited numbers so as to maintain the integrity of a group experience that is personal and attentive.

We are both so juiced up and excited to bring this to you. All details coming to you in the next wk or so.

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Speaking of an awesome 2025.. have you seen what is in store for the inner circle of Paid subscribers this year? If not go ahead and check it out here

2 x monthly bundles of content, coaching, practices and processes. ( bonus weeks with months that have 5 Mondays in it !)

Private Telegram group for community inspiration, accountability and support

Monthly live Zoom calls where you can ask me anything.

You can see what is on the calendar HERE my loves.

Let's get real for a moment.

My paid subscription isn't just content - it's your pathway to feeling alive, orgasmic & turned the fuck on. And more than just twice-monthly video coaching you have access to my extra love fests such as Coctober, Pussvember & Sexmas…

You don’t need to settle for mediocre when you could be experiencing mind-blowing transformation. Presently you can get all of this valued at $5000 worth of pleasure wisdom. for $11 a month or $100 a yr….

The new calendar has begun yet the price increase starts Feb 1st.

To secure your subscription for this ridiculously low price do it now baby.

It will be the best 100 bucks you spend this yr !!

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PS… MEN have you registered for my free class on Saturday 25th?

Men often carry a heavy burden when it comes to their sexuality. From an early age, you are taught that your relationship with your own bodies, particularly your genitals, should be shrouded in shame. Self-pleasure is scoffed at, whilst masturbation is quick, guilt ridden and something to hide,, rather than a gateway to deeper self-knowledge and sexual mastery.

But all this can change.

In this transformative 2-hour masterclass, you'll learn powerful techniques that will fundamentally change how you experience pleasure and connection.

The Hidden Power of Your Pelvis Learn a revolutionary 35-minute practice that:

* Releases long-held tension in your pelvic area

* Increases sexual sensitivity and control

* Develops lasting stamina naturally

* Creates more freedom in your movement

The Accelerated Evolution Process Experience a powerful integration technique that:

* Dissolves mental blocks around performance

* Releases old patterns that limit your pleasure

* Builds natural confidence

* Creates lasting transformation

The 5 Keys to Ejaculatory Mastery Learn about a proven framework that:

* Develops precise arousal awareness and control

* Unlocks full-body energy circulation

* Eliminates performance anxiety

* Creates choice over when to ejaculate

* Transforms sexual energy into life force

This Masterclass is Perfect for Men Who:

* Want to last longer naturally

* Desire deeper connection with their partner

* Feel stuck in their sexual expression

* Want to experience more pleasure themselves

* Are ready to become better lovers

Is this you lover? If so sign up here.

I look forward to having you with us.

Always with Pleasure

M

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This day is not merely a day of rest; it is a revolutionary act of self-sovereignty. In these quiet hours, when your body whispers its need to turn inward, you are claiming the permission for yourself to step away from the relentless demand of productivity and into the deeper current of your own cyclical nature.

This my love, is when your intuition speaks most clearly, (especially as you are about to have DMT running through your cervix when you begin to bleed ) when your body prepares for its monthly renewal, and when your energy naturally draws back like the tide before the new moon.

To take this time is your declaration that your womanly cyclical body is not a burden to be overcome, but a source of power to be honoured. When you rest during your dark moon, you are not just preventing exhaustion - you are actively resourcing from the power of your feminine wisdom. You are boldly stepping out of the linear, masculine energy that dominates our culture and into your own sacred timing. This isn't about asking for permission or apologizing for your needs. It's about recognizing that your monthly retreat is as natural and necessary as the earth's seasons, the moon's phases, and the ocean's tides.

The entire human race was created inside of a woman’s womb.

The world exists because she exists.

Take the day my love, for humanity's sake.

The ripples of this choice extend far beyond your unique personal wellbeing.

When a woman fully embodies this practice, she becomes a living permission slip for others to honour their own rhythms. Her radical self-care disrupts the narrative that women must perpetually sacrifice their needs for others. Instead, it demonstrates that by deeply nourishing ourselves, we become more present, more powerful, and more capable of caring for those around us. A woman who honours her dark moon isn't being selfish - she's modelling what it looks like to be in right relationship with her body's wisdom, creating a new paradigm of feminine leadership that benefits everyone in her sphere.

I created a dark moon diary prompt especially for you. In this free PDF I share what I do on my dark moon and give you two pages of prompts that support the cyclic nature of death, ideas, fruition and letting go.

Download your gift copy here 🌑

I have also created a juicy bundle aptly named “She The Oracle” An intimate journey into the mysteries of feminine cycles.

When a woman governs her life through her cycle’s wisdom, she becomes an oracle of profound knowing. When her partner understands this rhythm, their relationship transforms from mundane to magical.

This offering is only $47 and includes a PDF for “HIM” also where your partner can understand the four energies of your cycle.

You can purchase that here.

My love.

It is your body..your rules.

And you are governed by the moon..not the sun.

A major component of my 1:1 coaching begins with this divine step. Honouring who YOU are as a woman. A woman’s libido is intrinsically connected to her ability to listen to her body, rest when required and enjoy her turn on from the deep nourishment of her unique self care. Our bodies are not mens bodies.

Our hormones are not the same.

Our physical needs are not like theirs…

If this email is a sign for you to take the steps to becoming more autonomous in how you experience your needs for your sensual and sexual life, then I have a few openings for 1:1 clients to begin this month. Book your discovery call here

I look forward to meeting and supporting you.

This is your birthright my love. 💋

Mmmmmhhhhhh

That is the only way I can begin this email.

As I soften into my chair, a huge smile spreading across my face, tingles in my belly ( & pu$$y) I am truly delighted to be bringing you this podcast interview which is a juicy dive between Alex and I into the realms of KINK.

We share openly our experiences with KINK, what it means to both of us and how it effects our lives, we share honestly about the feminines nervous system and the need for men to create safety ad so much more.

The interview starts at 1min &.12 secs and goes to 1hr & 12 min ( you cant make this stuff up !!! )

AND THEN.

For all you delicious sexy people who are paid subscribers ..you get the gift of witnessing a DOM/SUB scene that Alex and I created and entered yesterday.

You will see the set up, the act ad the aftercare.

I am still buzzing from it.

It was so incredibly delicious.

It was deeply nourishing.

And It was a lot of sexy fun to be having early morning.

In this demo you will see how powerfully you can create sensual and sexual containers even when you are on different continents.

It is sexy as fuck.

Do you know what else is sexy?

All those that are subscribers and become subscribers in September get to be lifelong members at current price. I mean seriously…. $100 a yr or $11 a month…. is a steal for what you get privvy to.

Subscriptions will be going up 1st pf October.

Just saying.

so if you want to lock in this incredible price for my work, then do so now..

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The Kinky.

As I mentioned earlier this week, what Kink means is what is taboo for you.

For some that is having sex in different positions other than missionary, for some it can involve cutting of the skin, ropes, voyeurism, or the use of candle wax.

Inside the kink blueprint, there are two kinds of kink.

We have the Psychological kink. This is someone who is turned on by the mental aspect

of power dynamics and power play.

The control.

The surrender.

The Light. The Dark.

Often this means one is playing dominance games.

Where one person is controlling the other.

The second kind of kinky is turned on by sensation.

Sensation play involves impact, constriction, and even pain. On the other side of pain is pleasure.

A submissive person is able to relax inside of their “taboos” when another has total control.

And of course, you can have both where someone has psychological and sensation-based play at hand. ( note women ( ME ) sliding off her chair as she is writing this )

That is the permission inside of KINK

The superpowers of the Kinky Blueprint is endless creativity as the world of kink is massive.

The breadth of play is endless

The kinky, just like the energetic can orgasm without touch.

The subspace is a place where one drops away, inhibitions have gone and it feels like a deep deep meditative state where one loses space, time and place. This is the Valhalla for the kinks. This is where they are trying to get to.

This altered state of consciousness.

The dark side of the Kinky is shame.

Shame for their desires.

Often people are searching for a reason from their past for why they feel this way or have certain turn-ons. And it is not this way for many at all. In fact in Psychological testing, those who identify as being Kinky are found to have the most resilience, most able to have very clear communication with their partners and score high when it comes to their ability to have boundaries as they are very clear about these important factors.

Speaking of communication how did you lovers go with the practice I gave you yesterday?

This way of communication is my favourite way of dropping into truth with vulnerability. It allows for a profound level of courage…. so … I dearly hop it served you. Make sure you make time this wk end to bring it into your connection with your beloved. 💋

Unfortunately in this world of KINK, many terms are misused and confused.

In todays video, I start to decipher terminology inside of the KINK world.

Understanding these terms is empowering and dismantles possible judgments.

I also am giving you the second part of the questionnaire from yesterday.

So if you are subscribed and have not taken that practice, then I implore you to do so. It is an eye-opener. We are here to discover more and more about ourselves.

Life is not a static bench we sit on waiting to die……. so get yourself into a paid subscription and let’s go…. deeper and deeper into the world of sexuality, intimacy, and relationships.

You can subscribe by hitting my button below lover.

NOW is the perfect time to subscribe as you lock in this price for LIFE.

Subscriptions will be rising in September (date to be released) so now is the time.

$100. a year….. I mean lovers….. this is value-packed JUICE for a hungry!! as my street boys say.

See you on the other side….hit me up on this subscribe button.

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This month our questions are from Steve and Chris.

Steve is a Sexual in the Erotic Blueprints and is struggling to have his needs met as he wants to be adored and is craving touch, yet he does not want to pressure his partner and cause her to feel inadequate.

Chris is seeking practical ideas on how to deepen his emotional connection with his partner.

What I love about these two questions is that firstly they are from men and it is often surmised that it is the women aching for deeper connections, and secondly I want to acknowledge the courage it takes to reach out and ask for support

We all crave connection. A connection where we feel safe and seen, adored and respected.

We are all here walking one another home.

To listen to the suggestions I offer please feel free to support my work by subscribing below. It is greatly appreciated. Once you have subscribed you can also write in and ask me anything that you would like coaching on. 💋

Even though men are NOT from Mars and women are not from Venus, it can often feel such a divide exists this way due to how we often approach the opposite sex how we want to be approached, treated or spoken to.

Misunderstanding is at the root of the breakdown of relationships and misunderstanding is the place where hurt is built upon. Layer by layer.

In this acronym, “S” stands for safety. And safety to a man in a relationship is different to what it means to a woman.

The “R” stands for Respect. In relationship, you ca love your man to the moon and back a gazillion times, but it does not mean so much if you do not respect him. You need to respect him over loving him. When you love him deeply, your respects needs to run deeper.

(Mothers take note when it comes to your sons..this also applies.)

Just as women also need to be respected. but if they do not feel cherished over being respected then they will often report that they do not feel L O V E D.

To find out what the entire acronym means and to experience coaching on how to implement this acronym, be sure to subscribe here…💋

Your subscription supports my work, my podcast and my youtube channel. Without you guys my work cannot exist. So for that I am eternally grateful.. 💋 💋

When I work with my clients inside of my 4 to 6 month containers it is not just on our weekly calls that you receive. support, it is also during the week via messenger. I am here to support you to get where you want to be, and that at times takes more than just a weekly coaching call.

“Just what to thank u so much for the love and care and this video you sent. You mean the world to me and it’s helped me so much to pull my energy back and notice when I’m over giving and in the anxiety.. trusting that men also need their time to rebuild testosterone and also have healthy space. Leaning so much STILL from our time and mentorship”

Karen. Costa Rica

Lovers

We have 5 months left of 2024. Ask yourself honestly, are you in the place you hoped to be in your relationship this year? Are you further along than this time last year? Have you moved forward together? or are things the same, just more work, more misunderstanding and less and less sex? Where do you truly think this will lead if this is the case?

We get coaching, mentorship ad we study for all areas of our lives, yet often the support we all need in relationship is left to last.

If you do not want this to be the case with you and understand how important placing your connection in the relationship first is, and would like support to shift from the feeling of not being understood, ignored, placed on the back burner to having the best sex of your life…consistently…

Lets get on a call.

Go ahead and book your discovery call here and let’s chat to see if w ar a good fit to work together.

💋 💋 💋

I know that the world will be a very different place when men are in their courageous power, experience freedom in their ejaculation choice and are able to cultivate their ability to hold more.

We have a world infested with the dynamic of quick satisfaction, of “getting”, “having” and “taking”. This shows up in business, governing bodies and in sex.

Change the dynamic at the core of one and the rest will follow.

This is the absolute power of a man cultivating his ability to handle the “chaos” that is his arousal, and to transmute it to his life, business ad mission.

Until the end of the Lions Gate opening ( the 12th of August) I am offering one month of 1:1 coaching calls for those who purchase my OYC program during these days.

Lovers this is great value and it gives you the accountable support to truly have me at your finger tips.

Get yourself in here lover

💋

Lovers.

I am in a beautiful inquiry in my life at the moment where I am taking a deeper notice on the true meaning of words and how we use them.

This comes through in my video today.

Where I am speaking about the flow of energy through sexual currency where we build foundations that that do not have us constantly tinkering in deficit.

The video up to about the 10 min mark is for free subscribers.

The coaching part of the video is for paid subscribers.

If you would like to support my work and receive my coaching videos plus so much more please go ahead and subscribe below.

Once subscribed you get FULL access to all of my previous videos.

Pretty sweet deal for $11 a month or $100 a year. 😜

(if you are listening to this on YouTube or your podcasting app, feel free to visit my Substack to WATCH the video too)

Self-criticism, body shaming, and bullying ourselves to comply with culturally imposed ideals is a slippery road to a lack of self-worth and diminished confidence in all areas of our lives.

What is one of the most insidious results of body shaming is the belief that women are in competition with one another. That we are pitted against each other for our survival.

Do you know who can change that dynamic?

Women themselves.

There is a warped belief that we need to provide any potential mates with this ideal woman. The industry that is dedicated to making women believe how they were born is just not good enough is a billion-dollar industry.

We have the power to put a huge dent in that.

It is up to us.

In this video, I dive into the topic of how it is actually the responsibility of women to cease this body shaming phenomenon.

Men…I would love to hear your view on this.

Here is the Instagram live with Sabrina that I mention in the video.

27 June - Safety in Belonging Practice

Every month, I am hosting a live coaching session via Zoom. For June, I invite you to the “Safety in Belonging Practice” (different continents, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered)

* June 27th, 19:00 CET (Paris time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety

* June 27th, 17:00 PDT (Los Angeles time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety-us

These sessions are free to participate if you are one of my Substack FOUNDERS subscribers. And open to everyone else with a minimum contribution €20 ticket (of course lover you are welcome to add more sugar if you feel so inclined 😉). Read the details below and sign-up either by subscribing as a FOUNDER to my paid Substack content or just by getting a ticket.

Safety in Belonging Practice

​We need to feel like we belong to have the safety to share truthfully.

​At the heart of Accelerated Evolution (AE) lies the transformative power of the Dyad communication practice, a unique method that transcends traditional conversation by blending contemplation with communication. 

​This dyadic process is designed not just for exchange but for a profound connection, enabling individuals to step beyond their mental constructs and engage with the essence of truth directly.

​The Dyad is a key to unlocking pure, clean communication, offering a pathway to dissolve inner conflicts, untie emotional knots, and heal stored traumas. 

​Through this guided verbal interaction, participants experience the liberation of their natural flow, peace of mind, and the ability to live at their peak. 

​This foundational tool of AE fosters unity consciousness, empowering individuals to impact positively on a personal and professional level, ensuring instant and enduring transformation.

​Come with your partner, or friend or come alone.If you plan to come alone, I suggest you bring a mirror.

Substack Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can better understand the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

As you would know by now, I do not pussy foot around a subject or tip toe in.

Last week I wrote an email where I shared the statistic that it is estimated 90% of relationships are trauma bonded.

Many conversations around this topic often revolve around attachment styles, childhood trauma, divorced parents, avoidance of self work etc etc etc.

For me…. it is wwwaaaayyyyyy deeper than that.

About 2.5 yrs ago I was writing a lot on Instagram and in my emails that I believed we were all living in a trauma based existence. That we did not need to live in a war zone, have horrendous child hood trauma or experience domestic violence to be effeced by this.

Our system constructed for our bullied living conditions separates us from community, and creates living standards riddled with trauma.

In this video what I mean by this.

I have made the bulk of the video available to ALL subscribers, because I personally want to see a radical shift for humanity where the 92% truly understand WE HOLD THE F*CKING POWER to create change.

Subscribers do get some extra juice of course, in video form and written.

If you want that too, then go ahead and subscribe by pushing my button below 😉

Once subscribed you get full access tto everything thus far that has gone out to subscribers…isn’t that cool?

One huge part of our freedom is our freedom in how we experience our health.

When you are continuously exhausted, not sleeping well, have brain fog and run on cortisol…. there is only one path you are crawling on..and that is the path to DIS-ease.

And it is a tricky loop to get out of. Especially as we are conditioned to brag about our exhaustion and how f*cked we feel and how much we work (I mean seriously)…

I have to say… the one huge needle mover I experienced this year was changing the water I drank to molecular hydrogen enriched water. My sleep, my ability to concentrate, my recovery after workouts, reduced inflammation with old injuries and my ability to think clearly has shifted to levels that feel kind of freaky at times.

I mean the science is all there….this is not woo woo shit.

With over 2000 peer studies on. M2, we are good with the back up of what I know to be true as I have experienced it.

The issue we have is so many people are jumping on the band wagon of M2…and even real estate agents are “creating” M2 bottles to sell on amazon!

To produce M2 takes an electrolysis process…and this is a dirty process. SO yes…you can get bottles for 29$ 100$ even 280$…but you are purchasing something that will damage your organs, gut and blood more as you will be drinking chlorine and ozone because the filters are rubbish. You cant even create a filter let alone the process and bottle for the price some of these bottles are.

AND many bottles are made by people who have never worked with M2 before and are just jumping on the train.

That is why I chose the LUMIVITAE vessel because my health is my wealth and I hold it to my highest regard.

Nuno Nina, the creator of the vessel has been working with this technology for over 17 years with over 70 000 patients that range from cancer patients on their death beds to top athletes and celebrities ( believe me..the latter was not a persuasion for me)

And because I am a bit woo woo, this vessel has frequencies in the lid… changing the game on any other M2 product out there (Frequency filled gummies are coming out next month…..my kind of candy store).

My clients who play sports and train etc who use the vessel…. are killing it in their fitness and rave about the effects.

But what I love is also how they report that they are able to handle their young kids more, that they find themselves not overwhelmed at the end of the day and they can concentrate with their work and find decision making a lot clearer.

Which is what I experience as my norm since drinking from this vessel.

if you want to speak to me about the vessel I am truly happy to do so..just hit reply.

Or just bite the bullet and get yours HERE

You wont regret it !!! (the affiliate program is f*cking awesome as well..so we can chat about that as well if you like). freedom all round.

Our vessel has a life span of 7 years and a 2 year warranty …. nothing to replace.

Can you tell i LOVE it and the COMPANY ? 😊

ok lovers.

I hope you enjoy the episode I filmed for you. Pls let me know your thoughts.

M

💋

(if you are listening to this on YouTube or your podcasting app, feel free to visit my Substack to WATCH the video too)

Self-criticism, body shaming, and bullying ourselves to comply with culturally imposed ideals is a slippery road to a lack of self-worth and diminished confidence in all areas of our lives.

What is one of the most insidious results of body shaming is the belief that women are in competition with one another. That we are pitted against each other for our survival.

Do you know who can change that dynamic?

Women themselves.

There is a warped belief that we need to provide any potential mates with this ideal woman. The industry that is dedicated to making women believe how they were born is just not good enough is a billion-dollar industry.

We have the power to put a huge dent in that.

It is up to us.

In this video, I dive into the topic of how it is actually the responsibility of women to cease this body shaming phenomenon.

Men…I would love to hear your view on this.

Here is the Instagram live with Sabrina that I mention in the video.

27 June - Safety in Belonging Practice

Every month, I am hosting a live coaching session via Zoom. For June, I invite you to the “Safety in Belonging Practice” (different continents, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered)

* June 27th, 19:00 CET (Paris time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety

* June 27th, 17:00 PDT (Los Angeles time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety-us

These sessions are free to participate if you are one of my Substack FOUNDERS subscribers. And open to everyone else with a minimum contribution €20 ticket (of course lover you are welcome to add more sugar if you feel so inclined 😉). Read the details below and sign-up either by subscribing as a FOUNDER to my paid Substack content or just by getting a ticket.

Safety in Belonging Practice

​We need to feel like we belong to have the safety to share truthfully.

​At the heart of Accelerated Evolution (AE) lies the transformative power of the Dyad communication practice, a unique method that transcends traditional conversation by blending contemplation with communication. 

​This dyadic process is designed not just for exchange but for a profound connection, enabling individuals to step beyond their mental constructs and engage with the essence of truth directly.

​The Dyad is a key to unlocking pure, clean communication, offering a pathway to dissolve inner conflicts, untie emotional knots, and heal stored traumas. 

​Through this guided verbal interaction, participants experience the liberation of their natural flow, peace of mind, and the ability to live at their peak. 

​This foundational tool of AE fosters unity consciousness, empowering individuals to impact positively on a personal and professional level, ensuring instant and enduring transformation.

​Come with your partner, or friend or come alone.If you plan to come alone, I suggest you bring a mirror.

Substack Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can better understand the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

(if you are listening to this on YouTube or your podcasting app, feel free to visit my Substack to WATCH the video too)

Self-criticism, body shaming, and bullying ourselves to comply with culturally imposed ideals is a slippery road to a lack of self-worth and diminished confidence in all areas of our lives.

What is one of the most insidious results of body shaming is the belief that women are in competition with one another. That we are pitted against each other for our survival.

Do you know who can change that dynamic?

Women themselves.

There is a warped belief that we need to provide any potential mates with this ideal woman. The industry that is dedicated to making women believe how they were born is just not good enough is a billion-dollar industry.

We have the power to put a huge dent in that.

It is up to us.

In this video, I dive into the topic of how it is actually the responsibility of women to cease this body shaming phenomenon.

Men…I would love to hear your view on this.

Here is the Instagram live with Sabrina that I mention in the video.

27 June - Safety in Belonging Practice

Every month, I am hosting a live coaching session via Zoom. For June, I invite you to the “Safety in Belonging Practice” (different continents, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered)

* June 27th, 19:00 CET (Paris time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety

* June 27th, 17:00 PDT (Los Angeles time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety-us

These sessions are free to participate if you are one of my Substack FOUNDERS subscribers. And open to everyone else with a minimum contribution €20 ticket (of course lover you are welcome to add more sugar if you feel so inclined 😉). Read the details below and sign-up either by subscribing as a FOUNDER to my paid Substack content or just by getting a ticket.

Safety in Belonging Practice

​We need to feel like we belong to have the safety to share truthfully.

​At the heart of Accelerated Evolution (AE) lies the transformative power of the Dyad communication practice, a unique method that transcends traditional conversation by blending contemplation with communication. 

​This dyadic process is designed not just for exchange but for a profound connection, enabling individuals to step beyond their mental constructs and engage with the essence of truth directly.

​The Dyad is a key to unlocking pure, clean communication, offering a pathway to dissolve inner conflicts, untie emotional knots, and heal stored traumas. 

​Through this guided verbal interaction, participants experience the liberation of their natural flow, peace of mind, and the ability to live at their peak. 

​This foundational tool of AE fosters unity consciousness, empowering individuals to impact positively on a personal and professional level, ensuring instant and enduring transformation.

​Come with your partner, or friend or come alone.If you plan to come alone, I suggest you bring a mirror.

Substack Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can better understand the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

Self-criticism, body shaming, and bullying ourselves to comply with culturally imposed ideals is a slippery road to a lack of self-worth and diminished confidence in all areas of our lives.

What is one of the most insidious results of body shaming is the belief that women are in competition with one another. That we are pitted against each other for our survival.

Do you know who can change that dynamic?

Women themselves.

There is a warped belief that we need to provide any potential mates with this ideal woman. The industry that is dedicated to making women believe how they were born is just not good enough is a billion-dollar industry.

We have the power to put a huge dent in that.

It is up to us.

In this video, I dive into the topic of how it is actually the responsibility of women to cease this body shaming phenomenon.

Men…I would love to hear your view on this.

Here is the Instagram live with Sabrina that I mention in the video.

27 June - Safety in Belonging Practice

Every month, I am hosting a live coaching session via Zoom. For June, I invite you to the “Safety in Belonging Practice” (different continents, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered)

* June 27th, 19:00 CET (Paris time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety

* June 27th, 17:00 PDT (Los Angeles time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety-us

These sessions are free to participate if you are one of my Substack FOUNDERS subscribers. And open to everyone else with a minimum contribution €20 ticket (of course lover you are welcome to add more sugar if you feel so inclined 😉). Read the details below and sign-up either by subscribing as a FOUNDER to my paid Substack content or just by getting a ticket.

Safety in Belonging Practice

​We need to feel like we belong to have the safety to share truthfully.

​At the heart of Accelerated Evolution (AE) lies the transformative power of the Dyad communication practice, a unique method that transcends traditional conversation by blending contemplation with communication. 

​This dyadic process is designed not just for exchange but for a profound connection, enabling individuals to step beyond their mental constructs and engage with the essence of truth directly.

​The Dyad is a key to unlocking pure, clean communication, offering a pathway to dissolve inner conflicts, untie emotional knots, and heal stored traumas. 

​Through this guided verbal interaction, participants experience the liberation of their natural flow, peace of mind, and the ability to live at their peak. 

​This foundational tool of AE fosters unity consciousness, empowering individuals to impact positively on a personal and professional level, ensuring instant and enduring transformation.

​Come with your partner, or friend or come alone.If you plan to come alone, I suggest you bring a mirror.

Substack Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can better understand the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

We are all being bullied to make 6 figures, 7 figures, look great doing it and dive into chlorinated pools looking as if we have not aged in decades as the picture perfect relationship energetically arrives at our side.

But don’t stop.. ….keep going.

Do more. Be more. Have more. Produce more.

It is so phenomenally hilarious if it were not forced fed into our screens every single day.

And all of that so we can “deserve” a holiday.

The definition of. a “holiday”..

A holiday is a designated period of time during which “normal” daily activities, particularly work, are suspended to allow for rest, recreation, and celebration.

In this definition our basic needs of rest and celebration are pooled into something we need to earn. Something we need to sacrifice to get at the end of exhaustion.

At the end of giving over to someone else’s dream and requirements.

I truly wonder when we all just flip the finger to this barbaric existence of running running running to an end that has been made up by someone else…?

When do we stop and live?

If you need a beautiful reminder…LIFE IS NOW.

Life is now.

It is here.

Kiss your lover for a whole song.

Be late for work because you laid down on the grass.

Pour liquid chocolate over yourself and laugh until you piss your pants.

Dance in your nightgown out in the rain.

Just stop giving a fuck what others think of your pure joy.

At the red traffic light, get out of your car and sing your heart out along to the radio blasting through your speakers (my experience is that in places like Mexico, many people join in on the spontaneous fun)

Buy flowers for your elderly neighbour.

Pay for the old mans coffee .

Take someone who is carrying a heavy load of groceries to where they are walking to.

Go and pick up your lover, drive out of town, make love under the stars..just because LIFE IS NOW.

Wear the fuck you god damn want even if it is a Taffeta hot pink 80”s prom dress… and cut into it they you wanted to as a teenager.

Just do the things you want to do.

(real footage of me buying and cutting into a “new” dress for a date. Lets face it… if a man can fall off his chair laughing as I make an entrance into a bar for our first kissing date, wearing THIS outfit with boots and a tiarra.. just for shits and giggles…then we are going to get along)

Beautiful women.

Come and join us in Mexico this October 1-6th for JEWEL.

The Nourished, Embodied, Sensual and Playful retreat you have been waiting for.

Not because you need to earn it, but because you are simply alive.

Take a look at what JEWEL is all about and let me know if you have any questions.

MEN:….book her in…. 😉.

💋 💋 💋

The power of this practice is that it creates the foundation of being loved and belonging in order to be safe to share the truth.

I spent nearly the entire day crying at the beauty that I witnessed that morning.

Then I found this poem I wrote during a time my son and I were navigating a truly difficult time. I decided to record and share it with you.

I would love to know your thoughts.

If you want to experience this process for yourself then join us on Thursday 27th. Two times are available in order to accommodate different time zones !

Go ahead and register here lovers ❤️

Self-criticism, body shaming, and bullying ourselves to comply with culturally imposed ideals is a slippery road to a lack of self-worth and diminished confidence in all areas of our lives.

What is one of the most insidious results of body shaming is the belief that women are in competition with one another. That we are pitted against each other for our survival.

Do you know who can change that dynamic?

Women themselves.

There is a warped belief that we need to provide any potential mates with this ideal woman. The industry that is dedicated to making women believe how they were born is just not good enough is a billion-dollar industry.

We have the power to put a huge dent in that.

It is up to us.

In this video, I dive into the topic of how it is actually the responsibility of women to cease this body shaming phenomenon.

Men…I would love to hear your view on this.

Here is the Instagram live with Sabrina that I mention in the video.

27 June - Safety in Belonging Practice

Every month, I am hosting a live coaching session via Zoom. For June, I invite you to the “Safety in Belonging Practice” (different continents, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered)

* June 27th, 19:00 CET (Paris time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety

* June 27th, 17:00 PDT (Los Angeles time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety-us

These sessions are free to participate if you are one of my Substack FOUNDERS subscribers. And open to everyone else with a minimum contribution €20 ticket (of course lover you are welcome to add more sugar if you feel so inclined 😉). Read the details below and sign-up either by subscribing as a FOUNDER to my paid Substack content or just by getting a ticket.

Safety in Belonging Practice

​We need to feel like we belong to have the safety to share truthfully.

​At the heart of Accelerated Evolution (AE) lies the transformative power of the Dyad communication practice, a unique method that transcends traditional conversation by blending contemplation with communication. 

​This dyadic process is designed not just for exchange but for a profound connection, enabling individuals to step beyond their mental constructs and engage with the essence of truth directly.

​The Dyad is a key to unlocking pure, clean communication, offering a pathway to dissolve inner conflicts, untie emotional knots, and heal stored traumas. 

​Through this guided verbal interaction, participants experience the liberation of their natural flow, peace of mind, and the ability to live at their peak. 

​This foundational tool of AE fosters unity consciousness, empowering individuals to impact positively on a personal and professional level, ensuring instant and enduring transformation.

​Come with your partner, or friend or come alone.If you plan to come alone, I suggest you bring a mirror.

Substack Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can better understand the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

Self-criticism, body shaming, and bullying ourselves to comply with culturally imposed ideals is a slippery road to a lack of self-worth and diminished confidence in all areas of our lives.

What is one of the most insidious results of body shaming is the belief that women are in competition with one another. That we are pitted against each other for our survival.

Do you know who can change that dynamic?

Women themselves.

There is a warped belief that we need to provide any potential mates with this ideal woman. The industry that is dedicated to making women believe how they were born is just not good enough is a billion-dollar industry.

We have the power to put a huge dent in that.

It is up to us.

In this video, I dive into the topic of how it is actually the responsibility of women to cease this body shaming phenomenon.

Men…I would love to hear your view on this.

Here is the Instagram live with Sabrina that I mention in the video.

27 June - Safety in Belonging Practice

Every month, I am hosting a live coaching session via Zoom. For June, I invite you to the “Safety in Belonging Practice” (different continents, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered)

* June 27th, 19:00 CET (Paris time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety

* June 27th, 17:00 PDT (Los Angeles time) - https://lu.ma/melissa-safety-us

These sessions are free to participate if you are one of my Substack FOUNDERS subscribers. And open to everyone else with a minimum contribution €20 ticket (of course lover you are welcome to add more sugar if you feel so inclined 😉). Read the details below and sign-up either by subscribing as a FOUNDER to my paid Substack content or just by getting a ticket.

Safety in Belonging Practice

​We need to feel like we belong to have the safety to share truthfully.

​At the heart of Accelerated Evolution (AE) lies the transformative power of the Dyad communication practice, a unique method that transcends traditional conversation by blending contemplation with communication. 

​This dyadic process is designed not just for exchange but for a profound connection, enabling individuals to step beyond their mental constructs and engage with the essence of truth directly.

​The Dyad is a key to unlocking pure, clean communication, offering a pathway to dissolve inner conflicts, untie emotional knots, and heal stored traumas. 

​Through this guided verbal interaction, participants experience the liberation of their natural flow, peace of mind, and the ability to live at their peak. 

​This foundational tool of AE fosters unity consciousness, empowering individuals to impact positively on a personal and professional level, ensuring instant and enduring transformation.

​Come with your partner, or friend or come alone.If you plan to come alone, I suggest you bring a mirror.

Substack Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can better understand the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

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Even though Hollywood would have us believe that sex and intimacy is a set of generic steps that has the act all wrapped up in 7 minutes with the women generally still wearing a (padded) bra,  we all know that it is not a cookie-cutter act that follows a set of steps that can be used every single time we want to jiggy with it.

Just expecting your partner or your new lover to know what to do with your pleasure and your body is kind of shitty and also not that fair.

It is a huge responsibility to go down the road of guessing, hoping, and assuming that how they touch you will work for you.

It is up to you to invite, show, and support your lover to touch you the way that works for you.

This requires you knowing yourself.

And that dear lover is a fun pathway to greatness.

In this video, I dive into this topic further. 

I hope it supports you in having the sex and pleasure you deeply crave.

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Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can better understand the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

Sitting across from your potential lover and speaking incessantly about travels, family members, dogs..etc etc is not going to get you the touch you want, or the information you need to have to see if they can even provide that for you.

Look, all those subjects are awesome.

But you are on a date for a reason.

Not to book a trip to Thailand ( or though you might..) 

Anyways… all conversation is needed, yet a conversation void of the stuff you are there for is kind of setting you both up for disaster.

In this video, I go through some really great questions to ask.

Make sure you give them a try next time you are eating by candlelight.

Muster up some courage and have fun.

Thank you for reading Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise. This post is public so feel free to share it.

Launch Special

To celebrate the launch of my Substack podcast, for May and June, all paid subscribers, monthly or yearly, receive my Pleasure Masterclass for FREE

The Masterclass contains 3 workshops that I thought live in the SUUNA community, valued at €195.

This is what you get if you become a paid subscriber of my Substack in May or June:

#1 SHE is your Oracle. (2h 6min)

About how men and women can understand better the best times to do things based on HER menstrual cycle.

#2 The power of the female 0RGASM (1h 50min)

About the unknown powers of the female orgasm and the 4 gates to the female orgasm that everybody should know about

#3 Occupy Your C0CK (2h 30min)

A summary based on my OYC program - on masculine energetics and power dynamics that brings forward a bold claim: if you are not making children with your liquid gold (ejacu1ate) why don't you use it to create your life?

Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.

I want to tell you a not-so-dirty little secret.

Sex is designed to nourish, uplift, and power your life, regardless if you are single or in a relationship.

When nudged into the “not enough time” corner, sex soon becomes a chore and the avoidance of it chips away at the fabric of relationships, your confidence, and self-worth.

This can happen for many different reasons, many of which have nothing to do with sex at all, yet deeply affect your desire for sex.

The thing is when you take out the desire for sex in your life, you take out a hell of a lot of pleasure, intimacy, and happiness, that is naturally and perfectly designed for your health, wealth, and well-being.

What if your sex life truly nourished, fulfilled, and excited you?

What would be possible then?

The fact is lover,  that life is NOW.

Your intimate relationship with yourself and your partner is incredibly important.

It is not something to place on the back burner hoping to get to it when the list is finished.

We all know that the list will never be finished and if left too long, maybe, just maybe your partner runs out of patience “waiting” to be cherished, respected, and fucked wide open.

Single or coupled, You deserve to feel alive in your body & receive what it is you desire in your life. Inside and outside of the bedroom.

It is time to own your freedom in your orgasm, the power in your passion, power and deeply understand your purpose.

Are you ready for that?

If you are then you are in the right place.

Thank you for reading Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise. This post is public so feel free to share it.

Welcome to Inside of The Pleasure Studio. Where we strip down truths and bare it all as we get real about all things sex, intimacy, and relationships with oneself,  another, and the world around us

Let’s truly celebrate the joy of being fully alive and exploring what it means to live a life rich with passion . 

Each week you will be invited to confront the conventional with me and break open the cages of censorship, as we explore the untamed and often unspoken aspects of intimacy. 

Cutting through the BS as we challenge sexual norms, and provide you with the unvarnished truth about what it takes to have a fulfilling sex life.

 So if you’re ready to dive into honest and very often provocative conversations that empower and enlighten, you’ve come to the right place. 

I am Melissa Louise, your Erotic Blueprint, Sex intimacy and relationship coach who is your wild host inside of The Pleasure Studio.

I will be bringing to you fearless honesty on this unapologetic journey  as we talk about sex, love, and life in ways that are smart, fearless, and fun."

Because lover, this is not just about pleasure

It is a fucking revolution.

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