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Polyamorous BUT Sexually Monogamous? w/Desireé Stephens

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Fri, 12 Sep 2025 14:43:18 GMT

In this episode, we sit down with Desireé B. Stephens, an educator, counselor, and community builder whose work centers on liberation through decolonization and whole-self healing.

Desireé shares her journey of engaging in consensual non-monogamy during her early dating life and first marriage at 19, long before she had the language for it. While her husband dated and had sex with others, she remained sexually monogamous, an experience that shaped her later understanding of polyamory and relationship anarchy. We also explore how her liberation work intersects with her practice of polyamory and what it means to navigate love, sex, and freedom on her own terms.

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Polyamory Mistakes We’ve Seen (or Made)

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Thu, 04 Sep 2025 16:22:50 GMT

In this episode, we unpack some of the most common pitfalls people encounter when entering or navigating polyamorous relationships. We explore the challenges of unicorn hunting and dating only as a couple, the risks of using polyamory as a solution for failed monogamous relationships, and the problems that come from copy-pasting monogamous norms into polyamory.

We also discuss the difference between equity and equality in relationships, the danger of overextending your emotional and logistical capacity, and how avoiding conflict in the name of compersion can create long-term harm. Finally, we reflect on the unrealistic expectations that metamours must be either close friends or enemies, and how that binary can get in the way of more authentic, healthy dynamics.

This episode is an honest look at what not to do in polyamory and how to develop more sustainable and liberated relationship practices.

Episode Resources:

Unpacking Jealousy & Envy in Polyamory

Metamour Relationships in Polyamory

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Being A Polyamorous Man With a Monogamous Wife w/Kuji Wright

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Wed, 27 Aug 2025 15:36:39 GMT

In this episode, we sit down with Kykujichagulia Wright to hear the powerful story of his journey into ethical non-monogamy. He shares candid reflections about his teenage years, when he often found himself having strong feelings for more than one girl and resorted to cheating because he lacked the language and models for healthy non-monogamous relationships.

We follow his story from those early dating experiences to meeting the woman who would become his wife. He talks about the pivotal moment when he shared his truth about being non-monogamous and how she ultimately chose to accept and embrace that truth as part of their marriage.

Kykujichagulia also shares how he became a vocal advocate for polyamory on social media and how his leadership as an admin of the Poly Black & Dating Facebook group has helped build community and visibility for others navigating similar paths.

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Online Polyam Spaces and Sexy Social Adventures

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Wed, 20 Aug 2025 14:46:29 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we talk about our experiences navigating polyamorous online spaces and dating apps. From the vibrant communities we found in Facebook groups like Poly Black & Dating, Poly Coast 2 Coast, and Black & Poly, to the differences we noticed between polyamory-focused groups and those centered on polygamy, we reflect on how these spaces helped us find community and feel less alone.

We also discuss our experiences using dating apps like Hinge, OKCupid, and Feeld. We explore how racial dynamics show up in online spaces, comparing our experiences in Black polyam groups with those in mixed or white-majority spaces.

In the Sexy Time segment, we share our personal stories from sex parties and clubs. We talk about what drew us to those spaces, how we explored exhibitionism and voyeurism, and what we learned along the way. This episode offers an honest and layered perspective on building connection, community, and sexual liberation through online spaces and in-person exploration.

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From Monogamy to Swinging to Polyamory w/ Evita Lavitaloca

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Wed, 13 Aug 2025 14:31:08 GMT

In this powerful episode, we sit down with Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers, a renowned coach, educator, and speaker in the polyamory and non-monogamy space. Evita opens up about her personal evolution—beginning with a conventional monogamous marriage and the desire to explore her queerness. That desire led her and her husband into swinging, a journey that exposed challenges around communication, jealousy, and emotional connection. Ultimately, this path guided them to polyamory.

Evita shares how embracing transparency and vulnerability—especially through social media—helped her connect with others navigating similar journeys. Her candid storytelling and insights not only led to a growing online presence but also to opportunities like publishing her book and becoming a trusted coach for countless individuals exploring consensual non-monogamy.

If you’ve ever wondered how people transition from monogamy to polyamory, or what it takes to show up publicly and unapologetically in your truth, this episode is for you.

Find Evita at lavitaloca34 on IG & lavitalocasawyers on FB

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Handling Family & Public Judgements of Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Wed, 06 Aug 2025 14:18:31 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we unpack the very real tension between living authentically and managing how family, friends, and the public perceive our polyamorous relationships. From navigating dual social media identities to experiencing awkward moments at events, we talk candidly about what it’s like to be “out” in some spaces and "in the closet" in others.

We explore the gendered double standards often placed on polyamorous people, where men are praised for having multiple women while women are shamed for having more than one male partner. We share stories about being the butt of jokes at social gatherings, being excluded from “family-friendly” group trips, and even navigating the ripple effects of a book written by an ex that cast polyamory in a harsh light.

In our Relationship Philosophy segment, we discuss Polyamory as Liberation—and how reclaiming our truth despite public judgment can be a radical act of self-love and freedom.

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Choosing Love Over Fear with Chaneé Jackson Kendall

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Wed, 30 Jul 2025 20:44:01 GMT

In this episode, we sit down with polyamory coach and educator Chaneé Jackson Kendall for a rich and heartfelt conversation. She shares how she chooses love over fear when navigating the challenges of polyamory, and how that mindset has shaped her personal journey and the way she supports others.

Chaneé also opens up about gaining acceptance from family and friends for her lovestyle and what it took to build that understanding over time. We dig into the meaning of partnership, exploring the difference between using “partner” as a title versus embodying true partnership in action.

This episode offers grounded wisdom, clarity, and inspiration for anyone walking the path of intentional, values-aligned non-monogamy and polyamory.

Find Chaneé @Cheneespeaks on social media

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Privacy, Transparency and Confidentiality in Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Wed, 23 Jul 2025 16:31:00 GMT

In this episode we explore the differences between privacy, transparency, and confidentiality and why navigating agreements and boundaries concerning them can be especially complex in polyamorous relationships.

We discuss how to craft agreements and boundaries when it comes to communication with other partners and introduce the concept of a communication alignment spectrum, which ranges from people who prefer full openness to those who prefer that their relationships not be discussed at all.

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From Marriage to Polyamory: Kris Parker’s Evolution & Vision

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Wed, 16 Jul 2025 21:59:13 GMT

In this powerful conversation with Kris Parker, we explore how her bisexuality became the catalyst for opening their ten‑year marriage. We discuss how that journey led them into polyamory—dating both together and separately—the emotional challenges she faced with her husband’s other relationships, and the profound shift in her perspective.

Kris also shares the inspiration behind founding Poly Coast 2 Coast, a Facebook community she created to bring polyamorous folks together across the country, helping many find life-changing loving connections. Join us for heartfelt reflections on identity, intimacy, and community-building in polyamory.

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Hinge Complexity: Balancing Multiple Relationships

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 08 Jul 2025 15:40:58 GMT

In this episode, we explore the unique experience of being a hinge in polyamory—the central person who connects two partners who aren't involved with each other. From defining the hinge role to diving into why it’s challenging, we unpack what it really means to carry emotional labor, balance multiple needs, and set healthy boundaries.

Sundiata and Shani each share heartfelt stories from their own journeys—what it's like stepping into that position, the exhaustion and growth it brings, and what makes the hinge identity both rewarding and complex.

And in our Break-up Story segment, Shani recounts her first experience as a hinge when a relationship went sideways and ended. Join us for an honest and compassionate look into the joys, struggles, and real-life lessons of living at the center of a polyamorous “V.”

Resources:

Article: Metamour Relationships In Polyamory by Shani Goodson

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Tank & Pink Interview: From High School Sweethearts to Poly Black & Dating

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 01 Jul 2025 14:37:31 GMT

Listen in as we trace Tank & Pink's journey—from meeting as teens, marrying, and raising a family, to exploring swinging, embracing polyamory, and co-founding the powerful Facebook community Poly Black & Dating. This inclusive space has fostered life-changing connections for many, including Shani & Sundiata.

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S2 Ep 8: Our Polyamory Dating Adventures

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 15 Apr 2025 12:30:00 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we delve into our personal experiences with polyamorous dating, shedding light on the nuances and dynamics we've encountered. 💫

We discuss:

🛤️ Our Polyamorous Dating Journeys: Sharing stories from our paths in the polyam dating scene.

⚤ Gender-Based Experiences: Exploring how dating differs for a man and a woman in polyamory.

🌈 Sexual Orientation Dynamics: Discussing the contrasts between Sundiata's heterosexual perspective and Shani's sexually fluid experiences.

📱💬 Navigating Dating Apps and DMs: Our adventures and lessons learned from using various platforms and approaches.

🔄 Evolving Dating Strategies: How our approaches to dating have transformed over time.

In our Storytime segment, we re-introduce our concept of "relationship buckets"—familial, platonic, intellectual, attraction, and sexual—and discuss how we apply this framework in our dating lives.

Join us for an insightful conversation that navigates the complexities and joys of polyamorous dating, offering perspectives that resonate with diverse experiences.

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S2 Ep 7: When Jealousy Strikes In Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 08 Apr 2025 12:30:00 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we delve into the complex emotions of jealousy and envy within polyamorous relationships, sharing personal experiences and insights. 💫

We explore:

📚 Defining Jealousy vs. Envy: Understanding the distinction between these emotions.

🛤️ Personal Stories: Sharing moments when we've felt jealousy or envy, and instances where metamours have experienced these emotions towards us.

💖 Understanding Compersion: Discussing the concept of feeling joy from a partner's happiness with others.

In our "Well, That Went Left" segment, Sundiata recounts a relationship that took an unexpected turn, leading to a breakup.

Join us for an open conversation about managing complex emotions and fostering positive connections in polyamorous dynamics. ___________________________________________

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S2 Ep 6: Polyamory Beyond The Throuple Stereotype

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 01 Apr 2025 12:30:00 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the misconception that polyamory is solely about mff triads (male-female-female) or throuples and explore the rich diversity within polyamorous relationships. 💫

We discuss:

🔄 Understanding Triads: Defining closed and open triads, and their dynamics.

🛑 Stereotypes in Polyamory: Addressing the common portrayal of polyamorous relationships as mff triads .

🏛️ Patriarchal Influences: Examining how patriarchy shapes perceptions, including biases towards MFF (male-female-female) versus MMF (male-male-female) triads.

🛤️ Our Journey: Reflecting on our initial thoughts about triads and how our perspectives have evolved.

In our CNM & Polyamory Terms segment, we explain and discuss Solo Polyamory, Egalitarian Polyamory and Relationship Anarchy:

Join us as we challenge stereotypes and celebrate the diverse expressions of love within the polyamorous community.

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S2 E5: Our Paths to Sexual Liberation

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 25 Mar 2025 12:30:00 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we delve into our personal experiences with sexual liberation and how embracing polyamory has transformed our intimate lives.

We discuss:

🛏️🔒 Our Sex Lives Before Polyamory: Reflecting on our intimate experiences prior to embracing non-monogamy.

💫💞 Our Sex Lives Since Polyamory: Sharing how opening our relationship has enriched and diversified our sexual connections.

🕊️💡 Reflections on Sexual Liberation: Exploring what sexual freedom means to us and its impact on our personal growth.

We also spend some time explaining the Sexual Attraction Spectrum of asexual/ace, demisexual, graysexual, hypersexual, fraysexual, and megasexual.

In our Sexy Time segment, we offer a candid glimpse into our own intimate moments, highlighting how open communication and exploration have deepened our connection. 🔥💬

Join us for an open and honest conversation about redefining intimacy, understanding diverse sexual identities, and embracing the freedom that comes with living authentically.

As always, SunShan & Rainbows amplifies Black & African-American experiences and insights related to polyamory and consensual non-monogamy.

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S2 Ep 4: Why Marriage Isn't For Us

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 18 Mar 2025 12:30:00 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we explore our evolving perspectives on marriage and why we've chosen a different path for our relationship.

We discuss:

🔄 Shifting Beliefs: How our views on marriage have transformed over time.

🏛️ Patriarchy's Influence: Understanding marriage's roots in patriarchal structures.

🔗 Compulsory Monogamy: Challenging the societal push towards monogamous relationships.

🏠 Nuclear Family Norms: Questioning traditional family models and their limitations.

📊 Hierarchical Structures: Why we reject relationship hierarchies in favor of equality.

In our Relationship Philosophy segment, we delve into egalitarian polyamory—a philosophy that emphasizes equal respect and autonomy for all partners, moving away from traditional hierarchies.

Join us as we unpack societal norms, share personal insights, and discuss how embracing egalitarian polyamory has enriched our lives.

As always, SunShan & Rainbows amplifies Black & African-American experiences and insights related to polyamory & consensual non-monogamy.

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S2 Ep 3: Navigating Metamour Relationships in Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 11 Mar 2025 12:30:00 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we’re talking all about metamour relationships—the unique connections between your partner’s partners.

We explore:

💡 What is a metamour? Defining the role and what it means in polyamory.

💬 Our personal experiences—the highs, the lows, and everything in between.

🪞 How we perceive ourselves as metamours—personal reflections.

🌱 Hopes & fears—what we wish for in our metamour dynamics.

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Polyamory comes with its own language, and in this segment, we break down:

❌ Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT) – When partners prefer not to share details.

🔗 Parallel Polyamory – Keeping metamour relationships separate.

🌿 Garden Party Polyamory – Casual, friendly interactions between metas.

👩‍🍳 Kitchen Table Polyamory – A close-knit, family-like poly structure.

🪑 Lap-Sitting – The art of sharing affection across multiple partners.

🔀 Hinge Partner – The person connecting multiple partners in a poly network.

Join us as we dive deep into metamour dynamics, relationship growth, and how we navigate love and connection in our polyamorous lives!

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S2 Ep 2: Nesting in Polyamory: Living Together & Blending Families

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 04 Mar 2025 13:30:00 GMT

In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we’re talking about nesting—our decision to live together as a polyamorous couple and how it has shaped our relationship and family life.

We explore:🏠 Why we chose to nest – How and why we got to the point where we wanted to live together.🔄 Our nesting experiences – The joys, challenges, and surprises since moving in together.💡 Gender roles vs. team roles – How we navigate household responsibilities in a way that aligns with our values rather than societal expectations.👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Blended family dynamics – How we co-parent and build a harmonious home with multiple relationships in mind.

💖 Segment: Lovey Dovey’s 💖 – This week, we gush about what we love most about each other, especially when it comes to how we align in parenting.

If you’ve ever considered nesting in polyamory, blending families, or rethinking traditional household roles, this episode is packed with insights, laughs, and real-life experiences. 🎧

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S2 E1: Parenting & Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 25 Feb 2025 15:25:20 GMT

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We’re back for Season 2! 🎉 In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into parenting and polyamory, sharing insights from our own experiences as parents navigating consensual non-monogamy.

We discuss:

👶 Our family dynamic – How many kids we have and their ages.

🧠 Conscious parenting – How we foster open-minded, emotionally intelligent children.

💬 Introducing polyamory to children – When and how we talk about our relationships.

❓ Questions kids ask – The curious (and sometimes funny) things they want to know.

🤝 Co-parenting journey – How we collaborate to create a supportive family environment.

Plus, in our Relationship Tools segment, we share how we use regular relationship check-ins to communicate openly, proactively resolve conflict, and stay aligned as partners and parents. Whether you're a parent in a non-traditional relationship or just curious about polyamorous parenting, this episode is packed with insights and practical strategies. 🎧

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S1 E8: Sex in Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 22 Oct 2024 14:18:42 GMT

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In Episode 8, the final episode of Season 1, of SunShan & Rainbows, we’re diving into the topic of sex and how we navigate open communication about sexual experiences with other people. We discuss the balance between autonomy and responsibility, sharing how we manage risk, prioritize safety, and maintain transparency in our polyamorous relationships.

Plus, we’re excited to introduce our "Sexy Time" segment, where we give you a behind-the-scenes look at the fun and exciting details of our intimate life. This episode is packed with candid insights on keeping communication open, healthy, and respectful when it comes to sex and relationships.

As always, SunShan & Rainbows amplifies Black & African-American experiences and insights related to polyamory & consensual non-monogamy.

We’re excited to announce our course and coaching program, Relationship Bliss, where we help polyamorous people transform their relationships into highly compatible, peaceful, deeply aligned, and blissful partnerships by sharing techniques for effective communication, deeper connection, and conflict resolution. Guaranteed.

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S1 E7: How We Communicate About Our Other Relationships in Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 15 Oct 2024 15:06:19 GMT

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In Episode 7 of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the ways we communicate about our other relationships and the importance of maintaining openness and clarity in polyamory. 💬 We share the questions we ask each other, the kinds of updates we give (and sometimes don’t give), and how we handle logistical communication around dates and travel with other loves.

This episode also features a segment on how we navigate conflict using Authentic Dialogue, a communication tool that helps us resolve issues with empathy and transparency. 🌱 Whether it’s discussing schedules or working through challenging emotions, communication is key in maintaining trust and harmony in our polyamorous relationships.

As always, SunShan & Rainbows amplifies Black & African-American experiences and insights related to polyamory & consensual non-monogamy.

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S1 E6: Redefining Relationship Labels & Titles in Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 08 Oct 2024 13:45:17 GMT

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In Episode 6 of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the purpose and significance of relationship labels and titles, particularly within the context of polyamory. We explore the commonly used title "partner" and introduce a new, meaningful title created by Sundiata called "Libbei." 💫 Join us as we unpack how these labels shape relationship expectations, agreements, and dynamics, and why finding the right titles can make a profound difference in our connections. We also touch on how relationship labels are evolving in the polyamorous community and how they align with our values of openness and authenticity. This episode also marks the debut of our new segment, "Well, That Went Left," where we share the hilarious and sometimes dramatic stories of relationship breakups during our polyamory journey. Expect both laughs and lessons as we reveal the moments that didn’t quite go as planned. 😅 As always, SunShan & Rainbows amplifies Black and African-American experiences and insights related to polyamory and consensual non-monogamy, bringing you real stories and fresh perspectives on love, connection, and growth. 🎧

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S1 E5: The 5 Relationship Buckets - A New Approach to Dating

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 01 Oct 2024 13:22:22 GMT

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In this insightful episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the Theory of Sustainable Relationships, a philosophy developed by Sundiata and expanded by Shani. This unique approach to dating and connection challenges the common "romance or bust" mentality, where relationships are often discarded if they don’t lead to or maintain a romantic connection.

We introduce the 5 Relationship Buckets, a framework that encourages deeper understanding of connection through five pillars: Familial, Platonic, Intellectual, Attraction, and Sexual. This theory provides a guide for reducing harm, fostering healthier connections, and keeping the door open for meaningful relationships, even when romance isn’t the outcome.

Join us as we explore how this philosophy can transform the way we navigate dating, minimize hurt feelings, and embrace all the ways we can connect with others beyond traditional expectations. Whether you're exploring polyamory or simply want a more sustainable approach to relationships, this episode offers powerful insights and practical tools.

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S1 E4: How We Met & Our Early Journey in Polyamory

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 24 Sep 2024 14:01:28 GMT

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In this episode, Shani and Sundiata take us back to the beginning of their love story, sharing how they first met and the early days of their journey in polyamory 💖 From their initial connection to navigating the complexities of consensual non-monogamy, they discuss the challenges, triumphs, and lessons learned along the way.

Listen as they reflect on the emotional growth, trust-building, and communication strategies that helped them overcome obstacles and create a strong foundation for their relationship 🌱 Through personal stories of vulnerability, honesty, and resilience, Shani and Sundiata provide a candid look at the realities of polyamory and the importance of staying true to oneself while navigating multiple relationships.

This episode offers valuable insights for anyone curious about polyamory or seeking guidance on how to build and maintain healthy, non-traditional relationships. Whether you're exploring consensual non-monogamy or just interested in hearing their inspiring love story, this episode is packed with wisdom, laughter, and heart 🎧

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S1 E3: How Shan Got to Non-Monogamy

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 17 Sep 2024 13:12:23 GMT

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In this episode, The Shan of SunShan – Shani Goodson – shares her deeply personal and transformative journey toward embracing consensual non-monogamy. 🌟 Shani opens up about her life experiences, exploring the challenges and breakthroughs that shaped her understanding of love, relationships, and personal freedom.

Listen as Shani reflects on how her upbringing, family dynamics, and moments of self-discovery led her to rethink traditional relationship structures and pursue a more open and authentic connection style. This episode is filled with insights on vulnerability, breaking free from societal expectations, and the beauty of building relationships based on trust and communication.

Whether you’re curious about consensual non-monogamy or seeking inspiration for embracing personal growth and relationship authenticity, Shani’s story will resonate with anyone on a journey of self-discovery and love.

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S1 E2: How Sun Got to Non-Monogamy

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 10 Sep 2024 13:37:37 GMT

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In this captivating episode, The Sun of SunShan – Dr. Sundiata Soon-Jahta – shares his deeply personal journey that led him to embrace consensual non-monogamy. With candid stories, Dr. Sundiata takes us through the pivotal moments of self-discovery, growth, and transformation that shaped his unique approach to relationships.

Listen as he explores the challenges and rewards of breaking away from societal norms, the profound insights gained along the way, and how his experiences have helped him cultivate meaningful connections in his unconventional love life.

Whether you're curious about non-monogamy or simply seeking inspiration for authentic relationship-building, this episode offers wisdom, vulnerability, and a fresh perspective on love. Join us as we aim to uplift, inspire, inform, and entertain through stories that challenge traditional notions of relationships and celebrate the beauty of living authentically.

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S1 E1: Introducing SunShan

Shani Goodson and Sundiata Soon-Jahta — Tue, 03 Sep 2024 16:38:05 GMT

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In this debut episode, get to know SunShan – Sundiata and Shani – the dynamic hosts of our podcast. We share personal stories about our upbringing, family life, and the unique paths that shaped our relationship. You’ll learn about the origins of our unconventional love story, what inspired us to explore consensual non-monogamy, and why we felt compelled to start this podcast.

Join us as we take you behind the scenes of our journey, offering a glimpse into how our experiences with family, culture, and personal growth influenced our approach to love and connection. This episode is a sneak peek into the first season, where we’ll explore relationships, communication, and living authentically. Whether you're curious about non-monogamy or looking for real conversations about relationships, this episode sets the stage for what's to come.