I’ll introduce you to two people who seemed to have this figured out. They are utterly, completely different sorts of people, which I hope enables us to get closer to the wisdom we need to be like them.

We’ll get more wisdom from someone who feared they never got it right and never would, and from a Greek myth.

With all those torches guiding us, we’ll enter the wonderful historical fantasy The Poppy War by R.F. Kuang, and wonder at something truly extraordinary about our search for our true self.